@obsessedwithoranges fx that baby is doing okay. I know not being close to care is going to be tough. Feet up, hydrate, and rest rest rest. Hopefully you feel some more movement soon to help with reassuring you.
@obsessedwithoranges Agreed with everyone, rest and hydrate! I hope you got through to your nurses' line, and remember that all babies have quiet days sometimes. It's especially scary when it coincides with other stuff, but it doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong. I'll be thinking of you!
@obsessedwithoranges I'm so sorry this is happening. Like you need any more scares or issues. Hoping with all my heart that it's nothing, maybe just a little bleed from placenta or from the exercise. Keep yourself as rested as possible! Big big hugs being sent your way!
Me: 41 / Fiance: 35 + One DS, one dog & two kitties...
First BFP: 1/17/16 = EDD 9/21/16 (MMC)
Second BFP: 6/24/16 (CP)
Third BFP: 2/7/17 = EDD 10/20/17 🌈 *** BORN 10/23 *** 🌈
@obsessedwithoranges I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this scare, prayers for you. Like everyone said take it easy, hydrate and try and get in somewhere to reassure your mind.
@obsessedwithoranges oh my goodness! I’m so sorry that you’re having to go through this and I hope that it was just all the extra activity. Sending you all the creepy internet hugs and lots of good thoughts!!
@obsessedwithoranges Oh I am so so sorry you are dealing with this right now. Hopefully you’ve been resting and hydrating and everything is okay. Thinking of you!
Long rant about my FIL behind the spoiler, mainly just bc I need to let all this out!
My FIL has been battling depression for awhile and it hit him hard about 5 years ago when his brother died. He is on medication and sees a therapist but has still been a long way from “functional” in my opinion. He was then diagnosed with cancer last fall. Aside from being hospitalized for an infection and then what they think was a mini stroke, everything has gone as well as the doctors could’ve hoped in getting rid of the cancer. However he has not dealt well emotionally. He is finished with treatments now and I’m wondering if the chemo or mini strokes have affected him cognitively, or just made his depression a lot worse.
He has caused my MIL so much unnecessary stress and I worry for her health. He has treated a few of his children, including DH, with such disrespect by saying very hurtful and irrational things to them. Now with an issue that sprung up with SIL’s boyfriend, and a situation regarding my IL’s financial situation, he is making decisions and saying things that don’t make sense. It almost seems like he can’t think rationally/logically about things. I’m already upset with him for things he’s said to DH but today he called and asked him to do something that we are uncomfortable with. I’m not comfortable giving too many details for personal reasons but what he asked him to do isn’t illegal, from what we’ve found on google, but both of our gut reactions when he asked was that it might be illegal. I’m so mad that he would even put DH in this situation bc if he does it, he’s doing something that neither of us are comfortable with, and if he says no it will be a big deal bc we aren’t willing to do this favor for them that would, in their minds, be helping them a lot and would hinder something they want if we say no.
I’m sorry if that’s really long and makes no sense. I’m just at my wit’s end with him. I wish we could just cut them out of our lives for awhile but that’s not an option to DH. And it may be dramatic but it’s making me mad that his behavior has caused me a lot of stress while pregnant. We generally have a good relationship with my ILs and we were supportive through the whole process of cancer treatments. His behavior lately has just been so out of left field.
@obsessedwithoranges I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Do your best to rest and relax. I know that is way easier said than done, but try to focus on the positive as much as you can. 💛
@obsessedwithoranges Oh, I'm so sorry. Please take care of yourself and get in to see someone soon. Sending love.
@melanier26 I'm sorry that you're dealing with all of that! It sounds like such a complicated situation. You don't need that stress right now, so feel free to take a step back if you can.
TTC History
Me: 38 DH: 52
Started trying June 2018
BFP Jan 2019 DD born October 2019
TTC July 2021 BFP, ended in MMC August 2021
TTC October 2021
BFP January 2022
MMC March 2022
Beginning May 2022 under the supervision of an RE - Benched while undergoing testing
@obsessedwithoranges I hope you are able to at least get in touch with your Dr's or nurse's line and are able to be seen soon. That is so scary. We are all pulling for you!
@melanier26 That sounds extremely stressful and like the last thing you need right now. I really do wonder if the treatments had some kind of cognitive effect, since you day he didn’t used to be like that. I’m sorry you are having to deal with that, and now of all times, when stress is the last thing you need!
@cmbt2 I’m catching up today and just wanted to thank you for sharing your experience. My nephew, who is almost four, was just diagnosed as ASD this year and his story sounds very similar. I’m visiting family this weekend and babysat him today and while I love him like crazy, he is an insane amount of work. I hope that you are able to get some quality guidance for your current situation for YS.
I have a countdown to 1 week past my due date (as a FTM, I'm just assuming I'll go late, and I think my doctor will only let me go one week past EDD). Today the countdown hits 100 days til baby!
@galentine since I’m due exactly a week after you then... 100 days until baby for me too! ❤️ (Only I’m fairly certain I’ll go early so that means LESS than 100 days, which is cray!)
@melanier26 that's awful that you're having to go through such a stressful time with your in-laws. I agree, it is definitely possible that he is having some breakdown issues related with either the cancer/treatment or even the stroke. My FIL and step-father both had mini strokes around the same time and for both of them it threw them quite off. MIL is still complaining that FIL is just "not right" lately. Hopefully you can get a little space from them because while sad, it's not something you need to be going through right now.
Me: 41 / Fiance: 35 + One DS, one dog & two kitties...
First BFP: 1/17/16 = EDD 9/21/16 (MMC)
Second BFP: 6/24/16 (CP)
Third BFP: 2/7/17 = EDD 10/20/17 🌈 *** BORN 10/23 *** 🌈
@melanier26 I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I agree with you I think something's affected him. When a family member of ours went through cancer I remember my mom saying that things he would say and do were just the complete opposite of him and his character so I think that could be it for FIL.
Have you or DH considered maybe going to therapy with him? While he's been through alot in the past year it may help that those who he's affecting also go and maybe even engage with him in a group therapy session. Not sure it would help but maybe just something to think about.
@obsessedwithoranges I am so sorry for the scare— I hope you’ve been able to rest up and talk to someone in the meantime! Thinking of you!!
@melanier26 oh gosh, that sounds so complicated and heavy, not stuff you want to deal with when entering the 3rd tri of pregnancy! I’m sorry you’re having to navigate all of that.
Thank you all for the good thoughts. I talked to my dr this morning and she was insistent I get to an ER - we managed to find one and everything does seem okay - baby looked fine. My placenta is really not that low but they’re guessing it could be that - and what would be a less substantial bleed is much bigger for me because I am on blood thinners. But basically, one more weird unexplained thing going on. I’m just supposed to take it easy and rest, and I have my high risk appt back at home on Tuesday. Feeling relieved but really shaken. This is definitely the last time I’m leaving town before baby, which is sad bc we love to travel, but not worth this stress and fear.
@obsessedwithoranges I'm so glad that everything looks okay, but I'll still be keeping you in my thoughts until you get through your appointment. I'm sure you're still very unsure, but try to take comfort in knowing that everything is still looking good for you and your little one.
So I don’t know if it’s been on the news around the nation that we had a pretty big earthquake yesterday in Southern California (I think it was a 6.4). Well, we just had a bigger one about 25 minutes ago (they are estimating around 6.9-7.1) and both times I started feeling SUPER dizzy and a little nauseous. It’s basically kick starting me to start getting an emergency kit together and especially putting baby stuff in it too because you just never know when a disaster will strike. Also paging @lillywonderland to make sure you and your family are okay.
TTC #1: September 2013, BFP 01/01/14, DS 09/14 TTC #2: October 2018, BFP 02/02/19, EDD 10/14/19
@stephanie123456 I saw that (in Missouri)! I'm glad you and your family are okay. I'm not sure I could ever live in an area where earthquakes happen so frequently (or maybe I've only been led to believe that?). We get them here, but they are rarely as strong as the ones you Californians get. Stay safe.
@obsessedwithoranges I’m so happy to see a positive update! I hope your next visit is uneventful. Get some good rest! 💕
@melanier26 it’s really possible the strokes/illness has something to do with it. My grandma is a totally different person after losing too much oxygen during an episode when she was admitted to the hospital during chemo a short while ago. It’s a really hard thing to endure.
Re: Weekly Randoms 7/1
HX
DSD: 17
DS: 4(Nov'14)
MMC:8/17
MMC: 1/18
BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19
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@cmbt2 I wish we'd thought of that. Unfortunately, our Lowe's is an hour away either way and I didn't think to stop at Menards before we left town lol
Keeping the kids from climbing on the crib is a bigger challenge than I anticipated....😳🤦🏽♀️
He has caused my MIL so much unnecessary stress and I worry for her health. He has treated a few of his children, including DH, with such disrespect by saying very hurtful and irrational things to them. Now with an issue that sprung up with SIL’s boyfriend, and a situation regarding my IL’s financial situation, he is making decisions and saying things that don’t make sense. It almost seems like he can’t think rationally/logically about things. I’m already upset with him for things he’s said to DH but today he called and asked him to do something that we are uncomfortable with. I’m not comfortable giving too many details for personal reasons but what he asked him to do isn’t illegal, from what we’ve found on google, but both of our gut reactions when he asked was that it might be illegal. I’m so mad that he would even put DH in this situation bc if he does it, he’s doing something that neither of us are comfortable with, and if he says no it will be a big deal bc we aren’t willing to do this favor for them that would, in their minds, be helping them a lot and would hinder something they want if we say no.
I’m sorry if that’s really long and makes no sense. I’m just at my wit’s end with him. I wish we could just cut them out of our lives for awhile but that’s not an option to DH. And it may be dramatic but it’s making me mad that his behavior has caused me a lot of stress while pregnant. We generally have a good relationship with my ILs and we were supportive through the whole process of cancer treatments. His behavior lately has just been so out of left field.
Me 39 - DH 41
Married 8/26/07
TTGP #1 Jan '15 -
BFP 9/11/15 - DS born 5/31/16
TTGP #2 July '17 -
CP July '17
Blighted Ovum MC Dec '17
CP June '18
BFP 1/30/19 - EDD 10/13/19
@melanier26 oh gosh, that sounds so complicated and heavy, not stuff you want to deal with when entering the 3rd tri of pregnancy! I’m sorry you’re having to navigate all of that.
DD#1 December '12
DD#2 New Year's Baby '15
Married 07/09
So I don’t know if it’s been on the news around the nation that we had a pretty big earthquake yesterday in Southern California (I think it was a 6.4). Well, we just had a bigger one about 25 minutes ago (they are estimating around 6.9-7.1) and both times I started feeling SUPER dizzy and a little nauseous. It’s basically kick starting me to start getting an emergency kit together and especially putting baby stuff in it too because you just never know when a disaster will strike. Also paging @lillywonderland to make sure you and your family are okay.
TTC #2: October 2018, BFP 02/02/19, EDD 10/14/19
@melanier26 it’s really possible the strokes/illness has something to do with it. My grandma is a totally different person after losing too much oxygen during an episode when she was admitted to the hospital during chemo a short while ago. It’s a really hard thing to endure.
@stephanie123456 hope you guys are safe!
DS is cuddled up to me watching some Wiggles and eating Cheerios. He just offered me one— bless his gentle little heart.