A woman at my training list week found out her son had it while we were there. Now my DS is down with a runny nose and cough, and I'm getting paranoid!
Well bad mom moment. I should have reserved it last week when I called cause someone called the next day to reserve it 😑 the other towns splash pad they're renovating the shelter that down by the park and water parts, so they aren't renting and the other shelter a bit up the hill is reserved. That lady hung up on me before I could ask bout the pool in the sports center 😑 so we're just having it here, our neighbor is helping put in an outdoor water faucet(our landlords never offered to and I cannot go this summer without a hose. Last year sucked) so we can have their little pool and a sprinkler going. Our friend was supposed to take this dumb jeep we have had for ages(thanks to in laws moving, they couldn't take it) and it's been about a year and he still hasn't taken it. He keeps getting other cars. I told him we need it gone by the 14th and he goes idk if I can do I told SO I'm listing the dumb thing for 30p to the first person that can haul it out of our driveway 😑
Another +1 to hating the off the wall fireworks. We also get to play the game "Was that a gun or fireworks?!" since we live in BFE.
My neighbors, literally 100 yards away from our house, set off fireworks on Memorial Day weekend. I'm like WTF. Scared the piss out of my husband and I and we brought DS into our room for fear it was someone shooting off a gun.
4th of July fireworks usually start the weekend before and continue for a couple weeks after -_-
We don't get lots of sleep.
This is us too, to a T. (And I love that you use BFE. I don't think I've ever heard anyone other than myself use that, lol.) I'm a little surprised my neighbors have not started yet, but it's any day now I'm sure. I have to confess though that our dear friends do a big Memorial Day firework display that my SO always helps light up. And though our dog seems to be ok most of the time, it's our DS who has gotten startled in the past.
@slou24 and @prpl11butterfly yikes on the lightning strikes! Though annoying and a big hindrance to getting any work done, so glad that nothing else was damaged besides modems. @junebabyh that cake is adorable!
@quidditchcapn1120 so sorry your boys are sick but definitely best to play it safe. Hope they're better soon!
Me: 41 / Fiance: 35 + One DS, one dog & two kitties...
First BFP: 1/17/16 = EDD 9/21/16 (MMC)
Second BFP: 6/24/16 (CP)
Third BFP: 2/7/17 = EDD 10/20/17 🌈 *** BORN 10/23 *** 🌈
So I feel like I missed a whole month of it, but finally got to get in the pool today. Between all the stupid rain, the kitchen reno work we wanted to focus on, and closing it last year dirtier than we should have, it took a while. But it was worth it. The water was so warm! DS was still napping when I first went in to set up for the both of us, and when he finally got up I didn't think he was going to be interested. After his snack the dog was begging to play frisbee, so we all went out. DS is only 20 months so I thought he would be nervous or tentative, not remembering from last year, so I didn't bother to change him, thought he'd just dangle his legs in a little. Boy was I wrong, he practically tried to jump in. We just got him this cute little swan float, so I put him in it right in his clothes, he was already too wet to bother with changing at that point. An hour later and he still didn't want to go in he was having so much fun floating and splashing. Thr dog took a while to convince, but finally started bringing the frisbee up on the pool deck and dropping it by the stairs so I didn't have to get out to throw it for him. I could do this every day it was so fun playing with them both at the same time.
Me: 41 / Fiance: 35 + One DS, one dog & two kitties...
First BFP: 1/17/16 = EDD 9/21/16 (MMC)
Second BFP: 6/24/16 (CP)
Third BFP: 2/7/17 = EDD 10/20/17 🌈 *** BORN 10/23 *** 🌈
@cooaladolly I love that he was having so much fun!! A pool seems like so much work to me but gosh they are fun when other people have them
So we got our new modem yesterday and still nothing on the WiFi. Looks like the router must have gotten fried too. Ordering another one of those, meanwhile it's so annoying without WiFi (in a fwp kind of way). hopefully we get it figured out soon!
@SLou24 you may have already ordered one, but don’t forget a surge protector! We have a few surges since we moved into our new house due to nearby lightening, and having surge protectors has been a major equipment savior. (We learned the hard way a few years ago when DH’s equipment for his doctorate was fried due to lightening striking the school building it was housed in and set him back another year of grad school 😪)
For any Cup of Jo readers, her Motherhood Monday post (yesterday) was about advice for new parents. Thought some of you FTMs might want to check it out.
For any Cup of Jo readers, her Motherhood Monday post (yesterday) was about advice for new parents. Thought some of you FTMs might want to check it out.
A lot of this really hit home for me! The two that I try to remind myself most are: 1) to cut yourself and your partner a little slack - the first several months of a new baby are really really hard on even the most rock solid relationship and 2) everything is a phase (and in the baby stage a lot of the phases are over before you know it).
@cmbt2 it was all plugged into a surge protector!! A friend of ours who knows a lot more about that stuff said that the surge probably came in through the cable line/Ethernet line which was why the other stuff (tv/printer/etc) on the surge protector was fine.
and 2) everything is a phase (and in the baby stage a lot of the phases are over before you know it).
Totally yes about the phases!! That is always my advice to new parents, too.... remember that you're in "The Land of Short Phases" now. Once you think you've got something down, the baby goes and changes on you. It's completely normal, albeit difficult.
I just wanted to send a shout out to @stephanie123456, @prpl11butterfly, and anyone else I missed who is in finance or accounting fields. I know month-end is crazy! June 30 also happens to be the end of our fiscal year at my job, so I am similarly swamped this week! I worked over 50 hours last week too, including Saturday 🙄🙄. I'm trying to still check in here and there, especially with the PG discussions going on, but sorry if I'm not more chatty this week. Anyway, solidarity to my $$$ industry sisters!
DS1 got sent home today for behavior. They called me at 10am to come get him. 😪
we took him to the pediatrician. As much as I don’t want to, we’re starting him on Zoloft for potential anxiety while we wait to get him into child psychologist for confirmation. I’ve been adamant I don’t want to medicate him, but we have to do something. The pediatrician said it was first likely caused by moving in March and now because of DD’s impending arrival. 😭
@cmbt2 I'm sorry. We fought meds for Ns ADHD for as long as we could (we "knew" the diagnosis long before caving to testing and only caved because we knew meds were our last resort). Its such a tough move to accept but hopefully the benefits show it was worth it. Anxiety is such a difficult thing to grasp at any age, I'm sure that for him it's even more complicated. FX that you see progress quickly ❤
@prpl11butterfly thank you, I hope that it helps quickly, too. I haven’t had luck getting a hold of a child psych, so I’ll try again tomorrow. I also tried to see if his developmental pediatrician (he’s on the spectrum- aspergers) could get his follow up moved up, but all they could do was bump us up on the cancelation list (he’s scheduled for October, which we scheduled last October..). 😪 I’m hoping that if this truly is anxiety, which the pediatrician is pretty certain it is,that the meds can help with his behaviors while we long term plan to get him help learning to manage it.
I was very reluctant to call for the ASD diagnosis when it was first mentioned to me, and it took DH even longer to accept it. He’s still unsure about medicating, but at this point, we have to do *something*
DS1 got sent home today for behavior. They called me at 10am to come get him. 😪
we took him to the pediatrician. As much as I don’t want to, we’re starting him on Zoloft for potential anxiety while we wait to get him into child psychologist for confirmation. I’ve been adamant I don’t want to medicate him, but we have to do something. The pediatrician said it was first likely caused by moving in March and now because of DD’s impending arrival. 😭
Stuck in the box: that's how my son is. I'm terrified he'll be kicked out of preschool for bad behavior/unruly. At his check up next week I'm going to ask for an evaluation. It can't hurt anything. Hopefully we find out what's going on 😔 I hope it gets better for you!!!
@cmbt2 for us there was never really any question re: neices diagnosis. Her father was diagnosed young and was also diagnosed schizophrenic. Her mother *may* have been diagnosed bipolar. For us it really came down to not wanting to medicate due to BILs addiction (and it does run in DHs family). We talked to a LOT of people -medical professionals, schools, friends w/diagnosed kids, friends who themselves were diagnosed- and ultimately decided it was in her best interest to take that path.
I think your plan to find long term options that are not meds is a good one. With the right tools, anxiety can definitely be managed without. Not as a child and certainly not one on the spectrum. Using the meds for the here and now success sound like the right call.
DS1 got sent home today for behavior. They called me at 10am to come get him. 😪
we took him to the pediatrician. As much as I don’t want to, we’re starting him on Zoloft for potential anxiety while we wait to get him into child psychologist for confirmation. I’ve been adamant I don’t want to medicate him, but we have to do something. The pediatrician said it was first likely caused by moving in March and now because of DD’s impending arrival. 😭
***STUCK IN THE BOX**** I think we are in the same boat. DS has his yearly check up tomorrow and I'll be talking to his pedi. I'm not sure if it's anxiety, or more ADHD and possibly Autism related. We don't want to medicate (hubs learned to manage his ADHD unmedicated, and we hope for the same for DS), but it's definitely not off the table if it comes down to it.
TTC #1 6/2011 BFP #1 10/2012 DS#1 born 6/2013
TTC#2 12/2013 BFP#2 2/2019 TWINS Baby Girl due October 20th, 2019.
I just wanted to send a shout out to @stephanie123456, @prpl11butterfly, and anyone else I missed who is in finance or accounting fields. I know month-end is crazy! June 30 also happens to be the end of our fiscal year at my job, so I am similarly swamped this week! I worked over 50 hours last week too, including Saturday 🙄🙄. I'm trying to still check in here and there, especially with the PG discussions going on, but sorry if I'm not more chatty this week. Anyway, solidarity to my $$$ industry sisters!
Keeping all 3 of you in my thoughts 💚
@galentine our fiscal year ends September 30th and I’m due October 2nd. I already have some anxiety because of it.😳
@cmbt2 I’m so sorry you have to deal with this right now, as if you don’t have enough on your plate. I hope you are able to find the best this for him soon.
Let me preface this by saying the adult thing first. Yes, yes, always better safe than sorry.
However.
So daycare calls me at 11, DD2 is showing symptoms of HFM on
her butt and could I please come pick her up now? Drop everything, rush
to pick her up, set her up with SO at home. Look at the area in
question and think "that looks like a heat rash to me...." (but what do I
know, I'm not that kind of doctor) and go back to work.
DC won't take her back unless a Dr says she can, so try to get an
appointment asap, which obviously means our one car will be used by SO to ferry DD2 to Dr and I need to take public transportation during rush hour
to pick up DD1 from summer camp (a mere 54 minutes, says google).
This means I need to run out of work earlier than planned (sorry, super
important meetings I thought I had time for) to pick DD1 up. And
of course the connecting bus won't come. And of course the car drivers
at the intersections neeeeed to enter the intersection even when they
know there's a clogged street up ahead but dammit their light is green.
Fantastic for the bus that now can't cross the intersection. Fun!
Oh, and I'm getting live updates from the Dr office about a
nuclear-level meltdown because potentially infectious kids are
(understandably) not allowed in the waiting area with all the amazing
toys that are just begging to get dosed with lots of HFM drool. Get
to pick up DD1 over 45 minutes after camp has closed and promptly
burst into tears at the kind counselor who waited with her until I
finally managed to turn up. Delightful.
Dr's opinion? Heat rash.
So this totally non humiliating and stress-free afternoon could have been avoided for all?
On the one hand, should it really have been HFM, I would have been so, so thankful that DC was on the ball about this.
On the other hand....well. DD2 has no fever and no sores anywhere aside
from the spots on her butt. Wouldn't it have been wiser to wait for a
less ambiguous symptom to manifest itself? I know it's mostly the
exasperated "spent 90+ minutes on a crowded bus and cried about it"
person in me grumping on about this, but still....
@grapeskittles4lyfe I’m sorry. I see where they are coming from though.. both times DS1 had MFM, it presented with only a nasty diaper rash. No fever, no spots elsewhere, just a nasty,nasty diaper rash
ETA- and the first time around, it got diagnosed as an heat rash that became infected. That got revised when both DH and I caught HFM
@grapeskittles4lyfe OMG. That. Sucks. (Agree better safe than sorry...and HFM is so contagious...) Rash on butt is different from diaper rash, no? I am imagining it on her cute little cheeks, not the diaper rash area, but maybe I am wrong. Every time my boys have had HFM it's started as sores in the throat, turned into rash on around the mouth, and then rash all over the legs as the virus was leaving the body. AND the day or so leading up to the fever they were super clingy, and crying, and just all around sick. And @cmbt2 OMG, sucks that you and H got it, too! I have always been so scared of getting from my kids, but thankfully never have. Not sure how or why since they breath in my face and need me to hold them 24/7 when they have it.
@junebabyh oof! That’s what happened to me the first time DS1 had it and DH the second time around (there’s multiple strands). The physician who diagnosed DH with it said that most adults are asymptomatic when we catch it (90%ish are asymptomatic). He actually told DH he was the oldest patient with it he’d ever seen
I got my first "getting close, huh?!" comment from a coworker yesterday. I was unimpressed. It was a male coworker who was clearly clueless and meant no harm, but STILL.
@galentine Nope. Not okay. I was talking with my husband and a woman resident at our apartment complex the other night. I hugged MH goodbye because he was heading back upstairs to the apartment and my belly sticks out so much now that it's kind of hard to hug him. Well, the resident laughed and said "It must be so funny to see her fat now!" So, obviously I ate her.
TTC History
Me: 38 DH: 52
Started trying June 2018
BFP Jan 2019 DD born October 2019
TTC July 2021 BFP, ended in MMC August 2021
TTC October 2021
BFP January 2022
MMC March 2022
Beginning May 2022 under the supervision of an RE - Benched while undergoing testing
So I was reading the name thread and the poll and it just dawned on me when I'll be having this baby. And now I'm almost in tears because I'm thinking about how I may not be able to take DS to all the fall activities I generally love to take him too. I'm either going to deliver late Sep/early Oct most likely so I'll have a NB and likely be recovering for a C-Section. If it's cold and wet in Oct, which is usually is I'm not going to want to take her out.
Re: Weekly Randoms 7/1
@junebabyh that cake is adorable!
@cooaladolly I love that he was having so much fun!! A pool seems like so much work to me but gosh they are fun when other people have them
So we got our new modem yesterday and still nothing on the WiFi. Looks like the router must have gotten fried too. Ordering another one of those, meanwhile it's so annoying without WiFi (in a fwp kind of way). hopefully we get it figured out soon!
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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we took him to the pediatrician. As much as I don’t want to, we’re starting him on Zoloft for potential anxiety while we wait to get him into child psychologist for confirmation. I’ve been adamant I don’t want to medicate him, but we have to do something. The pediatrician said it was first likely caused by moving in March and now because of DD’s impending arrival. 😭
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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so I’ll try again tomorrow. I also tried to see if his developmental pediatrician (he’s on the spectrum- aspergers) could get his follow up moved up, but all they could do was bump us up on the cancelation list (he’s scheduled for October, which we scheduled last October..). 😪 I’m hoping that if this truly is anxiety, which the pediatrician is pretty certain it is,that the meds can help with his behaviors while we long term plan to get him help learning to manage it.
I was very reluctant to call for the ASD diagnosis when it was first mentioned to me, and it took DH even longer to accept it. He’s still unsure about medicating, but at this point, we have to do *something*
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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I think your plan to find long term options that are not meds is a good one. With the right tools, anxiety can definitely be managed without. Not as a child and certainly not one on the spectrum. Using the meds for the here and now success sound like the right call.
BFP #1 10/2012
DS#1 born 6/2013
TTC#2 12/2013
BFP#2 2/2019
TWINS Baby Girl due October 20th, 2019.
@galentine our fiscal year ends September 30th and I’m due October 2nd. I already have some anxiety because of it.😳
HX
DSD: 17
DS: 4(Nov'14)
MMC:8/17
MMC: 1/18
BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19
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Let me preface this by saying the adult thing first. Yes, yes, always better safe than sorry.
However.
So daycare calls me at 11, DD2 is showing symptoms of HFM on her butt and could I please come pick her up now? Drop everything, rush to pick her up, set her up with SO at home. Look at the area in question and think "that looks like a heat rash to me...." (but what do I know, I'm not that kind of doctor) and go back to work.
DC won't take her back unless a Dr says she can, so try to get an appointment asap, which obviously means our one car will be used by SO to ferry DD2 to Dr and I need to take public transportation during rush hour to pick up DD1 from summer camp (a mere 54 minutes, says google). This means I need to run out of work earlier than planned (sorry, super important meetings I thought I had time for) to pick DD1 up.
And of course the connecting bus won't come. And of course the car drivers at the intersections neeeeed to enter the intersection even when they know there's a clogged street up ahead but dammit their light is green. Fantastic for the bus that now can't cross the intersection. Fun!
Oh, and I'm getting live updates from the Dr office about a nuclear-level meltdown because potentially infectious kids are (understandably) not allowed in the waiting area with all the amazing toys that are just begging to get dosed with lots of HFM drool.
Get to pick up DD1 over 45 minutes after camp has closed and promptly burst into tears at the kind counselor who waited with her until I finally managed to turn up. Delightful.
Dr's opinion? Heat rash.
So this totally non humiliating and stress-free afternoon could have been avoided for all?
On the one hand, should it really have been HFM, I would have been so, so thankful that DC was on the ball about this.
On the other hand....well. DD2 has no fever and no sores anywhere aside from the spots on her butt. Wouldn't it have been wiser to wait for a less ambiguous symptom to manifest itself? I know it's mostly the exasperated "spent 90+ minutes on a crowded bus and cried about it" person in me grumping on about this, but still....
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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ETA- and the first time around, it got diagnosed as an heat rash that became infected. That got revised when both DH and I caught HFM
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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HX
DSD: 17
DS: 4(Nov'14)
MMC:8/17
MMC: 1/18
BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19
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HX
DSD: 17
DS: 4(Nov'14)
MMC:8/17
MMC: 1/18
BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19
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