The ban hammer is coming down hard. Happy and healthy pregnancies to all of you.
PS they monitor the PGs as well. Even though they say they won’t. Never ever under any circumstances mention the mass exodus. It’s been fun ladies, but I am out.
The problem is that everything is at their "discretion". They can do what they want for "any reason and at any time" according to their TOU.
@BumpAdmin It's one thing to be inconsistent in how you choose to admin at your "discretion" (we all know this about you by now--the members who actually care about anything), but it's a certain kind of egregious to say that you won't monitor or enforce rules in private groups and then going in there to do exactly that along with banning people based on what they say in there. You specifically gunned down a couple of members in their PG to ban them. We won't even go into the fact that one of the ones you banned, you banned awhile back with no warning for standing up for herself and tactfully might I add. It kind of makes me wonder if you also monitor our PMs too. I certainly won't be using that system anymore.
You can do what you want because it's your site, but everyone deserves to know what they're up against (a complete lack of privacy and an inconsistent enforcement of rules), especially those that keep your boards organized, interesting, and running because you certainly don't and neither do the people who don't care about rules/guidelines/community. It's no wonder everyone agrees to arbitration when they sign up and has 30 days to opt out.
People think we become mothers when we give birth but the truth is we become mothers the moment we start calling our babies to us in our thoughts, dreams and prayers. Some paths are short and some are so long that you can easily forget where you were headed.
How I feel all of the time. My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI Back on Levothyroxine FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt, 1st Beta on 7dpt 93 2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule. Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017 New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
Me: 35 H: 35 Married: 4/5/13 "You know that place between sleep and awake, that place where you can still remember dreaming? That's where I will always love you. That's where I'll be waiting." ~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #1: 11/12/12 EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13 BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18 BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18 RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28 BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19 Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
I'm amazed that admin hasn't shut this discussion down. They shut down one of May's discussions after similar banter. And now the May board is so dead. I dare say I won't be using this app next pregnancy. What a let down.
@raemy12345 I am SO dirty lurking from July 2019, but I’d like to welcome any of you that feel that your board is dead to join us on some conversations over in July, especially if you are already lurking anyway! I’m shocked to see the discussion going on here ... we have a really nice, supportive group of women over in July 19 and we welcome any supportive discussions you all may have to add! I know I may be speaking for the whole group here, but I truly don’t think anyone would mind you all joining in as long as the discussion remains amicable and appropriate. Feel free to introduce yourselves and chime in, everyone deserves a kind and supportive community, especially in such a special time of life. ♥️
I reinstalled the app just to read some other drama and found out a bunch of regulars I know got banned by admins because people in this group just want to be able to do whatever the hell they want, run the boards however they want, complain about "meanies" and sarcastic GIFS and blah blah blah....oh and then complain that the boards are dead now that all the regular contributors have either been banned or left.
You got what you wanted. The boards are yours! Enjoy the silence!
This is going to be worth the warning I'm inevitably going to get but you brought this on yourselves. Don't get regulars banned and then complain that no one participates.
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DD born 04/28/2002 Married DH 03/25/2017 1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017 BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
@bubbaclose It’s a private group on the bump. The birth month boards and other community boards are set up and monitored by the bump administrators and any member of the bump can participate on those boards, but bump members can also set up private groups where members have to be approved by the group in order to view the discussions and participate. Private groups help those members to keep things more confidential; I can’t see how many members the June board has on the app, but there are 400+ posts in the introduction thread but at the moment only a small number of ladies who participate in the discussions, so private groups give those members a space to share more openly with each other without the worry that 400 people they don’t know at all are also reading their conversations. Hope that helps!
This is why I joined and never posted again. The group seemed mean and cliquey. It was a turn off. I would like to participate again, but only if the aggressive people stay gone. Please just go away.
Re: Why our board is dead...
PS they monitor the PGs as well. Even though they say they won’t. Never ever under any circumstances mention the mass exodus. It’s been fun ladies, but I am out.
@BumpAdmin
It's one thing to be inconsistent in how you choose to admin at your "discretion" (we all know this about you by now--the members who actually care about anything), but it's a certain kind of egregious to say that you won't monitor or enforce rules in private groups and then going in there to do exactly that along with banning people based on what they say in there. You specifically gunned down a couple of members in their PG to ban them. We won't even go into the fact that one of the ones you banned, you banned awhile back with no warning for standing up for herself and tactfully might I add. It kind of makes me wonder if you also monitor our PMs too. I certainly won't be using that system anymore.
You can do what you want because it's your site, but everyone deserves to know what they're up against (a complete lack of privacy and an inconsistent enforcement of rules), especially those that keep your boards organized, interesting, and running because you certainly don't and neither do the people who don't care about rules/guidelines/community. It's no wonder everyone agrees to arbitration when they sign up and has 30 days to opt out.
My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
Back on Levothyroxine
FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt,
1st Beta on 7dpt 93
2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI
IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine
IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19 Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
And now the May board is so dead.
I dare say I won't be using this app next pregnancy. What a let down.
Feel free to introduce yourselves and chime in, everyone deserves a kind and supportive community, especially in such a special time of life. ♥️
Boden Gray 8-13-16
BB Girl Expected 7-10-19
DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
This thread keeps dying, only for people to keep bringing it back. What is even the point? Why beat the dead horse?