@cee_mariee I also like Quinn, and think it’s fine with a one syllable last name. I agree that making the middle name longer would help balance it out. Marie is a very popular middle name, at least it was when I was growing up!
Quinn Marie sounds nice! Quinn smith sounds nice too, quinn doll sounds sort of blurred in my head to "quindall - quendall - Wendell" so I'm not a fan of that combo. I'm not suggesting you say your last name here, but say it out loud to yourself and see if it blurs together into one thing or if it stays separate. @cee_mariee
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@Lotus_2008 YES! We picked out the name Hunter for one of our sons and when we met him, we knew he was not a Hunter! He didn’t have a name for 2 days, but we picked a different name that was much more him. We have baby shower cards written out to Hunter. We now wait to meet our babies before we settle on a name.
SO, my husband's favorite name is the name of a friend's oldest daughter. We do not hang out as families, she and I see each other maybe a couple of times a year but we text often. Is it weird?
I can't decide if I even like the name because I am so hung up that it's her daughter's name. I know the general consensus is that no one owns a name, but it's weird, right? All the names in the world and that's the one we pick?
@lilmamabebe3 I get the whole no one owns a name thing, but if we talked regularly it would be a deal breaker for me. If you both really love it though, go for it!
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@lilmamabebe3 In my culture it's really common to name after a deceased relative, we also tend to have big families. I know families (mine included) that if you go to a large event with a lot of extended family and call out a name you can have 4-10+ people respond. Given that, since my grandfather passed away when I was 15 I planned on having a boy named after him. Then when it came time to actually do it, I paused, even though this is my culture and I thought I was super used to it, I still had the thought do I really want him to be one of 15 others with this name? In the end we gave it to him as a second name. For this one if it's a girl I'm planning on naming after my grandmother, and DH and I are having the discussion of if we do that, how will we distinguish her. I want to call her by both names, since no one else named after my grandma uses both, but we'll see. In the end it comes down to what you are comfortable with. Obviously, the examples I gave are slightly extreme, and very specific to my culture, but you have to find a way to determine if you will be comfortable with it.
@lilmamabebe3 If I liked the name I would use it. one of our top girl contender names this time around happens to be the name of the little girl who lives behind us... still not going to stop me from using it if thats the one we pick.
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@lilmamabebe3 I feel like it depends on the name and how common it is in society right now. If it’s a top-10 or top-20 name, I think it’s totally fine. If it’s something super uncommon - then I would say it’s kind of weird for two people who know each other to both be using it for their kids.
@lilmamabebe3 I think I'm in the minority on this one, but it doesn't bother me one bit. We actually had friends who really wanted to use DD1's name for their second but felt they couldn't because we're all friends. It honestly would not have bothered me in the slightest.
Bringing this thread back because I’m hoping for some honest opinions:
the name Violet: PROS 1. It’s my grandmother’s name and I love her dearly, she is near the end of her life and I would love to honor her by using her name 2. It sounds lovely with our last name 3. I’ve always thought I would name a baby girl Violet— when my brother had his daughter in 2012, they had Violet on their list and ultimately decided against it, partially because it was known that I planned to use it first. CONS 1. This is really the only con but it’s kind of a biggy to me... to the point that it might be a deal breaker. A few years ago we moved to a different suburb and it is in Violet Township. Violet isn’t in the name of the actual suburb but A LOT of stuff around town has violet in the name.. ie: Violet Plaza, Violet elementary, violet fire dept, violet community rec... is it totally weird to name my child Violet when she will grow up seeing her name all around our town? We have no plans of moving anytime soon since I own a brick and mortar business here and we like where we’re at. Do people in places like Madison WI name little girls Madison?? 2. The rise in popularity of the name doesn’t thrill me but that’s a minor con for me
we have tossed around other names that are similar but none quite do it for me. Viola was in the running for a bit but I just don’t like it as much. We have other names we like, they just aren’t meaningful like this one is. Any feedback would be appreciated!!
@jmesue1030 that’s a tough one. First, I do like the name Violet! But I do think it’s possibly a little problematic in the way it may bother your daughter one day to have her name all over town, but who knows, she may also think it’s awesome! Do you know anyone locally who has the name? Would you call her Violet or use a nickname? Maybe try to imagine what your honest gut reaction would be if you met a little Violet there. If you would think it’s odd I would avoid it, if you don’t think you would make much of it go ahead. You could always keep it as a middle name no matter what.
Also, I’m glad you revived this thread! We have so many girl names we agree on and love but of course zero boy names and baby boy it is! We have an odd foreign last name and both of our kiddos now have names that are 3 syllables - I think it flows nicely with our last name. I really like Cameron but my DH vetoed it because he doesn’t like the obvious nickname. What are everyone’s thoughts on Everett? Or any other recommendations? It can’t be biblical or overly common and preferably would start with a vowel (DH is weird and is convinced vowel names sound best with our last name which would make me the only one in the family without a name that begins with a vowel).
@jmesue1030 I love the name, and think it's a beautiful classic even if it is becoming more popular. I grew up right next to a big Air Force Base that shares my first name. As a little girl, I thought it was so much fun that the base and many surrounding businesses were "named after me." It never bothered me as I grew up, and honestly I wouldn't think twice about it.
@olivemomma We love Everett (it will be our son's name, lol) and didn't know anyone else using it! We also really loved Ezra, though that does have a Biblical reference. What about Emerson?
@olivemama I’m so torn!! I can’t decide if it’s weird or basically irrelevant. I don’t know any local violet’s (maybe because other people here think that would be weird??) I’m pretty sure nobody who lives outside of our suburb would even realize it’s a thing or think twice about it. I have thought of just using it for the middle name so maybe we’ll end up doing that.
3 syllable boy names that start with a vowel.... hmmm my son’s name is Theodore (nn Theo) obviously doesn’t start with a vowel but I’m partial to that 3 syllable name 😊 I like Everett! I do know a couple little everett’s And they’re super cute. Cameron is cute too. I’ll have to think more on non-biblical 3 syllable names that start with vowels— these don’t meet your vowel criteria but I like sebastian gideon sullivan
@jmesue1030 I love Violet! For some reason my husband is not a fan. That being said, I get your concern. I think if the actual suburb you live in was Violet it would be different, but if it is just a name in the general area I don't think it is a big deal at all.
@jmesue1030 I love the name Violet and the reason, but definitely understand your hesitation. Honestly though, I would probably still do it. And as she learns to recognize her name, she will love seeing it everywhere. Plus having it named after her great-grandma will be enough of a reason for her if she ever thinks its weird/gets made fun of for her name.
@olivemomma I really like the name Everett. I think it's a nice strong name. Our boy name is Ulysses (nn Uly/Lee), which would also fit your needs.
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@jmesue1030 I’ve been thinking and I think you should use it! There are many examples where kids share a name with places they live - Madison as you mentioned is a great example. There’s also Savannah, Jackson, Austin, Dallas, etc (perhaps a little more common in the South?). And I’m assuming few of those who choose them have family history with the name. You can always tell someone it was your grandmothers name if they ask.
@jmesue1030 I like the name Violet! I think that growing up I loved things that shared the same name as me (had to have the Erin beanie baby). She will also be so used to it, she probably wouldn't even think about it as she grew.
We are stuck on the name Emmett. I do love the name for our little guy but still not 100% convinced. It was the boy name we chose for DD if we ended up with a boy the first time. So I almost feel like I'm cheating this baby out of picking out their name especially for them - is that weird mom guilt?
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Tip for naming girls (especially, but it could be frustrating for boys).
I beg you, please, do not name your daughter something and call her by her middle name her whole life. It was always a pain the in butt, but when I got married it was super screwy because I didn’t want to drop my maiden name, I wanted to drop my first name that means nothing to me. Social security said “fine”, but my state said “nope, it’s a homeland security risk”. What the actual F?!? So now I have four names on my drivers license... which screws up bank accounts, medical records, etc. because everyone wants to hyphen my last name. I could go to court and have it legally changed, but that’s a huge run around also. End rant.
@thirdtimesacharm2019 this was actually a big discussion for us. After I typed this whole story I realized it is actually very complicated and boring. But it's already typed so here it is....
In my family we all have 4 names (besides the family name) - first and middle religious name, and first and middle secular name. For three of us they map, so first secular name is a rough translation of first religious name, same for middle. But for one of my brothers my parents wanted his first religious name to be after my mom's grandfather, and his middle name to be just a name they liked. But they wanted to call him by the name they liked. So for his secular name his first name is a translation of his middle religious name, and his middle name is a translation of his first religious name. We actually decided to use my ILs method of naming, and our boy's secular names are just transliterations of their religious names. But when we named DS#2 we knew we wanted to name him after my great-grandfather, and DH's great-great-great-grandfather, and call him after my great-grandfather. But we thought the name "flowed better" if we used the name from DH's side first. After much discussion with my mom and brother, we decided it wasn't worth it. We rarely use the full name, and we would get used to it what ever it is. So his religious and secular name match, and now it sounds very natural.
TL:DR you get used to anything once you use it enough.
@thirdtimesacharm2019 I hated having 4 names my whole life. My mother did not hyphenate but put a space between my first two, which she intended to be my "first name" so now I have two middles, both of which are family names. She was one of maybe 3 people who ever called me Firstname-MiddleName#1 in my life. Hell, my grandmother didn't even know about the other middle name til I was like 2 or 3 years old.
I always said I'd drop one middle (it's a male name) and my last to take my husband's name but after almost 30 years of dealing with all the paperwork and confusion, it's NBD now and I just ended up changing my last to my husband's. The names are meaningful to me now, even if they were a pain for a long time.
I thought finding out the sex would make it easier to name this kid...nope. DS #1 we were team Green and had 5 names for each picked out. Looks like we'll probably be in the hospital with another list because once again we can't agree on anything. I even woke up one morning almost 100% certain of a name that was perfect and DH immediately said no. Darn it. And I have second thoughts about some of the ones we didn't use last time.
@moon1417 There's one boy name that was 2nd choice last time and I still love, but I have the weird mom guilt going on as well. I'll probably still keep it in the running, but I really need my brain to stop associating it with DS1 before I can feel comfortable using it. So, all that to say - I get it. I'm there with you.
@moon1417 - If you still like it, GO FOR IT. Our backup name for DD1 (Audrey) just no longer felt "right" for us , but we were going to name this baby our backup name for DD2 (Catherine) if it was another girl.
My brother goes by his middle name (always has) and hates it. My parents have said they regret not naming him the other way around. They liked the way it sounded that way better but wanted to call him the middle name. In hind sight they say they would have just put what they wanted to call him as his first name even if it didn't sound quite as nice together.
If it weren't for them id be tempted to do the same but I'm not bc they all wish it was different now lol
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@jmesue1030 I wouldn’t worry about the name / township name overlap. Our township could be a boys name, and it’s similarly used in plenty of places (library, school district, shopping mall) and I probably wouldn’t ever make a connection if I met a boy with that name. Like, I wouldn’t think that his parents named him after the township or something.
I’m starting to think about boys names since we’ll need at least one. Cameron was high on our list before we found out DD was a girl. I’m also really liking Connor at the moment. But until we find out if baby a is a boy or a girl I’m trying not to harass DH about names too much. No point arguing between two boy names if we find out we can use them both 😂. I’m liking these “E” names too - Emmett and Everett.
@BigBadWolf12 My brother goes by his middle, but it's bc he's a Jr. So, to me it makes sense...though I might be biased. But several males in my family share a first name (grandpa's name) but go by their middle. It aggravates me...it would have honored Grandpa just as much for his name to be used as a middle, so why all the crazy?
One of my rules is we name the child what we will actually call them. If a nickname arises naturally, fine. But I don't want to knowingly name them something only to call them by a different name.
We decided on Olivia Paige for a girl and just love it so much. Hubby suggested Julian and because I thought this one was going to be a girl I just said ok. Well just found out it’s a boy and I really don’t like the name Julian. Our middle son has jeffrey for the middle name after him but hubby thinks he can give this one middle name jeffrey also. He wants Julian jeffrey and I’m like no... so help me find the perfect name for a boy please
@oklahomak that’s so reassuring that you literally had the experience of having things in your town with your name and loved it! I think I’m more worried about what other people think than her but given that it’s a family name, I can always just say that! And like a few others said, most people probably won’t even think about it!
@mkrel totally agree, if it was our city, not the township, I think that would definitely be a deal breaker for me...
@EmilyA724 I think you’re right, she will think she’s special!! There used to be a Violet Festival every summer but they call it something else now, probably a good thing... don’t want her head to grow too big!
@olivemama I appreciate you thinking on it and getting back to me!! You’re right, tons of people share names with places and it’s not a huge deal 😊
@moon1417 ha! I had to have Erin too— it’s not my name but I was a crazy beanie baby collector!! Thanks for your insight! Also, I don’t think using your backup name from last pregnancy is cheating your LO! Its a great name, go for it!
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I think I responded to everyone who gave me feedback, thank you all! I tend to get into my head about this stuff so it helps to have honest feedback. Feeling pretty good that the response is mostly, it’s no big deal— go for it!
@aevan011 Jr makes sense as to thy they did that. But does he not find it frustrating for any type of paperwork or when his "name" is called or recorded anywhere by someone he doesn't know on a personal basis? That's what droves my brother nuts.
Also my whole life I was like that too - why name a kid a name you're going to intentionally nickname? And both dhs family and my family are "use-the-full-name" families. Then we moved abroad and decided to name DS with an English full name and call him by the corresponding Swedish short name. Broke my own rule and the family way. Oh well.
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@jmesue1030 that name has such meaning to you, i would use it anyway. And real life true story--I have a friend who lives in Madison, WI and her first born daughter is Madison. No one cares.
For me, we are having a lot of trouble naming this baby. We are down to two first names--Ava and Olivia (I literaly DGAF if a name is popular or not) and I really want to give her my grandmother's name or a tribute to my grandmother's name in some way for her middle name. My grandmother's name is Susan and is means Rose. So with our second we were going to name a baby girl Olivia Rose. This time around we like Ava better but my husband is fucking obsessed with the name Riley. So he wants Ava Riley but I don't love the classic sound of Ava with the modern Riley. I like Olivia Riley better but I am pissed about not naming her after my grandmother. I want her middle name to be Suzanne, Rosalie, Rose, or Susan. Our boys both have middle names from our fathers and she should also have a family name in my opinion, plus my grandmother was so special and important to me, that I know this isn't getting dropped anytime soon.
I am so annoyed because where the fuck did the name Riley come from? It's a perfectly good name, but we have many friends with Rileys and I don't hate the name at all, I just want to give her a special middle name. It means a lot to me and I think that because our sons have that, she'll feel kind of left out if she doesn't. Although, my mom made it exceptionally clear that she preferred my brothers my entire life so maybe I am just projecting and it doesn't mean as much as I think it does.
@lilmamabebe3 it is always important to us that the names have meaning/link to someone. Our two boys are named after 4 people between them. So I completely understand where you are coming from. I think you should have an honest discussion with your husband, remind him why Susan means so much to you, and try to understand where Riley is coming from, then go from there. Have you thought about compromising and using your grandmother's name as the first name. Like I think Susan Riley sounds pretty. Good luck!! and remember you still have lots of time to figure it out.
@aecm just one thought on twin names... twins (especially B/B or G/G) can have a really hard time finding their own identities. Even my B/G twins are often treated like they are the same person, but they are very different kids, with different personalities and desires. Having names that are very similar may compound the issue of helping them have their own identities. Just a thought, though if you find names you love its way more important that one strangers opinion. @thirdtimesacharm2019 I kept my maiden name and added my married name so I also have the worlds longest name on my drivers licence. back in the day when I was a military spouse it was comical because my name was in such tiny print to fit into the assigned box that you needed a magnifying glass to read it...
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@jmesue1030 I agree with others that it is fine to use a name that is seen around your town a lot. There is a boy in DDs class who shares a name with their school, a street in our town and a few businesses...he thinks it is cool. Also I LOVE the name Violet! It would be one of my top girl names but I do not like the way it sounds with my last name.
DH and I are probably set with the name Josiah for a boy but have not even discussed middle names. Our other kids have middle names that have meaning but neither are family names, so I want to do the same for this one. For girls I am pretty sure we have nothing. I have suggested a couple dozen names and DH does not like any of them. He has made no suggestions though. There might be 2 from my list that he would consider but both are insanely popular, which is not quite a deal breaker for me but our other 2 have far less common names..
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I can't decide if I even like the name because I am so hung up that it's her daughter's name. I know the general consensus is that no one owns a name, but it's weird, right? All the names in the world and that's the one we pick?
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For this one if it's a girl I'm planning on naming after my grandmother, and DH and I are having the discussion of if we do that, how will we distinguish her. I want to call her by both names, since no one else named after my grandma uses both, but we'll see.
In the end it comes down to what you are comfortable with. Obviously, the examples I gave are slightly extreme, and very specific to my culture, but you have to find a way to determine if you will be comfortable with it.
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the name Violet:
PROS
1. It’s my grandmother’s name and I love her dearly, she is near the end of her life and I would love to honor her by using her name
2. It sounds lovely with our last name
3. I’ve always thought I would name a baby girl Violet— when my brother had his daughter in 2012, they had Violet on their list and ultimately decided against it, partially because it was known that I planned to use it first.
CONS
1. This is really the only con but it’s kind of a biggy to me... to the point that it might be a deal breaker. A few years ago we moved to a different suburb and it is in Violet Township. Violet isn’t in the name of the actual suburb but A LOT of stuff around town has violet in the name.. ie: Violet Plaza, Violet elementary, violet fire dept, violet community rec... is it totally weird to name my child Violet when she will grow up seeing her name all around our town? We have no plans of moving anytime soon since I own a brick and mortar business here and we like where we’re at. Do people in places like Madison WI name little girls Madison??
2. The rise in popularity of the name doesn’t thrill me but that’s a minor con for me
we have tossed around other names that are similar but none quite do it for me. Viola was in the running for a bit but I just don’t like it as much. We have other names we like, they just aren’t meaningful like this one is. Any feedback would be appreciated!!
I grew up right next to a big Air Force Base that shares my first name. As a little girl, I thought it was so much fun that the base and many surrounding businesses were "named after me." It never bothered me as I grew up, and honestly I wouldn't think twice about it.
3 syllable boy names that start with a vowel.... hmmm
my son’s name is Theodore (nn Theo) obviously doesn’t start with a vowel but I’m partial to that 3 syllable name 😊
I like Everett! I do know a couple little everett’s And they’re super cute. Cameron is cute too.
I’ll have to think more on non-biblical 3 syllable names that start with vowels— these don’t meet your vowel criteria but I like
sebastian
gideon
sullivan
@olivemomma I really like the name Everett. I think it's a nice strong name. Our boy name is Ulysses (nn Uly/Lee), which would also fit your needs.
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We are stuck on the name Emmett. I do love the name for our little guy but still not 100% convinced. It was the boy name we chose for DD if we ended up with a boy the first time. So I almost feel like I'm cheating this baby out of picking out their name especially for them - is that weird mom guilt?
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I beg you, please, do not name your daughter something and call her by her middle name her whole life. It was always a pain the in butt, but when I got married it was super screwy because I didn’t want to drop my maiden name, I wanted to drop my first name that means nothing to me. Social security said “fine”, but my state said “nope, it’s a homeland security risk”. What the actual F?!? So now I have four names on my drivers license... which screws up bank accounts, medical records, etc. because everyone wants to hyphen my last name. I could go to court and have it legally changed, but that’s a huge run around also. End rant.
In my family we all have 4 names (besides the family name) - first and middle religious name, and first and middle secular name. For three of us they map, so first secular name is a rough translation of first religious name, same for middle. But for one of my brothers my parents wanted his first religious name to be after my mom's grandfather, and his middle name to be just a name they liked. But they wanted to call him by the name they liked. So for his secular name his first name is a translation of his middle religious name, and his middle name is a translation of his first religious name.
We actually decided to use my ILs method of naming, and our boy's secular names are just transliterations of their religious names. But when we named DS#2 we knew we wanted to name him after my great-grandfather, and DH's great-great-great-grandfather, and call him after my great-grandfather. But we thought the name "flowed better" if we used the name from DH's side first. After much discussion with my mom and brother, we decided it wasn't worth it. We rarely use the full name, and we would get used to it what ever it is. So his religious and secular name match, and now it sounds very natural.
TL:DR you get used to anything once you use it enough.
I always said I'd drop one middle (it's a male name) and my last to take my husband's name but after almost 30 years of dealing with all the paperwork and confusion, it's NBD now and I just ended up changing my last to my husband's. The names are meaningful to me now, even if they were a pain for a long time.
@moon1417 There's one boy name that was 2nd choice last time and I still love, but I have the weird mom guilt going on as well. I'll probably still keep it in the running, but I really need my brain to stop associating it with DS1 before I can feel comfortable using it. So, all that to say - I get it. I'm there with you.
If it weren't for them id be tempted to do the same but I'm not bc they all wish it was different now lol
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I’m starting to think about boys names since we’ll need at least one. Cameron was high on our list before we found out DD was a girl. I’m also really liking Connor at the moment. But until we find out if baby a is a boy or a girl I’m trying not to harass DH about names too much. No point arguing between two boy names if we find out we can use them both 😂. I’m liking these “E” names too - Emmett and Everett.
My brother goes by his middle, but it's bc he's a Jr. So, to me it makes sense...though I might be biased. But several males in my family share a first name (grandpa's name) but go by their middle. It aggravates me...it would have honored Grandpa just as much for his name to be used as a middle, so why all the crazy?
One of my rules is we name the child what we will actually call them. If a nickname arises naturally, fine. But I don't want to knowingly name them something only to call them by a different name.
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@mkrel totally agree, if it was our city, not the township, I think that would definitely be a deal breaker for me...
@EmilyA724 I think you’re right, she will think she’s special!! There used to be a Violet Festival every summer but they call it something else now, probably a good thing... don’t want her head to grow too big!
@olivemama I appreciate you thinking on it and getting back to me!! You’re right, tons of people share names with places and it’s not a huge deal 😊
@moon1417 ha! I had to have Erin too— it’s not my name but I was a crazy beanie baby collector!! Thanks for your insight! Also, I don’t think using your backup name from last pregnancy is cheating your LO! Its a great name, go for it!
@aecm thank you for that feedback! Very helpful!
@heml Thank you! I was actually wondering about Austins In Austin
I think I responded to everyone who gave me feedback, thank you all! I tend to get into my head about this stuff so it helps to have honest feedback. Feeling pretty good that the response is mostly, it’s no big deal— go for it!
Also my whole life I was like that too - why name a kid a name you're going to intentionally nickname? And both dhs family and my family are "use-the-full-name" families. Then we moved abroad and decided to name DS with an English full name and call him by the corresponding Swedish short name. Broke my own rule and the family way. Oh well.
BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016
Re-started TTC Aug 2016
Started IF testing Nov 2016
Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017
BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
For me, we are having a lot of trouble naming this baby. We are down to two first names--Ava and Olivia (I literaly DGAF if a name is popular or not) and I really want to give her my grandmother's name or a tribute to my grandmother's name in some way for her middle name. My grandmother's name is Susan and is means Rose. So with our second we were going to name a baby girl Olivia Rose. This time around we like Ava better but my husband is fucking obsessed with the name Riley. So he wants Ava Riley but I don't love the classic sound of Ava with the modern Riley. I like Olivia Riley better but I am pissed about not naming her after my grandmother. I want her middle name to be Suzanne, Rosalie, Rose, or Susan. Our boys both have middle names from our fathers and she should also have a family name in my opinion, plus my grandmother was so special and important to me, that I know this isn't getting dropped anytime soon.
I am so annoyed because where the fuck did the name Riley come from? It's a perfectly good name, but we have many friends with Rileys and I don't hate the name at all, I just want to give her a special middle name. It means a lot to me and I think that because our sons have that, she'll feel kind of left out if she doesn't. Although, my mom made it exceptionally clear that she preferred my brothers my entire life so maybe I am just projecting and it doesn't mean as much as I think it does.
I think you should have an honest discussion with your husband, remind him why Susan means so much to you, and try to understand where Riley is coming from, then go from there.
Have you thought about compromising and using your grandmother's name as the first name. Like I think Susan Riley sounds pretty.
Good luck!! and remember you still have lots of time to figure it out.
@thirdtimesacharm2019 I kept my maiden name and added my married name so I also have the worlds longest name on my drivers licence. back in the day when I was a military spouse it was comical because my name was in such tiny print to fit into the assigned box that you needed a magnifying glass to read it...
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
DH and I are probably set with the name Josiah for a boy but have not even discussed middle names. Our other kids have middle names that have meaning but neither are family names, so I want to do the same for this one. For girls I am pretty sure we have nothing. I have suggested a couple dozen names and DH does not like any of them. He has made no suggestions though. There might be 2 from my list that he would consider but both are insanely popular, which is not quite a deal breaker for me but our other 2 have far less common names..
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19