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Re: Breast Feeding Discussion
It hurt a lot in the beginning, and it was frustrating, but as long as he got a good latch it was okay. Milk coming in hurt way worse than BFing ever did.
Pumping at work wasn't a big deal, I honestly hated the pumping room they had at work so I just pumped in my car. Driving to work, at lunch, and driving home. It worked well for me.
@dntstpbelieveing I really don't believe breast size has anything to do with it. I was a small A cup and only got up to a C during my second pregnancy and I BF her for 16 months.
@Bababatty call your insurance company. They will tell you which brand they will cover. You get a prescription from you OB and then mail it in. That's how it worked for me. I prefer Medela. I feel like the suction is better.
My advice/experience:
1) Instead of nipple cream I just expressed a little extra milk after each session (pumping or feeding) and rubbed it on my nipple. A LC must have told me about this because I never would have come up with it on my own, but it worked and I never used nipple cream.
2) I pumped like a mad woman at work--I would go ever 3 hrs to pump and I had to hand massage each breast while pumping to make sure I emptied my breasts at each session. I would always freak about the amount pumping each day not matching what son was consuming at daycare and It started to really impact my mental health--ADVICE: Take it easy on yourself ladies! I'll try and take it easy this time around
2a) My supply took a dip around 6 months when son started eating solids--this really messed with my anxiety; I could have saved myself (and my husband) a lot of grief if I had just decided to supplement starting then but I was so set on making it work all the way to a full year. If I could do it all over again I'd supplement and save my sanity.
3) I stored my pump parts in a fridge in our pump room at work so I didn't have to wash between each session and I washed/used those microwave steam bags each night. Glad we had a separate fridge, it would have been weird to put my parts in a ziplock bag next to people's lunches
4) I always had extra pump parts in my pump bag for work--I'm not certain i ever needed them, but I wasn't going to chance it
5) Get a hands free pump bra or make one yourself by cutting holes in a sports bra
6) Bring a book for pumping at work--ugh pumping took forever and it could be a little stressful so I would bring a novel and just use that as me time (as weird as that sounds). I must have read a new book every week with how often i pumped
Has anyone tried the Medela Sonata? It is a bit pricey but someone recommended it to me. I obviously have nothing to compare it too...
So take some breast milk early on, freeze it, and then wait a few weeks to see if it turns. If you have high lipase (I do), it's not the end of the world. You have to scald your breast milk first to deactivate the lipase, then freeze it. Then your milk is good for a long time in the freezer. It's not as bad as it sounds once you get it down - I would pump for a few days and then scald a lot of milk at a time then freeze it - took 10 minutes. KellyMom has a good cheat sheet on this. https://kellymom.com/bf/pumpingmoms/milkstorage/lipase-expressedmilk/
Most women are fine, but this issue is common enough that I warn moms to check! Luckily I only had a small stash of about 20 ounces saved up when I found out, so no big deal. But nothing worse than leaving the baby with grandma and a couple of thawed breast milk bags to go out for the night and get the call that the baby won't drink the milk!
There isn't anything wrong with supplementing, it just wasn't the route I was willing to take at that time.
As for tips:
1. If you intended to breastfeed go in with the mindset that it is what you're going to do. It's better to have that positive mindset if it's your goal.
2. NIPPLE CREAM! It will be your friend. I used Earth Mama's because it didn't need to be wiped off like lanolin does.
3. When your milk comes in you will be engorged. Resist the urge to pump or overexpress because you could end up with an oversupply and that's not a good thing. I just hand expressed with a bowl of warm water (literally dangled my boob into the bowel lol) to soften the area around my nipple enough for my son to latch.
4. Milk will spray. It's going to happen, especially when you're engorged. A hakka or some type of passive milk collector is a great idea to catch the milk that comes from the side baby is not nursing on. But be aware it'll all be foremilk (less fatty). It's not a bad thing, but it would be good to mix it with other pumped milk to get hindmilk in there as well.
https://www.thebump.com/a/best-nursing-ointment-lansinoh-hpa-lanolin
all about being deliberate and informed about it. Just do it as safely as you can instead of just doing it
out of exhaustion and it makes a huge difference in the safeness of it. I hate that no one talks about it but so many people do it. I’m totally guilty
of this too, I carted a pack and play everywhere even though my
son never once slept in the thing just to keep up appearances. I won’t do that this time, and I will nYou felt inform any woman who ever asks me about the safest ways to do it.
Also, I never used nipple cream. I used coconut oil on occasion, but I never found that the creams helped all that much
This is a bit weird so TMI: also kind of a weird thing I picked up from La Leche meetings. Your breasts have specific glands that produce lubricant that your baby can smell and recognize you from. It has a similar smell to your womb. So they recommended not to wash the nipple area for the last month or so before giving birth, and also to leave it alone after that as well while you breastfeed. The lubricant takes care of keeping the skin clean on its own ( much like the vagina). I haven’t washed my nipples in a year and a half and I suppose if all goes well we’ll be getting close to four years by the time I may ever wash my nipples again. Obviously if you actually get something on there, wash it off, but generally soaps interfere with the glands and the perfumes interfere with the natural “you” smell. And just Incase anyone thinks I’m crazy town, link:
https://www.medela.com/breastfeeding/mums-journey/nipple-care
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The first weeks are the toughest - it’s awkward, painful and you question everything from how much they are eating to your sanity (but that is a standard as soon as you’re a mom if not well before)
For me the hardest part of breastfeeding was in the very beginning, I remember my nipples being so bloody and raw, the first time I pumped just to take a break from the apparent jackal I had birthed, the milk was bloody and looked like strawberry nesquik, but apparently that is absolutely fine - besides the potential of raising a vampire.
I do agree with the mindset when you first go into it is the most important thing, I had no idea it would hurt that bad and be as tough as it was but thankfully I had really awesome LCs and mommas that gave me reassurance. I thought it was supposed to be so easy and natural. And I had no issues with latch or supply, it was just tough.
My biggest piece of advice is go into it prepared, use resources like LCs, online groups, and other moms but honestly if you can’t or it’s more than you can handle, do not feel bad, guilty or worse. Moms get shamed and pressured for so many reasons, do what’s right for you and your family and anyone who criticizes can go jump in a lake.
But you let milk down when certain triggers happen, including baby crying or suckling. So suckling from one breast often triggers a let down in the other breast and that's why you may leak. I would leak up to 2 ounces sometimes (for scale, when my baby ate from a bottle, she ate 3 oz at a time).
I will say just like with pregnancy every mom and child for that matter is different. My first was a pro as soon as she was born I never had any trouble with latch or supply. My second on the other was difficult and pain it took a good six weeks I would say to get a good latch, I mean there was times that I would have to relatch her 3-4 times a feed. My supply also took so much longer to come in I ended up having to supplement for a week or 2 because she was just not getting enough, this may have also been due to the fact that she had a bad latch. I really beat myself up for this. so this leads me to my next point I agree that you have to go in to it with the mindset that this is what your going to do but you also need to remember that that means to be patient and easy with yourself and if that night or day it's just not working you'll do what you have to to keep your baby fed and yourself sane but you will also keep trying later when you feel better.
Also find people you feel comfortable discussing and venting with, because you'll have rough days and good days. This BMB sounds like an amazing place to start also the people in your life that have gone and are going through it. There is no wrong way to feed your lo there's just the way that works best for you.
I know the answer is probably YMMV, but is it possible to nurse with baby in a sling/wrap so you can walk around and not be stuck on the couch? I’m guessing it probably depends on the baby and how they prefer to feed?
son and me for maybe a month? Again, I have a very short torso and large boobs, so the alignment just never worked for is. But I could carry him around and feed for quite a long
time if need be.
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Started dating: July 1st, 2013
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@gta4334 my supply was normal when I was using the Haakaa. I don't leak a lot either. The suction that is created helps the milk come out and collect in it.
@Bababatty I religiously nurse in my ergo. Especially in public. I grocery shop, chase the kids at the zoo, whatever I need to do at that time I nurse in my ergo. As for other wraps, I found them to be too difficult and it was easier to just take baby out and nurse.
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you guys are so helpful
I learned more from my mom group and LC I had appointments with. Because the class didn’t really cover troubleshooting (low milk supply, latch issues, am I doing this right, what the heck is hind milk, my baby has lost weight etc). And when you are in the trenches of no sleep and cluster feeding, you curse the class that made it seem like, use a football hold and baby eats.
Maybe my class just sucked. But I would have definitely recommended a book that talks about latches and explains things like cluster feeding over it.
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I do highly suggest a BF support group on FB as well. I'm a part of an amazing one run by two LCs. It has been incredibly helpful for all those random questions along the way, in addition to just general support.
https://aeroflowbreastpumps.com/qualify-through-insurance?gclid=Cj0KCQiAuf7fBRD7ARIsACqb8w6QGlpb_yfUoQKt3Fw3EF4z-KM5PbNodLtrQ1Rbb9yxlFUJHqOtdx4aAtMZEALw_wcB
1. Don't buy into all the woo about BF. It is free, and it has some minor advantages for mom and baby. However, like others have said, it is not worth your sanity or health or baby's health if things are not going well. Please don't buy into the idea that your kid will be smarter or a better reader or have a higher IQ with BF. Some of the BF friendly groups really drive that home, and it's just not supported by contemporary research. There is a decrease in maternal cancers, and it is truly healthier for a premature/NICU baby. However, in a healthy, term infant, the best research shows that it decreases gastrointestinal illness by a moderate amount. Also, when fed from the breast there is a decrease in contamination, etc. But in America and developed nations, this is rarely a problem with formula as we're fortunate to have access to clean water.
2. That being said, I loved BF-ing my daughter. However, the first 6-8 weeks were HARD for us. It took 5 days for my milk to come in. I delivered my DD at 40+6, so she was not a sleepy baby that was ok waiting 5 days for a real meal. She was ANGRY. If I could go back, I would have supplemented in that time. She maintained her weight well enough, but she cried and did not sleep much that first week. And guess who else cried and didnt' sleep much? ME! I will have RTF formula on hand for this baby in the first weeks.
3. People who say a good latch doesn't hurt either haven't BF before, don't remember, or maybe were just into some serious nipple play before getting KU. But seriously, it HURT. For at least 4 weeks. She had a great latch, but she nursed ALL THE TIME, and she was a slow eater. I second the suggestion of nipple cream/balm. My favorite ended up being the Honest Co. one. Also, if you're planning to BF for any period of time, I cannot reccomend the hydrogel nipple pads more (they are amazing if you put them on from the fridge). Also, these were a life saver - you can use them warm from the microwave to help stimulate let down or frozen to help with engorgment or nipple pain. It did get better but it took a long time. So, I do say to be committed to giving it a shot, if long-term, BF is your goal. Don't give up on a bad day.
4. Pumping kind of sucks. I had a Medela PISA and I liked it well enough. The biggest recommendation I have here is to invest in extra parts. I think I had 6 sets by the time I was through. (I was lucky to have had a friend with a NICU baby so she gave me her extras which helped) That way I wasn't washing them constantly. Technically the CDC says it's no longer safe to keep parts in the fridge between pumps. But, my feeling is if you have a healthy, term, non-immunocompromised baby, they're being subjected to more dangerous sources of potential germs. Just know, that's the "official rule."
5. For me the boppy was just meh. DD lounged on it but I was not successful using it for BFing. However, the MyBrestFriend nursing pillow is THE BOMB. It has a strap that goes around you and clips and the size is adjustable. So I could wear it high or low on my torso, I could lean back and it would hold baby in the right spot. On the scary occasions I fell asleep nursing DD, I felt like it kept her in a more stable position. It's hard with these because everyone's body is different, but I'd recommend checking it out at least.
6. Ask your OB or the hospital where you deliver if they have BF support groups. I went to one weekly for the first couple of months, partially for support, partially because it was easy to get out of the house without worrying about whether she would need to eat, and mainly because they had scales so I could check her weight gain and do a weighted feed to see how much milk she was transferring. I'm type-A and a numbers person, so It kind of killed me to only say "DD nursed 8-10 times/day" and not have a clue how much milk she was getting.
Gosh, I have so much more but I've already written a novel. I sincerely recommend the FB group "Evidence Based Feeding and Parenting: Breastfeeding and More." There are some crazies there like everywhere, but by and large, the are supportive of basically any type of safe feeding, have great BF resources, great combo-feeding resources and really adhere to what the evidence actually states about BFing.
Breast is the biological norm, formula is a fantastic invention which has saved millions of lives, but informed parents are what I believe is best for the child.
Breastfeeding can can come with many challenges, it takes determination and commitment to make it through the hard times, trust me I have been there. Some fantastic resources are Ina May Gaskin’s guide to breastfeeding, public or private lactation consultants, the website kellymom.com as well as breastfeeding support meetings such as la letche league. All of these resources will tell of the breastfeeding relationship, which means it must work for both baby and mama, if you are struggling you have the right to change your breastfeeding relationship, if your baby is struggling you have the right to change your breastfeeding relationship it’s all ok to do because only you know what is best for you and your baby!
Breastfeeding relationships come come in many forms, some moms are able to exclusively breastfeed, others supplement with donor milk via bottle or SNS system, some pump exclusively, and some supplement with formula, some require domperidone to increase their milk supply to continue breastfeeding their babies, some mothers even breastfeed without ever being pregnant in cases of surrogacy or adoption. All of these situations are beautiful examples of breastfeeding relationships whether they last 1 week or 3-7 years.
The biggest advice I can give to new moms is to trust yourself and your body, find reputable information and don’t worry what others have to say about your choices, they are not living your life and are not entitled to make decisions for you about your breastfeeding relationship (even if they are your parents or doctor)
I highly recommend the haakaa. I didnt know about it until several weeks after DD was born and until then I would leak so bad and I cried so much because I was constantly wet from leaking all over myself. It definitely saved my sanity.
I hated lanolin but love my bamboobies boob ease nipple balm. Try different kinds until you find a nipple cream you love.
I tried the medela PISA and hated it but I love my spectra s2. I would recommend (as many already have) checking with your insurance to see what they will cover. My spectra s2 was fully covered by my insurance but I had about 6 different pumps to choose from through insurance.
Definitely have snacks and a giant cup of water near where you nurse/pump. I was soo hungry and thirsty every time I nursed for a long time.
If you plan on nursing in a chair in your baby's room, i would recommend finding a chair you love. I HATE the glider we have and it's not at all comfortable for nursing in. I'll be looking for a new chair for this go round.