Let’s chat about our pending move to Facebook...
How would you like to see it happen?
When would you like to see it happen?
For S+TM’s... Is there anything you'd like to share about previous BMB -> FB moves? What worked? What didn’t?
T & J 5.9.09
MMC 2.12.11 @ 8w
PVM 5.8.12
GWM 3.17.15
RPM 2.21.19
Re: Movin’ on up... to Facebook
- We elected “Admins” to start the FB group page. They set it up and handled all new member requests.
- On FB, the elected Admins (there were 3) set up a specific account to act as the Admin for the FB group page. All members then had to friend request that specific profile in order to receive admittance into the group.
- In order to receive admittance into the FB group, the person requesting had to provide a photo of themselves with a piece of paper with current date written on it. They also had to provide their Bump username to cross reference.
- They asked people to be honest w/ their activity here on TB and would check the “Introduce Yourself” thread to make sure they were someone who has been around a bit before allowing them in.
I’m sure I’ll think of something else we did... it was pretty seamless for both groups... My May ‘12 group is bigger than my March ‘15 group but both have been great supports through this journey. I’d consider many of them friends and feel lucky to have both FB groups in my life.
MMC 2.12.11 @ 8w
PVM 5.8.12
GWM 3.17.15
RPM 2.21.19
That being said, I wasn't active enough in my first BMB to move to the FB group, and that was totally understandable. Our group completely died once the FB transition was complete, and it was hard because I had SO many more questions (and needed a ton more support) postpartum than when I was pregnant. I'm hopeful that once the core group of us moves over we can still make an effort to be active over here until babies are born.
I agree that moving over to FB can isolate folks who still need a network of support. I will hang in both places until the board comes to a natural end.
My concerns largely are around privacy and who is allowed to join. Lurking here is one thing - lurking in a FB group just doesn’t really work given the increase in personal information shared by nature of the tool and just by way of getting to know each other more.
I don’t want to make this an exclusivity thing - that’s not what this is about - but if you’re not active and sharing here at a certain point, there should be a cut off. To get support you’ve got to give support and be at least a semi active member of the community.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
I liked the move to PG first and felt much more comfortable posting there than I do on the regular page. I liked the privacy and the admins were members of the group, not BGs. I felt like we really got to know each other on the PG before actually sharing who we really are on fb.
Eta: I’ve only been randomly active here so take my opinion with a grain of salt. I’m trying to be more active bc my J17 group was great help, especially in those early months!
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
Another vote for hanging around till after the babies babies are born for those who refuse to come to FB. I mean... I’ll judge you for it silently but will still visit to support you and see your cute babies 😜
MMC 2.12.11 @ 8w
PVM 5.8.12
GWM 3.17.15
RPM 2.21.19
Like @kayjay44 said, you’ve got to give support to get support.
MMC 2.12.11 @ 8w
PVM 5.8.12
GWM 3.17.15
RPM 2.21.19
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
Also, since I have never been on a BMB on Facebook, how do the weekly threads work? Does it ever get confusing and cluttered? Its’ set up is so different than a forum I’m curious how it would be set up.
I agree it would be nice to have a screening process as well for security and privacy issues.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
I'm definitely for a FB group, but sad at the prospect of losing some of yall! I will also stay active in TB and FB through maternity leave, but ultimately I won't be able to keep up with everyone long term without a more stable outlet.
My other two bmbs moved over around the third trimester.
For the first group, one admin friended everyone who showed an interest and invited them to a private group.
For the second group, there was a thread on the bump where everyone would post that they were interested and if they got 5 love tits they were PMed information on how to get in. Many women called it a “popularity contest” but whatever. It kept it from being too random.
Admins were volunteers. I’m an admin in my J17 group.
For my May ‘12 group, it is a bit more free for all these days (we’ve been together 7 years now) but back when we started, we had specific threads.
For my March ‘15 group, we have a Daily Random, Weekend Random, and then HDBD, Mommy & Me, Daddy & Me, UO, or other random ones (like someone will start a meal planning one or something like that). The threads aren’t assigned and whoever gets to it first thing in the AM, goes for it.
MMC 2.12.11 @ 8w
PVM 5.8.12
GWM 3.17.15
RPM 2.21.19
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
Maybe we can all do a trial run there and see how we like it? Perhaps a poll to see how much interest we have in the test run? What’s everyone’s thoughts?
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
I just voted “I’d prefer FB in the poll” but that’s not to say I’m 100% opposed to going to Slack. I’d just pick FB over another platform.
MMC 2.12.11 @ 8w
PVM 5.8.12
GWM 3.17.15
RPM 2.21.19
I do think for groups FB is prob best. Until I left I had been with an old Nest group since 2009 or 2010. We migrated to Proboards after the exodus but it was short lived and then we FB migrated. It actually was a lot easier to keep up with everyone that was and was more streamlined than proboards. It was really nice to get to know people a bit more personally since a lot of people worry about the privacy of public forums.
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
I will definitely feel more comfortable to share in a private group. Just today I had an incredibly timely reminder of how creepy some people can be on the internet. (I have to leave for my yoga class in a minute or I would be typing up a novel right now!)