@secicc12 I haven’t really felt a huge urge to tell people either even though I’m tired of hiding it. Part of me is unsure how family will react. We’ve already had one, so will it be as exciting for our parents the second time around? My SIL (husband’s sister) just had her first baby last month, so that’s all the rave right now. I guess I already feel protective over this baby not getting the amount of attention it deserves with being baby #2. Sounds silly I’m sure, so I’ll blame hormones. 🤷🏼♀️
@megsb615 My parents were plenty excited about #2, but when I told them this time about #3 my mom laughed and said "really? Was this planned?" Like, she was excited, but she also knows just how challenging my girls are, and might have been questioning my sanity a little 🤣 (FWIW, I'm one of 3 myself)
@megsb615 I was worried about that with my in laws. And after my husband told them, my mil avoided me for a while. She says she was just super busy, and I want to believe her but I think she was concerned. The first thing she said after bringing up baby was "are you still going to take your test and work as a nurse?" Once I told her I'm taking the test this month and plan to work through the end of my pregnancy if someone will hire me, she was really excited.
My mom on the other hand has wanted me to get pregnant again since my son was born lol. So when I told her she screamed "YES" 😂 I'm an only child and I think she always regretted not having more. So she's excited I'm making different choices.
@megsb615 I was worried about that with my in laws. And after my husband told them, my mil avoided me for a while. She says she was just super busy, and I want to believe her but I think she was concerned. The first thing she said after bringing up baby was "are you still going to take your test and work as a nurse?" Once I told her I'm taking the test this month and plan to work through the end of my pregnancy if someone will hire me, she was really excited.
My mom on the other hand has wanted me to get pregnant again since my son was born lol. So when I told her she screamed "YES" 😂 I'm an only child and I think she always regretted not having more. So she's excited I'm making different choices.
Aww, I'm also an only, and though I had a lovely childhood, I always wanted more than one kiddo. When I got divorced after my DS was born, I knew it was dicey as to whether or not I'd ever have any more. I'm so excited he'll have a sibling, and I know my family will flip, especially since it's so unexpected.
@sleepy33 I always wanted my son to have a sibling, too. When I had my right tube removed she tested my left and I was just devastated when she told me it was blocked. I figured unless we went through IVF, which we couldn't afford, our son would be an only too. We had actually discussed it and were trying to come to terms with it when we found out I was pregnant. I think my mom would've been heart broken if we weren't able to have anymore, and I would've been, too.
@megsb615 I was worried about that with my in laws. And after my husband told them, my mil avoided me for a while. She says she was just super busy, and I want to believe her but I think she was concerned. The first thing she said after bringing up baby was "are you still going to take your test and work as a nurse?" Once I told her I'm taking the test this month and plan to work through the end of my pregnancy if someone will hire me, she was really excited.
My mom on the other hand has wanted me to get pregnant again since my son was born lol. So when I told her she screamed "YES" 😂 I'm an only child and I think she always regretted not having more. So she's excited I'm making different choices.
So many family members have asked me if this means I'm holding off on school. I'm like no, I'm purposely doing the program I am because I have summers off and I wanted to go to school AND have a baby. I'm due right after I would take finals and then I'll have the summer to recover. Everyone chill.
@DuchessOfCambridge I was in prereqs when I was pregnant with my son and my husband was so afraid I'd quit after he was born. I wanted to. But I didn't. I went back when he was 8 weeks old and the week before finals he got very sick and we ended up in the PICU. One bitch teacher made me come in and prove he was sick, I went in sweats without having showered all week (it was a Friday, he'd been hospitalized since Tuesday) and I cried as soon as she looked at me. My son was intubated the next day. He was home before the next quarter started, but he started getting sick at daycare the week he was back and I panicked and dropped all my classes to stay home with him. I went back the very next quarter and didn't take a break again until I was applying to programs. It's been a long journey. I think people just assume when you have kids you're just fully prepared to forget all your aspirations. I wish I'd done it all before having kids, but having him made me want it so much more.
I had a different career before DS but had been toying with nursing for years. I'd take a prereq here and there and then forget about it again. When DS was born it lit a fire under me. I didn't like my job and it wasn't worth staying in a career I had no passion for. I started prereqs again while on maternity leave and then quit to stay home full time and take more prereqs faster. I also wish I'd done this before having a baby but I needed the baby to get the courage to do it.
Also, what an asshat of a teacher. Like, screw that lady. WTF.
@DuchessOfCambridge I knew for a long time that I wanted to be a nurse, but before I had my son I only wanted to work in mental health. That's changed a bit. Having my son helped me a lot in nursing school because I was able to relate a ton of concepts to his medical history and what they did, or I had to do with him, etc. It's been a roller coaster with him, it's been hard, but without him I don't think I would've kept going. I have a tendency to not finish things and I fear this would've been one of them if I didn't have him to work for.
@imrachellea I could see my mom being “worried about my sanity” because there have definitely been times I’ve melted down to her from lack of sleep, but it is what it is. I know they’ll be excited, but I can see her being a bit of a wet blanket about it too.
@eatinwatermelonseeds and @sleepy33 I’m an only child also, and that’s another reason I wanted DS to have a sibling. It never bothered me as a child, but as I’ve grown up and gotten married, pregnant, dealt with a few really hard family times, it made me wish I had a sibling. I just hope DS will have a good close relationship with this baby. I know it’s not a guarantee they’ll be close, but he will at least have the option to have that bond.
@megsb615 the realization that when my mom is gone I'll have no one who was there as I grew up and truly knew what it was like is making me tear up as I write this. I have close friends who have been there since I was 11 and who I love like sisters. I hope my son has a close relationship with his baby brother or sister. I think the age gap may actually be beneficial for us since he's been so delayed.
@eatinwatermelonseeds I completely understand. Last December my dad went in for bypass surgery, and had so many complications. His lungs and kidneys failed, and he had to be put on life support. For about a solid month it was absolute hell trying to do it all and be there for my mom. I obviously had her, my husband and best friends to talk to, but it just wasn’t the same as I would imagine if I had a sibling going through it with me. Sorry that was super deep and depressing, but I don’t want my children to ever go through something like that or even me and my husband passing away alone. Breaks my heart thinking about it.
@megsb615 I get it. I only have my mom, she was a single parent. She had a heart attack a couple years ago and it just all became very real to me that when she's gone, I'm all alone. I feel like that sounds so dramatic, because really I'm not, but there's no one else who knows my mom like I do who would keep her memory alive with me. My grandmother, but I have to be realistic there too. It's just sad and I never want my son to feel that loneliness.
@eatinwatermelonseeds that’s not dramatic at all, in my opinion. I have siblings and I still have thought more than once how if anything happened to my mom, there’s no one left who loves me THAT. MUCH. Not my dad, not my siblings, no one.
@megsb615 the realization that when my mom is gone I'll have no one who was there as I grew up and truly knew what it was like is making me tear up as I write this. I have close friends who have been there since I was 11 and who I love like sisters. I hope my son has a close relationship with his baby brother or sister. I think the age gap may actually be beneficial for us since he's been so delayed.
I can relate. Only my mom is like this now. She was AMA when she had me. Shes I think 64 now and has already had several mini strokes. She doesn't remember her pregnancy with me for the most part or anything about my early child hood. She already forgets my kids names.
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
I ordered a precious Big Brother shirt for DS, and can’t wait to get it. 😍 Too bad getting him to take a decent picture will be nearly impossible, but at least he’ll look cute 💁🏼♀️
Sorry this picture is so big and ignore the watermark, but I had to share DS’ sweet big brother shirt with y’all! 😍 Eek! So excited to announce in a couple of weeks!
Man, I wish it was sunny here today. I just thought of the cutest gender reveal pictures and I could totally just do both right now and edit them and then just post whichever it is. We're announcing our pregnancy after we find out the sex, so it'll be a two for one.
My Pokemon obsessed son (it was dinosaurs just a couple weeks ago, so hopefully it doesn't change again) holds out an open pokeball with pink or blue confetti and whatnot dressed up as Ash Ketchum. Caption reads "our newest Pokemon trainer is a......!!!"
This is what we will post after Friday, if all looks well on the US. I’m debating retaking it so my dogs are also in the picture seems silly if they aren’t in it. Maybe my mom can stop by this week to redo that one picture. What do you guys think? Add the dogs, or leave it?
@mrskoz428 we know people who posted something similar a while ago without their two dogs and DH and I (saw it separately) both thought they were having triplets at first glance (we knew they'd gone through IF treatments). For that reason, I would suggest adding the dogs if you can.
I just got together for lunch with some of the ladies from my small group at church. I still haven’t said anything about being pregnant. I kept waiting for the right moment to say something, and nope nothing, and I chickened out. We are still getting to know each other. Some I know better than others and it just feels weird saying something but not mentioning it is getting weirder. This is my third time around and the bump is getting bigger! I had been holding off on saying anything because of our loss last year and last time we got together the conversation went towards infertility and some of the ladies struggles. I think maybe it’s just time for an announcement on social media so everyone knows.
Ivy: July 2010 | Stella: Dec 2012 | BFP#3: MMC at 11Wk's, July 2017 | Wyatt: April 2019 | BFP#5: Twin Girls due Sept 2020
@robyn2201 I am with you. I find the conversation so awkward! I feel like there’s some coworkers I should tell, but I’ve only been working with them for 6 months so bringing it up in conversation feels so awkward. I figure I’ll just grow and they’ll figure it out eventually?
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe DD2: October 2016 DC3: coming May 2019
@robyn2201 & @k2k2tog We are so awkward at telling people. It took DH 3 days to tell his brother last time when we were all staying at the in-laws.
With my doctors visits and having to cancel my work trip this week (subchorionic hematoma), I figure my boss already knows but I'm in no rush to formally say anything until I'm further along - might wait until 16-20 weeks since I work from home most of the time and my boss is remote.
We announced this weekend at my and my DH joint Birthday party! My parents, sister, and best friend was there. For my in-laws who weren't there we mailed them this pic, and just showed it to my family in person....
If they don't show up full size I will have to upload from my laptop later.
So, I think I've turned my Instagram announcement into "how many cute announcements can I think of before we officially announce?" 😂 I've got two more to do, but this is what I have so far. My next one will be my son dressed up in his Incredibles PJs and the caption will say "don't worry, this sequel won't take too long...." And then the Pokemon for the sex. No idea if I'll think of something in between.. But I have no more ultrasounds until then so I gotta fill it up somehow 😂 I did want to take all of his dinos and make them into a 2. 🤔
I mentioned this idea awhile ago. Here's what we ended up sending to family.
On a side, but related note - Why in the world do people think it's any of their business if a baby was planned or a surprise? I feel like that's a pretty invasive question and one I'm not comfortable answering. Any tips on how to gracefully dodge that question?
@fatmonica whoa, no one has asked that beyond my doctor. WTH. This would be the time to come up with some crazy ass story to freak them out and then when their jaw drops tell them that's a very inappropriate question to ask.
"Well, we were talking about getting fixed and then just got so horny we decided to raw dog it. He tried to pull out, but I guess it didn't work!" I don't know 😂 maybe I'm a bit inappropriate myself. What exactly are people expecting when they ask that?
@fatmonica I agree that's a super inappropriate question... that my mom and sister have both already asked me. This baby was planned, but I feel like the question is wildly invasive.
Hey weird random question...I ordered two pregnancy announcements because I couldn’t decide. I picked the Halloween one but now I have this super cute one that I won’t be using. Does anyone want it? If so, just pm me and I’ll send it to you! No strings attached! Just seems like a waste not to use it.
Well, my pregnancy announcement was ruined for like 45 minutes.
There are some mornings that I get to my 6 year old DS school 30 mins before doors open, I usually take a nap because this pregnancy take so all my energy away lol. I told my DS that he can use my phone while we wait. He goes to school and I drive 30 mins to my job. I’m a bit early so I decide to open Instagram. I notice I have DMs so I look at it and they were ALL saying congrats. I was like what?!?! So, I guess my DS, idk how, posted a picture of the ultrasound I had on my phone. Thankfully, only 11 people saw it lol . My cute announcement almost got ruined Woosh
@fatmonica agreed, why do people ask that? It's incredibly invasive. It's no more appropriate than saying "so did you have sex on purpose to make a baby or did you have sex for fun and a baby was made in the process?" and yeah, none of your business! The next time someone asks (I've been asked a few times with DS because we only wanted to wait til 6 mo after we got married) I'm going to say "planned but just so you know, that's a really rude and invasive thing to ask someone". Too bad if it hurts your feelings, don't ask weird questions.
@DuchessOfCambridge We also waited 6 months. I found myself being oddly defensive sometimes. No one asked me (thankfully) but sometimes I could tell people wondered so I would work into conversation "when we started planning to get pregnant" or mention that I got my titer for the MMR or something like that. I wish I wasn't that way. You're response sounds perfect. @fatmonica please tell us how it goes if you use it!
Re: Pregnancy Announcements
My mom on the other hand has wanted me to get pregnant again since my son was born lol. So when I told her she screamed "YES" 😂 I'm an only child and I think she always regretted not having more. So she's excited I'm making different choices.
I had a different career before DS but had been toying with nursing for years. I'd take a prereq here and there and then forget about it again. When DS was born it lit a fire under me. I didn't like my job and it wasn't worth staying in a career I had no passion for. I started prereqs again while on maternity leave and then quit to stay home full time and take more prereqs faster. I also wish I'd done this before having a baby but I needed the baby to get the courage to do it.
Also, what an asshat of a teacher. Like, screw that lady. WTF.
@eatinwatermelonseeds and @sleepy33 I’m an only child also, and that’s another reason I wanted DS to have a sibling. It never bothered me as a child, but as I’ve grown up and gotten married, pregnant, dealt with a few really hard family times, it made me wish I had a sibling. I just hope DS will have a good close relationship with this baby. I know it’s not a guarantee they’ll be close, but he will at least have the option to have that bond.
Ok this is getting sad 😭
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
I ordered a precious Big Brother shirt for DS, and can’t wait to get it. 😍 Too bad getting him to take a decent picture will be nearly impossible, but at least he’ll look cute 💁🏼♀️
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
Sorry this picture is so big and ignore the watermark, but I had to share DS’ sweet big brother shirt with y’all! 😍 Eek! So excited to announce in a couple of weeks!
My Pokemon obsessed son (it was dinosaurs just a couple weeks ago, so hopefully it doesn't change again) holds out an open pokeball with pink or blue confetti and whatnot dressed up as Ash Ketchum. Caption reads "our newest Pokemon trainer is a......!!!"
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe
DD2: October 2016
DC3: coming May 2019
With my doctors visits and having to cancel my work trip this week (subchorionic hematoma), I figure my boss already knows but I'm in no rush to formally say anything until I'm further along - might wait until 16-20 weeks since I work from home most of the time and my boss is remote.
If they don't show up full size I will have to upload from my laptop later.
On a side, but related note - Why in the world do people think it's any of their business if a baby was planned or a surprise? I feel like that's a pretty invasive question and one I'm not comfortable answering. Any tips on how to gracefully dodge that question?
"Well, we were talking about getting fixed and then just got so horny we decided to raw dog it. He tried to pull out, but I guess it didn't work!" I don't know 😂 maybe I'm a bit inappropriate myself. What exactly are people expecting when they ask that?
ETA: it’s a digital file!
There are some mornings that I get to my 6 year old DS school 30 mins before doors open, I usually take a nap because this pregnancy take so all my energy away lol. I told my DS that he can use my phone while we wait. He goes to school and I drive 30 mins to my job. I’m a bit early so I decide to open Instagram. I notice I have DMs so I look at it and they were ALL saying congrats. I was like what?!?! So, I guess my DS, idk how, posted a picture of the ultrasound I had on my phone. Thankfully, only 11 people saw it lol . My cute announcement almost got ruined Woosh