@jarethinafrock that's super considerate of you. We did that last pregnancy with a good friend who was also DH's coworker. They'd been trying for a few years, so I sent her an email the day before DH told their boss (they were a team of 3). Everyone processes it differently, I'm sure, but I hope they take it okay and giving them the opportunity to have time beforehand and not in person should help a little.
@secicc12 that is so cute!!! And we'll all have bumps by Christmastime so that's perfect timing.
We have told our parents and siblings. I have also told a few coworkers at work because I have been peeing a lot and getting random bouts of nausea that could turn ugly! Otherwise, we will probably do a little pumpkin photo announcement with our dogs on Facebook after our 13 week appointment on November 2. My parents bought grandparents shirts to announce to their parents and siblings just before we do our FB announcement. But I’m a fairly tiny person (5’7” and 123 pounds) so I’m already starting to show a tiny bit. We’ll see how long I can hide it!
We're waiting until Thanksgiving week to tell my family, but we haven't decided when to tell his. My first appointment is 23 Oct, and with a history of loss, we both want to wait until we hear the heartbeat.
As far as a social media announcement, I'd love to get a snap of the ultrasound with my two cats and caption it "baby sister/brother on the way" or something like that.
I legit just scrolled through this thread searching if I'd posted yet or not bc I couldn't remember ha my brain is mush. After this weekend both sides of our immediate family will know (my side knows already but not doing anything spectacular just bringing it up in conversation). 3 people very close to me besides family know....one by accident and I'm concerned about her spilling the beans to others bc she can't keep a secret but she guessed it and I couldn't lie to her so 🤷♀️ ..... thinking about announcing to everyone else around mid November. We're getting family pics taken in a couple weeks (scheduled before we found out I was pregnant) so now I'm thinking I'd like to get a photo of DS placing his hand on my belly or something like that...maybe I'll make a little sign to bring...and we can use that photo as our announcement. I wanted DS to dress as a "big brother in training" for Halloween and thought we could announce on Halloween but DH thinks it's too soon even though I'll be 13 weeks (and no doubt showing) by then.
I'm not sure what we will do for an announcement. We are holding off telling our families until after we have the anatomy scan and all the genetic testing, so assuming that is in early December maybe we will tell them before Christmas. As far as social media, I'm not sure if I will post anything until after the birth.
We have two kids who were adopted, and we are in process of adopting again. Getting pregnant wasn’t exactly in our plan. So, we are going to take a picture of my kids holding a “Plot Twist” onesie. I’m not planning to announce until we absolutely have to, mostly because talking about being pregnant might be the only thing worse than talking about the Adoption wait.
Late October/November sounds like when most of us would be announcing. I love these pumpkin themed announcements I found on Pinterest for social media announcements.
@bashmama18 i have a lot of respect for those who adopt. It kinda relates to what i was saying to @iwishiwaspreggo about going through IVF. It blows my mind how difficult it is to adopt a child. I get that they have to and they should do proper background checks. But I've heard of people waiting years for their child and paying thousands of dollars to adopt.
We’re actually getting family pictures done on 10/7, and have an ultrasound on 10/3. If all goes well and we get a decent picture, I may just have the photographer take a picture of our daughter holding the ultrasound pic. Then I will probably put it on Facebook after the first trimester is over.
I announced to my parents last night I had to do it over the phone, which wasn't as fun, but I knew they're going to their best friends' kid's wedding this weekend and my mom would want to gloat. They were just happy to know at all. It's hard to keep it under wraps when people close to you know you're doing IVF!
We’ve told all family and close friends that we felt needed to know. I think we’ll be announcing on social media after the birth. We’re team green too so it’ll just be one massive exciting announcement.
We’ve told all family and close friends that we felt needed to know. I think we’ll be announcing on social media after the birth. We’re team green too so it’ll just be one massive exciting announcement.
We’ve told all family and close friends that we felt needed to know. I think we’ll be announcing on social media after the birth. We’re team green too so it’ll just be one massive exciting announcement.
I saw this really cute idea for an avocado halloween costume where you wear a brown shirt and have a cutout of the avocado shape so that your bump sticks out. I literally think it would already be cute with my STM blump (just a smaller pit) but I'll only be 11 weeks the weekend that stuff is happening so probably going no costume for me (DD will be a pineapple).
We haven't told anyone yet, and I'm nervous to. I think I want to keep this secret for a little while because it felt like so many people knew our business once we started with IVF. Before that, I felt crappy that I wanted a kid so badly, and I felt like our families were wondering what we were waiting for. I want this happy news to be ours, and then maybe we'll tell them all at once at DH's birthday party over a week into November Luckily, not many symptoms so far, so we may be able to keep it under wraps until then.
Eh, when you consider what people pay to have a new car...it’s all perspective. I’ll gladly pay for lawyers and plane tickets and social workers. Our kids were older and considered “waiting kids,” so our timeline wasn’t that bad. Now pregnancy...waaaay harder for me, lol. It’s kind of crazy to think that our #3 and #4 could come so close together though!
@jarethinafrock That is really considerate of you to think of your sisters. I struggled with infertility for years and my sister in law had three kids during our troubles and each one was hard. We tried not to be upset, but it was so hard not to be. They will need time to process and it is best to not spring it on them. My sister in law made one of her announcements on my birthday and another on my husband’s birthday. Talk about being tone deaf...
Told my in-laws last night. My MIL has been talking about grandbabies since hubs was 20. She's been skipping through the house all morning.
I'm fortunate because as excited as she is she is also a doctor, so she knows that at only 7 weeks and with my particular risks with these twins things can go wrong.
Since she's a doc and I'm in nursing school I handed her the ultrasound and asked her to look at it for me. It took awhile but she eventually got it. Then I made her look at the twins and she really lost it.
We recorded the video and I learned I have the world's most annoying laugh. I thanked my husband for marrying me with a laugh like that.
@kbeers13 that is too cute with the half pint idea and playing off your last name. ❤️
We have a shirt coming in the mail for DS. We’ve always been nature-themed with most of the things we do with him so this will be no different. We’ll have family photos taken by DS’s daycare provider (she’s done all of our photos for years and is one of my closest friends) and I can’t wait for DS to take off his little plaid shirt and show it off to her. She’s going to die! She loves babies and will likely be our birth photographer too.
DH and I have already told both of our parents. Mine live in town and they would’ve figured it out quickly and DH’s are visiting and keeping this from them would be next to impossible. We will announce to everyone else who’s important through email, postcards, or calling by Halloween with the photos from our shoot. Everyone else will find out on FB with photos from that as well once important people have been informed first.
I have a baker’s costume I’m wearing for Halloween with another t-shirt with a baby peeking out of the belly. (I’ll have a little cardboard oven door covering it that I can open.) That’s how I’ll announce to the kids at school. We have an 8th grade fashion show each year, so I’ll walk the catwalk with a “bun in the oven”. They’re in 8th grade...so they *might* get it. 😉
We actually announced this week I was anxious to get as many prayers and as much positive energy going as possible! I have been very open about sharing our losses on social media, so I figured since I would share if we have another loss...why not share the pregnancy and celebrate the life? I will admit it has made me more nervous for our next ultrasound, but look at that perfect little 9 week babe! Very excited that it has started to look like an actual baby, haha. I just posted this selfie of us and wrote quite a bit about what this means to us after three long years of trying!
Married for 5 years, TTC for 3 years
PCOS, Low AMH, Endo, Uterine Fibroids, Low Estrogen... and a Partridge in a Pear Tree. 3 Losses, 8/16 11/16 and 6/2017
@kvh22 Thats so cute! I wish I could do that! But at this rate I may be big enough to by then.
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
I'm really bad at keeping secrets, so all my close friends, my family, and random strangers already know 😂 but I plan on announcing on Instagram after we find out the sex (around Thanksgiving). I created a new Instagram, privatized it, and have been adding little updates diary style. After we find out the sex, we're going to have pictures done, and I'll post the pictures on the account and then share the page on my current account (which is just a diet account right now). Instagram is already trying to give me away, though, they sent out something to all my friends telling them I got a new Instagram 😂 but I'm just not accepting any requests until I'm ready to announce.
@eatinwatermelonseeds Don't you just love IG trying to rat you out. I made a private album on fb to post pregnancy stuff to. I'm not ready to tell my out of state family so I'm just documenting stuff on the album. But I like triple tested to make sure it was really private before posting anything lol
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
We haven’t announced yet since we only just found out on Friday about this pregnancy (which is our third and very unexpected) but I’m thinking we’ll do a pumpkin type announcement for social media and then for telling our families I’m thinking one of these two shirt options. I’m leaning towards getting the kids shirts but I can’t decide.
@sketner610 I definitely like the kids shirts! More subtle, which makes it more fun if you don’t have both kiddos right next to each other. :-)
@psychobutthead@eatinwatermelonseeds I made a family on Tinybeans. The only people who can see it are people you invite via email, which is really nice! That’s where I’ve been posting all of my bump photos, updates from appointments, and little fun facts that The Bump shares with me. Right now, I have only shared it with our parents and siblings but it’s essentially like Instagram but you can also add written memories, not just pictures. I have also created multiple private Pintrest boards with ideas for pregnancy announcements, nursery ideas, and just info about being pregnant that I will be public once we share. It’s hard keeping this secret in! I might cave and share after next weekend as my DHs brother gets married next Saturday and I don’t want to make their day about me.
@mrskoz428 I ♥️ Tiny Beans! We've kept #1 almost entirely off of Facebook, so use Tiny Beans to update family across the country. I'm on there multiple times a day, pictures and videos. It's perfect for tech-illiterate grandparents too.
@wishiwaspreggo same with the IVF! My mom was rubbing my belly this weekend and asking. I lied to her! We already had a MC last year and I feel very guarded about this LO. Telling people you’re doing IVF doesn’t mean they get an early update!! I’ll still tell you when I feel like telling you! :-P
@rozpre - We've mostly been telling the people who know we did IVF, but we waited until we knew the beta was strong and at least doubling (turns out it's been tripling). We'll tell our extended families about the pregnancy after the first ultrasound (Friday, WOO!). I have a cousin who did IVF and is pregnant with twins and I really wanna tell her but I KNOW she'll tell her mom (my aunt) who will tell my grandparents, uncle, and other cousin and I wanted it to be more fun so I'm keeping quiet for now. My grandparents are going to freak out if I have twins, too. Two sets of twins in a year would be wild, especially since my son was the only great-grandchild for a long time. I'm elated, though. Holidays will be more fun with more kids.
I actually don't really like the skirt, but I want DD2 to open it on her birthday, which is SATURDAY, so I needed it by Friday and because I am perpetually late with these things, I didn't have many options for amazon's 2 day shipping. Anyway, I'm going to take pictures of her while she opens it, and then a picture of her wearing it. We'll send her to daycare in it to let everyone there know.
I was debating maybe not doing the whole facebook announcement this time around, but I do find it kind of awkward telling people in person. So, a mass announcement does feel easier. We probably won't actually post it until the 20th when I'll actually be 12 weeks, but I do want to start getting the news out there after my first appointment tomorrow. Particularly work. I'm sick of pretending that I don't feel sick.
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe DD2: October 2016 DC3: coming May 2019
I was sitting in a meeting yesterday with my team, manager, and director when asthma started acting up (nothing terrible, just SOB). My manager asked if i was ok and i told her it was just asthma but she kept looking at me throughout the meeting and smiling. Well fcuk. After my team left the room i had to tell her and the director. Manager was really happy for me and she said she could tell because my face is round (thanks but that's actually the steroids lol). My director's reaction, however, was "ugh you suck." I like my director, she's cool, honest, and transparent. But wtf? She's upset because that means I'll be taking maternity leave soon. I don't get it, our company is 80% women. Did you really think I was going to not want my daughter to have a sibling?
@expandcontract I always feel like that's the secret reaction to these kinds of announcements, especially here in Canada where we get - and most women take - the full year. It was actually really nice not being employed when I was pregnant with DD2 because I didn't need to worry about telling a boss and feeling like I'm letting them down by leaving for a year.
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe DD2: October 2016 DC3: coming May 2019
I have zero chill and my family and friends already know. And I told my 4 year old daughter, so now everyone at her school knows. My work still doesn’t know and we all know it’s not official until you put it on social media, so I’m thinking I’ll do one of those rib cage shirts with the tiny skeleton baby on Halloween to alert the 6 people in the world who don’t know yet.
@elliebo I seriously could have written that 😂 I'm not currently employed though. I set up a secret Instagram to surprise the 6 people who don't know yet once we find out the sex 😂
Re: Pregnancy Announcements
@secicc12 that is so cute!!! And we'll all have bumps by Christmastime so that's perfect timing.
As far as a social media announcement, I'd love to get a snap of the ultrasound with my two cats and caption it "baby sister/brother on the way" or something like that.
After this weekend both sides of our immediate family will know (my side knows already but not doing anything spectacular just bringing it up in conversation). 3 people very close to me besides family know....one by accident and I'm concerned about her spilling the beans to others bc she can't keep a secret but she guessed it and I couldn't lie to her so 🤷♀️ ..... thinking about announcing to everyone else around mid November. We're getting family pics taken in a couple weeks (scheduled before we found out I was pregnant) so now I'm thinking I'd like to get a photo of DS placing his hand on my belly or something like that...maybe I'll make a little sign to bring...and we can use that photo as our announcement.
I wanted DS to dress as a "big brother in training" for Halloween and thought we could announce on Halloween but DH thinks it's too soon even though I'll be 13 weeks (and no doubt showing) by then.
I'm not sure what we will do for an announcement. We are holding off telling our families until after we have the anatomy scan and all the genetic testing, so assuming that is in early December maybe we will tell them before Christmas. As far as social media, I'm not sure if I will post anything until after the birth.
Married: 8/10/13
BFP- 12/18/15, D&E- 4/8/16 @ 21w5d- confirmed Thanatophoric Dysplasia
BFP- 11/7/17, M/C- 11/18/17 @ 4w6d
BFP- 8/25/18 ~ EDD- 5/9/19 ~ DD born 5/2/20 *Lillian Hazel*
BFP- 10/9/20 ~ EDD- 6/21/21
Pic from pinterest in spoiler.
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I'm fortunate because as excited as she is she is also a doctor, so she knows that at only 7 weeks and with my particular risks with these twins things can go wrong.
Since she's a doc and I'm in nursing school I handed her the ultrasound and asked her to look at it for me. It took awhile but she eventually got it. Then I made her look at the twins and she really lost it.
We recorded the video and I learned I have the world's most annoying laugh. I thanked my husband for marrying me with a laugh like that.
My my dad has his birthday the day after our first ultrasound, so I will wrap up a picture for him and that will be our surprise for that family.
Our announcement on on social media was pretty funny, so hubby is working on that idea 😂🙃.
We have a shirt coming in the mail for DS. We’ve always been nature-themed with most of the things we do with him so this will be no different.
We’ll have family photos taken by DS’s daycare provider (she’s done all of our photos for years and is one of my closest friends) and I can’t wait for DS to take off his little plaid shirt and show it off to her. She’s going to die! She loves babies and will likely be our birth photographer too.
DH and I have already told both of our parents. Mine live in town and they would’ve figured it out quickly and DH’s are visiting and keeping this from them would be next to impossible. We will announce to everyone else who’s important through email, postcards, or calling by Halloween with the photos from our shoot. Everyone else will find out on FB with photos from that as well once important people have been informed first.
I have a baker’s costume I’m wearing for Halloween with another t-shirt with a baby peeking out of the belly. (I’ll have a little cardboard oven door covering it that I can open.) That’s how I’ll announce to the kids at school. We have an 8th grade fashion show each year, so I’ll walk the catwalk with a “bun in the oven”. They’re in 8th grade...so they *might* get it. 😉
and a Partridge in a Pear Tree.
3 Losses, 8/16 11/16 and 6/2017
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
@psychobutthead @eatinwatermelonseeds I made a family on Tinybeans. The only people who can see it are people you invite via email, which is really nice! That’s where I’ve been posting all of my bump photos, updates from appointments, and little fun facts that The Bump shares with me. Right now, I have only shared it with our parents and siblings but it’s essentially like Instagram but you can also add written memories, not just pictures. I have also created multiple private Pintrest boards with ideas for pregnancy announcements, nursery ideas, and just info about being pregnant that I will be public once we share. It’s hard keeping this secret in! I might cave and share after next weekend as my DHs brother gets married next Saturday and I don’t want to make their day about me.
I actually don't really like the skirt, but I want DD2 to open it on her birthday, which is SATURDAY, so I needed it by Friday and because I am perpetually late with these things, I didn't have many options for amazon's 2 day shipping. Anyway, I'm going to take pictures of her while she opens it, and then a picture of her wearing it. We'll send her to daycare in it to let everyone there know.
I was debating maybe not doing the whole facebook announcement this time around, but I do find it kind of awkward telling people in person. So, a mass announcement does feel easier. We probably won't actually post it until the 20th when I'll actually be 12 weeks, but I do want to start getting the news out there after my first appointment tomorrow. Particularly work. I'm sick of pretending that I don't feel sick.
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe
DD2: October 2016
DC3: coming May 2019
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe
DD2: October 2016
DC3: coming May 2019