I have no idea how or when this LO was conceived...I had a loss in March and so i was just living my life had no idea when I was ovulating etc. we had decided to wait until after the summer to try again but well here we are lol I also thought I conceived in May but turns out it was April! I must’ve had implantation bleeding but I totally thought it was a period because it was like a week long!
Thankfully we dont travel for for the holidays...all the fam is from Brooklyn and live within like 15 minutes or less of where we live haha but pregnancy is a great reason to not travel during holidays!!
See we’re in Kentucky and would be traveling to North Carolina and Maryland. It’s always a clusterfuck. We’ve stood firm that Christmas morning is always at home (since DS was born) and that doesn’t cause any drama. But we’re always open to anyone visiting whenever.
Glad I don’t sound too crazy lol. I felt my heart rate shooting up as I was typing that whole post
Since youngest DS started kindergarten last week today is the first day in 9 years that I don't have to pick someone up at a daycare on my way home from work. I can take the shorter way home which just happens to go by dairy queen. And I really want one of those new reese's outrageous blizzards...
Sorry for being MIA. It was my DD's 3rd Birthday Monday so we had a party Sunday and had a busy day at home on Monday. Today was her first full day of preschool. She starts going 2 days a week this year. She did fantastic! I cried.
@nursemom913- oops I know nothing about the double version, sorry!
on the conception story in three words, mine would be "woke me up" BAHAHAHA
We have tickets to fly to my family for Xmas and also got travel insurance in case of some prego events preventing it last minute. I totally get not wanting to go at all but last year we did Xmas with my SO's family who of course in my view does it all wrong, so I want to take advantage of "my turn." And back home also means seeing my three besties who I rarely see and figure I will see even less after I have a second kid! I may be regretting this decision come December...
We don't travel for the holidays. DH's parents don't celebrate Christmas or any similar holiday and we only in recent years started doing something small with his siblings. My family lives close to us so we always get together with them.
I hate attention on me so I am not particularly looking forward to being massive and pregnant at Christmas. Also I'm sure I'll be fielding all the terrible comments about how large I look..blah blah blah.
This squirrel has been taunting my kitty for like 15 minutes now. I’d break it up but it’s too funny to watch (don’t worry, cat’s not even close to actually catching the squirrel. Something the squirrel knows very well).
DS born 2/18/2019 DD born 4/1/2023 Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
@conchispitita- my OB basically said the same thing, that we should only go somewhere we'd be ok being for weeks if we had the baby... hope it doesn't happen that I get stuck in Seattle with my family, haha!
@jessier19 this is my favorite thing I’ve read today. Love that you were getting that baby one way or another. And how cool that it worked out.
@BourbonBiscuits that family double standard biznez blows my mind. They expect the pregnant woman to travel and spend cash before holidays AND baby? Glad you have a solid excuse.
@eggsandwich2019 17hrs is insane, pregnant or not. I would never visit anyone if it meant 17hrs in the car. Bless you.
I actually would really like to travel home to the midwest for Xmas but will be 33 wks by then and makes me a little apprehensive. My docs rule is 32w for flying. LY was my family’s year and TY should be my husbands but as they’re overseas I think I can get away with requiring domestic travel only. But would need to buy tickets before they get crazy(er) expensive.
@grebretso haha! I feel like squirrels are the evel knievels of the animal world. Especially the way they run out half way into the road then decide to stop and run back right in front of cars!
I'm going to go off on a tangent here. For whatever reason, Sunday ticker change thread doesn't happen. I need to rant and I've got nowhere else.
I was home this evening while the rest of the family was at my 16 yr old's baseball game. My 5 yr old announced to the whole ballfield, including my in-laws, that we are expecting.
We weren't keeping it a secret (hello, told a 5 year old), but we weren't ''announcing." Needless to say, they we're less than thrilled. Most of the time I adore my MIL. She really is a gem. However, she has been 'disappointed' every time we are expecting. It hurts.
“My darling girl, when are you going to realize that being normal is not necessarily a virtue? It rather denotes a lack of courage." - Aunt Frances”
It's my view, but not my yard! We only have a small patio area, and then the park begins with a pretty deep ravine. You can kind of see how steep it is there, there's a drop off which is even steeper!
I'm really pleased with out view though, especially since we're in the basement/ground floor. Most lower level apartments around here are like fish bowls, but no one can see in to our place. Unless they're walking in the ravine, which is a terrible idea.
DS born 2/18/2019 DD born 4/1/2023 Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
@episcowitch I'm sorry you're goin through that. Sounds similar to what my parents experienced too. I have three siblings, and everyone were super excited about me being born (I'm the oldest), but the excitement wore off with each new baby. By the time mom was pregnant with my youngest brother, she got indifference at best, and nobody came to visit her and the baby in the hospital even though almost everyone in the family lived close by. It sucks how people treat parents with several children. Your new baby is just as important as the ones you already have!
DS born 2/18/2019 DD born 4/1/2023 Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
@episcowitch, totally odd, what's there to be disappointed about? Wth! Maybe shes envious or something...
On a separate note, @lzzfrancisco and I are Sunday tickers and decided starting this Sunday I would make the ticker happen for us so we have one, since it hasn't been happening.. unless you'd like to start the threads, Im more than willing to give it to someone else, Lol?
Thanks for the support ladies, my in-laws have always been weird about us having kids. My first was born when I was barely 20. We we're so young and so poor. I get why they were less than thrilled.
They always warm up to the kids, but they just are never pleased to find out. I'm 39(tomorrow). I have a good job in the nonprofit sector (not lucrative, but I'm happy and can pay bills). H stays home and does the domestic stuff. We've always been the black sheep even though we stuck around H's hometown and do things like mow their yard, etc.
It helps to vent a little.
“My darling girl, when are you going to realize that being normal is not necessarily a virtue? It rather denotes a lack of courage." - Aunt Frances”
My parents took my daughter for the night and my husband just told me his romantic plans for the evening. “I hope you know we’re watching Dragonball Z for the rest of the night.”
@episcowitch this is usually my ILs - this time she’s been way into it because I think she’s disappointed we are having a third and she’s super overcompensating. MIL told us not to have kids before we got married. She’s crazy.
@episcowitch I'm sorry you've got to deal with that. If you decide to have a child, and you make it work with finances and such, it's no one else's business and they shouldn't have a say.
@kayjay44- that's cool to know that you and @grebretso are Seattleites! I grew up in the burbs there but have not lived there myself in 20+ years. My SO actually wants us to move back there, partly to have family around once we have two kids but also because he wants mountains in his life and we live in Chicago, but I think having my mother and sister here for 5 days this weekend may have cured that desire!
@episcowitch- that must feel awful to not get excitement from them! What a bummer! Very unfair.
My family and my SO's definitely are supportive and we are lucky for that but definitely there isn't the excitement the first time around. Maybe if we weren't having another boy!
I feel like I’ve missed so much these past few days. My oldest started 1st grade so we were pretty busy getting that party started. Now it’s just me and my soon to be middle kid (3.5 y/o a-hole, I mean love bug) home during the day. He’s like a lost puppy without her during the day which is adorable and sad.
Little rant: I've been reading up a lot on 'natural' births this past week. I really want to have one and in my ideal scenario it would be at home with a midwife. You know what's really fucking unhelpful? Framing these things as a matter of choice! I can't chose to have a midwife assisted birth. I can't chose to give birth somewhere other than in a hospital. I wish it were otherwise but that's just not offered around here so it would be really helpful if you could tell me how I can make the most of my hospital birth, not tell me how I'm already being set up for failure. End rant.
I've been a bit MIA. Crazy work, our offer got accepted on a house (yay, but farther than I wanted) we are technically closing on our sale in like 10days and can't be in the new place til Ocy 4th. So packing and figuring out where we are going while staying in daycare. Oh and I have a last minute work trip 11-12 so it's been hectic. Glad were moving and can host everyone for Thanksgiving since our place was tight. But that means I have like 3wks to move in and be Thanksgiving ready. And I can't give it up or DHs aunt will take it back and that is a hard no!! My favorite holiday-i finally stole hosting 3yrs ago!
TW: 1 infant loss 8/17: Our daughter was born 8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass 2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old 4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
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Thankfully we dont travel for for the holidays...all the fam is from Brooklyn and live within like 15 minutes or less of where we live haha but pregnancy is a great reason to not travel during holidays!!
Glad I don’t sound too crazy lol. I felt my heart rate shooting up as I was typing that whole post
#emotions
on the conception story in three words, mine would be "woke me up" BAHAHAHA
We have tickets to fly to my family for Xmas and also got travel insurance in case of some prego events preventing it last minute. I totally get not wanting to go at all but last year we did Xmas with my SO's family who of course in my view does it all wrong, so I want to take advantage of "my turn." And back home also means seeing my three besties who I rarely see and figure I will see even less after I have a second kid! I may be regretting this decision come December...
DH was super bummed not to go home for Christmas (we drive down to SC Christmas Day) but we are spending a week for Thanksgiving instead.
I hate attention on me so I am not particularly looking forward to being massive and pregnant at Christmas. Also I'm sure I'll be fielding all the terrible comments about how large I look..blah blah blah.
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
@BourbonBiscuits that family double standard biznez blows my mind. They expect the pregnant woman to travel and spend cash before holidays AND baby? Glad you have a solid excuse.
@eggsandwich2019 17hrs is insane, pregnant or not. I would never visit anyone if it meant 17hrs in the car. Bless you.
@danixbanani24 are you in bk or Manhattan?
I actually would really like to travel home to the midwest for Xmas but will be 33 wks by then and makes me a little apprehensive. My docs rule is 32w for flying. LY was my family’s year and TY should be my husbands but as they’re overseas I think I can get away with requiring domestic travel only. But would need to buy tickets before they get crazy(er) expensive.
Also is that your back yard?? It’s beautiful!
I was home this evening while the rest of the family was at my 16 yr old's baseball game. My 5 yr old announced to the whole ballfield, including my in-laws, that we are expecting.
We weren't keeping it a secret (hello, told a 5 year old), but we weren't ''announcing."
Needless to say, they we're less than thrilled. Most of the time I adore my MIL. She really is a gem. However, she has been 'disappointed' every time we are expecting. It hurts.
I'm really pleased with out view though, especially since we're in the basement/ground floor. Most lower level apartments around here are like fish bowls, but no one can see in to our place. Unless they're walking in the ravine, which is a terrible idea.
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
People suck sometimes.
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
They always warm up to the kids, but they just are never pleased to find out. I'm 39(tomorrow). I have a good job in the nonprofit sector (not lucrative, but I'm happy and can pay bills). H stays home and does the domestic stuff. We've always been the black sheep even though we stuck around H's hometown and do things like mow their yard, etc.
It helps to vent a little.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
@episcowitch- that must feel awful to not get excitement from them! What a bummer! Very unfair.
My family and my SO's definitely are supportive and we are lucky for that but definitely there isn't the excitement the first time around. Maybe if we weren't having another boy!
But then I remember I have no time or money or social life and wouldn't be going to 99% of them anyway if I wasn't pregnant
MMC 2.12.11 @ 8w
PVM 5.8.12
GWM 3.17.15
RPM 2.21.19
MMC 2.12.11 @ 8w
PVM 5.8.12
GWM 3.17.15
RPM 2.21.19
End rant.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
1 infant loss
8/17: Our daughter was born
8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass
2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old
4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!