@casperthefriendlybeeb cool, I will start with ep 3! It's good to hear I'm not the only one intimidated by some of the titles, like I want to be informed and prepared but I don't want to be unnecessarily frightened
@hannahbananas11 I would love a DIY thread! I love craft projects and stuff.
Just looking for some good vibes sent my way today. Got test results back from a colposcopy, and I have CIN 3 cervical dysplasia, not quite cervical cancer, but if I weren't KU they would treat it as such. Getting referred to a gynecological oncologist to monitor it. Heard heartbeat on doppler again and all sounds good, so baby is fine, just having to deal with a stressed-out, over-analytical momma who goes from "We got this" to full blown ugly crying every half hour, haha! And my doc wouldn't even take pity and do my AS a couple weeks early so at least I would have something positive to leave with, lol. So, anatomy scan now scheduled for the 18th, and I am gonna focus on that as much as possible!
@hollyvenelle good vibes! That's a lot to deal with on top of being pregnant.
@eggsandwich2019 the last episode I listened to was a tad scary (by my standards) and it honestly didn't freak me out. It actually gave me a lot of confidence as in 'wow they can really handle all sorts of stuff!'. I hope you enjoy it!
@hollyvenelle that is so stressful! I am sorry you're going through this. I hope the doctors will be able to sort you out and find ways to put your mind at ease. Sending good vibes your way.
@hollyvenelle I'm so sorry that you've had this stress added to your life! It's really good that they found it in such an early stage so that they can treat it quickly after delivery. It sounds like you're keeping your head up as best as you can, and I hope that the AS in a few weeks helps lift your spirits, too! Coming from the wife of an oncologist who has heard a lot about cervical cancer: You've most certainly got this!
@hollyvenelle I'm so sorry to hear that. I know that must feel really terrifying.
A few things I'd recommend trying to remember, just based on my own experience. First of all, dysplasia is not cancer. You might hear it described as pre-cancerous, but that's actually not quite right either, insofar as they really don't know which dysplasias will turn into cancer and which won't. A more accurate description would be that dysplasia puts you at higher risk of getting cancer in the future. That's terrifying too, I know, but it's still better than where your mind might go if left to its own devices. Also keep in mind that cancers are all different from each other, and carry with them very different treatments and very very different risks. It's not one big thing, its a thousand different kinds of diseases. Your case isn't the same as everyone else's case. You are not a statistic, you are you.
In my early 20s I got diagnosed with a rare form of thyroid cancer. The prognosis was actually much better than what most people assumed when they heard "cancer." The cure rate for what I had was around 95%. I still had to go through surgery and radiation, which was absolutely terrifying, but in the end everything was ok. That was 11 years ago, and I've been cancer-free for 10 years now.
Give yourself time to be terrified. Give yourself time to feel all the feelings. Whatever your reaction to this is, your feelings are valid.
When and if you're up for it, I recommend finding second (and third!) opinions. Talk to different doctors. Talk to multiple specialists. I've personally found doctors with academic affiliations to be particularly helpful for oncology advice, because they are more likely to be in touch with the latest research (much of which is increasingly moving away from grouping dysplasia with cancer at all).
I hope this isn't too much information. I don't mean to barrage you with random advice from some stranger on the internet. Whatever choice you make regarding how to move forward from here, that choice is valid. You do you. Mostly, I just want you to know that there are other people on this board who've been through related things, and that you will get through this. One way or another, it's gonna be ok.
@hollyvenelle I’ve been through something similar years ago and it ended up resolving on its’ own. I know the waiting can be very scary and nerve wracking though and I’m sending good vibes your way that this all ends up ok quickly!
@hannahbananas11 I knit, crochet, cross stich, and hand embroidery.
I also can do bead work and wire wrapping, but don't really have time. The others are more moble so they go in the car and can be worked during down time.
“My darling girl, when are you going to realize that being normal is not necessarily a virtue? It rather denotes a lack of courage." - Aunt Frances”
I used to craft. I've been knitting since I was 4. I'll probably do some knitting for this LO, but I have no idea when. All the decals and iron ons I did for Disney was my crafting for the month.
FYI- If anyone is interested in a SNOO (I think I remember someone else mentioning one of the threads)- I received a 40% off one time use promo code by doing the following: go to their site and put one in your cart with your email listed to get on their mailing list. Leave it in your cart and close the browser. I received some follow up emails about completing my purchase for about two weeks, then they sent a 40% off promo code. Totally worth it if you’re interested because they’re insanely expensive. You can set up the delivery date close to your due date for the 30 day money back return if it doesn’t work for you/LO.
@sjnsjnsjn I'm working on keeping stress down but there is a lot going on family wise outside everything that is not helping. My Dr says shes amazed my BP is so low. So I guess I'm just really good at internalizing stress?
TW: 1 infant loss 8/17: Our daughter was born 8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass 2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old 4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
@becks_726 Super late to everything. I had a natural birth in a hospital and I found for me Ina May’s book helped me do it. Some of the stories about the women focused and reciting mantras in their head resonated with me and it helped me with my own rhythm. One of the doctors that came to check on me said she had never seen anyone so focused in their labor and breathing and was impressed I went natural.
Joanne just came on my Spotify too which is a beautiful song lady Gaga wrote for her aunt that passed away (my aunt passed last week) and welp I’m just a mess now.
@becks_726 I specifically switched to a midwife-run birth center when I was pregnant with DD so I could do a 'natural' med free water birth. Well, my water broke with her and as soon as I got to the birth center and they put me on the monitor, they pretty much shipped me to the hospital anyway (DD was having decels) where I ended up being induced and couldn't even do any of the labor pain management techniques since I was strapped to a monitor the entire time and unable to move my body. Then I ended up having a C-section anyway.
This time around, the birth center doesn't do VBACs (and they obviously don't do C-sections) so they forced me to transfer to a practice that delivers at a hospital. So I will be having a hospital birth once again. Color me frustrated.
I hear you. I'm sorry you don't even get to have the 'fantasy' of a 'natural' birth the way I did until my water broke.
I know I'm late to the party here but that's usually the SOML as i sleep most days and work most nights, and that's when I get to catch up (if I get to catch up). Thanks for your patience y'all.
@notthecheat we’ll take you any way (or time) we can get you!
The nosebleeds started this morning. I’ve been waking up with a massive runny nose for the past few weeks. This morning it was just straight blood all over my pillow. Super yummy way to wake up.
We did so much training and planning for a labor at home and then going to the hospital as late as possible (we took a class at the hospital that included a lot of labor pain management, a private lesson for us two on the same with my PT, read the birth partner, etc), and then I had to be induced after all that because I was a week late and AMA, so none of that was necessary, and I ended up in the bed for 24 hours with all the pit and epi etc. Oh well. This time I am getting induced a week early because I of course am even more AMA, so I will never get to use all those Labor at home techniques. C'est la vie
@becks_726- My OB said there's some new guidance (don't ask me the source!) specifically for 40+ Pregos (I am 42) about inducing a week early because the placenta often craps out (not the technical term ).
She thinks that maybe placental insufficiency at the end is what happened with my first, because I was induced a week late but he was about 1.5 lbs smaller than he should have been based on the 36 week measuring scan. (He was diagnosed "low weight for gestational age" and also had an issue maintaining his glucose and had to be in the NICU a few days until he could get it together! He's all good and a giant now.)
@grebretso Oh yeah. We haven’t even gotten the $3,200 bill for DS’s procedure over the summer yet. I’m dreading it. Medical bills are going to kill us.
Why, why don’t people read instructions??! It’s right at the top! READ THIS FIRST! Then, ultrasound thread! I mean how plain can it be people??! Sorry I have just had it with these drive bys AW SS whatever you want to call them posts!
@allthingsgo I just don’t get it. Like, I understand being excited about being pregnant, I am too! We all are! But why do you want to share it with a bunch of strangers you know nothing about, who knows nothing about you? Don’t you want to stick around first and make friends before sharing intimate details about yourself? What do you gain from sharing stuff about yourself in some strange corner of the Internet you’re not familiar with?
What perplexes me the most is that they never come back. Some might say it’s because we’re so mean and have scared them off, but there have been one-off posts by randoms where people have been super nice and given great advice, and OP still never replies. I guess that’s why they’re called drive-by’s. Wtf.
DS born 2/18/2019 DD born 4/1/2023 Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
@grebretso exactly! I can’t imagine how someone would just want to randomly post in a random spot with a bunch of strangers and then just disappear. Especially pictures of your baby! It makes no sense! I mean would you walk into a building and stick a picture of your baby on a wall and then leave? No! But way more people have the possibility of seeing it on the internet and people just treat it like it’s NBD to post it.
Also what even leads them here? Googling ‘where can I post my uterus pic?’ Smh. I guess we will never understand.
It's like that freshman who signs up to join every single club during the "opportunities fair" or whatever in order to get the praise and the swag, but then doesn't show up to a single actual meeting and no one ever sees them again. Flaky snowflakes.
Re: Weekly randoms 9/3 - 9/9
@hannahbananas11 I would love a DIY thread! I love craft projects and stuff.
Just looking for some good vibes sent my way today. Got test results back from a colposcopy, and I have CIN 3 cervical dysplasia, not quite cervical cancer, but if I weren't KU they would treat it as such. Getting referred to a gynecological oncologist to monitor it. Heard heartbeat on doppler again and all sounds good, so baby is fine, just having to deal with a stressed-out, over-analytical momma who goes from "We got this" to full blown ugly crying every half hour, haha! And my doc wouldn't even take pity and do my AS a couple weeks early so at least I would have something positive to leave with, lol. So, anatomy scan now scheduled for the 18th, and I am gonna focus on that as much as possible!
@eggsandwich2019 the last episode I listened to was a tad scary (by my standards) and it honestly didn't freak me out. It actually gave me a lot of confidence as in 'wow they can really handle all sorts of stuff!'. I hope you enjoy it!
A few things I'd recommend trying to remember, just based on my own experience. First of all, dysplasia is not cancer. You might hear it described as pre-cancerous, but that's actually not quite right either, insofar as they really don't know which dysplasias will turn into cancer and which won't. A more accurate description would be that dysplasia puts you at higher risk of getting cancer in the future. That's terrifying too, I know, but it's still better than where your mind might go if left to its own devices. Also keep in mind that cancers are all different from each other, and carry with them very different treatments and very very different risks. It's not one big thing, its a thousand different kinds of diseases. Your case isn't the same as everyone else's case. You are not a statistic, you are you.
In my early 20s I got diagnosed with a rare form of thyroid cancer. The prognosis was actually much better than what most people assumed when they heard "cancer." The cure rate for what I had was around 95%. I still had to go through surgery and radiation, which was absolutely terrifying, but in the end everything was ok. That was 11 years ago, and I've been cancer-free for 10 years now.
Give yourself time to be terrified. Give yourself time to feel all the feelings. Whatever your reaction to this is, your feelings are valid.
When and if you're up for it, I recommend finding second (and third!) opinions. Talk to different doctors. Talk to multiple specialists. I've personally found doctors with academic affiliations to be particularly helpful for oncology advice, because they are more likely to be in touch with the latest research (much of which is increasingly moving away from grouping dysplasia with cancer at all).
I hope this isn't too much information. I don't mean to barrage you with random advice from some stranger on the internet. Whatever choice you make regarding how to move forward from here, that choice is valid. You do you. Mostly, I just want you to know that there are other people on this board who've been through related things, and that you will get through this. One way or another, it's gonna be ok.
I also can do bead work and wire wrapping, but don't really have time. The others are more moble so they go in the car and can be worked during down time.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
1 infant loss
8/17: Our daughter was born
8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass
2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old
4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
hospital birth, crafts YES, @hollyvenelle many good vibes being sent your way.
today was a balls day at work and I’m not home yet. Fuck people and team building events is all I’ll say lol
@ssag do you work in manhattan too??
Joanne just came on my Spotify too which is a beautiful song lady Gaga wrote for her aunt that passed away (my aunt passed last week) and welp I’m just a mess now.
This time around, the birth center doesn't do VBACs (and they obviously don't do C-sections) so they forced me to transfer to a practice that delivers at a hospital. So I will be having a hospital birth once again. Color me frustrated.
I hear you. I'm sorry you don't even get to have the 'fantasy' of a 'natural' birth the way I did until my water broke.
I know I'm late to the party here but that's usually the SOML as i sleep most days and work most nights, and that's when I get to catch up (if I get to catch up). Thanks for your patience y'all.
She thinks that maybe placental insufficiency at the end is what happened with my first, because I was induced a week late but he was about 1.5 lbs smaller than he should have been based on the 36 week measuring scan. (He was diagnosed "low weight for gestational age" and also had an issue maintaining his glucose and had to be in the NICU a few days until he could get it together! He's all good and a giant now.)
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
What perplexes me the most is that they never come back. Some might say it’s because we’re so mean and have scared them off, but there have been one-off posts by randoms where people have been super nice and given great advice, and OP still never replies. I guess that’s why they’re called drive-by’s. Wtf.
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
Also what even leads them here? Googling ‘where can I post my uterus pic?’ Smh. I guess we will never understand.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019