I like the early November time-frame. I don't know anything about slack, but would try it out if others wanted to. I'd also be fine with a private "secret" Facebook group.
I do also think we need to discuss who gets an invite. Because we are opening ourselves up more with access to one another’s Facebook name and pic, I don’t really feel comfortable allowing anyone who has posted in. So im open to figuring out how we will figure it out, but I definitely don’t think that just because someone posts today, or when we make the jump, that they should be invited
I hardcore agree with this. There seems to be several tiers of people here.
Those of us who post regularly. Even if you have had to take breaks like @orangecrush29 and @westcoastfoodie, or are new like @hannelorre, I would still include you as a "regular" Those semi-regularly participate, but maybe in only a few particular threads. There are a handful of these that I've noticed. Ans those who have posted maybe a handful of times, tend to only post about themselves, and/or strict lurkers.
I think we really need to hash out what to do with that middle group. I'm new to The Bump, so I don't know what the typical protocol is for those in the middle. I don't want to exclude anyone who wants to take the next step, but give and take balance is important this little community and there are some people who don't do a whole lot of giving. I know that I personally don't feel all that comfortable sharing any more details with people that I don't feel like I "know" here.
And maybe we need to call out any lurkers somehow and encourage them to start participating more?
I get what you’re saying, but IME it’s a lot easier for people in the middle bin to participate and support more in a better forum. I find it so hard to keep up here. On Facebook, if you see something you want to respond to, you reply. Here, I have to remember a screen name and scroll to the bottom and tag. That person might not see the tag, or the conversation could have moved on and that one comment is buried.
@runrinserepeat That's fine! Like I said, I just don't know how it's usually done If TB veterans who have done the transition before know that that's a good way to do it, I'll totally fall in line and not bitch about it.
*ETA: People do need to make an effort though, because the rest of us are. Hopefully a thread/announcement encouraging them to participate more will help, but they still don't, then they must not be getting all that much out of this experience, so I kinda don't see the benefit of them coming to Facebook. The Bump is annoying and glitchy but it's not that bad.
@hkom@runrinserepeat the half participators have 2 months to participate enough that people feel like they’re not lurkers. If I don’t really know someone one month before babies come, I don’t really think they should come to fbook
This will be my fourth group moving from TN/TB. They’ve all done it a little differently. I always have a hard time keeping up on here (except for my first group on TN, I still refer to those people by their screennames 7 years later ), but after a few months on Facebook, everyone’s usually a lot closer. of course, there’s always a touch of drama... sometimes more. I feel like that might be part and parcel of it though.
@runrinserepeat It is definitely hard to keep up with this format at times, but you still try and do a good job at it ad we all "know" you! I think that's the difference.
I voted 1-2 months but I’d be good with 2-2.5. I honestly feel at this point it’s a little too early. I think with my first BMB we migrated just before our babies started being born. I think we had 2-3 premies before we started moving.
At at this point I definitely wouldn’t feel comfortable if the new “regulars” who just started posting like 2-3 weeks ago joined a group not in here. I feel like we definitely don’t know them well enough yet, or I don’t at least. Maybe that’s just me.
I only use use Facebook and I’m not really familiar with any other platforms. I just don’t want to go back to something that is similar to this. I love Facebook because it’s so easy for me to read and respond. My May 16 group has a private group on Facebook and no one can see it but us. It’s nice. I think my group had like three admins. They added all the regulars and then as people asked to join they’d ask the he rest of us what we thought/if we felt we knew the person well enough to add to the group. There were a couple lurkers who asked to be added and that was a big no because they never participated and none of us know who they were.
Also, we have a man in this group!? I didn’t even know that!
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Hey all!! It’s been a crazy few days and I am super behind. (I think I have mentioned before but DH is in Mexico for a weddings and I am barely treading water).
I would hope I would be included the move but I don’t FB. I lurk on my hubby’s at times and if you don’t mind using his screen name I would be down. If not, I guess I would have to vote for a different app or I will just miss you guys, welp.
Does anyone use Google+? The groups there look pretty similar to Facebook groups (I just created one to test it, and I was able to make it private, not searchable, etc).
I’ll be honest, I prefer FB private groups. Whatever we choose needs to have the ability for us to have conversations - group chat apps are just going to be overwhelming, and I’m not sure I’ll be up for that.
Just a thought on the “middle of the road” people. Maybe when we figure out who the “regulars” are that are voted on the island so to speak, then the people that the group isn’t sure about can be voted on somehow and if a majority recognizes them and is comfortable with them on board they are in. I’m sure all of this can be sorted through and this is my first transition so I’d also totally defer to those who are more experienced at this process.
In some groups that I’ve been in, there is voting before anyone is added. That way you make sure everyone in the group is comfortable (or at least not uncomfortable) with the addition. On the poll, people can discuss concerns or why the person should be added. It’s then deleted before the person is invited. I think that’s a democratic way to make sure the current members keep their safe space.
What do you guys think of having 3-5 admins? That we would vote on and the people who got the most votes would be admin. They’d be in charge of letting in the regulars and would be the gatekeepers for the non-regulars. Then if there were issues they’d deal with it once we’ve crossed over
We can spew conspiracies about Facebook as much as we want, and the "evils" of social media are an entirely different conservation, but the reality of the situation may end up being that the majority of people on this board would prefer to use Facebook. It doesn't make a whole lot of sense to force everyone into a new, potentially not as convenient, app because a small minority dislike that Facebook tracks what you shop for online, because your racist uncle uses it as a news source, or because a bunch of old people can't recognize spam accounts.
But I mean, Facebook does what they do well (as far as user-friendly ways to connect with groups of people). If you don’t want your personal information on the internet, I don’t think there’s a good platform for that. What we’re talking about is a place to share and learn more about one another. No matter where we do that, it’s going to be online, and nothing is secure.
Facebook may be kind of evil, but if most of us are on there anyway then like @hkom said it might just be the easiest option for people. I am willing to try something different, but I suspect we'd be more likely to have ongoing participation if we use a platform that most people are familiar with and already using.
@ab_canada we had a person pretend to be an expecting mom for quite a while on the 7/14 BMB here. She had an entire back story created and had lifted pics from someone's social media account/blog (don't remember which platform) to use. She eventually created a second account for her "girlfriend" and that's when it went south. She couldn't keep up with her own story anymore and some of our board sleuths found the inconsistencies and called her out.
I'm sure someone can link it faster than me, but I'll look.
there are two motivations in sports, which is yours?
@Erinka I looked at slack but as far as I could tell, it seemed like a group text app, not a place where we could have several ongoing conversations at once. Maybe there’s more to it than that though? Pensive asked about it several posts back and never got a response, and Most of us aren’t familiar with it, so if you know, please share with us how it works.
I was thinking that sounded familiar, but couldn’t think of why. It’s because my new work uses it. I haven’t logged into it to look around yet, but I can tomorrow and report back how user friendly it is
Re: slack, I mentioned upthread I use a Slack message board with my friends, and sometimes at work, but I didn't set it up, so I'll after the long weekend I'll get specifics from my friend who did, as far as how complicated it is to set up and if it's free.
As far as how its it's laid out, with Slack you can have as many "channels" as you want (topic headings you create) and as many ongoing conversations as you want within the same channel (you can thread replies) or in other channels. For example, we have a TV channel and within that channel we have separate threads for different shows, and you can also just chat in the tv channel itself if you're not replying to a specific thread. We have a random channel, a general channel, a work vents channel, etc.
It's easy to @ people and add reactions to comments (you can react to comments with any emoji on your phone) and you can gif and share photos.
I like Slack a lot and use it daily, I think it would easily suit our needs BUT it is hard to argue with the convenience of Facebook and the fact that most everyone has an account and knows how to operate it.
Let me update re: the ease of setting up a Slack account and make sure it's free and get back to you guys Tues or Weds. If it is free and easy I can set up a test board and we can experiment and see if we like it. And if we don't we can scrap the idea.
(Also, if no one even wants to go that far with it and just stick to Facebook that's fine by me! I have no preference, just a lot of experience with using Slack.)
Idk anything about slack but tbh I won’t be as active on another platform other than Facebook. I’m on there for Etsy stuff and my other bmb so it’s easiest for me to participate there.
I post occasionally, but lurk a ton. I'm on mobile only, so dislike the bumps app for keeping up with the group. I'd love to move to just about anything else soon so I can join in more.
Re: The Great Migration -- When and Where
*ETA: People do need to make an effort though, because the rest of us are. Hopefully a thread/announcement encouraging them to participate more will help, but they still don't, then they must not be getting all that much out of this experience, so I kinda don't see the benefit of them coming to Facebook. The Bump is annoying and glitchy but it's not that bad.
At at this point I definitely wouldn’t feel comfortable if the new “regulars” who just started posting like 2-3 weeks ago joined a group not in here. I feel like we definitely don’t know them well enough yet, or I don’t at least. Maybe that’s just me.
I only use use Facebook and I’m not really familiar with any other platforms. I just don’t want to go back to something that is similar to this. I love Facebook because it’s so easy for me to read and respond. My May 16 group has a private group on Facebook and no one can see it but us. It’s nice. I think my group had like three admins. They added all the regulars and then as people asked to join they’d ask the he rest of us what we thought/if we felt we knew the person well enough to add to the group. There were a couple lurkers who asked to be added and that was a big no because they never participated and none of us know who they were.
Also, we have a man in this group!? I didn’t even know that!
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!I would hope I would be included the move but I don’t FB. I lurk on my hubby’s at times and if you don’t mind using his screen name I would be down. If not, I guess I would have to vote for a different app or I will just miss you guys, welp.
I’ll be honest, I prefer FB private groups. Whatever we choose needs to have the ability for us to have conversations - group chat apps are just going to be overwhelming, and I’m not sure I’ll be up for that.
In some groups that I’ve been in, there is voting before anyone is added. That way you make sure everyone in the group is comfortable (or at least not uncomfortable) with the addition. On the poll, people can discuss concerns or why the person should be added. It’s then deleted before the person is invited. I think that’s a democratic way to make sure the current members keep their safe space.
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
https://www.makeuseof.com/tag/stop-using-facebook/
https://www.google.com/amp/s/m.huffpost.com/us/entry/us_5aafee8ae4b00549ac7df36f/amp
I have a google+ account too but never use it. I’ll log in on occasion because my BIL posts pictures of DS on there.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!What is the July '14 BMB catfish?
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12462811/newb-in-town/p1
Re: Facebook I don’t have a problem migrating there. Regardless of where we go, I won’t be sharing photos, because I’m paranoid like that.
I was thinking that sounded familiar, but couldn’t think of why. It’s because my new work uses it. I haven’t logged into it to look around yet, but I can tomorrow and report back how user friendly it is
As far as how its it's laid out, with Slack you can have as many "channels" as you want (topic headings you create) and as many ongoing conversations as you want within the same channel (you can thread replies) or in other channels. For example, we have a TV channel and within that channel we have separate threads for different shows, and you can also just chat in the tv channel itself if you're not replying to a specific thread. We have a random channel, a general channel, a work vents channel, etc.
It's easy to @ people and add reactions to comments (you can react to comments with any emoji on your phone) and you can gif and share photos.
I like Slack a lot and use it daily, I think it would easily suit our needs BUT it is hard to argue with the convenience of Facebook and the fact that most everyone has an account and knows how to operate it.
Let me update re: the ease of setting up a Slack account and make sure it's free and get back to you guys Tues or Weds. If it is free and easy I can set up a test board and we can experiment and see if we like it. And if we don't we can scrap the idea.
(Also, if no one even wants to go that far with it and just stick to Facebook that's fine by me! I have no preference, just a lot of experience with using Slack.)