PAIF Graduates - New Mommies - August 2018

stella_700 · August 2018

I'm just giving encouragement to all the ladies trying to make sure their babies are fed, whether by breastfeeding, pumping, or formula. This is hard, remember that you need to give yourself (and DH, even if we think they are being jerks) grace. Try to appreciate each moment with them, our babies are only this young once. I keep telling myself to be "present" even at 3 a.m. with post shot fussiness. It's how I get through some of the hard moments when I just want to cry and am so tired.

I know this sounds insane but how long are some of us who are dealing with the dreaded AMA waiting between trying again? How are you guys approaching this talk with your spouse? I'm struggling right now a bit because I think if I bring this up with DH right now he will look at me like I'm and evil invader from another planet with unfriendly motives.

Second question: Does/should finances have anything to do with your decision on your family size. This is more of a broad question and I don't expect personal details but I'm thinking through this and though it might be helpful to have a conversation to get other viewpoints. I'm getting both, "you do what you have to do and it'll work itself out" and "having any more than you have is a mistake, your doing your childchildren a disservice by adding another sibling".

Hopeful_mom · August 2018

I love reading how u ladies have routines for ur babies it's so NOT happening with my LO! I'm with @Aera11 I'm just with her around the clock!! This morning she was on each boob for an hr not kidding. Usually I get her to go back to sleep but it wasn't happening! Then after another 1/2hr as she spit up every where and was nice and clean she pooped all over....and is now first taking a nap. So I now get why she was fussy all morning. This will derail the rest of the day with tummy time and all that. She is only 10weeks so I'm not surprised I can't get her on a routine! I'm just happy if I can get her to sleep for 3hrs!!

@stella_700 I think it's a hard choice for everyone! I wish it could just be a surprise and poof ur pregnant

. I can't see a sight since I'm on mobile (which is so dumb and u would think TB would've fixed that already) I will say the advice I've always heard is u want to have ur next child before the first is out of diapers....as once you finish with them you won't want to go back to them!! Also it's sometimes nice when you have siblings close in age and the older one isn't old enough to verbally express their unhappiness over the new addition! My nephew literally through a tantrum to wake my baby up and after he did he stopped. I asked if he was happy and could care less....so I think I would want to have mine close in age....regardless of cost and all of that. Even though money needs to factor in which I hate that you have to feel comfortable with for yourself!!

cashewchicken · August 2018

This 4 month regression is driving me and DH nuts! My boy is going through a leap right now and he is not sleeping much. Before the leap, he was sleeping 4-5 hour stretch in at least one of the feeding cycles, and we needed to feed him once, maybe twice in the middle of the night. With the leap he regressed to 3-hour feeding cycles, which means 2-2.5 hr sleep max per cycle. That was hard but we handled that. Last night was crazy. He woke up and ate 8 times between 7:30pm and 8 am this morning! 8 times!!! Can’t wait for this to be over and I’m praying he goes back to the 3-hour feeding cycles.

@persnickity I think my son is also preferring to be breastfed over bottles. Until now he had no preference, he just wanted to eat, but now when I’m around he won’t take the bottle. Over the weekend he pushed the bottle away and closed his mouth to refuse the bottle but when I took him upstairs to nurse him, he ate just fine. It might also be that he prefers a quiet environment, like you mentioned, since when I nurse him, it’s always in a quiet room as I need my privacy.

@stella_700 I’m waiting a year before trying again. I was recommended to wait 18 months by a nurse practitioner I saw at the 6-week appointment but she said at minimum 12-months so I’m going with that. I had a c-section that’s why I need to let my uterus heal. My husband wants #2 whenever I’m ready. He loves kids and he doesn’t seem to mind being woken up in the middle of the night too much. For me and DH, our age is the deciding factor for our family size. I’m 40 and my husband is turning 46 later this year, so we’ll cap it at two. I only have a sister so I’ve always liked the idea of having just two kids too. DH has two siblings so he liked the idea of three kids but the fact that it took long to conceive #1 made him rethink the idea of three kids. He’s now happy with two, if we are lucky enough to conceive another.

mbradfo2 · August 2018

We're in the minority where we always planned one and done - and I'm happy with that, to be honest. She'll be number one in the house and maybe a bit spoiled. I also had bad experiences with sibling rivalry growing up and really don't want to have to deal with that, especially if we were to have another girl. Sisters are the best and the worst!

I've been dealing with alot of guilt the past few days in regards to my career/work -- I've realized that my light schedule is likely going to be a more permanent thing rather than just a temporary blip and while I know it's the right choice for me, it's hard mentally because I spent so much of my time getting advanced degrees, planning on 'doing it all'. and I feel like I'm letting myself down in a way....like I couldn't manage it? But maybe it's more that I don't want to manage it -- I waited 6 years for this baby and I don't want to miss a second of it. And maybe I didn't really expect that.

JWatt5 · August 2018

@cashewchicken - we got hit HARD with the 4 month regression. It was so bad for about 3 weeks for us. He was up every hour at one point. It’s a phase - it will end is the great news!

@stella_700 we’ve had the talk and said we’ll wait until the new year for testing. We’ve said that since before he was born and while I felt like I wanted to try when Parker was a year, I defiantly don’t now lol but we do want two. Finances are a big part of my anxiety around two. Daycare for two will be $1800 a month and we aren’t too sure how we’re going to do it. But we’re just trying to be present now, it’s still 6m away before we even start trying again, then say it worked right away then 10m pregnancy and a year off. That would put Parker pretty close to age 4 when he’d start public school and we’ve said if we had to put some daycare on a line of credit then so be it! I happily went in to debt for schooling and I see kids are the same (to an extent). We’ll cut back where ever we can but we’re not letting the tight year or two of two in daycare stop us. They are forever and we can get the $$$ paid back if we had to borrow. We technically can afford two kids just wouldn’t have money for many things we like to do while two in daycare is a factor.

edit - tagged wrong person lol

MMD1986 · August 2018

@stella_700 We only plan on having one child because I am not doing IVF again. Finances definitely have to do with family size for me. Our first IVF was $15,000 plus medications, that's just not money I'm willing to spend again and we don't have any good quality embryos left. Also, while I can afford to have second child, I can't do so without having to go on an extreme budget, which would mean cutting back on vacations and things we like to do. There is 100% absolutely nothing wrong with that, it just isn't our preference.

@Hopeful_mom to this day I still credit the NICU nurses with getting Brooks on a schedule. He's been on the same eating schedule since he was born and will not change it, minus he does feed less overnight now. But during the day he still eats like clockwork every 3 hours. I've tried bigger bottles to space out the feeding he just isn't having it. At 10 weeks though, you're doing great! Everything really is infant driven at that point.

@cashewchicken hopefully the regression and leap end soon so y'all can get some sleep.

@mbradfo2 There is nothing wrong with slowing down your career, like you said you waited 6 years for your daughter, nothing wrong with enjoying every second of that if you can swing it. They are only this little once.

JWatt5 · August 2018

@mbradfo2 - don’t feel bad. Children can really change things & a person. I told work I would likely be back at 6m post and then said heck no I’m taking my protected year. I’m also considering changing jobs because I want to work closer to home when I never thought I’d want to leave my current job. These early years - I just want to be with them. There will come a time my babies aren’t babies and don’t want to be with their mom as much. Our careers aren’t going anywhere if we don’t want them to. I’ll ramp back up again when they are in full time school but I fully plan to coast right now (and never thought I’d say that haha)

mtpbadger · August 2018

@Hopeful_mom I also credit the nicu for getting Abigail on a 3 hour schedule. Now at night she’s able to do a 5 hr and 3-4 hr stretch but that only started recently. During the day it’s anywhere from 2.5-3.5 hours between feedings. She also still sleeps a lot during the day so there really isn’t a nap schedule, I just know if she doesn’t get a good chunk of sleep in both the morning and afternoon we will pay for it at night as she gets overtired easily (as do I) and then can’t get to sleep.

@stella_700 while I would love more than one child, it might not be in the cards for us. We do have two frozen embryos left but it took us 6 embryos to get Abigail. I am not opposed to another retrieval if needed but it will be all out of pocket. We were lucky enough to have some insurance coverage for our first round but they did away with IVF coverage just after our first retrieval. Right now we aren’t preventing anything but odds of anything happening naturally are slim. I Believe my clinic won’t let you be breastfeeding and go through a transfer and I hope to nurse Abigail to one year, so that would impact our timeline as well. Granted, that could all change so we shall see.

Aera11 · August 2018

@mbradfo2 you shouldn't feel bad but I totally get it! I don't know what career path you have but hopefully it's one you can resume when and if you're ready to one your baby is older. It's true, they are only this little for so long & if you waited this long, definitely enjoy it

that's how I feel. We are lucky that I can and want to stay home for now. I can see how it will be a bit isolating, but I will just need to find other stay at home moms or moms who are around part time at least, but like you said, I've waited 4 years for this baby and I want and will enjoy every minute of her!

@stella_700 I am not AMA but I already am thinking of #2. It's hard because I want to enjoy and focus on my baby right now but know how long it took us to just get her here. I am planning to freeze eggs this winter or sooner if BF/pumping ends sooner than planned (since I don't have any frozen embryos). But DH thinks I am crazy to already be thinking of #2...I would probably start next spring if he'd let me!

stella_700 · August 2018

@ all the ladies

My comments on trying for a sibling for the twins was assuming that we have a successful FET. That goes without saying. I almost feel like this conversation might need a trigger warning, ladies if this presses a tender area that wasn't my intention and I apologize. IF truly, epically sucks.

I'm in the states and I gotta say I'm pretty frustrated with both insurance and parental leave policies. Anyone still fighting with your insurance over the birth/hospital stay? I'm on about my fourth phone call on pointing out claims that aren't correct. For example, they completely pay for one twin and pay out nothing on the other for the same date, same appointment. **insert massive eye roll here** Just truly dumb stuff, like I'm not going to check this and contest it. Does anyone have any pointers or has anyone used one of those consultants that specialize in medical bills?

mbradfo2 · August 2018

Ah, yes, insurance screw ups. Unfortunately extra common with twins too -- I've done my fair share of helping new parents straighten out twins' coverage. Or they put the wrong start date for coverage or something like that.

My insurance screwed up the start date for my and baby's coverage when they added her to the policy and caused a royal mess that did luckily get straightened out by my husband's HR department. It took 3 months for my OB to finally bill the insurance properly and get paid for the c/s; the OB's billers kept trying to tell me that my coverage hadn't started on the date of the c/s (due to the aforementioned screw up) even though I checked through my insurance website, the insurance checker I use for work (medical administration) and made calls with the insurance to verify all had been straightened up. They finally billed the WRONG insurance for my maternity package and ended up losing payment for two visits in December because they missed timely filing when they refiled correctly. Seems to be all straightened out now though and I know they got paid for the c/s and my maternity care except for the two visits in December. Luckily the hospital and the MFM doctor had no issues. Per usual, the anesthesiologist was out of network. I've almost never seen the hospital's anesthetist in-network with insurance policies; they like to scare people with the numbers on the bill, I think.

Mostly what it takes with insurance issues is lots of documentation in writing and repeated phone calls. They don't normally respond to logic, sadly. Sometimes you have to threaten them with going to the state's insurance complaint board --- it's basically a consumer protection agency thing that every state is required to maintain for residents.

Polythene Pam · August 2018

@stella_700 my first was apparently a miracle baby so to we were trying for a 2.5 year age gap but ended up with 4+ year gap. Not intentional but.. amazing. Big sis brings diapers, bottles, can fully go potty alone, can go get her own snacks, etc. and she’s OBSESSED with her brother. We have a few spare embryos so we do think we want another, we’ll shoot for a 3 year gap so go to the clinic when Graham is 2.

omarismyhomeboy · August 2018

Hi all! I feel like its been a while since I checked in. June is now 11 months old (insane) and I am planning her first bday party! It will be Very Hungry Caterpillar themed. I'll post pics

Right now she has HFM disease (gross), but just in her mouth. Shes a lot better today but I still have had to take the past 2 days off. I hate seeing my little bunny with a fever- they just get so sad!

She is starting to pull up a bit more, but still needs more strength in her legs. Shes a proficient crawler, and can fly from one end of the house to the other in NO TIME. Here's hoping our baby proofing skills are up to par. She is obsessed with shaking her head NO and does it all the time.

She starts a new class in daycare on Monday (!!!) and I am legit emotional about saying goodbye to her current teachers, even though they will just be around the corner.

I think every day about how lucky I am. I cant believe I get to raise this amazing girl who has changed my heart so much. My husband and I decided to table any conversations about having a second child until late this year. We are not emotionally ready to think about it honestly. For me it brings up a lot of old feelings- we have still never had a successful IVF transfer, still never had a successful treatment. We have some embryos left, but losing them before put me in a depression and I dont want to go through it again. June was a little miracle that happened in between FETs. And then there is the expense of adding another child. I am very focused on being June's mom and dont feel like I have room in my brain right now to contemplate another baby, or go through infertility hell again. (And pregnancy hell- I hate complaining about pregnancy but it was hard for me). Still, I am close to my brother and my husband is close to his- so I think for that reason we do envision her having a sibling. Maybe a 2 1/2 to 3 year age gap is something we would shoot for. I have a few friends whose babies will be 18 mo apart and that makes my head spin!

Looks like everyone else is doing well, for the most part

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omarismyhomeboy · August 2018

@stella_700 Yeah, as I wrote about above, my husband and I have tabled conversations about adding a sibling until the end of the year- literally just the conversation! Finances absolutely do play a part in some of it. I feel like I owe it to June to be the best mom I can be and part of that is being able to afford trips with her, and some of it is just being focused on her and not be a zombie with another newborn.

Plus, like, raising a baby is hard??? My husband and I both have full time jobs and I'm on 2 boards, and I feel like I need to get a little bit more of a handle on my life before adding another to the mix.

I am thinking a 2 1/2-3 year age gap makes sense for us. But everyone is so different!

byrneme · August 2018

Everyday I look at Zoey and think of how lucky we are. For so many reasons - we only had one viable embryo and it worked. The first time. Knowing how many people struggle with multiple rounds of IVF makes me so incredibly grateful. She's also an amazingly easy baby - has always been a unicorn sleeper, is pleasant beyond belief and is (in my biased eyes) the perfect completion to our family. I am an only child and I turned out okay - we will do our best not to spoil her to the point where she is a brat - so we are content with one. Some days it makes me a little wistful to know that every single first is also our last but my gratitude for having those firsts and lasts definitely outshines that.

I'm genuinely happy for all of you that go for more than one though!! Certainly not a trigger for me and the support of this group is immense and needed!

mbradfo2 · August 2018

@byrneme
I feel the same way about Anne -- we basically wound up with only 2 embryos (with 1 likely abnormal because it became a vanishing twin with signs of developmental abnormality at 8 weeks) and it worked for us on the first try. I see so many women who have to do multiple cycles, have tons of embryos and no success -- I feel incredibly grateful. Knowing what I know now about percent success rates, dx success rates (since I likely had poor eggs)...I just can't believe it actually happened for me. I'm glad I went into IVF with not as much knowledge as I have now, though, I would have driven myself crazy! I was basically learning as going.

persnickity · August 2018

@stella_700 we tabled the discussion until Christmas. But finances will play a big part in the discussion. I want to be able to take vacations and travel and provide summer camps and things for her. Multiple children start to alter those plans and dreams. Maybe we'd be able to stagger them to be able to have just one in daycare, but I don't want to be too much older if we have another. I think we're both leaning towards being done. Like @byrneme our daughter has been fairly easy and awesome. If she's our only one, I'm happy.

safire3 · August 2018

@stella_700 it’s definitely not insane to be thinking about this. DH and I have been discussing it from before Ozi was born. I also have a chronic illness and had a lot of complications related to that towards the end of my pregnancy. My mom and grandmother have both lectured me about not doing this again. My mom actually said to me ‘you are lucky to have one, don’t you want to be sure that you will be around to watch him grow up?’ So most of my family will be very upset if I get pregnant again. On the other hand I would really like Ozi to have at least one sibling growing up. Right now it seems he may not even have any cousins or at least none close to his age. We also have 2 embryos frozen and I would like to give them a chance at life. We definitely can’t afford a surrogate - we are still paying off our IVF debt. DH and I had a candid talk about all this recently and could only decide that we will revisit the issue when Ozi turns one.
Even if he may think you are crazy you should bring it up with your H and at least let him know you are thinking about it. I bet you he has been thinking about it too.

@mbradfo2 you are not alone. My job just recently proposed cutting my hours when I come back from maternity leave. On one hand I feel like it’s taking my career in the wrong direction but on the other hand it means more time with my LO. I actually don’t mind that as long as we can afford it. I’m thinking there is still lots of time to build my career when he is older, especially once he starts school. I spent many years in school and working and now I think it’s ok to focus on building my family for a few years. Hopefully when I’m ready I can still either work with them or find a new job that will allow me to grow. There will always be a little nagging guilt because we know how hard we worked to get here but you’re not throwing that away, you’re just putting it on pause for a bit.

JWatt5 · August 2018

@stella_700 - I think it was a valid topic, no worries on my end. I know I’ve been one of the lucky ones (IUI) but reality is my scans show more damage so, we may very well by IVF for a second as they suspected I was going to be for the first round. Who knows!! All we know is we want two children. The rest will work it’s self out. Everyone’s got different expectations for what they think “life” is for them. I’m willing to give or put on hold more than I ever thought I would. But we still have expectations we want to reach or exceed!

stella_700 · August 2018

Thanks for your responses ladies, its nice to know I'm not the only one that is looking ahead, I'm having some issues coming to terms with my early hopes to have three children and our current reality. I'm just not sure fulfilling our early plans is really feasible now or even two or three years from now. I'm willing to compromise quite a bit on giving up things. I do know it isn't something we'd do right away, even with my age, as we are still paying off the IVF loan. (we were completely OOP).

Once again I'm so grateful for this group. I know of no one else that went through this IRL so having this resource has been a boon.

safire3 I've also had family members tell me I should stop at one pregnancy. I don't have any underlying health issues but I did end up in the hospital with PIH. It scared my sisters and Mom to see me that way I guess. Going through it I guess I was so focused on the babies that I didn't think it was that bad overall.

Holls214 · August 2018

My husband and I just paid for our 7 embryos to be kept on ice for another year and were discussing another child. Ideally, I would love Bryson to have a sibling but my pregnancy and postpartum pain have been so bad I don’t know if I can go through it again.
I had so much pain in my 3rd trimester I was on pain meds which wasn’t ideal and I was worried about them affecting him, which they didn’t and the doctor said they were safe.
Then 3 weeks after birth the pain came back with a vengeance and now has spread to other joints. I’m now having to go see a rheumatologist. I struggle with the pain everyday and it’s hard.
We were out of pocket totally too but thankfully had some help from my parents and had money saved so aren’t in any debt from IVF. Thankfully the transfer worked for us the first time as well...
Ideally I would love to just have a surrogate as I don’t know if my body can handle being pregnant again but that is so freaking expense! Also all the expenses of having a child and daycare play a factor as well. We have the money but it’s hard to go into savings which we worked very hard for as well. Ugh. Just wish it was easier...

safire3 · August 2018

@stella_700 I felt the same. To me it wasn’t that bad as long as baby was ok. The worse part of it for me was worrying about him. Now I look at his little face and I feel like I wouldn’t mind going through much worse for another one. My family would have a fit if they knew I was even considering it.

@Holls214 I wish surrogacy was easier and more affordable as well. We definitely can’t afford that unless we win the lottery or something. I really hope for you though that the rheumatologist can get to the bottom of what’s causing your pain. Hopefully it is something temporary from the pregnancy that will not recur.

mbradfo2 · August 2018

Bad influence...

My husband taught the baby how to blow raspberries (that THBPTTTT sound you make with your tongue) and now she's obssessed with blowing them. She will lay in her crib as she falls asleep for her naps and just blow raspberry after raspberry at no one in particular. She now smiles and then blows you a raspberry! He thinks it's hilarious. It is cute...but not behavior I want to encourage >.> lol

byrneme · August 2018

@mbradfo2 my DH did the same thing LOL. It was hilarious... until she did it with her mouth full!

JWatt5 · August 2018

@mbradfo2 - hahaha I taught Parker how to do that! He used to do it all the time in the car seat lol. And he did it the whole way to Mexico on the plane - that was kinda gross haha Current noise - howling. If we howl, our dog Finn howls. Now Parker does when he sees a dog - walks, stores, tv - if he sees a dog he howls lol. It’s funny.

Hopeful_mom · August 2018

Awwwww that sounds sooo cute!!! Right now I'm just cheering my girl on during tummy time and have to be wow'd by that!!

these last few nights the gas has been outta control and I wish I knew why!! Here I'm giving her Zantac and I feel like she's doing worse...or it's just he timing! I've been taking everyone's advice and doing the bike and bends with her legs to help. She does get farts out but wonder why it's hurting her so much! Today she howled and woke up from sleeping, she was in my arms but it scared he hell outta me. Can it really be something I'm eating? I've been trying to make even more of an effort to not eat gassy foods but so much has guess. I eat nuts to help increase my milk so it's like a catch 22. I take beano but I'm pretty sure that's just relief for me and not her.....who knows.

when bf how often does everyone burp the baby?

Polythene Pam · August 2018

@Hopeful_mom I can’t remember, do you eat dairy? Cutting dairy did wonders for us. Then any milk increasing vitamins = bad gas (fenugreek and thistle, any mother milk tea or vitamins). Once I cut dairy and any big gassy foods we were good, but it was the same, howling in pain at night. He’s 9 months and can tolerate all dairy again so it does pass.

i was taking those vitamins to help supply but honestly cutting them helped his gas and my sanity, ha. Someone said the only way to make milk is to move milk. So feeding or pumping is enough. it was so hard to watch him in pain so I hope something helps!

AFM we’re traveling and Graham is SUCH a trouble maker, ha. Crawling and climbing into every place he shouldn’t, shaking his head no laughing hysterically, he’s such a hoot. If I’m gone, I come back and he gives full body kicks and squeals when he sees me. Mamas boy and it melts my heart.

Hopeful_mom · August 2018

@Polythene Pam that's very interesting! I do eat yogurt and cheese! And this mothers tea for milk support but it's crazy as it really the last week where it's gotten worse. Here I thought as they get older they grow out of it so it's frustrating it's getting worse. My heart breaks and she just wants my boob even more....does that cause her more gas too. I keep checking if there's milk so it's not just air she's getting but anything to take her pain away for the moment to give her relief. I'm gonna have no nipples left at this point! I cheer every time I hear a fart!

I love hearing the growth hese babies have exciting to hear whats ahead! Right now I enjoy my smiles and cooing! Safe travels!

Hopeful_mom · August 2018

Do people get their period while breastfeeding? It's 11wks since I had her and I think I had spotting today. Ugh I'm really hoping that's not the case ugh

persnickity · August 2018

7:30pm a year ago today I was at the hospital starting my induction. 2 days later, I had my little girl via c-section. Can't believe she's turning 1 on Sunday!!!

cashewchicken · August 2018

@Hopeful_mom My SIL did. She became pregnant while nursing her first born, before she had her period! The babies are 16 months apart.

@persnickity Congrats! Must be exciting that the baby survived the first year! My baby’s 4.5 months old and can’t wait for him to reach the 6-month mark so that the risk of SIDS go down.

My baby learned to flip consistently this week! He can now turn from his back onto his tummy but can’t seem to figure out how to turn back onto his back again. So exciting to see him develop and reach another milestone.

I’m happy and sad to find that a spot opened up for my baby at the daycare. This is a daycare that’s right next to DH’s workplace so it’s super convenient. I’m happy that we have a daycare now, but I feel like it’s too soon to put him in it! Can’t rely on relatives forever so we should be thankful. For now we paid the tuition to hold the spot but trying to decide when to start daycare for him. At six months, after the flu shot is the plan. Which means I have 1.5-2 months to get him to drink from the bottle again. He’s refusing the bottle these days and don’t drink much when I’m away. I’m currently working half time so it was okay but when I’m going back to full time next week, it’s going to be a problem. My MIL and my mom can be patient with him and try to attempt to feed him multiple times, but I’m thinking the daycare staff won’t be as patient.

About gas. When is it a problem? My baby is super gassy and farts a lot, especially when he is on his tummy time. So much so that the tummy time is called farty time. I just assumed it’s genetics (like his dad, sorry TMI) or gut microbe issue and didn’t think it was a problem but now I’m not sure. He doesn’t seem upset or anything. He’s just gassy.

mbradfo2 · August 2018

@cashewchicken I'm waiting for the flips to start happening -- I think she's just on the cusp; she's been rolling onto her side with a good deal of control all the time now and seems to just miss it on the force to flip completely over. It freaked me out when she rolled on her side when she was sleeping; I wasn't sure if I should reposition her or not.

JWatt5 · August 2018

@persnickity - I still can’t believe you were in there two days before she came!! I went in for induction as you were having her!! It was a crazy weekend a year ago!! Haha

Hopeful_mom · August 2018

Happy one year @persnickity and @JWatt5 I'm just getting emotional with my transfer day approaching in sept.

@cashewchicken how exciting for your SIL!! Surprise pregnancies just sound so lovely!!! I wish I could call tummy time fatty time

it's great that he's getting it out. I cheer when she farts and want her to do more!! I feel like that's part of the problem she's not padding enough gas. The issue is that the gas is causing her pain. It literally wakes her up out of sleeping AND doesn't let her sleep. We slept from 5:30/7:30 AM. THEN she fed and fat napped 10 min here and there till 4pm when I stood with her for an hr while she slept. Just scares me when I can't take her pain away. Dr told me to now try cutrelle for calm and comfort along with gas drops.
It doesn't make sense that the mothers tea to enhance milk has gassy items in eat so I'm putting it on hold for a couple days to see if that helps!

mbradfo2 · August 2018

Ahhh, she flipped onto her stomach while sleeping. I'm never going to sleep again T . T

mtpbadger · August 2018

@Hopeful_mom Abigail used to wake up screaming due to gas all the time and it was awful. It did start getting better about 1-2 weeks ago on its own as I think her digestive system is getting more mature. It still happens occasdionally but thankfully more during the day than at night now. She still has almost constant farts and the dr said it’s most likely due to the little bit of formula she’s on as babies don’t handle the carbs in it very well. And they STINK bc of the vitamins she’s on. Like can clear a room stink!

Abigails trying to push off on everything with her legs these days and gets really frustrated during tummy time bc I think she just wants to move. And has been trying to flip herself over and I’m glad she hasn’t been successful yet! These babies need to stop growing up so fast!!

Polythene Pam · August 2018

@Hopeful_mom yea others aren’t bothered by those ingredients but both my kids had that painful gas. I was cutting the dairy, then tried some herbal pill to increase supply and it was TERRIBLE gas so I realized he’s very sensitive to those ingredients. Cut the mother’s milk tea then too.. even a small amount, and for us, even a tiny bit of butter in a dish I ate = gas. Again he’s great again so it passed!

and yes I got my period at 3 months

stupid ha.

for the question on when is gas a problem, just if it’s painful and stopping sleep! Graham would be screaming in pain, finally let one rip, and then he’d sleep again. Poor babies!

mbradfo2 · August 2018

Ugh, we've been in teething mode (the doctor agrees it must be teething) for the past couple days. She's a little drool bucket and constantly chewing on her hands, but she's become increasingly uncomfortable at times and more cranky. Gave some tylenol yesterday and Friday to help her sleep better. She seems less fussy today, so hopefully we'll have a day or two of some relative calm! I'm picking up some freezer teething rings from the store and I also froze a clean washcloth for her to chew/suck on (she loves chewing on her comfort blankie so I thought this was a good idea!). I felt in her mouth and found some ridges that might be teeth coming in, but the doctor says she could be like this for weeks before the first tooth pops. I feel so awful for her!

persnickity · August 2018

@mbradfo2 I hate teething! The front two, both bottom and top, were awful. Took forever to actually break the surface too. The ones on either side of those were not nearly as bad.

byrneme · August 2018

Congrats @JWatt5 and @persnickity - you made it!!!!

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