DH’s cousin asked me if I wanted a boy or a girl. I told her that I honestly didn’t care. She said, “Yeah, I don’t believe anyone when they say that. After I had a boy, I definitely wanted a girl. So, I don’t believe you.”
K.
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
@saltedcaramel518 I'm right there with you. Especially after a loss, I literally just want a healthy baby! Just weird how some people project their experiences on us.
I've already gotten preached to about the "dangers" of getting an epidural. Why do people (even close family) think that they can dictate my birthing plan?
So, no one in my family knows I'm pregnant. Hoping to keep it a secret until I have to see everyone on labour day weekend. We didn't tell anyone about doing IVF either, but DH let it slip when my sister was being a bitch about me not "getting over" my miscarriages on her timeline (because she was pregnant and wanted me to fawn all over her). Anyway, I went out to dinner with my mom a couple of weeks ago (with a strategically covered bump) and she asked me if we were doing anymore treatments. I told her "not at this time". She continued to say "Well, that's good. You have hard childbirth recoveries so it's probably for the best that you don't have anymore children" followed by the usual "it all happens for a reason" BS. And this is a week after I sent her a link to a few articles on "what not to say" to someone going through infertility and pregnancy loss. I can't wait to see the look on her face when I walk into the room with half my pregnancy already over. I really wish I could just put it off until Thanksgiving but I don't want to miss the family reunion on labour day.
Oct 16: Spontaneous BFP | m/c @ 9w1d (massive SCH) | D&C Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN May 17: IUI #2 = BFN Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies) Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = cancelled due to missed ovulation
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = BFP! Beta 1: 201 Beta 2: 585 Beta 3: 3254 Beta 4: 9715
U/S 19May - one bean measuring on track with a HB of 125! EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
I'm sorry your family is like that @tosh24. Mine has been surprisingly nice since telling them, since they have said lots of wonderful things like "maybe you're just not meant to be a mom" after loss. My only "naysayer" so far has been my grandmother, who said "you're a little old to be starting this aren't you?" I just laughed it off
tosh24 UGH! I'm with you about letting the news out slow. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this in your own family! I expect my inlaws to say some ridiculous ish (my hubs asked this weekend when he can tell his fam and i was like NOT NOW!!!) My mom lives with me so she has to know (she only drives me crazy worrying about me and even that wouldn't seem terrible to any normal person...lol) My big sis knew from week 7 because we don't keep this kind of secret (she would be hurt) but she treats me like a normal human being and i love her for that...not constantly pecking. I just told my big bro over the weekend (he knows how to keep his mouth shut) and he gave me a nice fist bump and we discussed a recent rap battle. Anyway, my family is amazing...its my inlaws that are going to say how stupid for me to have kids at my age and etc. And the moment i hear that I'm going to lose it on them. It makes me so mad your mom said that... even if she was "trying" to be comforting it hurts to hear that
I'm sorry your family is like that @tosh24. Mine has been surprisingly nice since telling them, since they have said lots of wonderful things like "maybe you're just not meant to be a mom" after loss. My only "naysayer" so far has been my grandmother, who said "you're a little old to be starting this aren't you?" I just laughed it off
OMG.. I fully expect to hear I'm too old to be having a kid from my inlaws... cant believe your grammy said it! You are so good that you could laugh it off... I'm going to punch-someone-in-the-nose it off.
Aside from the millions of "wow, you've got your hands full" and "I bet you're hoping for a girl!" some guy on a bus actually said "Oh my god, what were you thinking?!" when he saw me with my three toddler boys in tow.
At work after the grapevine rumor mill disseminated the info that I am pregnant...
Lady #1: I already knew you were pregnant because your face was getting rounder
Lady #2: I already knew because I saw your baby bump! *proceeds to touch stomach*
For reference, I am a FTM and don't really have a bump yet, also my face looks rounder because I stopped wearing contour makeup since I am too tire/sick in the morning to look nice. but thanks?
The only annoying things I've heard so far is "Make sure if you get a pedicure you don't let them rub your ankles" because this is brand new for me? and advice about vaxing. My husbands family can be a little too hippie for me.
I mentioned this in a WTF Wednesday but a week or so ago at a political event I got a "You're not due until January? You look like you're due much sooner!" Followed immediately by "Are you sure it's not twins?" From the same woman.
@ladystout08 I got those two exact comments from my mother. She also asks on pretty much a daily basis if I’m sure there isn’t a twin hiding in there because I’m really showing for a FTM. Not to mention her constant commentary on how much weight I’m going to gain if I’m already this big and how hard it’ll be to lose. I haven’t gained any weight yet, I’m actually still down three pounds from my pre pregnancy weight. Everyone else has been pretty good, though.
@tosh24 My mom told me that I better not get pregnant again. I was 8 weeks. I still haven’t told her. I’ve told a select few so if something happens, they know what’s up and can help. I chose people who will lift me up, not bring me down. It’s easier that way. I didn’t announce until 30 weeks last time, and I’m hoping to make it till baby is born this time around. I hope announcing goes well for you!
KLS123ladystout08baileym9126 My biggest rage fear is that someone is going to say something about my body size or touch me.... I don't think i will be able to control myself... and WHY do WOMEN do these things... don't they know better??? sparkymcgeee wait, why not rub the ankles? I don't think Ive ever had an ankle rub during a pedicure, but still... BitterBetty12 years ago (when i first got married and before my round of (tw) miscarriages) my MIL said: Don't tell your mother i said this, but, if you will have a baby now, i will take it for the first 4 years and raise it for you.... so it wont be a financial burden for you and so the child will learn German....Who the h-e double hockysticks gives their baby away for their MIL to raise in a different country for convenience??? I know for a fact shes going to say something hella dumb the moment she hears about this pregnancy
@dragonette505 I was too startled and caught off guard by the touch to react but yeah...seriously not okay. The weirdest part is that both of those comments came from women who have had babies before! Like of all people who should have known better
Apparently ankle rubs can trigger pre-term labor? I had to google it when I saw @sparkymcgeee 's comment lol
For reference, I am a FTM and don't really have a bump yet, also my face looks rounder because I stopped wearing contour makeup since I am too tire/sick in the morning to look nice. but thanks?
+1 on the contour. I fully did my makeup the other day and was like HEY I don't just look like a thumb now! I'm just lazy! It made me feel a little better.
BitterBetty12 years ago (when i first got married and before my round of (tw) miscarriages) my MIL said: Don't tell your mother i said this, but, if you will have a baby now, i will take it for the first 4 years and raise it for you.... so it wont be a financial burden for you and so the child will learn German....Who the h-e double hockysticks gives their baby away for their MIL to raise in a different country for convenience??? I know for a fact shes going to say something hella dumb the moment she hears about this pregnancy
My MIL actually suggested this before DD was born (we lived in Boston and all family lived in Pittsburgh or central PA).. not entirely sure if she was serious, but I was flabbergasted. But my MIL is Chinese and was actually raised by her grandmother for the first 6 years of her life, so maybe this is much more common in other countries?
@dragonette505 I was too startled and caught off guard by the touch to react but yeah...seriously not okay. The weirdest part is that both of those comments came from women who have had babies before! Like of all people who should have known better
Apparently ankle rubs can trigger pre-term labor? I had to google it when I saw @sparkymcgeee 's comment lol
whoa! never heard that about an ankle rub!!! I feel like they should tell you that right away! lol I will NEVER understand people saying things about your body!! Like NOBODY likes it. I'm sure it was done to them, so why do it to another woman?
@Mandamay1414 I bet she WAS serious... Mine tried to say it all jokey at first but kept saying: don't tell your mother i offered. She meant it. And she had the plan laid out too well, like clearly she was thinking about it. I truly don't get it. Maybe it is something people from other countries think about more??? Ive not heard of it really besides myself and now you, tbh!
For reference, I am a FTM and don't really have a bump yet, also my face looks rounder because I stopped wearing contour makeup since I am too tire/sick in the morning to look nice. but thanks?
+1 on the contour. I fully did my makeup the other day and was like HEY I don't just look like a thumb now! I'm just lazy! It made me feel a little better.
I started back with bronzer a couple months ago because i think all my colleagues thought i was dying of cancer... i looked so bad and ppl kept giving me concerned looks and asking about my health! Bronzer did the trick
For reference, I am a FTM and don't really have a bump yet, also my face looks rounder because I stopped wearing contour makeup since I am too tire/sick in the morning to look nice. but thanks?
+1 on the contour. I fully did my makeup the other day and was like HEY I don't just look like a thumb now! I'm just lazy! It made me feel a little better.
I started back with bronzer a couple months ago because i think all my colleagues thought i was dying of cancer... i looked so bad and ppl kept giving me concerned looks and asking about my health! Bronzer did the trick
you better bet I contoured the sh*t out of my face this morning after that comment yesterday! Honestly I just find it weird that people pay that close attention to notice that kind of thing...stop watching me, it's creepy.
Girl... she just wanted that baby, i guess! My MIL is German... I'm not sure if its the same culturally (as far as Chinese MIL's) but i think German mommas can be very bossy and involved in your marriage. If we didn't live across the Atlantic ocean, we would have had much more friction than we even did (which wasn't insignificant). We are much better now and actually care about each other lol. I still expect her to say something horrid though when she finds out, so I'm delaying.
Yes to a ban on comments on a pregnant woman’s body.
When I was 32/33 weeks pregnant with DS, I got on the elevator with a woman that I hadn’t seen in months. She commented on my pregnancy and asked how far along I was. She gasped when I told her and said, “Wow! You barely look pregnant.”
I was actually offended by this comment because I felt HUGE, and all I could think was, “Well, dang, what did she think I looked like before I got pregnant?”
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
It's really interesting to look at the family/child rearing dynamic of other cultures. I believe that lots of other cultures rely much more on extended family and even community members to raise kids. I think that western culture places the responsibility almost entirely on the parents (and most of it should be there, I think), but I find myself feeling guilty when I need to ask my in-laws, parents, or sisters for help because they are my kids and should be my responsibility (or problem, depending on the day, lol). I feel like I'm burdening them, but my family (in-laws in particular) probably think I'm weird for wanting to do things mostly on my own.
@ashva OMG I hate that one. I would reply "ok then what's your excuse?"
We get comments when people ask about the names we're considering. Especially since we aren't disclosing the sex (boy) to anyone, we tell people we have a few on each side of the fence that we like and will wait to see the kid to decide what it is. My wife was telling our friends a few of our choices the other night, one of which includes Max for a boy. My friend replied, "Is Max short for something? I think it sounds lame just as Max." Being that we don't like any longer names than Max, and plan to use it as is, it was awkward.
Why do people feel the need to tell you they DON'T like the names you're considering? It's not like they have to change their own name to what we choose...which is what I replied. It's annoying how people get annoyed if I respond like that, but have no hesitation in giving their dissenting opinion on what WE name OUR child and don't see that as rude. :eyeroll:
My wife and I have conceived a babe with my body and frozen donor sperm through IUI, with medication support (clomid, ovidrel, and injections of progesterone) IUI #1, #2, and #3: Dec 2017, Jan 2018, and Feb 2018 - all BFN HSG Test: April 2018 - all clear! IUI #4: April 15/16, 2018 - BFP!! EDD: Jan 7, 2019
@rooonilwaazlib Ugh I hate how everyone has an opinion on the name. I mean it’s one thing if they bring up a good point like the initials would spell a swear or something like that. But making fun of a name is uncalled for.
Yes to a ban on comments on a pregnant woman’s body.
When I was 32/33 weeks pregnant with DS, I got on the elevator with a woman that I hadn’t seen in months. She commented on my pregnancy and asked how far along I was. She gasped when I told her and said, “Wow! You barely look pregnant.”
I was actually offended by this comment because I felt HUGE, and all I could think was, “Well, dang, what did she think I looked like before I got pregnant?”
This is why I don’t think ppl should comment on our body size big or small! We have so many possible anxieties... even myself looking at the bump thread last week I felt like my HG is starving my baby. All I need is some jerk in the office telling me my bump is too small. Or too big.... it just seem inappropriate. You wouldn’t comment on my body if a baby wasn’t in it, so why do you think you can now?
@rooonilwaazlib ugh! Why can’t ppl just say: oh cool! And move on?!? If you want to name a kid, go get/make one, but let ppl do their own thing i can see I’m going to be a crabby mom to be when ppl start doing this stuff
Wow ladies you guys have dealt with some awful comments. I fully expected to have a story after telling my entire department about being pregnant but everyone was supportive. The weirdest it got was "congrats I knew you had been trying for a long time". Ummm pretty sure you guessed that fun fact based on my age but thanks! Considering what I read above ill consider myself lucky!
It's really interesting to look at the family/child rearing dynamic of other cultures. I believe that lots of other cultures rely much more on extended family and even community members to raise kids. I think that western culture places the responsibility almost entirely on the parents (and most of it should be there, I think), but I find myself feeling guilty when I need to ask my in-laws, parents, or sisters for help because they are my kids and should be my responsibility (or problem, depending on the day, lol). I feel like I'm burdening them, but my family (in-laws in particular) probably think I'm weird for wanting to do things mostly on my own.
I come from a very supportive family culture. We absolutely believe in extended family support. I will definitely have many hands helping with this baby and I welcome every bit of it. I just don’t want to send her to Germany! Lol
Ugh I can’t stand when people give their input on baby names! My MIL spent the entire trip to the ultrasound place and back suggesting names. The only person I will discuss names with is my DH! We won’t tell anyone our name until we are both sure. I’ll never ever forget the look on my MIL’s face when we told her the name we had picked for our DS. She was HORRIFIED. She tried to cover it by saying she just didn’t think it was a name we would pick. For what it’s worth I LOVE the name Max! I think it is just perfect as is and not as a nickname.
This is about my MIL again but when I was pregnant with my DS she got me a shirt so I wore it the next time I saw her and she would not shut up about but how the stripes made me look even bigger. Why do people feel the need to comment on that stuff!?!? I’m truly appalled by some of yalls stories. So crazy what people think is ok to say!
My favorite last time was when I would get a comment from someone about how big I was and one from someone else about how small my bump was in the same day, lol.
The only annoying thing I’ve gotten so far is my dad telling me that I’m starving the baby by eating low carb and telling me it’s unhealthy to follow my Endo’s blood sugar guidelines so I should disregard them.
My favorite last time was when I would get a comment from someone about how big I was and one from someone else about how small my bump was in the same day, lol.
The only annoying thing I’ve gotten so far is my dad telling me that I’m starving the baby by eating low carb and telling me it’s unhealthy to follow my Endo’s blood sugar guidelines so I should disregard them.
I mean... is your dad an endocrinologist? Otherwise why would he think you'd do anything but follow your own doctors guidelines? I feel like people don't know how bad gestational diabetes can be for the baby. Its not just an insurance issue.
@Mandamay1414 I also have so much guilt when I need to ask people for help. Even though I know they WANT to offer it. It's just that in my eyes, DD is my responsibility. And I am more than capable of caring for her. But if I need to go somewhere that she can't come, I have no choice but to rely on others to watch her. Or if H and I want a night out, we obviously have to ask people then too.
I think the reason I don't like it is actually because of H's family. His sister had twins 5 months after DD was born and his ENTIRE family (even to this day when they're 8 months old) drop basically anything and everything to 'help' her. Except their help is sleeping over, taking care of the babies, doing household chores for her, staying there to help her get them ready for daycare, etc. I don't think she's taken care of them on her own more than 1 day a week since they've been born. And what frustrates me about it all is that his family acts like it's normal and warranted because she had two babies. And it's kind of pushed me in a direction of just not wanting help at all since I only have 1 and know that I don't need any of that.
Me: 28 DH: 26 Married: November 2015 TTC#1: January 2016 BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16 BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17 DD Born 06/23/17 TFAS: April 2018 BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
@BitterBetty12 What you described reminds me of someone I know who literally is never alone with her child who is a year old. Like any time her husband is working nights or something, she has to go to her moms and hang out because it seems like she can't be alone. It's like she's there all the time. And our daughter is about 10 months older than hers and it makes me and DH feel like we need to overcompensate and not seem like we rely on other people to help out. But we also don't want to deprive our parents from keeping DD to see her and spend time with her because of our pride lol. So we try not to ask them to keep her unless we really need it, like if someone is sick or if we are going out together (which never happens lol), and other than that, we wait until they ask
@emmaaa Yup! We're totally overcompensating. The one time we asked my MIL to watch DD instead of someone in my family she had to cancel because my nephews got HFM and she was exposed and we didn't want DD exposed. So she watched them that day instead and DD went with my Dad.
We also already talked about how when #2 gets here if we REALLLLY need help we'll ask my family and not his. Just because at this point we are so annoyed with how his family has handled the whole thing and we don't even want to involve them. They all justify their ridiculous behavior with even more ridiculous excuses. And the saddest part about it all is that because of the amount of time my in laws spend at and with my SIL and nephews, they are not very close with DD. His mom finally admitted last week that because of 'circumstances' it will obviously never be the same relationship since she is basically a care taker for our nephews and knows them much more intimately.
Right now we haven't seen them for two weeks because we went on vacation and then the boys got HFM and since literally my husbands entire family took turns taking care of them, we can't see any of them until the incubation period is up to make sure DD doesn't get it. The whole situation is nuts.
Me: 28 DH: 26 Married: November 2015 TTC#1: January 2016 BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16 BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17 DD Born 06/23/17 TFAS: April 2018 BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
My sister is extra needy with help too. She married a total loser (we warned her before the wedding...did not go over well) who can't keep a job, doesn't help out around the house, treats taking care of his kids like the worst chore possible, and sits in the basement and plays video games instead of being a husband and father. So what does my sister do? Has 3 kids under 5 with him. She is constantly needing help and everyone feels sorry for her becauase her husband is a dick and they know she can't afford to hire help because they are so far in debt (see: husband can't keep a job). And she can't work because daycare costs would be more than her salary (she's an ECE). So, every spare moment people have they are running to her aid. And yet DH and I, who have always tried hard to make good choices, get zero help. My kids sleep over my mom's house for a night maybe once every 18 months to 2 years. And we never get a date night or anything. DH's family lives 8 hours away so no help there either. But, on the same hand, we pride ourselves on having such a stable home life and working so well as a team that we don't need someone to save us all the time. Would be nice to get a little break every couple of months, though.
Oct 16: Spontaneous BFP | m/c @ 9w1d (massive SCH) | D&C Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN May 17: IUI #2 = BFN Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies) Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = cancelled due to missed ovulation
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = BFP! Beta 1: 201 Beta 2: 585 Beta 3: 3254 Beta 4: 9715
U/S 19May - one bean measuring on track with a HB of 125! EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
@tosh24 Ugh! That is so frustrating. Especially the fact that she clearly knew he was like this and yet they just continued to keep having kids and keep needing more help. That's one of my biggest fears with SIL. I know she wants more kids - but her husband is a workaholic who refuses to try and figure out a work life balance or get a new job. Sometimes he's gone literally 18 hours a day and then just sleeps. And my in laws rush to her aid because they feel that at least he is gone for a 'good' reason. But at the same time he has been like this since she met him and she knew he was never around. So basically my in laws are just raising her kids. That being said - I really am grateful that DH and I do not need the things she does. We also pride ourselves on being able to take care of our family on our own.
Me: 28 DH: 26 Married: November 2015 TTC#1: January 2016 BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16 BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17 DD Born 06/23/17 TFAS: April 2018 BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
Re: Say what????
K.
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
I've already gotten preached to about the "dangers" of getting an epidural. Why do people (even close family) think that they can dictate my birthing plan?
*TW loss and children mentioned*
Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN
May 17: IUI #2 = BFN
Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w
Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN
Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies)
Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN
Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen
Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN
Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green
My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
Andrea -- FTM at 39!
OMG.. I fully expect to hear I'm too old to be having a kid from my inlaws... cant believe your grammy said it! You are so good that you could laugh it off... I'm going to punch-someone-in-the-nose it off.
Lady #1: I already knew you were pregnant because your face was getting rounder
Lady #2: I already knew because I saw your baby bump! *proceeds to touch stomach*
For reference, I am a FTM and don't really have a bump yet, also my face looks rounder because I stopped wearing contour makeup since I am too tire/sick in the morning to look nice. but thanks?
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17
DD Born 06/23/17
TFAS: April 2018
BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP
BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
DS 05/29/2013
M/C 02/14/2017
M/C 06/05/2017
C/P 03/01/2018
BFP 05/17/2018 EDD 01/27/2019
sparkymcgeee wait, why not rub the ankles? I don't think Ive ever had an ankle rub during a pedicure, but still...
BitterBetty12 years ago (when i first got married and before my round of (tw) miscarriages) my MIL said: Don't tell your mother i said this, but, if you will have a baby now, i will take it for the first 4 years and raise it for you.... so it wont be a financial burden for you and so the child will learn German....Who the h-e double hockysticks gives their baby away for their MIL to raise in a different country for convenience??? I know for a fact shes going to say something hella dumb the moment she hears about this pregnancy
Apparently ankle rubs can trigger pre-term labor? I had to google it when I saw @sparkymcgeee 's comment lol
@dragonette505 in terms of your MIL... just. Why?!
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17
DD Born 06/23/17
TFAS: April 2018
BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP
BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
whoa! never heard that about an ankle rub!!! I feel like they should tell you that right away! lol
I will NEVER understand people saying things about your body!! Like NOBODY likes it. I'm sure it was done to them, so why do it to another woman?
I started back with bronzer a couple months ago because i think all my colleagues thought i was dying of cancer... i looked so bad and ppl kept giving me concerned looks and asking about my health! Bronzer did the trick
Girl... she just wanted that baby, i guess! My MIL is German... I'm not sure if its the same culturally (as far as Chinese MIL's) but i think German mommas can be very bossy and involved in your marriage. If we didn't live across the Atlantic ocean, we would have had much more friction than we even did (which wasn't insignificant). We are much better now and actually care about each other lol. I still expect her to say something horrid though when she finds out, so I'm delaying.
When I was 32/33 weeks pregnant with DS, I got on the elevator with a woman that I hadn’t seen in months. She commented on my pregnancy and asked how far along I was. She gasped when I told her and said, “Wow! You barely look pregnant.”
I was actually offended by this comment because I felt HUGE, and all I could think was, “Well, dang, what did she think I looked like before I got pregnant?”
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
We get comments when people ask about the names we're considering. Especially since we aren't disclosing the sex (boy) to anyone, we tell people we have a few on each side of the fence that we like and will wait to see the kid to decide what it is. My wife was telling our friends a few of our choices the other night, one of which includes Max for a boy. My friend replied, "Is Max short for something? I think it sounds lame just as Max." Being that we don't like any longer names than Max, and plan to use it as is, it was awkward.
Why do people feel the need to tell you they DON'T like the names you're considering? It's not like they have to change their own name to what we choose...which is what I replied. It's annoying how people get annoyed if I respond like that, but have no hesitation in giving their dissenting opinion on what WE name OUR child and don't see that as rude. :eyeroll:
My wife and I have conceived a babe with my body and frozen donor sperm through IUI, with medication support (clomid, ovidrel, and injections of progesterone)
IUI #1, #2, and #3: Dec 2017, Jan 2018, and Feb 2018 - all BFN
HSG Test: April 2018 - all clear!
IUI #4: April 15/16, 2018 - BFP!! EDD: Jan 7, 2019
Dating: 2/2007 Married: 4/2011
TTC #1: 9/2016
*TW*
BFP #2: 3/9/2017 - CP: 3/10/2017
08/2017: DH's SA = normal
08/2017: Low progesterone (4.6) all other BW normal
11/2017: HSG Clear; Pelvic Ultrasound Normal; and AMH, FSH, and Estradiol normal
12/2017: 1,000mg Metformin
12/2017: 50mg Clomid + TI = BFN
01/2018: 100mg Clomid + TI = BFN
01/2018: RE Consult
03/2018: 5mg Letrozole + 50 units Gonal-F + 500 μg Ovidrel + IUI = BFP #3: 4/1/2018 - CP: 4/4/2018
04/2018: 5mg Letrozole + Gonal-F + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP #4: 5/2/18
i can see I’m going to be a crabby mom to be when ppl start doing this stuff
Considering what I read above ill consider myself lucky!
I come from a very supportive family culture. We absolutely believe in extended family support. I will definitely have many hands helping with this baby and I welcome every bit of it. I just don’t want to send her to Germany! Lol
This is about my MIL again but when I was pregnant with my DS she got me a shirt so I wore it the next time I saw her and she would not shut up about but how the stripes made me look even bigger. Why do people feel the need to comment on that stuff!?!?
I’m truly appalled by some of yalls stories. So crazy what people think is ok to say!
The only annoying thing I’ve gotten so far is my dad telling me that I’m starving the baby by eating low carb and telling me it’s unhealthy to follow my Endo’s blood sugar guidelines so I should disregard them.
I mean... is your dad an endocrinologist? Otherwise why would he think you'd do anything but follow your own doctors guidelines? I feel like people don't know how bad gestational diabetes can be for the baby. Its not just an insurance issue.
I think the reason I don't like it is actually because of H's family. His sister had twins 5 months after DD was born and his ENTIRE family (even to this day when they're 8 months old) drop basically anything and everything to 'help' her. Except their help is sleeping over, taking care of the babies, doing household chores for her, staying there to help her get them ready for daycare, etc. I don't think she's taken care of them on her own more than 1 day a week since they've been born. And what frustrates me about it all is that his family acts like it's normal and warranted because she had two babies. And it's kind of pushed me in a direction of just not wanting help at all since I only have 1 and know that I don't need any of that.
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17
DD Born 06/23/17
TFAS: April 2018
BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP
BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
Dating: 10/3/08 | Married: 12/27/14
TTC #1: August 2015 | BFP: 2/3/16 | EDD: 10/7/16
DD: 10/5/16
TTC #2: September 2017 | BFP: 4/28/18 | EDD: 1/7/19
DS: 1/9/19
We also already talked about how when #2 gets here if we REALLLLY need help we'll ask my family and not his. Just because at this point we are so annoyed with how his family has handled the whole thing and we don't even want to involve them. They all justify their ridiculous behavior with even more ridiculous excuses. And the saddest part about it all is that because of the amount of time my in laws spend at and with my SIL and nephews, they are not very close with DD. His mom finally admitted last week that because of 'circumstances' it will obviously never be the same relationship since she is basically a care taker for our nephews and knows them much more intimately.
Right now we haven't seen them for two weeks because we went on vacation and then the boys got HFM and since literally my husbands entire family took turns taking care of them, we can't see any of them until the incubation period is up to make sure DD doesn't get it. The whole situation is nuts.
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17
DD Born 06/23/17
TFAS: April 2018
BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP
BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
*TW loss and children mentioned*
Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN
May 17: IUI #2 = BFN
Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w
Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN
Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies)
Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN
Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen
Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN
Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green
My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17
DD Born 06/23/17
TFAS: April 2018
BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP
BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19