At Target check out when cashier asks about my due date then proceeds to tell me I look a lot bigger than 22 weeks.
I wanted to slap her. She told me she has one kid. Well, just you wait. Most people show way faster after their first pregnancy. Wth! I hate when people just assume they know everything about your pregnancy when they met you a second ago.
I was getting some popcorn at work (there’s a popcorn machine in our break room) when someone said, “Oh, does baby want some popcorn?” I replied, “Actually it’s me that wants the popcorn.”
After I said it, I realized I sounded a little snarky, but the “Baby wants ___ “ comments annoy me. If we’re being honest, baby probably wants fruits and vegetables because nutrients, and those sure aren’t my cravings.
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
@saltedcaramel518 ugh, I hate that too. I haven't had much of an appetite lately (because everything gives me heartburn) so I'm constantly turning down snacks/pastries at work. Anytime I say no whoever's offering inevitably says "but it's for the baby!" Ummm well the baby is going to make me feel miserable if I eat that so no
So, my craving so far has been hashbrowns and sausage. I get an order every morning, and I try to eat fairly healthy the rest of the day to make up for it. So I'm at my company's cafeteria and I get my breakfast and someone gets cutesy and says "oooooo, I guess baby wants hashbrowns and sausage?" And I'm too tired to snark so I just say "I guess so!" And the obnoxious new guy at the register goes "oh, so you're using the baby to eat that crap, huh? Hahahaha". Ummmmmm... excuse me, DJ Khaled? You may want to check that ish before I wreck that ish, please and thank you.
My dad told me I should be using this time on bedrest to prepare my resume and do interview practice. Yeah, I’m sure I’ll be up to job searching with a preemie in the NICU.
I'm glad I'm not the only one annoyed by the "How are you feeling" question. A girl at worked asked me this randomly having no idea what she was talking about (I never told her I was pregnant but it got around- and I wasn't showing too much then either).
My mom asked me that in the middle of a normal question and I snapped at her.
The worst how are you feeling questions for me comes from my FIL. But that's because he asks me it sarcastically every time he sees me because he KNOWS I hate when people ask me. So basically he's just being a dick.
Me: 28 DH: 26 Married: November 2015 TTC#1: January 2016 BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16 BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17 DD Born 06/23/17 TFAS: April 2018 BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
@BitterBetty12 Your FIL and my dad sound like they're cut from the same cloth lol. Everytime I talk to my dad he asks how I'm feeling and I'll answer and then he says "but how is HUSBAND feeling? You know, pregnancy is really harder on the men..." just because he knows it drives my crazy.
@BitterBetty12 Your FIL and my dad sound like they're cut from the same cloth lol. Everytime I talk to my dad he asks how I'm feeling and I'll answer and then he says "but how is HUSBAND feeling? You know, pregnancy is really harder on the men..." just because he knows it drives my crazy.
This would drive me fucking insane.
Me: 30 DH: 32 ~~ TTC #1: Sep 2015 ~~ BFP: Mar 2016 ~~ Daughter: Nov 2016 TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
I haven't even had the strength till now to discuss this "say what": Last week my department at work had a going away dinner for someone leaving. Ive told my boss and one or two other ppl but the rest of the large team I haven't spoken with. At the table people were discussing what they did over the weekend and when it was my turn I said we worked in our utility room because we're getting a new washer. My boss' assistant said: yeah youre gonna be doing laundry every day now. I was like: huh??? I was so confused I said: its a large capacity, so no... I wont be doing laundry daily and she said: but with all that baby stuff Now mind you.. I have never had a personal discussion with this woman my whole life. So i shushed her and behind another colleagues back i say: please be quiet...I'm not discussing. She says: oh cmon! I'm sure they all know... Anyway at work the next day i pull her aside to speak to her: i said: I think it was really inappropriate for you to speak openly at a dinner table about what you think you know about someone else health or personal situation. She just waved her hands and said: oh... its no biggie! I'm just not used to people who are happy in this situation... I was like: excuse me....what? Yeah, I'm just not used to people who aren't happy at a time like this I said: You have no idea what my personal situation is. You should never again bring up what you think you know about my personal life. She then ran off to get her boss. She proceeded to lie and tell her boss (my boss too, mind you) that She was upset because i wouldn't accept her apology................................. That bitch is dead to me.
@dragonette505 wowwwww. You asked her not to discuss your personal information in front of colleagues and she TOLD ON YOU TO YOUR BOSS??? Like it's not that hard to just say "sorry I won't do it again." I don't even know this chick and she's dead to me too...
@dragonette505 welp, it's official. I really do hate people. The way she conducted herself was TOTALLY inappropriate, and nail in the coffin to then tattle/lie? Da fuq? I'm speechless.
@dragonette505 I'm seething for you. Can you file a grievance?
I'd much rather pop her in the mouth...lol I'm just staying chill... tbh I don't think my temper could handle it right now. Also I know i am not staying with the company (we are restructuring and I already have my target end month) so I'm just holding out for that sweet severance (one years pay and medical).
@dragonette505 welp, it's official. I really do hate people. The way she conducted herself was TOTALLY inappropriate, and nail in the coffin to then tattle/lie? Da fuq? I'm speechless.
She legit RAN to get her boss..... Maybe she could tell I wanted to mangle her? THIS is exactly why I'm not talking to people about my pregnancy... I don't want anyone thinking they have the right to discuss it. And who does that at a dinner table anyway... And clearly she knows she heard it as gossip....
@dragonette505 wowwwww. You asked her not to discuss your personal information in front of colleagues and she TOLD ON YOU TO YOUR BOSS??? Like it's not that hard to just say "sorry I won't do it again." I don't even know this chick and she's dead to me too...
Yep... I was clearly at fault for not being normal, i guess. If only i was happy about this pregnancy... like b!tch... how do you know my feelings? I was seeing red when she said that
@dragonette505 I'd say she has some serious balls but....it's clear she's a total coward. Props to you for not punching her in the mouth. I would NEVER wish the pregnancy struggles/loss on anyone, but until you've experienced it - f*ck off with how I "should" be feeling about this pregnancy.
@dragonette505 I'd say she has some serious balls but....it's clear she's a total coward. Props to you for not punching her in the mouth. I would NEVER wish the pregnancy struggles/loss on anyone, but until you've experienced it - f*ck off with how I "should" be feeling about this pregnancy.
Exactly...plus, I'm probably happier about this than i can say.... My joy simply isn't for her consumption. I cant imagine why people assume every persons happiness looks the same.
dragonette505 unbelievable. For her, it shouldn't even matter why you feel however you feel. If, at your place of employment, she knows something because of her boss, she should keep her mouth shut. That's super immoral and unprofessional. Would she do the same thing if she knew someone was getting fired or a divorce or moving or other big news that isn't hers to tell!?
dragonette505 unbelievable. For her, it shouldn't even matter why you feel however you feel. If, at your place of employment, she knows something because of her boss, she should keep her mouth shut. That's super immoral and unprofessional. Would she do the same thing if she knew someone was getting fired or a divorce or moving or other big news that isn't hers to tell!?
My guess is she might....I was warned about her when i first started working here. She gets away with being messy because of who she works for and kisses up to keep the job. Ive had a few professional run ins with her (which I won because i know what I'm doing and she's a sloppy mess) But she is pretty uncouth and will say pretty much anything that pops into her birdbrain.
@dragonette505 seriously I can't believe you went through that! How rude and self entitled. In can't imagine having the nerve to ever do something like that. WTAF is wrong with this person? I'm sorry. That's awful.
@dragonette505 seriously I can't believe you went through that! How rude and self entitled. In can't imagine having the nerve to ever do something like that. WTAF is wrong with this person? I'm sorry. That's awful.
Its honestly taken me all this time to even post about it because I just didn't want to keep myself riled up (and i had an appointment and i always worry about my blood pressure...lol). But i know shes uncouth and I'm still a bit shocked.
@dragonette505 Girl, I don't know how you didn't throw a chair at her. Especially after the "happy" comment. Bitch, mind your own fucking business. I'm sorry you have to deal with such ignorance. What did your boss say? Is s/he aware of this woman's character in the first place?
Oct 16: Spontaneous BFP | m/c @ 9w1d (massive SCH) | D&C Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN May 17: IUI #2 = BFN Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies) Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = cancelled due to missed ovulation
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = BFP! Beta 1: 201 Beta 2: 585 Beta 3: 3254 Beta 4: 9715
U/S 19May - one bean measuring on track with a HB of 125! EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
@dragonette505 Girl, I don't know how you didn't throw a chair at her. Especially after the "happy" comment. Bitch, mind your own fucking business. I'm sorry you have to deal with such ignorance. What did your boss say? Is s/he aware of this woman's character in the first place?
Boss is unaware because most ppl wont report her bad behavior (ive had several ppl say they had run ins with her because of her attitude). These kind of ppl seem to have a talent to loving up on the boss. Id also guess my boss feels implicated since its likely that's where this chick got her info. Theres not a lot of buy in for me to make a big deal out of it (unless she cant keep my name out of her damn mouth) since I am leaving the company (as part of restructuring).
Welp, I had my first comment asking if I was disappointed that baby #2 isn't a girl. From a total random stranger no less. And the way she said it really bothered me too, like she felt bad for me when I enthusiastically said we were having a second boy. The more I think about it, the angrier I get.
Before we we found out the gender, I thought I honestly didn’t care either way, but now I’m so excited about having another boy that I’m thinking I did have a small preference in the back of my mind (then again, I may have been equally excited about having a girl *shrugs*). It’s frustrating when people want to squash that joy.
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
I’ve had a couple people tell me it’s good this one is a boy, now I don’t need to have a third. 🙄 Whether or not we have another has nothing to do with the sex of my other kids.
I’ve had a couple people tell me it’s good this one is a boy, now I don’t need to have a third. 🙄 Whether or not we have another has nothing to do with the sex of my other kids.
I've been so incredibly pleasantly surprised to not have gotten this yet. But I assume it is coming, and I'm trying to prepare myself. What did you say?
Me: 30 DH: 32 ~~ TTC #1: Sep 2015 ~~ BFP: Mar 2016 ~~ Daughter: Nov 2016 TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
@pttomato Exactly. I had a family friend just gush to me in the middle of a wedding cocktail hour that I am 'so lucky' and 'so blessed' that this one is a girl and now I have one of each and I'm done. Oh good, thanks for deciding that for us. We only want two children, so I was going to be done no matter what the sex of this baby, but I'm glad now I have your blessing. Eye roll.
So much thissss @pttomato. I have gotten SO many comments like “oh, one girl, one boy! You’re all set. The perfect family.” Legit makes me so ragey. Also, while I’m extremely thankful and happy about this LO, it makes me sad that people freely say stuff like this not even knowing you maaaybe wanted your DD to have a sister one day.
Things you just don’t say to people:
”When are you trying for a baby?” you just never know how hard their journey has been. Shut your mouth, it’s none of your business.
”Are you going to try for a boy/girl? You need your boy/girl!”
Why are people so into the things other people are trying/not trying to do in their lives?
I honestly think these things have just become topics of conversation in our society and people don't even know what they are saying. I also don't understand 'the perfect family' thing. I think a brother and sister can be close but there is nothing better than having a sibling of the same sex, let's just be honest here, lol. I feel bad for my brother that he doesn't have a brother and I feel bad for my unborn little guy because he won't have a brother....but I'm not having any more!
My fitness instructor on Saturday said 'You're going to have a big baby!' after telling her when I was due..... thanks a lot.
I was just starting to feel comfortable and thinking I don't look too much bigger than with my first- but now I'm questioning it and weighing myself daily which I know is not a healthy thing for me to be doing! I just don't get people!
Re: Say what????
I wanted to slap her. She told me she has one kid. Well, just you wait. Most people show way faster after their first pregnancy. Wth! I hate when people just assume they know everything about your pregnancy when they met you a second ago.
”Aww your FIRST, right?”
Nope. Wrong. Move along, please.
After I said it, I realized I sounded a little snarky, but the “Baby wants ___ “ comments annoy me. If we’re being honest, baby probably wants fruits and vegetables because nutrients, and those sure aren’t my cravings.
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
I have been complaining about the "how do you feel" question since I got pregnant. "I feel fine, leave me alone"
My mom asked me that in the middle of a normal question and I snapped at her.
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17
DD Born 06/23/17
TFAS: April 2018
BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP
BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
Last week my department at work had a going away dinner for someone leaving. Ive told my boss and one or two other ppl but the rest of the large team I haven't spoken with.
At the table people were discussing what they did over the weekend and when it was my turn I said we worked in our utility room because we're getting a new washer.
My boss' assistant said: yeah youre gonna be doing laundry every day now.
I was like: huh??? I was so confused
I said: its a large capacity, so no... I wont be doing laundry daily
and she said: but with all that baby stuff
Now mind you.. I have never had a personal discussion with this woman my whole life. So i shushed her and behind another colleagues back i say: please be quiet...I'm not discussing. She says: oh cmon! I'm sure they all know...
Anyway
at work the next day i pull her aside to speak to her: i said: I think it was really inappropriate for you to speak openly at a dinner table about what you think you know about someone else health or personal situation.
She just waved her hands and said: oh... its no biggie! I'm just not used to people who are happy in this situation...
I was like: excuse me....what?
Yeah, I'm just not used to people who aren't happy at a time like this
I said: You have no idea what my personal situation is. You should never again bring up what you think you know about my personal life.
She then ran off to get her boss. She proceeded to lie and tell her boss (my boss too, mind you) that She was upset because i wouldn't accept her apology.................................
That bitch is dead to me.
I'd much rather pop her in the mouth...lol
I'm just staying chill... tbh I don't think my temper could handle it right now.
Also I know i am not staying with the company (we are restructuring and I already have my target end month) so I'm just holding out for that sweet severance (one years pay and medical).
She legit RAN to get her boss..... Maybe she could tell I wanted to mangle her?
THIS is exactly why I'm not talking to people about my pregnancy... I don't want anyone thinking they have the right to discuss it. And who does that at a dinner table anyway...
And clearly she knows she heard it as gossip....
Yep... I was clearly at fault for not being normal, i guess. If only i was happy about this pregnancy...
like b!tch... how do you know my feelings?
I was seeing red when she said that
Exactly...plus, I'm probably happier about this than i can say.... My joy simply isn't for her consumption. I cant imagine why people assume every persons happiness looks the same.
My guess is she might....I was warned about her when i first started working here. She gets away with being messy because of who she works for and kisses up to keep the job. Ive had a few professional run ins with her (which I won because i know what I'm doing and she's a sloppy mess) But she is pretty uncouth and will say pretty much anything that pops into her birdbrain.
Its honestly taken me all this time to even post about it because I just didn't want to keep myself riled up (and i had an appointment and i always worry about my blood pressure...lol). But i know shes uncouth and I'm still a bit shocked.
*TW loss and children mentioned*
Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN
May 17: IUI #2 = BFN
Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w
Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN
Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies)
Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN
Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen
Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN
Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green
My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
Boss is unaware because most ppl wont report her bad behavior (ive had several ppl say they had run ins with her because of her attitude). These kind of ppl seem to have a talent to loving up on the boss. Id also guess my boss feels implicated since its likely that's where this chick got her info. Theres not a lot of buy in for me to make a big deal out of it (unless she cant keep my name out of her damn mouth) since I am leaving the company (as part of restructuring).
Before we we found out the gender, I thought I honestly didn’t care either way, but now I’m so excited about having another boy that I’m thinking I did have a small preference in the back of my mind (then again, I may have been equally excited about having a girl *shrugs*). It’s frustrating when people want to squash that joy.
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
Things you just don’t say to people:
”When are you trying for a baby?” you just never know how hard their journey has been. Shut your mouth, it’s none of your business.
”Are you going to try for a boy/girl? You need your boy/girl!”
Why are people so into the things other people are trying/not trying to do in their lives?
I was just starting to feel comfortable and thinking I don't look too much bigger than with my first- but now I'm questioning it and weighing myself daily which I know is not a healthy thing for me to be doing! I just don't get people!
I told her I was having a baby and she replies, “that’s what I thought!” Kids are brutally honest and hilarious!