We're not telling people the sex solely so we don't have to hear their commentary on whether or not our family will be complete/we'll need to try for a third.
We have a daughter and now everyone assumes we are hoping for a boy. It doesn’t help that my sister-in-law who recently had her 2nd child was devastated for MONTHS that it wasn’t going to be a boy.
People are comparing my symptoms to their ‘boy’ pregnancies and I have family members telling me they want a little boy in the family. Jeez! I can’t exactly control whether it’s a boy or girl and I wouldn’t want that control anyway. We’ll be happy either way!
I wanted another girl when I was KU with DS. I had all the stuff already. Clothes, bedding, etc. I wasn't disappointed I was having a boy but it's not weird to want two of the same sex.
When I would tell people that we were done (for awhile we thought we were) or that I had a loss they would always say something like "well at least you have your boy and girl!" Uh, I wouldn't care if it had been two girls or two boys. I just love my kids. Not their body parts.
@sparkymcgeee Agreed. I have a boy. I would like to have another boy, and there's nothing weird about that. There's no rule that says having one of each is what you should aspire to as a family and once you get there, you're somehow "complete."
@rooonilwaazlib Yes, absolutely with you on that one! I also had someone today tell me that his kid is sick, and then follow up with, "Not to scare you! Kids get sick a lot." Yeah, okay. I have 14 nieces and nephews, and I raised my younger siblings.... Not to mention I was also a child once. But nope, "You don't understand until your own kid is sick." Eff off.
@leighbrek but didn't you special order the deluxe kid with the perfect and uncompromisable immune system?!?!
My wife and I have conceived a babe with my body and frozen donor sperm through IUI, with medication support (clomid, ovidrel, and injections of progesterone) IUI #1, #2, and #3: Dec 2017, Jan 2018, and Feb 2018 - all BFN HSG Test: April 2018 - all clear! IUI #4: April 15/16, 2018 - BFP!! EDD: Jan 7, 2019
I can't remember whose all said it so far but +1 for the annoying "oh I'm sure you hope it's a girl this time". I feel like it is a lot of pressure to have one of each from people. I think we may not find out what we are having so I can avoid the the whole "you can try for a girl next time" if it ends up being a boy. 2 is it for us no matter what , I just want a healthy baby.
@rooonilwaazlib You know it! I paid a little extra for the no-cry feature as well. I'm thinking perfect health and nights full of sleep. It'll be so easy.
@leighbrek omg no one offered me that upgrade. I DEMAND TO SEE THE MANAGER!!!
My wife and I have conceived a babe with my body and frozen donor sperm through IUI, with medication support (clomid, ovidrel, and injections of progesterone) IUI #1, #2, and #3: Dec 2017, Jan 2018, and Feb 2018 - all BFN HSG Test: April 2018 - all clear! IUI #4: April 15/16, 2018 - BFP!! EDD: Jan 7, 2019
Along the lines of comments about gender; when we tell people we’re having another girl, one of the first comments they make is ‘Well are you going to try again for a boy?’.
uhm. How about that’s none of your business? Also I’m 13 weeks pregnant so not really thinking about trying for another kid when this one is not even close to done gestating.
Me: 28 DH: 26 Married: November 2015 TTC#1: January 2016 BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16 BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17 DD Born 06/23/17 TFAS: April 2018 BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
DH was weeding in the front this morning while I was napping and the neighbors stopped by to say hello and see how we were. DH told them we were pregnant. They were like "Oh we didn't even know you guys were trying!" Why the f would we tell our 70 something year old neighbors that we were trying to get pregnant?!?!?!
Last pregnancy I had at least two people say “how did THAT happen?!” in response to finding out I was pregnant. And I also had randos at work asking if I was going to breastfeed. The work questions got worse when I came back... was it a vaginal birth, howd THAT go, are you still nursing (w varying tones depending on how old the baby was when they asked). Amazing how people can’t mind their own effing business just because you’re pregnant/have a baby. Please leave me and my vagina alone. No one at work knows yet except my boss and I can’t wait for the “fertile myrtle” comments or similar. (They’ll be 17-18 mo apart)
Ugh. I told one of my oldest friends (who lives across the country) that I was pregnant and she was like "I totally knew it last time I saw you!" Except last time I saw her was like March so I wasn't actually pregnant. I've just gained weight lol.
DD's daycare provider (in-home daycare) has told me three times now about a week apart, "oh look at that bump! It's getting bigger!" ....yeah, thanks, good to know my bloat is so obvious. Although...I'm starting to think some of it is finally uterus
@kaf1788 ahaha same. When we announced on facebook, one of my father-in-law's cousins called my in-laws to talk about it and said "I knew she was pregnant!" Really, how?? From the barely any pics I post of myself, or the last time I saw you in person being about a year ago... OYE people!
My wife and I have conceived a babe with my body and frozen donor sperm through IUI, with medication support (clomid, ovidrel, and injections of progesterone) IUI #1, #2, and #3: Dec 2017, Jan 2018, and Feb 2018 - all BFN HSG Test: April 2018 - all clear! IUI #4: April 15/16, 2018 - BFP!! EDD: Jan 7, 2019
It's okay for you to have ONE (fill in the blank)! Sorry, you're not my doc and i think i will take HER advice and NOT my friendly waiter's mom's advice on what she did when she was carrying him
It's okay for you to have ONE (fill in the blank)! Sorry, you're not my doc and i think i will take HER advice and NOT my friendly waiter's mom's advice on what she did when she was carrying him
Not sure if you watched HIMYM, but this made me think of Lily's OB. Her response to every "can I have X?" question (from wine to sushi to Cheetos) was (thick Russian accent) "Just a leeetle bit."
@AshVA lmao that doctor is me to my SO. He isn't buying any of it I guess I should be grateful that he's so protective of our baby already, but I just wanted one sip ( just a leetle bit!) of an IPA for the 4th!
It's okay for you to have ONE (fill in the blank)! Sorry, you're not my doc and i think i will take HER advice and NOT my friendly waiter's mom's advice on what she did when she was carrying him
Not sure if you watched HIMYM, but this made me think of Lily's OB. Her response to every "can I have X?" question (from wine to sushi to Cheetos) was (thick Russian accent) "Just a leeetle bit."
lol.. no i didn't, but I'm sure it actually happens. At one fertility clinic i went to (chose not to work with them) one of the docs was saying all the stuff he thinks its ok for pregnant women to eat... he was super old, european and honestly not up on the latest stuff! lol....
@AshVA lmao that doctor is me to my SO. He isn't buying any of it I guess I should be grateful that he's so protective of our baby already, but I just wanted one sip ( just a leetle bit!) of an IPA for the 4th!
Wow. I would completely flip if DH tried to micromanage my pregnancy to the point of refusing to share a single sip of alcohol. You'd probably get more alcohol in a glass of OJ than a sip of beer.
Maybe you could have him read the section on alcohol in Expecting Better? There are a number of studies out of Europe and Australia that show no negative side effects from occasional light drinking (measuring in glasses, not sips lol).
Me: I'm really craving sour candy right now. Male coworker of 7 kids: You shouldn't have cravings. That's just for first pregnancies. Me: You go through this and then tell me how to feel. Him: I went through it 7 times. Me: You've personally been pregnant 7 times? Him: Well, it felt like it. Me:
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
@AshVA to be fair, I think its largely a PGAL brain thing for him (we both took it pretty hard) and still being in the first trimester, just being overly cautious. But good call on the book recommendation - I’ll have to order that one. But if I want a sip in the 2nd/3rd, I’d like to see him try to stop me muahaha
@kianarain DH was super protective like that for my first pregnancy with DD, like he didn't even want me to stick my tongue in it to taste it. This time around when he has a beer he will offer me a sip, and doesn't even blink an eye if 5 minutes later I take one more lol we're both more relaxed this time.
Me: I'm really craving sour candy right now. Male coworker of 7 kids: You shouldn't have cravings. That's just for first pregnancies. Me: You go through this and then tell me how to feel. Him: I went through it 7 times. Me: You've personally been pregnant 7 times? Him: Well, it felt like it. Me:
I would have flat out said, “No. I promise you it really didn’t.”
Something I heard a ton with my first baby that I haven’t as much with my others was everyone telling me I wasn’t going to be able to do it. “It” being many things. I planned a med-free childbirth and everyone, EVERYONE told me I would be begging for the epidural once I felt what labor was really like. Then it was finishing nursing school having a baby half-way through the last year; people told me it would be too hard. Then breastfeeding, especially going back to school just a couple weeks after the baby was born. One of my instructors in nursing school was especially bad. First, she told me I’d never finish nursing school and was stupid to get pregnant. Then, when I had to run out of class one morning to go puke in the bathroom the next room over, she locked me out for the quiz and wouldn’t let me retake it. (Next time I stayed in the class and puked in her wastebasket; I can play hardball, too.) After the baby was born, she marked my attendance down every time I ducked out of class a little early to pump, or came back a few minutes late from break because I was pumping. I had a few other teachers championing me, though. In fact, when I graduated from nursing school, I had the highest exit exam score of my entire graduating class and my one teacher who’d been rooting for me totally delighted in rubbing it in her face. She was always negative and kind of mean, even to the other instructors, so I think they kind of liked seeing me prove her wrong again and again.
I just don’t understand why so many people, especially other moms, feel the need to tear FTMs down. Maybe they feel bad because their birth didn’t go the way they'd hoped, or breastfeeding didn’t work out for them, but we should be cheering and encouraging our fellow moms on in their hopes and plans. Yes, be there for them if things don’t go as planned for them, but don’t discourage them by telling them the can’t do it.
So to all the FTMs out there; you can do it! Whatever “it” may be for you!
Me: I'm really craving sour candy right now. Male coworker of 7 kids: You shouldn't have cravings. That's just for first pregnancies. Me: You go through this and then tell me how to feel. Him: I went through it 7 times. Me: You've personally been pregnant 7 times? Him: Well, it felt like it. Me:
I would have flat out said, “No. I promise you it really didn’t.”
I have said that to guys. “I understand.” No you don’t! There is no physical way you could. It’s not possible. Shut up!
One of my instructors in nursing school was especially bad. First, she told me I’d never finish nursing school and was stupid to get pregnant. Then, when I had to run out of class one morning to go puke in the bathroom the next room over, she locked me out for the quiz and wouldn’t let me retake it. (Next time I stayed in the class and puked in her wastebasket; I can play hardball, too.) After the baby was born, she marked my attendance down every time I ducked out of class a little early to pump, or came back a few minutes late from break because I was pumping. I had a few other teachers championing me, though. In fact, when I graduated from nursing school, I had the highest exit exam score of my entire graduating class and my one teacher who’d been rooting for me totally delighted in rubbing it in her face. She was always negative and kind of mean, even to the other instructors, so I think they kind of liked seeing me prove her wrong again and again.
I cannot believe your instructor would do that- it's completely maddening! So much respect for you for pulling all of that off with someone out to get you.
kianarain Sorry but I'm with your husband on this one. I just don't see the point of risking drinking alcohol ever during pregnancy. I know for a while they were trending towards saying a little is fine but now its going back the other way. Maybe it's because I don't miss drinking THAT much but I can't see justifying it. I'd be as likely to light up a cigarette or joint during pregnancy.
kianarain Sorry but I'm with your husband on this one. I just don't see the point of risking drinking alcohol ever during pregnancy. I know for a while they were trending towards saying a little is fine but now its going back the other way. Maybe it's because I don't miss drinking THAT much but I can't see justifying it. I'd be as likely to light up a cigarette or joint during pregnancy.
To each their own, but this just seems excessively overcautious to me. There is zero reliable medical evidence that a small drink, let alone a single sip, of alcohol, poses any risk to a pregnancy. If that was true, half of Europe would have FAS. Instead, there are multiple studies out of Europe and Australia showing no harm from occasional light drinking. In fact, several studies have shown that children of light drinkers have a slightly higher IQ on average than children of non - drinkers.
Should we all avoid OJ and apple juice too, since they might have trace amounts of alcohol?
@libertymomrn How is it even legal for your instructor to treat you like that?!? I totally feel like that is discrimination... way to go sticking it to her!
@libertymomrn How is it even legal for your instructor to treat you like that?!? I totally feel like that is discrimination... way to go sticking it to her!
Most discrimination laws apply mostly to work places and K-12 public education. I went to a private university for nursing school, and there wasn’t much legal recourse for me, at least at that time, 11 years ago.
Re: Say what????
DS 05/29/2013
M/C 02/14/2017
M/C 06/05/2017
C/P 03/01/2018
BFP 05/17/2018 EDD 01/27/2019
People are comparing my symptoms to their ‘boy’ pregnancies and I have family members telling me they want a little boy in the family. Jeez! I can’t exactly control whether it’s a boy or girl and I wouldn’t want that control anyway. We’ll be happy either way!
When I would tell people that we were done (for awhile we thought we were) or that I had a loss they would always say something like "well at least you have your boy and girl!" Uh, I wouldn't care if it had been two girls or two boys. I just love my kids. Not their body parts.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
Yeah, okay. I have 14 nieces and nephews, and I raised my younger siblings.... Not to mention I was also a child once. But nope, "You don't understand until your own kid is sick."
Eff off.
My wife and I have conceived a babe with my body and frozen donor sperm through IUI, with medication support (clomid, ovidrel, and injections of progesterone)
IUI #1, #2, and #3: Dec 2017, Jan 2018, and Feb 2018 - all BFN
HSG Test: April 2018 - all clear!
IUI #4: April 15/16, 2018 - BFP!! EDD: Jan 7, 2019
My wife and I have conceived a babe with my body and frozen donor sperm through IUI, with medication support (clomid, ovidrel, and injections of progesterone)
IUI #1, #2, and #3: Dec 2017, Jan 2018, and Feb 2018 - all BFN
HSG Test: April 2018 - all clear!
IUI #4: April 15/16, 2018 - BFP!! EDD: Jan 7, 2019
uhm. How about that’s none of your business? Also I’m 13 weeks pregnant so not really thinking about trying for another kid when this one is not even close to done gestating.
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17
DD Born 06/23/17
TFAS: April 2018
BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP
BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
Dating: 2/2007 Married: 4/2011
TTC #1: 9/2016
*TW*
BFP #2: 3/9/2017 - CP: 3/10/2017
08/2017: DH's SA = normal
08/2017: Low progesterone (4.6) all other BW normal
11/2017: HSG Clear; Pelvic Ultrasound Normal; and AMH, FSH, and Estradiol normal
12/2017: 1,000mg Metformin
12/2017: 50mg Clomid + TI = BFN
01/2018: 100mg Clomid + TI = BFN
01/2018: RE Consult
03/2018: 5mg Letrozole + 50 units Gonal-F + 500 μg Ovidrel + IUI = BFP #3: 4/1/2018 - CP: 4/4/2018
04/2018: 5mg Letrozole + Gonal-F + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP #4: 5/2/18
TTC#2: 2/2018; BFP: 2/26/18; MC 4/4/18.
TTC#2: 4/2018; BFP: 5/12/18; EDD: 1/19/19 (boy)
2 fur babies: Oakley Marley (11.5) & Ava Lynn (2)
I told her that was very polite. She is a real peach.
LOL. I feel you though- can't wait for this awkward pregnancy phase to be over!
Although...I'm starting to think some of it is finally uterus
Married: 8/11/2007
DD: Born 2/3/17
BFP#2: 5/3, EDD 1/10/19
My wife and I have conceived a babe with my body and frozen donor sperm through IUI, with medication support (clomid, ovidrel, and injections of progesterone)
IUI #1, #2, and #3: Dec 2017, Jan 2018, and Feb 2018 - all BFN
HSG Test: April 2018 - all clear!
IUI #4: April 15/16, 2018 - BFP!! EDD: Jan 7, 2019
lol.. no i didn't, but I'm sure it actually happens. At one fertility clinic i went to (chose not to work with them) one of the docs was saying all the stuff he thinks its ok for pregnant women to eat... he was super old, european and honestly not up on the latest stuff! lol....
Maybe you could have him read the section on alcohol in Expecting Better? There are a number of studies out of Europe and Australia that show no negative side effects from occasional light drinking (measuring in glasses, not sips lol).
Male coworker of 7 kids: You shouldn't have cravings. That's just for first pregnancies.
Me: You go through this and then tell me how to feel.
Him: I went through it 7 times.
Me: You've personally been pregnant 7 times?
Him: Well, it felt like it.
Me:
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
Married: 8/11/2007
DD: Born 2/3/17
BFP#2: 5/3, EDD 1/10/19
being many things. I planned a med-free childbirth and everyone, EVERYONE told me I would be begging for the epidural once I felt what labor was really like. Then it was finishing nursing school having a baby half-way through the last year; people told me it would be too hard. Then breastfeeding, especially going back to school just a couple weeks after the baby was born. One of my instructors in nursing school was especially bad. First, she told me I’d never finish nursing school and was stupid to get pregnant. Then, when I had to run out of class one morning to go puke in the bathroom the next room over, she locked me out for the quiz and wouldn’t let me retake it. (Next time I stayed in the class and puked in her wastebasket; I can play hardball, too.) After the baby was born, she marked my attendance down every time I ducked out of class a little early to pump, or came back a few minutes late from break because I was pumping. I had a few other teachers championing me, though. In fact, when I graduated from nursing school, I had the highest exit exam score of my entire graduating class and my one teacher who’d been rooting for me totally delighted in rubbing it in her face. She was always negative and kind of mean, even to the other instructors, so I think they kind of liked seeing me prove her wrong again and again.
I just don’t understand why so many people, especially other moms, feel the need to tear FTMs down. Maybe they feel bad because their birth didn’t go the way they'd hoped, or breastfeeding didn’t work out for them, but we should be cheering and encouraging our fellow moms on in their hopes and plans. Yes, be there for them if things don’t go as planned for them, but don’t discourage them by telling them the can’t do it.
So to all the FTMs out there; you can do it! Whatever “it” may be for you!
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
I cannot believe your instructor would do that- it's completely maddening! So much respect for you for pulling all of that off with someone out to get you.
Married: 8/11/2007
DD: Born 2/3/17
BFP#2: 5/3, EDD 1/10/19
Should we all avoid OJ and apple juice too, since they might have trace amounts of alcohol?
I haven't heard anything too ridiculous yet, but my BFF was once told that she must be having a girl, because a girl steals all her mother's beauty.