@iba34 My sister and I (8 years apart and two different fathers) have the same middle name. Now, we have different last names, but I still don't think it's a weird thing. We both gave the nod to our grandfather with our middle name.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
We did a gender reveal with our families last night. Out of about 28 people, only 2 were Team Pink. Let's just say they were jumping for joy!!!!!! But of course everyone is happy for us! I handed out ballots to everyone that listed our top 6 names and asked everyone to circle their favorite. My favorite won! So our little girl's name will be Everleigh Anne (Anne is mine and my mom's middle name, as well as DH's mom's - only spelled Ann). September cannot get here fast enough!
@iba34 To answer your question, I don't think it's strange for siblings to have the same middle name. I've known sibling sets with all the same middle name.
As for hyphenating. Hope you don't mind if I share some personal experience with you. Sounds like you're not going to hyphenate which I think is good. My birth last name was hyphenated which meant my last name was 17 letters and a hyphen. I never liked it and primarily went by my father's last name as a child (which was the 13 letter name ha). I actually spent $100 and had my name legally dehyphenated when I was 19.
The main reason I had my name dehyphenated was because none of my records (bank, medical, school) were consistent. Seventeen letters is often over the max allowed in computer systems and some systems don't permit the use of hyphens so both names were mashed together.
@iba34 DH and his brother have the same middle name - and it’s their mother’s maiden name!
I’ve gotten myself all stressed over a name which I know is riculous. Way back when, I said I was ok with using DH’s grandfather’s name, which I actually really like (it’s a simple classic name). I wanted the middle name to start with an R, after his late mother and my late grandmother. But now 1) my mom made a comment about the first name because it’s a “very catholic name” (my family is non-religious but Jewish). And 2) I can’t find an R name I love. I feel like I trapped myself in a box here. And I feel like family will be disappointed if I don’t go with family names like I said I would. But here I am reading all these names I love, and wanting to get excited about naming my little boy, and I’m stressed over it! Lol oy.
@ashh2018 - Just because you told people you were thinking of using family names, doesn't mean you need to stick with that! Screw them if they're disappointed over not using a family name - it's your child, your name choice!! You could always pick a name then not share it until baby is here - most people with any common sense/decency will hold off from making any complaints about a name if it has already been given to a child once born.
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^^^this. Exactly what @DanyTargaryen said. You and your husband should pick the name you want. No one else’s opinion matters. I recommend not sharing the name until after the baby is born. If people hassle you too much, tell them you are waiting to meet him to decide and don’t indulge their suggestions
We have deside on Connor for the 1st name and I think Kern for the middle. It is my great grandma's maden name. We have played with trying to have a C middle name because our DD is Bridget Breanna. But have not fell in love with one. I still want to pull up both of are ancestry pages and see if anything jumps out. If this baby had been a girl we were look at Ella Ann after grandparents.
@iba34 this baby will have the same middle name as my first, it never even crossed my mind that it would be weird! The middle name is my last name, the last name is my husbands last name. I don’t think having siblings like Mary Jones Smith and Janet Jones Smith is at all an issue!
@ashh2018 completely and %100 agree with @DanyTargaryen. You need to be happy and love what you choose! You should be excited for the name, it’s a fun part of having a baby! It’s a name you will say and think about every day for the rest of your life - so please yourself. Screw what anyone else thinks or says! And I changed my mind is a valid answer to anyone who questions the change in the type of name (family name vs not). You need to empower yourself on this.
I did it wrong with my daughter in that I didn’t stop the opinions. My mom loved discussing names and once told me she would refuse to call my daughter a name I said was on the list. I finally snapped and said, we’ll then I guess you won’t be seeing your grand daughter. She got the message. This time I learned, and told my mom, when she asked for the list, that I doubted we would be sharing as people seemed to think that by answering their question about our list that it was an invitation to give an opinion, when it wasn’t. Mom got the hint. Passive aggressive but effective.
Okay so I have been throwing out names around like crazy.I had a girl's name picked out (kinley) by the first couple of weeks lol. However it is so much harder thinking of boy names. This will be the first boy in three generations on my side of the family so we are all excited! Anyways the only name so far that struck a cord is Weston. I had a few others but nothing has topped that name for me so far. I was talking to my friend/cousin the other day who is due a month ahead of me. She asked me if I had any names yet and I mentioned a few and Weston. I told her that was my top so far but not set in stone. Well she told me that her and her husband wasn't going to tell people but they are thinking of the name Easton. I laughed a little and it wasn't until she said both names that she realized why I was laughing. She said it's funny and cute that we thought of such similar names. She told me we should do it butvI am afraid it is going to look like I just copied off of her and I don't know if I want them to have such similar names but I don't know if I want to give up my name either. Oh what to do now?!?!
@shaybug12 Stick with the name you like, especially because it sounds like she is fine with it! Something similar happened with my cousin and me - I was due six weeks before her and announced we had chosen the name Grace. She then found out she was having a boy and chose the name Grayson. She never addressed it with me (hey, our names sound super similar!) but it personally has never bothered me.
Me: 32 DH: 32 BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012 BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
@shaybug12 haha I actually think the similarly is really cute, and it's not like they are siblings with those names. Bonus points if the names were geographically accurate. Also, Weston is a good name
@sarah-ruby-21 both sound great! I feel like they are both familiar without being overly popular
@sarah-ruby-21 I'm absolutely biased but love Taylor on a girl. One of my favorite babies when I was an infant teacher was a little girl named Taylor, affectionately called TayTay.
Thanks @Adirat@DanyTargaryen now to get H on board. We really have not even discussed names yet, mostly because I have a feeling the name will be the biggest battle for us. For our wedding he was set on the colors and that was worth fighting for, so I see the babies name being that way too...rightfully so!
And from personal experience, Meredith has a lot of fun nickname options. Mere (pronounced Mare), Mere-Mere, Mere-Bear, and Dithy. My mom also, to this day, enjoys the "Night, Mere" pun.
@Lcardinal04 your scenario with opinions reaffirms my decision to not tell friends or family our decision. The amount of unsolicited opinions I already get regarding my choices of how many workout classes I teach, what I am eating, etc are driving me bonkers. Thanks, decision made and done!
DD is Emma Rae, we’re thinking James Adam for this baby. I don’t know why, I’m hesitant to say we’ve decided. Maybe we’ll have to wait until he gets here. Any thoughts? I try to give names that for me have no preconceived ideas of what a person will be like, in the hopes that will keep me open to the kind of person my child is.
@lisac113 or just make it obvious that the name is set, no discussion. My sister took my experience and didn’t say the name till it was set. They had a x-mas stocking made with the name, put it on their mantle and texted out a picture. Such an awesome plan... I applauded her. No reactions in person and clearly says name is set.
Thanks everyone, now to see if I can get H on board with Meredith Grace. We won’t tell anyone the name since we aren’t telling the sex, but also I never wanted to tell until the baby was born then it’s set and people are less likely to give an opinion.
@arbell615 I like the name James Adam and I think it goes well with your daughters name.
@arbell615 James is one of my favorites. Very classic, simple, but not too popular.
I think I have picked my top girl name: Either Taylor Christine (middle is after my hubby and his grandma - both are Chris/Cris) or Taylor Loren (My grandma was D. Loretta and his was Dolores, so I thought Loren is a nice nod to them).
DH had liked Tyler for a boy, but he is begging me to like Michael. I do like it, I just feel like it doesn't stand out.
@arbell615 I also LOVE James and we are planning to use it for our middle name (family name on both sides). I have debated using it for the first name, but it was #12 in popularity in the country and #2 in my state in 2016 I have a common name and hated having to go by first name last initial in my classes growing up, so my personal preference is to try to not pick super popular options for my kids' first names (at least in terms of popularity where we live). I do think Emma and James go nicely together, and I like Adam, too!
Me: 32 DH: 32 BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012 BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
@arbell615 James is one of my favorites. Very classic, simple, but not too popular.
I think I have picked my top girl name: Either Taylor Christine (middle is after my hubby and his grandma - both are Chris/Cris) or Taylor Loren (My grandma was D. Loretta and his was Dolores, so I thought Loren is a nice nod to them).
DH had liked Tyler for a boy, but he is begging me to like Michael. I do like it, I just feel like it doesn't stand out.
What are the cons and pros to using a name that peaked in the previous decades? Dh is liking Kelsey. I feel like I’d like it more if I didn’t see it as such a 90’s name. Otherwise it meets my goals - Irish, not popular right now, decent flow with our last name. Bleh... still so much harder than last time.
Oh and two first cousins have announced due dates in August and September. So worried we’ll finally lock in a name only to have a cousin choose it,
@Lcardinal04 I much prefer names that were previously popular to names that are popular now...everyone will recognize and be able to spell/pronounce the name, but there won’t be a bunch of other kids her age with the same name.
With that being said, there are 3 Kelsey teachers at my daughter’s daycare right now!
@Lcardinal04 I think it's a nice name! The kids she grows up with won't connect it to a 90s name because they weren't around.
If you have a concern with your cousins using the name you can tell them you have a name picked and it starts with K so if your choice does too we need to discuss
@mandymost that’s the problem. It was soooo popular. Growing up there were four Kelsey’s on our street... and it was not a long street!
@EErin86 I don’t mind announcing once we lock in a name. We are just sooo far from deciding and this puts on more pressure to figure it out. I agree though that the kids she grows up with won’t have a clue to popularity... except that so many friends moms will have the name.
What are the cons and pros to using a name that peaked in the previous decades? Dh is liking Kelsey. I feel like I’d like it more if I didn’t see it as such a 90’s name. Otherwise it meets my goals - Irish, not popular right now, decent flow with our last name. Bleh... still so much harder than last time.
Oh and two first cousins have announced due dates in August and September. So worried we’ll finally lock in a name only to have a cousin choose it,
I just brought up Kelsey to DH and he loves it. So much in fact that we will use it for a boy middle name. (Team green)... it's the only girl name we have both liked. But I have no idea what we will use for a middle name.
Thoughts on Talia Marie? Simple last name too. How would YOU pronounce Talia?
We've come up with too many girl names, but zero any names so far, and for this team green mom, that's not good.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
Re: Names
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
As for hyphenating. Hope you don't mind if I share some personal experience with you.
The main reason I had my name dehyphenated was because none of my records (bank, medical, school) were consistent. Seventeen letters is often over the max allowed in computer systems and some systems don't permit the use of hyphens so both names were mashed together.
I’ve gotten myself all stressed over a name which I know is riculous. Way back when, I said I was ok with using DH’s grandfather’s name, which I actually really like (it’s a simple classic name). I wanted the middle name to start with an R, after his late mother and my late grandmother. But now 1) my mom made a comment about the first name because it’s a “very catholic name” (my family is non-religious but Jewish). And 2) I can’t find an R name I love. I feel like I trapped myself in a box here. And I feel like family will be disappointed if I don’t go with family names like I said I would. But here I am reading all these names I love, and wanting to get excited about naming my little boy, and I’m stressed over it! Lol oy.
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
I did it wrong with my daughter in that I didn’t stop the opinions. My mom loved discussing names and once told me she would refuse to call my daughter a name I said was on the list. I finally snapped and said, we’ll then I guess you won’t be seeing your grand daughter. She got the message. This time I learned, and told my mom, when she asked for the list, that I doubted we would be sharing as people seemed to think that by answering their question about our list that it was an invitation to give an opinion, when it wasn’t. Mom got the hint. Passive aggressive but effective.
BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012
BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
@sarah-ruby-21 both sound great! I feel like they are both familiar without being overly popular
@klj0228 I think Meredith Grace sounds really nice. I like single-syllable middle names for multisyllabic first names.
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
Meredith Grace sounds adorable!
And from personal experience, Meredith has a lot of fun nickname options. Mere (pronounced Mare), Mere-Mere, Mere-Bear, and Dithy. My mom also, to this day, enjoys the "Night, Mere" pun.
@arbell615 I like the name James Adam and I think it goes well with your daughters name.
I think I have picked my top girl name: Either Taylor Christine (middle is after my hubby and his grandma - both are Chris/Cris) or Taylor Loren (My grandma was D. Loretta and his was Dolores, so I thought Loren is a nice nod to them).
DH had liked Tyler for a boy, but he is begging me to like Michael. I do like it, I just feel like it doesn't stand out.
BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012
BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
Oh and two first cousins have announced due dates in August and September. So worried we’ll finally lock in a name only to have a cousin choose it,
With that being said, there are 3 Kelsey teachers at my daughter’s daycare right now!
If you have a concern with your cousins using the name you can tell them you have a name picked and it starts with K so if your choice does too we need to discuss
@EErin86 I don’t mind announcing once we lock in a name. We are just sooo far from deciding and this puts on more pressure to figure it out. I agree though that the kids she grows up with won’t have a clue to popularity... except that so many friends moms will have the name.
We've come up with too many girl names, but zero any names so far, and for this team green mom, that's not good.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green