I think it's silly when people tell others that they don't like a name because they have a specific negative connotation with it. Has absolutely no bearing. But it makes sense if you are talking about names you're ruling out for your own kid.
I’m doing this on my own, so no Dad to discuss it with. But my Mom wants to be involved- which is great so far. She wanted me to use my middle name for the baby, but my middle name is a paternal family name, and I had been thinking about using her maiden name so baby has family names from both sides.
She freaked out - like viscerally negative reaction. But she also appreciated that I was trying to honor her, and has made some suggestions that aren’t distasteful to her. I actually like one of the suggestions a lot better than her maiden name.
But yeah - “I don’t like xxxx, because I was bullied by someone named that in elementary school”? Nope- unless you are the parent, not your business.
@knottieamusements - I went to school with someone who helped commit a murder when we were all 16/17. Great name (and it's been mentioned in this thread), but I would obviously never use that name on my own kid! I try to remain objective to when giving advice/suggestions on names!
Me: 29 | DH: 29
Married 12/2016 DSS born 01/2016 TTC since 01/2017 Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
@sammierose464 I love Griffin. Have a close friend with that name so feel weird about using it. But I think it’s a beautiful name and clearly gender neutral (in my opinion all names are gender neutral but not everyone agrees...) so the ease of that is awesome.
I dont know about boy names but my DS is named Logan Patrick.. After wolverine and the movie Logan. We are cheesy but we liked it. So we may go with another superhero name for a boy lol. But for girls I like Ruby or Rose. No middles name yet. I want a girl so ive thought about those names more.
Now that we know our little one is a boy we have started thinking of names! So far our favorites are Henry, Nathaniel, Charles, Arthur, Wesley and Bennett. Ideally we would like to use 'Arthur' as a middle name, but since my last name begins with a G, a lot of the names would leave the initials being things like WAG, HAG, NAG and Bag...womp womp
@kiwi2628 love the name choices! I know people say beware of middle names but I feel like most of the time people aren't really looking at initials. I'd say go for Arthur for a middle name!! Its a nice name and people will love it too
@kiwi2628 what about using Arthur as the first name but calling him by his middle name? My husband is called by his middle name because they liked the initials better that way and his dad's name is his first name.
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
We have an Ethan and an Enzo, so we wanted another E name. We settled on Eli but I'm starting to second guess it. Not really a fan of Elijah either. I love Ezra or Elliot but H vetoed both of those. Now we're looking at non E names, but I was excited for three Es.... which is silly since our girl name is Skylar. But it'll be Skye with an E for short, so that's how I justified it to my OCD.
*Sigh* I don't know why it bothers me so much if a third boy isn't an E.
@chyvie unfortunately my #1 name right now is Henry. My last name ends in an 'ee' sound, so it would be something like 'Arthur Henry Ga-sdjhsfhjfs-ski' and I don't like the two 'ee' sounds next to each other when there are 3 names, if that makes sense.
@missmaehurt I just told him you seconded Ezra and he very violently said NO. He’s a brat. Lol. I just think Enzo and Ezra would be so cute!! I love the Z’s.
He just suggested Eden. I know it’s a man’s name too, but is it too feminine? Michael is the middle name we’re leaning towards.
I have a Caeden and an Eli already. We really love the name Evelyn for a girl... I’m having a hard time with the fact that it would be C, E, E .. I feel like I can’t have another E name. My SO goes by his middle name so that could be an option I guess. For a boy I’m in love with the name Ira and SO is all for that one too. We decided to stop trying to make a choice on a name until we find out the gender. We don’t want to lose one of the names we love! I can’t help but keep looking though lol. For some reason I’m a lot more concerned with trying to figure out a girl name and find myself saying “she/her” the odd time! Ugh!
Our DS is evelyn. It’s really popular now, but classic and we get unprompted compliments all the time on what a nice name she has. We didn’t know it was popular when we chose it, and it doesn’t bother us now either.
One of our new top runners for a boy is Henry. We are both really liking it which is rare. Middle name would still be Christopher.
I also really liked the name Graham but DH vetoed that. Another favorite that wont work is Samuel but our last name starts with S and I wouldn't want to have a double S.
@midwestmom12 Hmmm... I'll have to roll that one around my head for a sec. I think I could warm up to it.
@norahkate Oh good, I do too but thought maybe I was crazy. H thinks we definitely need an Enzo and Eden because then they'd both be named after professional soccer players. Lol.
@drb2424 I love Henry! It was our frontrunner, but with our last name (similar to Hudson), we couldn't find a middle name combination we liked. Yesterday we decided to use it as a middle name, so now our boy choice is Alexander Henry.
I'm not expecting to pick a name any time soon. We didn't agree until 36 weeks with DS. We're team green, which SO agreed to, so that's his excuse for not being able to think of anything.
@krzyriver I love Eden for a boy and I think it pairs well with Michael!!
@chopchop25 I think my personal favorites from your options are Dylan Casey or Casey Marie for a girl and Grant Chatham or Grant Walter for a boy. All very pretty names, though!
Good for you guys thinking of this stuff already. We won’t even touch names until we find out the sex. Less arguing over names you won’t even use. We used our one and only agreed upon name for DS. This kid will be the child with no name.
So DH’s last name is super German, and we love Germany, so we want our kids to have German first names. DS’s name came from a German boy list, and it happens to be the name of a friend/work acquaintance’s son. Didn’t even think about that, didn’t really care.
A few weeks ago, I was perusing the German names list and saw a girl’s name that (oh my God) DH and I both liked. Sweet! If it’s a girl, maybe we’re set.
Last night I was laying in bed and realized that my aforementioned friend has a daughter, too... named the same girl’s name! Oh man, that’s super weird, right? Having two kids named the exact same thing? Thing is, I don’t work with her anymore, and I don’t really talk to her anymore as a result... but is that still weird? I’m inclined to say eff it, but... weird.
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Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
DD born April 2015 after many rounds of IVF and losses.
After much more of the same...
She freaked out - like viscerally negative reaction. But she also appreciated that I was trying to honor her, and has made some suggestions that aren’t distasteful to her. I actually like one of the suggestions a lot better than her maiden name.
But yeah - “I don’t like xxxx, because I was bullied by someone named that in elementary school”? Nope- unless you are the parent, not your business.
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
We're back to the drawing board on boy names.
We have an Ethan and an Enzo, so we wanted another E name. We settled on Eli but I'm starting to second guess it. Not really a fan of Elijah either. I love Ezra or Elliot but H vetoed both of those. Now we're looking at non E names, but I was excited for three Es.... which is silly since our girl name is Skylar. But it'll be Skye with an E for short, so that's how I justified it to my OCD.
*Sigh* I don't know why it bothers me so much if a third boy isn't an E.
Blarg. Soooooo many first world problems, lol
I love Nathanial and Bennett. Those get my vote
Abrams
River
Laken
though I think the latter 2 might be too “hippie” for my husband.
Our last name is so generic that I want a semi different name
Thoughts?
P. S. Trying to keep up with you guys and stay in the know with the group (been in the middle of big move)
@missmaehurt I just told him you seconded Ezra and he very violently said NO. He’s a brat. Lol. I just think Enzo and Ezra would be so cute!! I love the Z’s.
He just suggested Eden. I know it’s a man’s name too, but is it too feminine? Michael is the middle name we’re leaning towards.
Edison? (I actually know a sib-set of Eden and Edison...girl/boy).
We really love the name Evelyn for a girl... I’m having a hard time with the fact that it would be C, E, E .. I feel like I can’t have another E name. My SO goes by his middle name so that could be an option I guess.
For a boy I’m in love with the name Ira and SO is all for that one too.
We decided to stop trying to make a choice on a name until we find out the gender. We don’t want to lose one of the names we love! I can’t help but keep looking though lol.
For some reason I’m a lot more concerned with trying to figure out a girl name and find myself saying “she/her” the odd time! Ugh!
I like Logan, Elliott and Julian but don’t love anything. I think Elliott might be too much with Evelyn.
For girls my front runner is Juliet or Sydney. I’d love to do Cilla (Priscilla is a family name) but I hate the full version so I think it’s out.
Given my pregnancy symptoms have been the complete opposite of my first pregnancy I just feel like this is a boy though.
I also really liked the name Graham but DH vetoed that. Another favorite that wont work is Samuel but our last name starts with S and I wouldn't want to have a double S.
@midwestmom12 Hmmm... I'll have to roll that one around my head for a sec. I think I could warm up to it.
@norahkate Oh good, I do too but thought maybe I was crazy. H thinks we definitely need an Enzo and Eden because then they'd both be named after professional soccer players. Lol.
And SS isn't too bad, that was mine before I got married (SRS).
Definitely would love some honest opinions because our list keeps growing and not shrinking.
Top girl contenders:
(middle name thoughts: Ann, Casey, Marie)
Top boy contenders:
Wyatt, Shane, William, Logan, Grant, Casey
(middle name thoughts: Walter, Daniel, Chatham, Danford)
@krzyriver I love Eden for a boy and I think it pairs well with Michael!!
@chopchop25 I like Parker Ann or Casey Marie for a girl!
Right now, the top of my list for a girl are: Aniston Grace (Anna Grace), Baylor, Elizabeth Kate (Ella Kate), and Lila Grace.
Boys I love Easton, Sutton, Channing, and Hudson.
TTC#2: 2/2018; BFP: 2/26/18; MC 4/4/18.
TTC#2: 4/2018; BFP: 5/12/18; EDD: 1/19/19 (boy)
2 fur babies: Oakley Marley (11.5) & Ava Lynn (2)
A few weeks ago, I was perusing the German names list and saw a girl’s name that (oh my God) DH and I both liked. Sweet! If it’s a girl, maybe we’re set.
Last night I was laying in bed and realized that my aforementioned friend has a daughter, too... named the same girl’s name! Oh man, that’s super weird, right? Having two kids named the exact same thing? Thing is, I don’t work with her anymore, and I don’t really talk to her anymore as a result... but is that still weird? I’m inclined to say eff it, but... weird.