Heartbroken

prpl11butterfly · February 2018

Ladies, I'm heartbroken. US today did not go well. Baby was measuring around 7wks and did not have a heartbeat.

Aside from heartbreak, I think I am feeling relatively okay. As painful as it is, I know the statistics. I know it was un-preventable and completely not my fault. We plan to try again as soon as I feel ready (which i hope will be soon) because there is a baby waiting for us, I'm certain. I think most of my sadness is that the life I envisioned is just that much further away then expected. Because I'm having no signs that natural MC is nearing, I have opted to have the surgical procedure, it is scheduled for tomorrow. If anyone has some insight/experience they can share, please feel free to PM me.

I will miss you, it's been a great few months. I wish you all nothing but the best and hope you all continue to have uneventful pregnancies and beautiful babes in Sept (or late Aug/early Oct).

Sending you all love

jhjocelyn · February 2018

Oh sweetheart, I am so so sorry. *big hugs*

AdmiralKitty · February 2018

i’m so so sorry

Please take care of yourself and best of luck when you’re ready to try again

Patience7150 · February 2018

I am so so sorry, I am tearing up at my desk for you. My thoughts and prayers are with you, I hope the procedure tomorrow is quick and uneventful, and that you are able to find peace and comfort.

SkilledSailor · February 2018

Oh this breaks my heart. I’m so sorry for your loss!

nlc8424 · February 2018

Oh I’m so sad to read this, I’m so very sorry for your loss. You’ll be in my T&Ps and I hope you get your rainbow baby as soon as you and your H are ready.

smsaulino · February 2018

I am so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

nackie · February 2018

So, so sorry. I hope your rainbow baby comes quickly

jumpy57 · February 2018

I'm so sorry for your loss. We will miss you. I hope your procedure goes well and there is a rainbow baby for you when you are ready

DanyTargaryen · February 2018

No!! I'm so so sorry.

I hope the procedure goes smoothly tomorrow and you get your rainbow soon.

spottedginger · February 2018

I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you health and healing.

southernlady07 · February 2018

So very sorry to hear this

[Deleted User] · February 2018

Sending you so many hugs. ❤❤❤ I'm so sorry it didn't go as well as we were all hoping today... I'm definitely going to miss you here, and hope to hear better news for you and your family before too very long... GL tomorrow and in the weeks to come.

knitknitread · February 2018

Sending you so many hugs ❤ I'm so sorry for your loss.

pourmeanothermocktail · February 2018

Very sorry to hear about this. Sending you wishes for a quick easy surgery and recovery.

I have heard that chances of conception after a miscarriage can be high due to still having favorable hormones present. Wishing for a wonderful rainbow baby for you soon.

Will definitely miss you around here though.

fwtx5815 · February 2018

Oh my heart sank when I saw this. I am so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family. I hope the procedure goes smoothly and you get a take-home baby very soon. Hugs.

born2run911 · February 2018

I am so sorry to hear this. Made me very sad to read. Please take care of yourself and also wishing you get the rainbow baby you so deserve as soon as you feel ready ❤️

klj0228 · February 2018

My heart just hurt as soon as I saw this. I am so sorry!

treeofcheem · February 2018

I am so sorry for your loss. I have no advice really, but my D&C was pretty smooth and uncomplicated. It was tough emotionally, but it was otherwise simple. I hope yours is too.

sclarke7 · February 2018

My heart is with you. I am deeply sorry. Wishing you hope and healing. Prayers for you tomorrow. Hugs.

adirat · February 2018

I'm so sorry to hear this. It is heartbreaking. I had a d&e with anesthesia and it went relatively smoothly. The pain afterward was similar to bad menstrual cramps and manageable with Advil. Make sure they offer you a follow up ultrasound to make sure there's no remaining tissue, which can cause infection. Good luck and please feel free to PM me if you have other questions.

yosemite2018 · February 2018

I’m so sorry to read this. Take care of yourself and I hope you get your rainbow baby. You will be missed.

stothi · February 2018

I'm so so sorry! I'm sending you so many hugs! I will miss you around here. You'll be in my thoughts. I hope all goes well and you can have your rainbow baby just as soon as you are ready. So much love to you, mama. Please take care.

Wishilivedinflorida · February 2018

I’m so sorry to hear this. I hope your procedure goes smoothly tomorrow and I’ll be praying for emotional healing. I’ve had two D&C’s, both of which went well from a medical standpoint and did help get the physical aspects taken care of quickly so I could work on and focus on the emotional side of things. Feel free to PM me with any questions.

starla · February 2018

I'm so sorry... my heart dropped and the words "oh no" fell out of my mouth as soon as I saw who started this thread. I hope you have a speedy recovery and get your rainbow baby soon. You will be missed!

xxkberxx · February 2018

I’m sorry for your loss and will be thinking of you.

marym94 · March 2018

I’m so so so sorry for your loss

Jyoung327 · March 2018

I'm so sorry to see this. I know the heartbreak and as pp mentioned experiences I had one natural mc and one d&c and would choose the d&c 10x over, if you have the choice. Take care of yourself

mrsman2018 · March 2018

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you.

megnwingate · March 2018

I’m heartbroken for you. I’m so sorry for your loss. Praying you get your rainbow baby as soon as y’all are ready!

magnolia209 · March 2018

I’m so sorry to read this. That is heartbreaking. Good luck and I hope your rainbow baby comes as soon as you are ready ❤️

ready44 · March 2018

I am so incredibly sorry to hear this. I hope that your procedure tomorrow goes as well as can be expected. Please take care of yourself, and I'lI be keeping you in my prayers as you heal. Fingers crossed that you are blessed with a rainbow baby just as soon as you are ready.

prpl11butterfly · March 2018

Thank you all so much. I had surgery this morning and it went perfectly. I had such an amazing team of nurses. Many of them shared their own stories of loss with me. I know how common this is but it was nice to know how many of them had laid on that bed in my position. I felt so much love and kindness from them (seriously, you nurses rock). My anesthesiologist was my own personal angel. Since she was a former migraine sufferer, she took extra steps to make sure the headache I had didn't go full blown. She ordered me down my imitrex to take before she put me on all the other meds. And we both got to have a good laugh about the asshole who gave me my epidural during Nolans birth. She informed me that he was gone shorty after and that I won't have to deal with him next time.

I think I needed to do it this way rather then naturally. I was scared about it happening at home while the kids were here or at work. I know it's only been about 24hrs but I think I'm in a good place emotionally and mentally. I have always considered myself a realist and that part of me is really pulling through. Obviously I'm an emotional female too so I'm having moments. But really, I feel good. DH has been great (a little too great, I'm only allowed to get up to pee since that's the 1 thing he can't do for me).

I hope you'll all forgive me when I pop in to SS post news of a rainbow baby. I'm optimistic that our final addition is not too far out. And I look forward to coming to see all your squish announcements in 7 months ❤

stothi · March 2018

@prpl11butterfly you better come back and SS post the heck out of anything you want to share with us! I'm so glad to hear things went well and that hubby's being awesome for you.

So many hugs to you!

[Deleted User] · March 2018

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So much this!!!! OMG we better not have to come hunt you down because you didn't SS AW the crud outta your rainbow, mama! ❤

adirat · March 2018

@prpl11butterfly Yes! You are always welcome here! Hugs friend. Glad it went as well as it could, today.

klj0228 · March 2018

@prpl11butterfly thank you for coming back to update us and please come back and SS the heck out of this board with your rainbow!

pourmeanothermocktail · March 2018

You're so freaking amazing and awesome and as much lurking, posting, and definitely all the blizzards you want from your rainbow I would totally welcome!

nepatsgirl0627 · March 2018

I am so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you and wishing you peace. I hope your rainbow baby comes as soon as you and your family are ready!

BostonBaby1 · March 2018

I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you get a rainbow soon.

cbobell2009 · March 2018

I am so sorry for your loss but so glad the procedure went smoothly. You are one strong lady. Please come back and update us! Thoughts and prayers to you and your family!

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