July 2018 Moms

Weekday Randoms pt.1 2/19

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Re: Weekday Randoms pt.1 2/19

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  • @kissableviv way to go!!!! Sorry totally missed if you previously commented how you score so big, but how did you do it?!?!?
  • @lindsayleigh1989 I'm sure it was a tough decision but it seems like this will be much less stressful for you, which is always good for baby.

    So it took me basically an entire week to work out my family's health insurance situation after my H lost his job. They still never sent us COBRA info, but I calculated it would cost about the same as an entire month's rent based on the premium we were paying and the percentage his employer was contributing. I went ahead and enrolled in my company's plan, which will cost the same amount per month we were spending on my entire family before. At least the coverage will be better for childbirth and all my doctors take the new insurance. Then I spent days - literally days - trying to fill out the ACA marketplace application for my husband and son and applying for financial assistance. I had to call and get help so many times. And I am college educated and an attorney...I seriously cannot imagine how someone who is just out of high school or not familiar with technology etc can fill that out. It's crazy. Anyway, i was able to get my kid on CHIP for $60/month. Awesome. But then it told me his coverage would not start until 4/1. Cue tears. I literally called the helpline and sobbed to the poor woman on the phone about how I'm pregnant, my husband lost his job, and now my 17 month old son will not be covered for an entire month. Like I couldn't speak I was sobbing so hard. I guess the hormones and all the stress caught up to me and I just lost it. She helped me appeal that and they said 99% chance my son will be enrolled as of 3/1, but I have to wait 14 days for the decision. THEN I went to enroll my H in a plan. Well apparently at the ripe old age of 33, he is too old to qualify for a catastrophic plan, which is the only kind we could afford for him. The cheapest he is eligible for is 415/mo, and he cannot get financial assistance based on my income. So I guess fingers crossed he doesn't get sick or in an accident until he gets a new job and gets on a plan, and also that all that happens before he's been uncovered for 60 days to avoid the tax penalty. 

    To add to all of this, I started monitoring my numbers for GD this week and have had a few high readings so now I'm freaking out I'll have to go on insulin and will have no  chance at avoiding induction/hospital birth, the stress of trying to figure out this new diet and time all my food around business at work, oh and I have to travel to California for work in less than 2 weeks so that will be fun while trying to control my sugars, and apparently I need to have about 6 doctors appointments all in the course of  the next 3 weeks, and plan all of that around work and mu upcoming trip and juggling childcare now that my H is working like 3 odd jobs to make ends meet while interviewing for new jobs. 

    Wow. I'm sorry. That was quite a rant. Too bad it's not Monday because I really needed a bitchfest apparently. 
  • @wildtot this was a pop up consignment event. I registered back in December and as a prego mama they gave me access to shop the night before the sale so DH and I went there 7-8:30pm. There's another one called Savvy Kids I think but it's 50 miles away so I'm not gonna bother. They have it every 6 months though, so it might be good to go back in October! You can also be a consigner and sell your own things then you get to shop before the presale. Maybe there are similar events in your area too?
  • @zande2016 wow I’m so sorry for all that stress. I hope your husband can find something soon! Glad you were able to work you pregnancy powers on some things. 

    @kissableviv nice! I’ll have to look in my area.
  • @zande2016 ugh so much stress! Hugs! I’m so sorry you have to deal with all of that plus everything else. Fxfxfxfx your husband finds something soon and everything works out
  • @kissableviv wow that is awesome!! 
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  • @zande2016 I am so sorry for all the stress you are dealing with :( fingers crossed everyone stays healthy and well! 
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  • @kissableviv that's so exciting! I love Maui so much. That's coming up soon!

    @lindsayleigh1989 *hugs* I remember you saying that you didn't feel great about your birth experience last time so I get that it's tough making these decisions. You'll do great and you're doing what's safest for you and baby. Plus, from everything I hear a planned C section is nothing like an emergency one, hopefully you have a good experience this time. 
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  • @zande2016 sorry I missed your post we may have posted at the same time. That blows about all the stress. When I had ACA it was through covered California, maybe the website was different but I was also just enrolling for myself. I had an hmo for $250/month. Ugh. Hoping your DH finds something stable soon so this can all be behind you.in the meantime as the stress wears off try to focus on yourself and baby and take care ❤️
  • @lindsayleigh1989 sorry that had to be the route you take but way to go making the decision. Not having to take the chance of getting put to sleep is definitely something I would do too. 

    @kissableviv that’s awesome! 

    @zande2016 I’m so sorry you have to deal with so much right now. *hugs* someday (hopefully soon) this will all be an uncomfortable memory. Fx that you H finds a permanent job soon!  
  • @zande2016 I am so sorry to hear about all that you are going through. Prayers that your DS gets coverage for 3/1. 

    @lindsayleigh1989 as long as you are happy with your decision, that’s what’s important. Keeping baby and Momma healthy! 
  • Thanks everyone!! I know this way I can be awake and present for her birth and won't risk missing another one :) and it will be a much more relaxed setting as well than with my first so im starting to get excited instead of feeling anxious
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  • Grrrr! I’m trying to turn my computer on and it is taking FOR EVER. It keeps shutting back off again in ththe middle I have a late 2008 MacBook, which is practically a dinosaur for Apple and I can’t afford to replace it right now. I also haven’t backed it up in a while so I’m hoping it turns on so I don’t have to worry about trying to get all the pictures of my kids off of it. 
  • Thank you for the support everyone :heart:@kissableviv I'm in New York and my county has very high cost of living, so i have no idea if what is why, but literally the very cheapest plan my H could sign up for (with a 4,000 deductible!) was 415/mo and it went up from there. He was on one when we lived in CT a few years ago and it was only 200/mo. It's very frustrating and I wish people in this country didn't have to choose between paying the bills and having healthcare coverage. 
  • @hillbillywife something similar happen to my 2010 MacBook last year and I could never get it to boot. However I was able to boot in recovery mode and save my hard drive to an external drive. So that’s still any option for you if it doesn’t boot normally. I’m sorry you have to deal with that at all though! Those things are not cheap to replace.
  • @zande2016 I'm sorry you're under so much stress!  If I were you I would forego insurance for my DH too and just hope he gets a job soon.  How much is the tax penalty if you have a lapse in coverage?  If it's less than the cost of a few months of coverage on the ACA plan then I think it's worth it.  Also, my MFM's didn't jump to insulin unless I was consistently getting high numbers even after changing my foods.  So if a certain breakfast gave me a high number and then I changed it several times to things that should work (high protein, low carb) and I was still getting high breakfast numbers then they would introduce insulin to control that breakfast number.  So if it's just a few numbers, don't stress yet.  It takes some time to get the hang of what foods work for you and which ones don't.  If you want to message me I can help you troubleshoot to try and figure out foods that might work better!
    Married 9/19/09
    Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues
    TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
    TTC#1  starting Nov. 2009
    3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui
    TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12 
    TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks 
    Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15.  Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15.  Forever in our hearts.
    TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
    BabyFruit Ticker
  • @hillbillywife oh no! Something similar happened to my old Mac book though it was my own fault (spilled a can of Comet on it.. whoops). Hopefully you can at least get your data off in recovery mode, that’s awful! 
  • Thank you @Sarafuss! It's all so new and overwhelming to me right now, but I did at least figure out that my fasting number was way too high after going to bed without a snack, and I also think my morning coffee is throwing off my after breakfast number unfortunately. Also, maybe all this stress isn't helping. I see the dietician soon and then the MFM the week after so  hopefully we'll  get it under control. I just really have to figure out a way to incorporate some more exercise in my day - it's hard because I'm driving or at work for at least 12 hours a day. 
  • @zande2016 I am so sorry for all the stress you are under! I hope your H finds something soon and everyone stays healthy. 
  • My dad just came over for Thursday lunch, which we do pretty much every week, but he told me he's moving back to Indiana. I kind of expected it, but I still feel bad. I know its because I just can't make his experience constantly super fun like it is when he visited, and he doesn't like his job and he can't find a better one, plus its cold here in VT and he hates his apt. I just wish I could have made it better for him, but it sounds like he's happy with the decision and not going back sad because we aren't including him. I can't help but be totally bitter because my DH's family is very territorial and leaves him out of everything intentionally because their time with us isn't "their time with us" unless its not inclusive of all other people who enjoy spending time with us. So for example, MIL won't count time with DS and us as time with us if her mom and dad are also there, she needs her "own time."  Anyway, kind of a bitchfest, I guess.  

    Also, my bro's probation appt is today in about 30 minutes so it will be interesting to see how that goes, and if the probation officer listens to the message I left.
  • @zande2016 exercise was always the hardest thing to figure out for me for the same reasons.  I wasn't great at keeping up with it in prior pregnancies.  If you can take 5-10 minutes after lunch or dinner to walk or maybe walk a few flights of stairs at work that can help your after-meal numbers.  I always had good fasting numbers when I would eat greek yogurt or a glass of milk and a big spoonful of peanut butter for a bedtime snack.  You can even throw a flavored greek yogurt in the freezer and it's more of a "treat" that way.
    Married 9/19/09
    Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues
    TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
    TTC#1  starting Nov. 2009
    3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui
    TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12 
    TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks 
    Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15.  Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15.  Forever in our hearts.
    TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
    BabyFruit Ticker
  • Sorry about your dad @SmashJam. Also MILs can really be the worst sometimes. 
  • @zande2016, I am also out of the house for 12 hours a day, working and commuting. I don't know what kind of job you have, but I put a reminder on my calendar to get up and walk around the floor every half hour. It's hard to do sometimes because I work in a deadline-driven job and sometimes can't leave my desk, but I try. I find that helps with my numbers, especially after lunch. I also try to remember to march in front of the TV when I am at home (helpful after dinner), and I also walk around when I'm on the phone at home. Every little bit helps!
  • @zande2016 I wish I could take some of your stress away. 

    @SmashJam I’m sorry about your dad

    @lindsayleigh1989 happy that you have made peace with a decision. It’s hard. 


    My random is DD new furniture just got delivered and she won’t stop Messi g around in there. That’s on top of being sick and home for 6 days straight. She needs to go to daycare to get some energy out. Fever just at 100 this morning so maybe if it doesn’t come back she can go tomorrow. 

    I also had a job interview today- really want to get it but doubt I will since historically I miss to much work. It would be about 5-8 dollars more an hour. 
  • @elizabethrn87 fingers crossed for you that you get the new job! And I hear you on the cabin fever, but not because of sickness just WINTER. My god I am running out of things to do and the random warm days are really not helping I think DS knows its almost time to be able to go outside and do things again and he's being more of a PITA because we are still inside, lol.
  • @zande2016, wow that all sounds stressful! It sounds like you're doing your best to figure everything out.

    Ftm here, and just learned that I'll be getting a planned c-section. I've been reading up about it, but am curious about others' experiences so that more of us can learn about it. Maybe it's worth its own thread?
  • @SmashJam sorry about your dad but it seems like he is ok with his decision. 
    @zande2016 I believe you, I'm so annoyed that they can't make healthcare truly accessible no matter where you live! Love the frozen yogurt idea you got from @Sarafuss.

    My random is that DH was awfully quiet in the car while we drove to this office - I was yelling at the radio as they were talking about gun control and I was getting heated. He later told me this shooting really affected him and he also got anxious watching an episode of call the midwife the other day where a baby is born with deformities. I felt so bad, just taking for granted I'm the only sensitive one! Poor guy.
  • @elizabethrn87 good luck!!!

    @sm05-2 I’m not opposed to it’s own thread. Not sure if we have an old one. I’ll be going for another scheduled c section. 
  • Well, I managed to take a post-lunch walk around the block - but now my feet are swollen! It's too early for this crap to start...

    @elizabethrn87 I hope you get the job!

    @kissableviv sometimes I have to remind myself that I'm not the only one who gets anxious about things with the baby, and I think in some ways it can be tougher on the partners when they feel helpless about certain things. 
  • DH wants to put a mini fridge in baby's room to make it quick/quieter/easier for eventual late night bottles. Can't decide if this is brilliant or crazy. Anytime one of us is up the dogs get up with us, so he's thinking if we can limit having to go downstairs in the middle of the night the dogs will be less disturbing to the baby and hopefully everyone can get back to sleep faster.
  • @SmashJam hugs that's hard 
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  • @sm05-2 totally worth its own thread! 

    @noideawhatshesdoing  sounds ingenious to me! But I have zero experience with bottles. So would you make them before bed then just warm them up in the middle of the night? 

    @kissableviv that’s so sweet/sad. I forget sometimes that DH has feelings and worries too even though I’m the one growing the baby

    @SmashJam so sorry about your dad, and your in laws. That sounds so annoying. 

    @elizabethrn87 good luck with your interview!!! 
  • @zande2016 sorry you're dealing with so much stress :( I hate that health insurance has to be such a burden sometimes.

    @lindsayleigh1989 I'm glad you were able to decide before going to the hospital, but I'm sorry it's not the decision you were wanting :/

    @elizabethrn87 Good luck! Let us know how the interview goes

    @kissableviv what a steal, good job finding all that!

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  • All the talk about grocery shopping reminded me that I bought a bag of Cheetos!  So now I've eaten 4 times already today.  Moink.

    @zande2016 glad you got it all figured out for the most part, but I'm sorry it was so stressful!  

    @noideawhatshesdoing my experience is limited to bottles of pumped breastmilk, so maybe that's why I'm not seeing the advantage of a mini fridge?  I thought formula was easier mixed with room temperature water? I would think in that case you just need a can of formula, a gallon of baby water, and a bottle warmer?  Sorry, I feel confused!
  • @acunamatada Yes, I think that is what he is thinking. Hoping to be able to BF, but will have to pump too, so this way once we're pumping or doing FF (whichever works out) we could have bottles ready to go or at least mostly ready to go and cut down on trips downstairs, bugging the dogs, and keeping everyone up longer than needed. I'm married to Mr. Efficiency, sometimes it's my favorite thing about him, sometimes it's just crazy bananas. Couldn't decide where this idea was sitting! He really wants to be helpful and hands on, but also, I think the whole BF bonding thing makes him feel left out, which I think is valid.

  • @noideawhatshesdoing so smart!! haha 
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  • @ashbub714 I'm a FTM too, he wants to put a bottle warmer in the room too. I joked it was baby's first mini bar. He doesn't think I'm very funny!  Also, your coworkers suck, at least you spoke up.

    @MichelleAG05 The plan is to BF and pump/bottle, so he's thinking if the bottles are already in the room, along with a warmer it would be easier and he'll be less noisy. My dogs are noisy, and our house is modern and has a lot of windows, hard surfaces, and high ceilings so sound bounces around like crazy. We'll do formula if that ends up best, and in that case wouldn't need the fridge anymore and will give it to my niece who will be 18 soon and heading to college! :'(:#
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