Just got my thyroid results and they are finally at a good level! My TSI also came back good so hopefully baby won’t have any thyroid issues (or at least hyper).
@4deep I felt that way most of season 1, stuck with it. Season 2 is better. It gets better as the seasons go on.
I will say I was disappointed/shocked with some of the major changes. I know Season 7 (airing this year), will have even more major changes. Let's see how it plays out. Still addicting. Make sure to have tissue!!!
ok how's this for random for you - WTF is up with Poppy's hair in Trolls and her magical disappearing ponytail. She is also only 1 of 3 trolls with hair accessories - others being DJ and Smidge in her clique. Is this like a mean girls thing?
yes I know i'm a grown woman overthinking a kid's movie...but this stupid movie has played on repeat for a week straight and it's really bothering me.
@ashbub714, just wanted you to know that I thought about you when putting DD down for bed tonight and tried to cut her back rub time in half. I don’t want to be the reason that her future spouse rolls their eyes every night.
Wait...who am I kidding? I’m sure I’ll find another way to cause all the eye rolls
Someone talk me out of going back to having a vivid hair color. It's a lot of maintenance and a general pain in the butt, but I'm not convincing myself not to go back to the bright side. And DH isn't helping either, in fact he seems to be encouraging it. Seriously, someone talk me out of it.
@noideawhatshesdoing Do it! What color(s)? What is the upkeep? I literally do nothing with my hair on the daily, but would love some interesting color.
Ugh feeling a little guilty. My bro who was MIA getting drunk during my SIL birth this past week is still drinking and being a dick, which I expected. He's getting ready to lose his job today from the drinking so neither will be working (she will go back in THREE WEEKS...only four weeks after the birth). She was gonna call probation on him but is worried that she will not be able to make ends meet so I think she's waiting until he gets fired today and how the probation meeting tomorrow goes. So....I called probation today and said he wasn't following the rules and he really needed some help. Not only is he not allowed to drink...he's not allowed in bars or liquor stores. He lives in a very small town and since probation stopped monitoring him 2 months ago he's basically been ignoring every rule they have for him and being a massive dick to my SIL. She thinks she has PPD and when she talked to him about it he said she was fine and she needed to focus on him. He took $200 to the casino last night and when she said no he said, "It's not your money you didn't do a thing to deserve it." and walked out. Now that the baby is here I just can't stomach the idea of him being in the same house. I guess when my SIL goes to the bathroom and leaves the baby next to him in the bassinet, if it starts to cry he just sits there and ignores it until she comes back, so she has started taking the baby to the bathroom with her. I said I wouldn't call but...I couldn't not. And now I feel bad. I hope they don't find out but they'll suspect me the minute probation sanctions him because he thinks he can't get caught. Sorry for the book I just had to confess and I can't tell anyone what I did!
@smashjam that's basically an impossible situation to be in and you'd probably be feeling guilty right now no matter what you did...if you didn't call, you would be feeling bad about that because clearly he needs help and this could be the only way of forcing some help on him. I am so sorry you're in that situation.
@SmashJam ugh I’m so sorry you’re in that position, @zande2016 is right, you’d feel guilty no matter what decision you made. He might get angry, but he’s clearly in a dark place and needs help. I hope he accepts whatever help is offered.
Today’s my birthday! Looking forward to a busy day today!
But also, my dog won’t put at weight in his front paw/ leg, so I’m going to have to make room for a trip to the vet. Boo. He’s a mini doxi, and he’s 6 years old so I guess he’s old enough to start worrying about joints and stuff.
Happy birthday! Hope your pup is ok!!
Meagan Married 6.12.10 DS 11.8.12 Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
@SmashJam as hard as it is you probably did the right thing. You acted out of care for the baby and for them. He needs to get some help and isn't even willing to acknowledge he has a problem it seems like. I am so sorry you are having to deal with this
@brittany121087 where did you get those chips?! I feel like I need them in my life.
@kissableviv not sure if this has already been mentioned, but I have a Honda Pilot. It has third row seating (with seatbelts for 8). We have gotten 3 car seats in the middle seat when friends have come to visit. I love everything about it basically.
Meagan Married 6.12.10 DS 11.8.12 Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
@SmashJam ugh that’s such an awful situation to be in! I’m so sorry you have to deal with that. I think you did the right thing. It sounds like he shouldn’t be around the baby without getting his act together first.
I’m sorry @smashjam. What a terrible situation all around. I know you feel guilty but you did the right thing. It’s got to be so hard to sit back and watch your brother ruin his life. Several years ago my family was in a similar situation with my brother. It’s awful to watch and you feel helpless. Hugs
@SmashJam I am so sorry you are in this awful situation. Unfortunately, the right thing in these situations is often the hardest thing. He needs to get some help (hopefully) while the baby is still tiny. Is this their first?
Meagan Married 6.12.10 DS 11.8.12 Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
@noideawhatshesdoing I don't color my hair but I'm thinking this is a good time to rock it after all! Can you choose something that will be a little less maintenance by the time the baby comes? My hair is growing like weeds and I love it! I'm treating myself to some layers in a week.
@SmashJam what @zande2016 said. It's an impossible situation and it seems to me that there is no winning:( sorry you have to go through this stress.
@stlmegst thanks for the additional suggestion! I love all the feedback I got from my Bump moms:)
I have back to back early morning calls. I slept well but could have used another hour. I'm excited because are going to a mega consignment sale tonight and hopefully we get to do some shopping!!
Thank you for all the support guys! Part of me feels like I took the power out of her hands but I think she's afraid of what he would do if he found out she did it. Last time I only gave in and outed myself because he thought it was her and he was being verbally abusive.
@stlmegs it is their first. Unfortunately, I think they both thought a baby would fix him because he'd want to get better but he is actually being so cold towards her that its like its almost worse! He's been an addict of some kind their entire marriage (and by this I mean, an addict with no interest in fixing the problem, not an addict actively attempting to stay sober. I wanted to clarify because of the ladies on here with their own family addiction struggles) but they haven't been on birth control for that whole time. On another note...I am considering the Pilot for the next car (although I will have this Subaru crosstrek for the foreseeable future. I am sick of not having the space to haul people, things, dogs and babies at the same time. I feel like with my old forester that was easier but I still wouldn't have been able to fit other people besides two babies in the car. Nice to hear someone's opinion on it!
@smashjam that is just a tough situation. I really hope they see the help you are trying to give them. It is really sad to watch someone you love in such a bad situation.
Meagan Married 6.12.10 DS 11.8.12 Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
@smashjam So sorry you're going through this. As the other ladies have said, it's hard either way, but you did the right thing. Sometimes doing the right thing is hard, and doesn't feel good to do it. However, this could potentially help your SIL out, at the very least possibly get her out of the verbal abuse right now while she's dealing with ppd and taking care of a brand new baby. I'm proud of you for stepping up and trying to get them both the help they need! I really hate that you can't help people who don't want to be helped. In the end it'll work when he's ready to change. Praying for all of you!
@SmashJam hugs girl. You did the right thing. This is so hard to hear about and it's got to be even harder to be so close to it. Your brother needs help and clearly he isn't going to get it on his own. Hopefully this will be the kick in the pants he needs, although addiction is really tough. Was he drinking this heavily earlier on in the pregnancy, or is this part of how he's dealing with the stress of the changes? Does your SIL have any family nearby for support? Sounds like she could use someone, especially if she's feeling she's got PPD. So hard, but you have nothing to feel guilty about.
@flockofmoosen3@stlmegs@kissableviv I used to have hot pink hair, and I loved it. But the vivids are not for the faint of heart, ice cold showers, always a hat in the sun, and basically wash it as little as you can stand it. Plus you can get some color transfer from time to time on towels/pillow cases, etc. The brighter colors like pink fade fast, so I started using oVertone to keep up the color to not be in the stylist chair every 3 weeks. It was pretty awesome except it smells like a minty toothpaste and our shower was pink for a long time. You can take warm showers with it though. I thought for sure when I put the pink in I would regret it in a few days, but I found I never felt more like myself than I did with the pink.
Went back to dark for the fall because I didn't want to take cooler showers over the winter. And I've had more mahogany red-brown since, it's pretty, but I'm bored. Also, turns out LO doesn't let me take warm showers anyway, I get nauseous and itchy.
I still have some of the pink left over and I'm itching to see what that does in my current color rather than going in and having it lightened again first. I think an extreme red or purple would be easiest to transition from my current color since there is already so much red in it. Possibly the pink, but it would be really dark. DH is pushing for dark emerald, but that would require me getting my hair lightened again first to get the red out.
I even turned to my mom and grandma to talk me out of it, but both keep telling me to do it. No one will tell me no, so I think I'm going to experiment with what I have already and see if I like it. If not, it will fade and then I'll figure out where to go next.
@noideawhatshesdoing she thankfully has so much family around as they are in her hometown. THey moved up to NH in April ish of last year and my bro was drinking super heavily before that but got put on "unsupervised" probation when they moved up here so he kept drinking way heavily and just being verbally abusive. When they got pregnant I called probation on him then and ratted him out and they made him move back, which I did mostly so she wouldn't be alone with him anymore and would have support for her pregnancy. So then I guess he was better, he had check ins at probation and alcohol classes, and then once they told him he was "doing so great" that he didn't need check in he went back downhill. It's so weird I think he's bi-polar, or manic-depressive or something (sorry if I misuse these terms, I know we have ladies with bipolar diagnoses on here) because one week he was like, "I've never been happier! I feel so at peace with mom's death anniversary!" and literally the next week he called and was like, "I'm struggling again and my life is so hard and I am drinking to deal with it." and I was like, literally nothing about your life changed. It's like a switch was flipped in his brain and all of a sudden everything he thought was great was awful and filled him with anxeity. He says he's having 200 anxiety attacks a week, which I am not even sure is possible. He's had these swings his whole life, and I might be the only person who recognizes it as a pattern, each side of the swing is about 50% of the year kind of split up either in every other quarter or 50/50.
@SmashJam ugh, thats so rough. I'm glad your SIL has family around, hopefully she can lean on them for some support and maybe a safe place if needed. Sorry about your bro, I know first hand how hard it is to be on the sidelines with a sibling that is in self destruct mode. My brother used to self medicate his anxiety with a variety of interesting things, and it wasn't good. Hopefully by alerting probation that will force your brother to get the help he needs with his addiction and possibly get into a program that will help him with whatever mental health issues he is dealing with. You're a good sister for doing what you did.
So sorry you're going through all this with your BIL, @SmashJam. If it helps boost your spirits at all, I also agree that I think you did the best thing. It sounds like he may need a lot of help, too, if he has mental health issues to deal with (speaking as someone who has had mental health issues to deal with).
@noideawhatshesdoing I'm right there with you! I was a vibrant purple before getting ku and decided to go back to basic dark brown. DH keeps saying, "just go back to the purple! It looks sooo good on you! Spend the money on yourself." Dude, it's a pretty penny to go back to that and then the maintenance of it is a good $60-70 every 4-6 weeks. Thats money that can go towards baby (i.e. diapers, college fund, diapers...).
Oh hell, who am I kidding, please do it!!
ETA: I didn't read the rest of the comments before posting. Overtone helped a lot with my purple fading. Something that helped get rid of the color in the shower was spraying Clorox shower spray afterwards. It released the dye on the walls.
@SmashJam more often than not addicts self medicate MH issues. He might be too caught up in his addiction to even notice the patterns/changes. Hopefully his PO gets the help he needs and then some. And more importantly, he sticks with it. I’m glad your SIL has family nearby, that’s such a helpless feeling. For you too, I’m sure. Like they say, love the addict not the addiction and take it one day/hurdle at a time.
@SmashJam I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. As everyone has said, it is a tough position to be in. I would have done the same thing as you. I would rather rat my brother out and know he is going to get the help he needs and possibly hate me for it, than to see him continue down a destructive path which affects his wife and baby, as well as his entire family. Hopefully, he gets the help he needs, including some mental behavior health. sending you creepy interweb hugs!
@SmashJam nothing about this is easy. I'm so, so sad for her, for you, and for him because he obviously has a major problem. My BIL died a year ago. He was not healthy at all, but at least held down a good job. He drank way too much, gambled way too much, and I'm pretty sure was getting in to some heavier drugs. There were times that I wanted to call the cops on him because I knew he was driving drunk, or getting high while the kids were with him. Heck, he'd smoke weed on a walk and then come back to my parents' house, which is much less of a deal than what else I thought he was in to. He was not a great dad, and not a great husband. And then he died, and left my sister and her kids in despair. Luckily she has a good job, and luckily her boys have good role models. But he's still gone forever, and there's no hope of seeing what their life could have been like had he gotten better. He tried to stop drinking (on his own, usually to prove a point after DUI) several times, but always went back to it. My sister would give him information on AA, and she would call Alanon for herself to get guidance. I would have much rather preferred he be here and be better for her and for them (because she obviously loved him to put up with his shit) than to be in jail or dead. You did the right thing. Maybe he'll be forced to get help. Maybe he'll be forced to see how much help he needs. But I'd rather see that for your SIL and your entire family than the alternative. *hugs* I'm here if you need to talk.
@SmashJam you’ve gotten lots of good responses, so just to echo: I think you made the right choice. It’s hard, but for the sake of his wife an baby he really need help that he’s not willing to get on his own. I hope everything goes ok from here on out.
@SmashJam - I'm so sorry, I don't have much more to add from PP but you did the right thing. You need to trust your gut. You are right that the person needs to WANT help - but you also are understandably concerned for SIL and the new baby. @noideawhatshesdoing - i've been wanting to change my color too - I've been thinking rose gold rather than vivid pink - that's as vivid as I can get in my job.
I finally have a random to contribute. I had surgery for scoliosis when I was 12, and my doctor needs my scans to see if I'm able to have an epidural or not. After calling the hospital where I had the surgery and the orthopedist who saw me all those years ago, along with some phone tag, the orthopedist's office will send me my scans so I can show my doctor. It would also be helpful for me to know about that surgery, as I was 12 and was not paying much attention to the ins and outs of it.
Re: Weekday Randoms pt.1 2/19
@4deep I felt that way most of season 1, stuck with it. Season 2 is better. It gets better as the seasons go on.
I will say I was disappointed/shocked with some of the major changes. I know Season 7 (airing this year), will have even more major changes. Let's see how it plays out. Still addicting. Make sure to have tissue!!!
yes I know i'm a grown woman overthinking a kid's movie...but this stupid movie has played on repeat for a week straight and it's really bothering me.
Flu swabs are only 70 percent accurate anyone. I’m not convinced this isn’t the flu.
I hope your little one feels better soon.
Wait...who am I kidding? I’m sure I’ll find another way to cause all the eye rolls
And of course as a mother in law you’ll have to cause some eye rolls! It’s your job lol
What color(s)?
What is the upkeep? I literally do nothing with my hair on the daily, but would love some interesting color.
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
@kissableviv not sure if this has already been mentioned, but I have a Honda Pilot. It has third row seating (with seatbelts for 8). We have gotten 3 car seats in the middle seat when friends have come to visit. I love everything about it basically.
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
@SmashJam what @zande2016 said. It's an impossible situation and it seems to me that there is no winning:( sorry you have to go through this stress.
@stlmegst thanks for the additional suggestion! I love all the feedback I got from my Bump moms:)
I have back to back early morning calls. I slept well but could have used another hour. I'm excited because are going to a mega consignment sale tonight and hopefully we get to do some shopping!!
@stlmegs it is their first. Unfortunately, I think they both thought a baby would fix him because he'd want to get better but he is actually being so cold towards her that its like its almost worse! He's been an addict of some kind their entire marriage (and by this I mean, an addict with no interest in fixing the problem, not an addict actively attempting to stay sober. I wanted to clarify because of the ladies on here with their own family addiction struggles) but they haven't been on birth control for that whole time. On another note...I am considering the Pilot for the next car (although I will have this Subaru crosstrek for the foreseeable future. I am sick of not having the space to haul people, things, dogs and babies at the same time. I feel like with my old forester that was easier but I still wouldn't have been able to fit other people besides two babies in the car. Nice to hear someone's opinion on it!
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
Went back to dark for the fall because I didn't want to take cooler showers over the winter. And I've had more mahogany red-brown since, it's pretty, but I'm bored. Also, turns out LO doesn't let me take warm showers anyway, I get nauseous and itchy.
I still have some of the pink left over and I'm itching to see what that does in my current color rather than going in and having it lightened again first. I think an extreme red or purple would be easiest to transition from my current color since there is already so much red in it. Possibly the pink, but it would be really dark. DH is pushing for dark emerald, but that would require me getting my hair lightened again first to get the red out.
I even turned to my mom and grandma to talk me out of it, but both keep telling me to do it. No one will tell me no, so I think I'm going to experiment with what I have already and see if I like it. If not, it will fade and then I'll figure out where to go next.
Oh hell, who am I kidding, please do it!!
ETA: I didn't read the rest of the comments before posting. Overtone helped a lot with my purple fading. Something that helped get rid of the color in the shower was spraying Clorox shower spray afterwards. It released the dye on the walls.
sending you creepy interweb hugs!
Married: 6/27/2008
DS: 3/14/2010 Planned, PG first try
M/C 6/2012
DD: 4/22/2013 Planned, UnDx Infertility, PG on our own
BFP: 10/28/2016 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE!
M/C 12/12/2016
BFP: 10/27/2017 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE
EDD: 7/2/2018
@WorkinWeezel I’m so sorry about your brother.
@noideawhatshesdoing - i've been wanting to change my color too - I've been thinking rose gold rather than vivid pink - that's as vivid as I can get in my job.