Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Weekly Randoms 1/1
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
I cant even tag everyone I want to hug right now. I promise I’m not that tough. I just don’t have a choice but to roll with the punches.
@sparklingdiamond im glad everything went alright and you get some rest! If they aren’t sick of me yet, I doubt anyone will be sick of anything lol
Gotta love when our minds turn against us.
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
I don't understand why I can't catch a break. I came home to dog shit everywhere and then once I had cleaned that up and cleaned the dog, then the dog vomits everywhere. It smells like shit so I'm pretty sure he at his shit. I'm ready to get rid of him.
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
@charlestonchew. That's so awful!!!!
Not on the same level, but I was trying to wake up DS from his nap and DD was running around the room grunting. I asked if she was pooping and she said no. Like a minute later, she handed me a turd. Sooooooo that was fun!
I think we need to potty train her soon.
@sparklingdiamond I’m glad you got it done! Rest up!!
@sparklingdiamond No one is going to get sick of updates from you. Please, please, PLEASE keep updating us.
I know our dogs are super spoiled that I'm most days with them, but when we're gone for a few hours, they definitely act out in small ways.
And as bad as this sounds, once you have a kid them he dog poo and vomit bother you less. Brad used to gag when he'd have to clean up any dog messes in the house. Now he doesn't bat an eye.
@sandbar517, I am still taking unisom for MS. I tried weaning off it a few weeks back and got sick right away. I may try stopping again in a month. For me, I have weird dreams and hear DD, but I think that happened before I was ever on the unisom. My H has the same problem.
I am sorry so so many of you are having tough starts to the year. This dead of winter time is always tough. I just want to say that I really enjoy the discussion here. I don’t participate as much as I wish I did only because I am always mobile and the App HATES me! I spend so much time getting frustrated that I just leave before posting. Just know that I am typically here reading and rooting for all of you. Even my love tits only work half the time.
On another note, today I sneezed while pulling down my pants to go pee. So much pee shot out of me, I thought for a minute that my water broke. That’s a good enough reason to go home at 4:15, right?
Princess @Poppy0419 your hubby really needs to get it together. I am so sorry he is behaving this way after everything you have been through. I really hope he figures his shit out, soon.
@sparklingdiamond I am glad you went ahead with the amnio. Rest up! I know its hard with tax season, but better to take a day or two now, than later in busy season.
@lincbeesmom ugh. I have been having the worst indigestion, too! I am sure the pizza I ate yesterday isn't helping hahah
I also laugh and whizz (lizzing).
@JNCPro3130 @ivyvines6 We have a few students that were taken out of public school because the teachers relayed to the parents that their kids were not as perfect as the parents believe. They put the kids in Montessori schools and then within 1-2 years the kids were back in public. Some parents don't get what children would thrive in those schools. I love the idea, but it really does depend on the child, not what I would want for the child. It's great that you two parent that way already which will naturally lead to them adapting well in that setting.
DH- Uhmmmmm, it's a basketball game. And this weekend we have your cousin party Saturday. And your mom's final Christmas on Friday. We literally have a full weekend. Are you ok?
Me- Oh yeah. Well, it was good while it lasted. I'm going to sleep now.
I'll just mark this down as the official moment pregnancy brain has taken over.
HOLY CRAP THE SEPTEMBER 2018 BOARD IS OPEN NOW.
I remember when we were all doing our intros
I'm sorry everyone is so stressed right now. I think the first few days of January are always kind of intense. Here's hoping it gets better!
I'm happy to hear it went well. You were definitely in my thoughts yesterday. Sorry I’ve been MIA, back to work and then had to sign for my new car last night as they did total my car from that damn deer.
The September board is up? Holy crap! It just seems like yesterday we all were starting our journey. Wow. This pregnancy is going fast...
I agree with @JNCPro3130 I taught kindergarten for 8 years before I moved to 5th (not my choice, I miss it!) The kids from Montessori preschools were some of my most well behaved kids and very independent. I like the idea of sending mine to a Montessori pre-K but it’s sooooo expensive. My friends daughter attends one and loves it!