@alinafed I did the Harmony testing last time. We were super happy that we did it, because the result was a huge reassurance when the 12 week u/s showed a soft marker. Also crazy to find out that we were having a boy before I was even 12 weeks! I will definitely be doing it again this time around; OHIP will even pay for it because I'm AMA
Ooh, I binge watched Scandal too! Jane the Virgin was also really good, though a totally different genre. I spend a lot of time on Netflix when I was on the cough for hours bf'ing my son
@lakesideknitter Big hugs to you! I’ll be thinking of you and your family. Keep us updated. I don’t think you’re being AW at all! This is what we’re here for!
@ecwk I feel so sick in the evenings and have thrown up about 3 nights this week.
@msmonalisavito no cooking happening here. We’re eating grilled cheese and breakfast for dinner pretty routinely. DH made a frozen pizza the other night and it was making me gag all the way in our bedroom.
@lakesideknitter I hope all is okay with your mom. Thinking of you.
Thanks for all the FX, ladies. She ended up having another seizure (both were grand maul) in the emergency room. I am not sure yet if she had more overnight. We will know more this morning after the neurologist takes a look at her scans. She is still conscious and lucid between seizures, so that is a good sign. She is very frustrated to be stuck in the hospital, and we are all extra worried because she had stomach cancer years ago that did invade her lymph nodes (meaning it could be lurking anywhere inside her body, especially her other lymph nodes and brain). All of her scans have been clean since then, but it is always in the back of our minds. Again, thanks for your kind words. Fingers crossed that she just needs a med adjustment or something.
Me: 28, DH: 40 Married 9/28/13 DS born 11/12/15 EDD 8/13/18
@lakesideknitter I have everything crossed for you that it's just a need for a med adjustment. Thank you for updating us. Big hugs!
If the hospital allows it, is it possible to bring her some comfort items from home like a quilt or slippers or something? That might help with the frustration being in the hospital.
@lakesideknitter Thank you for the update! So sorry to hear about your mom and that she's feeling frustrated right now. So very glad to hear that she's lucid and otherwise doing okay. I'll be sending positive thoughts your way that you get some answers soon.
@mrsbubbles-2 yes - we are headed up there today, so I'll be able to bring her some things. She is a crafter and a reader, so I will be sure to bring her some knitting needles and books to keep her mind occupied. Hopefully it will be a short stay regardless.
Me: 28, DH: 40 Married 9/28/13 DS born 11/12/15 EDD 8/13/18
@lakesideknitter thank you for the update, I’m so glad you’ll be there with her today. I hope the scans come through cancer free and that they provide clear images of what is causing this so you have a good plan of how to fix it!
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
@lakesideknitter Thinking of you and your family. Hopefully you will get some answers soon.
In regards to cooking/ food: I haven't experience any MS and I'm not really nauseated but food does not interest me and when I eat a meal I feel gross after. Also, I don't have much interest in sweets which is just the most foreign concept to me. Who am I?!
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2016 - dx with super low ovarian reserve; failed cycle with clomid, failed IUI, 2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks May 2020 FET; BFN July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate Oct 2020 BFP!
@msmonalisavito - I've got a Pinterest board dedicated to easy (usually 30 min or 1 pot) meals that I can throw together for the littles / DH. Favorite is dice up chicken breasts, broccoli, bell pepper and red onion, toss with olive oil, salt, pepper and paprika, throw in some cherry tomatoes and cook at 475 for 15 - 20 min or until the chicken is done. Serve over rice (we buy the kind in the bag that you microwave for 1:30) easy, tasty and healthy.
They also sell the "ready pasta" that you just microwave so I always have penne and spaghetti sauce on hand then just saute up some ground beef or veggies to throw in the sauce.
Anyone else finding it hard to want to cook anything? I've hit that point where food is turning me off but I have to feed my littles and DH.
Nothing sounds appetizing anymore.
Definitely struggling with this, and I dread grocery shopping day because I have NO IDEA what to get and what to cook for the week. I buy I ingredients for like 3 meals that sound ok at the moment and figure it out as the week goes by, usually filling in with take out.
y'all I am really really struggling. I'm going to try and get this out in the least AW way because I'm not looking for attention but I'm very conflicted and confused right now. In April of this year I left my husband because he was an abusive asshole and got arrested for sexual assault on another woman. The night I found out I packed up whatever I could fit in my car and loaded up my two kids and just started driving from Texas to California where my parents live. I've been living with them ever since and I've finally just started to get my life in order. I started a new career in August and I am VERY happy with it, I'm good at it and I'm trusted to do what I do. I also started dating my now boyfriend in August and we've just recently made it to the "I love you" stage and realized we are actually very serious about each other.
Enter yesterday and a BFP. Obviously we were not trying for a baby. Yes we are adults and understand the consequences of having unprotected sex but to be fair, I was on the pill and did take it at the same time every single day. So anyways, I told BF last night and he reacted very very well considering the news. He's obviously asked me what my plans are and I've told him there's no doubt in my mind this baby was given to us for a reason and I'm not taking that lightly.
Here's my conflict. My parents. They have been SO WONDERFUL throughout everything. When I first got to CA they basically had my kids 24/7 so I could fall apart. They've rearranged their lives to accommodate the 3 of us moving in with them and we're just now all kind of finding equilibrium and getting into a good rhythm, how in the world do I break the news to my dear sweet parents that I've been irresponsible enough to conceive another child out of wedlock when they have only met my BF one time? How do I bring another baby into this world that I'm just starting to figure out again? How do I break it to my two kids who are just now adjusting to a new normal without daddy and the whole world they knew their first few years of life that they're going to have another sibling? I just feel like this is way too much for me to handle. Is it too early to blame hormones on this overwhelming feeling of drowning? I'm going to be ok, right?
@boymom4eva I'm so sorry you're in such a crazy situation. I wish I had advice, or btdt wisdom, but all I can really offer are random internet hugs and the hope that it all works out for the best.
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@boymom4eva first, deep breath. You’ve got a lot going on right now and, most importantly, you have put yourself and your kids in a safe space. Take things one day at a time. Focus on how far you’ve already come in the few months since you’ve moved to CA. And as far as telling your parents, there’s nothing my kids could tell me that would make me love them less. Be honest. You’ll figure this out, mama! And we’re here for you
@boymom4eva I'm so sorry you're in such a crazy situation. I wish I had advice, or btdt wisdom, but all I can really offer are random internet hugs and the hope that it all works out for the best.
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@mrslittlemac it worked going out of the app. Thank you!
@boymom4eva that’s a lot. I have no real advice either other than both kids and parents usually react better than you think, and good for you for getting out of what sounds like a terrible situation. That took bravery, so you’ve got what it takes, and you’ll figure this out too.
@boymom4eva First off, kudos to you for getting yourself and your boys out of a bad situation. That could not have been easy. I’m sorry you are in another complicated situation. Only you can decide if it’s a situation you want to bring a child into, if that’s even a question for you (I don’t know your religious or moral beliefs). It sounds like you have a good support system in California and like your parents will be supportive when you tell them. If you are committed to having the baby, I’m sure you will find a way to make it work. I would also advise you to speak to a divorce lawyer in Texas ASAP if you got married in Texas and your divorce is not final (I wasn’t clear on that from your post); under Texas law the baby would be presumed to be your husband’s, and he could make things even more complicated for you.
*TTC History*
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
@boymom4eva First off, kudos to you for getting yourself and your boys out of a bad situation. That could not have been easy. I’m sorry you are in another complicated situation. Only you can decide if it’s a situation you want to bring a child into, if that’s even a question for you (I don’t know your religious or moral beliefs). It sounds like you have a good support system in California and like your parents will be supportive when you tell them. If you are committed to having the baby, I’m sure you will find a way to make it work. I would also advise you to speak to a divorce lawyer in Texas ASAP if you got married in Texas and your divorce is not final (I wasn’t clear on that from your post); under Texas law the baby would be presumed to be your husband’s, and he could make things even more complicated for you.
Stuck in a box.
Thank you to everyone for the kind words, I may seem like a pretty strong mama for getting out but it's amazing how strong you can be when you have to be. We are definitely still married but we were actually married in California (we eloped). I'm absolutely committed to having the baby, that's not even a question for me. I have endometriosis, I was on BC, and I only have one fallopian tube so for me to even be pregnant is miraculous. I have been waiting to legally divorce my husband until his trial is over with the sexual assault charge because I feel like if he's convicted and sent to prison the divorce and custody will be much easier for me, however, now that I'm KTFU with another man's baby it's high time I get moving on the divorce. Now I need to figure out where I need an attorney because we were married in CA but lived in TX. My life should be a soap opera.
@boymom4eva you can do it! Just take it a step at a time. You don't have to figure it all out today, tomorrow, or next month even! Everyone has awhile to get used to the idea.
@princesslockness that meal is MY jam, and I forgot about it until now. I am going to make it after Christmas, lol.
@boymom4eva In that case, I would for sure file for divorce in California, California has much better family laws than Texas. I know in Texas you have to have lived there for 6 months to file, but I suspect that is not the case in Cali. Depending on what part of the state you are in, there are likely really good legal resources for you based on the circumstances with your ex, so you can potentially speak with someone for free and figure out how to get the ball rolling (although you actually may be better off waiting until after his trial if you are looking to terminate his parental rights as well). Best of luck with all of it, I am sorry it all seems overwhelming right now, but you definitely seem to have the resolve to handle the challenges!
*TTC History*
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
Re: Weekly Randoms W/O 12/17
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
Nothing sounds appetizing anymore.
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
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DSD: 17
DS: 4(Nov'14)
MMC:8/17
MMC: 1/18
BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19
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August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
@ecwk I think I'm only nauseous MOTN right now. Pretty much every time I get up to pee I feel like throwing up. But I'm mostly ok during the day.
HX
DSD: 17
DS: 4(Nov'14)
MMC:8/17
MMC: 1/18
BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19
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@msmonalisavito no cooking happening here. We’re eating grilled cheese and breakfast for dinner pretty routinely. DH made a frozen pizza the other night and it was making me gag all the way in our bedroom.
@lakesideknitter I hope all is okay with your mom. Thinking of you.
Married 9/28/13
DS born 11/12/15
EDD 8/13/18
If the hospital allows it, is it possible to bring her some comfort items from home like a quilt or slippers or something? That might help with the frustration being in the hospital.
We're here if you need us
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
DD1: 8/2014
TTC #2: 6/2017
BFP 8/3/2017 | CP 8/4
BFP 10/16/2017 | CP 10/21
BFP 12/18/2017 | CP 12/28
BFP 2/15/2018 | EDD: November 2nd | It's a girl!
DD2: 10/2018
Married 9/28/13
DS born 11/12/15
EDD 8/13/18
Big hugs and hoping you guys get some definitive answers soon!!
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
In regards to cooking/ food: I haven't experience any MS and I'm not really nauseated but food does not interest me and when I eat a meal I feel gross after. Also, I don't have much interest in sweets which is just the most foreign concept to me. Who am I?!
2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
May 2020 FET; BFN
July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
Oct 2020 BFP!
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@msmonalisavito - I've got a Pinterest board dedicated to easy (usually 30 min or 1 pot) meals that I can throw together for the littles / DH. Favorite is dice up chicken breasts, broccoli, bell pepper and red onion, toss with olive oil, salt, pepper and paprika, throw in some cherry tomatoes and cook at 475 for 15 - 20 min or until the chicken is done. Serve over rice (we buy the kind in the bag that you microwave for 1:30) easy, tasty and healthy.
They also sell the "ready pasta" that you just microwave so I always have penne and spaghetti sauce on hand then just saute up some ground beef or veggies to throw in the sauce.
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
I am so sorry that you and your family are going through this. I hope you get some answers today and FX for a speedy recovery.
Enter yesterday and a BFP. Obviously we were not trying for a baby. Yes we are adults and understand the consequences of having unprotected sex but to be fair, I was on the pill and did take it at the same time every single day. So anyways, I told BF last night and he reacted very very well considering the news. He's obviously asked me what my plans are and I've told him there's no doubt in my mind this baby was given to us for a reason and I'm not taking that lightly.
Here's my conflict. My parents. They have been SO WONDERFUL throughout everything. When I first got to CA they basically had my kids 24/7 so I could fall apart. They've rearranged their lives to accommodate the 3 of us moving in with them and we're just now all kind of finding equilibrium and getting into a good rhythm, how in the world do I break the news to my dear sweet parents that I've been irresponsible enough to conceive another child out of wedlock when they have only met my BF one time? How do I bring another baby into this world that I'm just starting to figure out again? How do I break it to my two kids who are just now adjusting to a new normal without daddy and the whole world they knew their first few years of life that they're going to have another sibling? I just feel like this is way too much for me to handle. Is it too early to blame hormones on this overwhelming feeling of drowning? I'm going to be ok, right?
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Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
Try logging out and logging in again, hopefully that works!
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
@princesslockness that meal is MY jam, and I forgot about it until now. I am going to make it after Christmas, lol.
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+