@marcus7676 I've heard a little bit regarding post partum lately mainly lurking other months. If it's not out of line to ask, what does this mean for mom? How are the emotions different? I apologize if it's out of line to ask!
@Miz_Liz oh my gosh I feel you.. we went out for breakfast on Sunday and got there 5 minutes after they stopped breakfast and I cried right there in the restaurant all I wanted was a fruit bowl & a bagel and nothing else was going to satisfy me.
but I now might have to send DH on a milkshake run cause that sounds wayyy too good!
Whoa @doxiemoxie212 this is really intense. Took a break from reading to come back and thank you now back to the thread. I don't know if I'm more fascinated or scared now lol!
Guys, all I want to eat right now is prosciutto and salami. But since they're on the no-no list, no craving satisfaction here. Bacon is just not an acceptable substitute. Also, my homemade cranberry sauce is usually my favorite Thanksgiving food. But this year it just makes my mouth taste really metallic. Stupid pregnancy taste buds. But DH and I went to see the new Thor movie Saturday at one of those theaters that serves food and beer. DH specifically picked out a beer I would like so that I could have a taste. Bless his heart, because I know IPAs wouldn't normally be his first pick.
Me: 30 | DH: 31 Met: August 2006 Married: July 2012 TTC #1 since June 2016
@icecubeinthedesert they say if you microwave deli meat it’s fine - obviously it would be nasty hot but I wonder if you could nuke it then chill it in the fridge and be in the clear?
@Miz_Liz oh, there were some emojis sprinkled in. Good to know!
I was going to say, the second half is that I'm doing a little better now. We have an appointment to find out the sex of the baby next weekend so that is something to look forward to! I am going to try being more active in this group now that I've got a little less on my plate. I'm excited to get to know everybody!
@Miz_Liz & @icecubeinthedesert yep I did that a couple times with my first pregnancy. Microwave it then throw it in the freezer for a few minutes so you can eat it cold. I felt a bit crazy doing it but it definitely helped with a couple cravings!
@Miz_Liz, I've read that too, but I'd think that the fat in the prosciutto and salami might just melt out and not be the same. Plus I think some of the concern is also in the addition of nitrates to cured meats. Which I guess means I should also limit my bacon as well. I'm going to eat all the things come end of June!!!!
Me: 30 | DH: 31 Met: August 2006 Married: July 2012 TTC #1 since June 2016
@Miz_Liz don’t mess with a pregnant woman’s food. Made me think of this funny buzzfeed I saw about pregnant women. And my husband name is Cory so it’s extra relevant.
Lurking from July you are preaching to the choir.... I am dying why do people hate organization so much?! also if the board decides they want a free for all i will likely change my lurker status here to member since i have an 85 % chance if having a june maybe naturally and 100% if i opt for a repeat c section
@lindsayleigh1989 so I’ll caveat this by saying both my husband and I are July babies and obviously we’re both fine (as are our mothers), but when I told my doctor friends I was due early June, both their reactions were, “oh thank god not July! All the new people start July 1, so July is not a great time to be in a hospital.” I was like whaaaaaaaat? But it turns out it’s been pretty well documented: https://www.cnn.com/2016/07/04/health/dont-go-to-the-hospital-in-july/index.html
(so just saying maybe there’s more than one reason to hang with us in June lol lol)
I feel like I haven't been online for more than a hot minute for a month. Ugh!
Catching up: @ramblebee - I literally open the Board Organization thread every day to see what threads are supposed to be started, and half of the time I'm the one who starts them every week, so definitely don't feel bad that you don't remember what ones are started when!
@lindsayleigh1989 - I lurk July when I'm bored, and you'd definitely fit with us. Feel free to hang out if the crazies over there decide they want a free-for-all. They'll eventually see why it's a horrible idea. I also don't understand it. Who the hell wants 10 intro threads on the first page, and 15 threads about morning sickness and constipation? I've said it before, but July is the most BabyCenter-esque board I've seen in a long time with that ish.
@stephcat421 I haven't looked at the link @doxiemoxie212 shared, but I encourage you to read up on postpartum experiences. PPD and PPA are serious and so many women go undiagnosed. The so-called "baby blues" hit many women 7-10 days postpartum due to the rush of hormones after giving birth, breastfeeding, etc. But for a lot of women, it's much more than just baby blues. While the media is giving this issue more attention (Chrissy Teigan recently spoke about it), doctors / spouses / friends all miss signs. In my last BMB, I'd say at least half the women (35 out of 70) ended up seeking help from their doctors (via therapy / meds). Giving birth and being home with a newborn can be a very isolating and difficult experience for numerous reasons - physical trama, emotional trama, sleep deprivation, etc. I'm not going to lie - - the first six months of DS's life were some of the hardest days in my life (and I've had a number of challenges). I don't handle sleep deprivation well and combined with breastfeeding difficulties, seeing my husband sleep and go to work daily, and the loneliness of being home with a baby all day, were so so hard. I think everyone should educate themselves and their partners while pregnant about PPD/PPA/Baby Blues so you and your partner can recognize signs and symptoms. It took me a long time to say I needed help and my husband was clueless as to how much I was feeling.
I don't to scare you or anything because for some women, they don't have these experiences. But many do and it is worth knowing about - - if not for you, for your friend, or sister, or coworker. Giving birth is hard physically. Taking care of a newborn after giving birth is hard mentally.
@stephcat421, @marcus7676 summed it up really well. Obviously the link I sent you is super long, and I haven't read it in a while - I think it focuses a lot more on the physical and emotional trauma that can happen during birth, less so on the PPA/PPD/baby blues side of things (which can happen regardless of the ease of the birth).
I will just add that even if it's a little frightening, I think it's worth getting really familiar with what can happen after birth because I know one of my most happy-go-lucky, never ever anxious friends suffered pretty severely from post-partum anxiety, and she said dealing with it obviously sucked, but being completely blindsided by it as something that could happen was actually worse. She just had no idea it was a possibility.
@marcus7676 thank you for sharing. Like you mentioned there is a little more attention on the topic it's still a little fuzzy. I think it's good to be prepared for what "can" happen in the hopes that it won't.
@lindsayleigh1989 come on over lol. I couldn't handle the july board!
@icecubeinthedesert all the food in june! I will say that I'm not totally avoiding lunchmeats. but when I eat them, they are toasted so I feel safe. But I just told DH the other day that I'm excited the icecream shops will be open already after I have this baby. I do.not.understand. why this baby hates chocolate.. and sweets.. and CHOCOLATE!! its a good thing he's in my belly or I'd wonder if he's my son I'm hoping my taste buds change a bit or its going to be a long pregnancy.
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
@doxiemoxie212 that's funny I didn't know that my dd was actually born in July haha also thjs was definitelh not planned haha but that is really good to know!
@marcus7676 very well put. I also could not handle the sleep deprivation and there were days my DH was scared to leave me with the baby. He also didn't know who to call to help out, since my mom and I have a very strained relationship and she wasn't helpful at all when she would come to visit. I was going to say something to my doctor at my 6 week appointment (which I had at 4 weeks because my skin was really irrated from wearing a pad for so long after delivery- another issue for another time). Two days before my appointment the baby slept for 4 hours STRAIGHT!!! It was amazing... and the clouds parted and I felt so much better. When I told my doctor she told me she would have to medicate me if I didn't get some sleep. I also have PGAL brain- which translates to anxiety during pregnancy. I read that most women with PPD/ PPA have depression and anxiety to a degree while pregnant, but ignore it ("it's hormones"). I'm trying to be more optimistic this time around and my mom is much more involved with DD, so I'm hoping that she will actually be helpful this time around (but she has already mentioned that she is wanted to book a trip overseas around the time I am due so I'm not that hopeful).
@catlady1215 a friend of mine didn't like chocolate during her first trimester - and was super depressed about it- but after the MS died down and the hormones stabilized a bit her ability to eat chocolate returned. I'm pretty sure her daughter is also a chocolate fan- so just give it a few weeks.
@jsl82 ugh, I hope! I just can't do sweets of any kind or I get a gross taste. which makes taking my chewy vit D and prenatals oh so fun lol. being almost 14 wks, I'm getting worried this won't change!
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
@lindsayleigh1989 so I’ll caveat this by saying both my husband and I are July babies and obviously we’re both fine (as are our mothers), but when I told my doctor friends I was due early June, both their reactions were, “oh thank god not July! All the new people start July 1, so July is not a great time to be in a hospital.” I was like whaaaaaaaat? But it turns out it’s been pretty well documented: https://www.cnn.com/2016/07/04/health/dont-go-to-the-hospital-in-july/index.html
(so just saying maybe there’s more than one reason to hang with us in June lol lol)
There were SO MANY PEOPLE in my c-section. They legit had to warn me about it first. Because not only do new people start, but so do the interns and residents and all that jazz. So many people saw my lady bits. so many.
Me: 28 | Husband: 39 Married March 2016 DD: born 7.22.16 DS EDD: 6.23.18
Last night I was tossing and turning because I can't decide between trying to get used to sleeping on my left side to make the transition easier or if I should just sleep on my stomach while I still can. Stomach won.
@marcus7676 thank you for sharing your story about PPD. If you have any resources to share with family that would be much appreciated. Maybe in the parenting/pregnancy resources thread. My husband is being treated for depression and I have been treated in the past so I would like to think that we are a little more conscious about the signs and symptoms in our home but I imagine that the symptoms are different for PPD. Having a history of depression and a family history of depression, this is one of the things I am most scared of but also preparing myself for because I am probably more likely to have it.
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@krashke When I went to the doctor, I fully expected to be diagnosed with PPD, but she didn't diagnose me. She just said I had trouble "adjusting" and was "overwhelmed." To this day, I think she was wrong, but I was so overwhelmed, I didn't push back at the time. She's still my doctor, and I'm not going to switch, but I know more now about what to look for and will hopefully not hesitate to get help. I wish I had some resources to share, but I don't at this point - - if something comes across my browser, I definitely will.
I think having a history of depression is a risk factor (mental health issues run in my family), but I don't think it is determinative. I honestly don't think anything will cause or prevent PPD/PPA. (And if there is, someone must tell me!). I'm glad you are aware of it and thinking about it. I think a mental health check in here once we get close to delivery will be helpful too.
@doxiemoxie212 - Nurses should start anywhere between the end of May and beginning of June. They'd practice as a graduate nurse until they pass the NCLEX and then be on their own by the end of July/August. Soooo... we'll all be having a blast.
Wearing my husband’s sweater to work because all of the other clothes I had clean showed my bump-like object too much, and I haven’t told anyone one at work yet. I look reeeal cool.
Me: 34 Husband: 35 Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17 BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
I am also on the boat of it being way easier to go to the dentist at 8, even 9 months pregnant than a few weeks PP. Leaving the house with a new baby is so incredibly stressful, let alone at a dentist apt where it isn't necessarily practical to hold it...not all babies dig sitting in the infant seat... At my 6 week pp visit I had to take her by myself and was literally trying to nurse her to keep her quiet/happy while the doc did my exam (he was totally cool with it and I'm sure sees it all the time there as opposed to a dentist office). The weeks, months following birth are insane....Pregnancy is the easy part.
@marcus7676 and @krashke your stories sound so much like mine. First 3 months of DS life were the most stressful and isolating of my life. DS had weight gain issues and never slept. It was awful and I cried everyday. I never thought motherhood would be like that and that we’d be skipping through fields and having a grand old time. This time I know what to expect and think I’m better equipped to handle it and ask for help. Here’s hoping we all feel better this time around!
I also had my dentist apt not that long ago and they wanted to schedule my next around delivery time. I decided to go earlier just to make it all easier! even though that'll mean i'll be missing annual xrays but ehh.
@kittiesandcoffee I don't. but dh is pretty excited about it. he's been waiting for it to start again! But isn't it tomorrow? that's whats set on our dvr.
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
A few things I went to the dentist 2 weeks ago I need to get my bottom right wisdom teeth taken out, obviously that won't happen to 2nd tri (15 weeks or later to be safe) but I want to avoid it completely. My top 2 were taken out years ago, I didn't have enough money in college for the copay to get the other two taken out and I've ignored them since. I went to a buffet Sunday and tried having my first salad (I usually love salad- and I would eat a salad 4x a week for lunch) it was horrible I hated everything about it Why is DH losing weight? Could it be I've only cooked like 3x since week 6, and I'm 12 weeks today?
Re: Weekly Randoms w/o Nov 27
but I now might have to send DH on a milkshake run cause that sounds wayyy too good!
Also, my homemade cranberry sauce is usually my favorite Thanksgiving food. But this year it just makes my mouth taste really metallic. Stupid pregnancy taste buds.
But DH and I went to see the new Thor movie Saturday at one of those theaters that serves food and beer. DH specifically picked out a beer I would like so that I could have a taste. Bless his heart, because I know IPAs wouldn't normally be his first pick.
Me: 30 | DH: 31
Met: August 2006
Married: July 2012
TTC #1 since June 2016
***TW***
BFP: 7/12/16 | MC: 9/12/16
BFP: 1/18/17 | MMC: 2/13/17
BFP: 10/7/17 | EDD: 6/21/17
MTHFR: homozygous A1298C
I was going to say, the second half is that I'm doing a little better now. We have an appointment to find out the sex of the baby next weekend so that is something to look forward to! I am going to try being more active in this group now that I've got a little less on my plate. I'm excited to get to know everybody!
Me: 30 | DH: 31
Met: August 2006
Married: July 2012
TTC #1 since June 2016
***TW***
BFP: 7/12/16 | MC: 9/12/16
BFP: 1/18/17 | MMC: 2/13/17
BFP: 10/7/17 | EDD: 6/21/17
MTHFR: homozygous A1298C
Married March 2016
DD: born 7.22.16
DS EDD: 6.23.18
(so just saying maybe there’s more than one reason to hang with us in June lol lol)
Catching up:
@ramblebee - I literally open the Board Organization thread every day to see what threads are supposed to be started, and half of the time I'm the one who starts them every week, so definitely don't feel bad that you don't remember what ones are started when!
@lindsayleigh1989 - I lurk July when I'm bored, and you'd definitely fit with us. Feel free to hang out if the crazies over there decide they want a free-for-all. They'll eventually see why it's a horrible idea.
I also don't understand it. Who the hell wants 10 intro threads on the first page, and 15 threads about morning sickness and constipation? I've said it before, but July is the most BabyCenter-esque board I've seen in a long time with that ish.
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
I don't to scare you or anything because for some women, they don't have these experiences. But many do and it is worth knowing about - - if not for you, for your friend, or sister, or coworker. Giving birth is hard physically. Taking care of a newborn after giving birth is hard mentally.
I will just add that even if it's a little frightening, I think it's worth getting really familiar with what can happen after birth because I know one of my most happy-go-lucky, never ever anxious friends suffered pretty severely from post-partum anxiety, and she said dealing with it obviously sucked, but being completely blindsided by it as something that could happen was actually worse. She just had no idea it was a possibility.
@icecubeinthedesert all the food in june! I will say that I'm not totally avoiding lunchmeats. but when I eat them, they are toasted so I feel safe. But I just told DH the other day that I'm excited the icecream shops will be open already after I have this baby. I do.not.understand. why this baby hates chocolate.. and sweets.. and CHOCOLATE!! its a good thing he's in my belly or I'd wonder if he's my son
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
@catlady1215 a friend of mine didn't like chocolate during her first trimester - and was super depressed about it- but after the MS died down and the hormones stabilized a bit her ability to eat chocolate returned. I'm pretty sure her daughter is also a chocolate fan- so just give it a few weeks.
BFP#4- 9/26 edd 6/5/18
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
Married March 2016
DD: born 7.22.16
DS EDD: 6.23.18
@marcus7676 thank you for sharing your story about PPD. If you have any resources to share with family that would be much appreciated. Maybe in the parenting/pregnancy resources thread. My husband is being treated for depression and I have been treated in the past so I would like to think that we are a little more conscious about the signs and symptoms in our home but I imagine that the symptoms are different for PPD. Having a history of depression and a family history of depression, this is one of the things I am most scared of but also preparing myself for because I am probably more likely to have it.
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
I think having a history of depression is a risk factor (mental health issues run in my family), but I don't think it is determinative. I honestly don't think anything will cause or prevent PPD/PPA. (And if there is, someone must tell me!). I'm glad you are aware of it and thinking about it. I think a mental health check in here once we get close to delivery will be helpful too.
Soooo... we'll all be having a blast.
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
Husband: 35
Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17
BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
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@kittiesandcoffee I don't. but dh is pretty excited about it. he's been waiting for it to start again! But isn't it tomorrow? that's whats set on our dvr.
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
I went to the dentist 2 weeks ago I need to get my bottom right wisdom teeth taken out, obviously that won't happen to 2nd tri (15 weeks or later to be safe) but I want to avoid it completely. My top 2 were taken out years ago, I didn't have enough money in college for the copay to get the other two taken out and I've ignored them since.
I went to a buffet Sunday and tried having my first salad (I usually love salad- and I would eat a salad 4x a week for lunch) it was horrible I hated everything about it
Why is DH losing weight? Could it be I've only cooked like 3x since week 6, and I'm 12 weeks today?
TTC: 08/2017 EDD: 6/11/2018 FTM