I have no idea how to handle this We are seeing my parents for Thanksgiving and I don't think I can hide it. It was weird not telling them when I saw them this past weekend. Plus they know what a wino I am, it's going to be obvious. I'm so not ready to tell them, and if something goes wrong my mom is going to be too emotional about it, the last thing I'd need. We told them after the 12 week ultrasound with DD and I felt much better about the timing then.
Tell them you’re on antibiotics and can’t drink if they ask lol
I'm thinking Christmas for family, late January for work, but I don't know how I'm going to tell all of my students. Since I teach music I have like 20 classes and it takes me four school days to see all of them. By recess on the first day the first few classes I tell will have spilled the beans to the rest of them! Not that it's a huge secret, I just don't want to be the talk of the school.
With my last two pregnancies I never officially told my students... just waited for it to become so obvious that everyone knew... I'll probably do the same this time. It just never felt right to be like "hey guys... guess what!"
We're planning on telling family at Christmas, but we're not sure how yet. We'll tell friends after that as it comes up.
I'll get outed at work to at least some of my charge nurses since I work in infectious diseases and won't be able to go in so,e patient rooms so my assignment/break partner will have to take that into account. I already had to tell one because we had a case of CMV, of course it was the day after I found out I was KU...nothing like starting early lol.
My husbands parents already have 8 grandchildren from his two sisters so we got this onesie to give the youngest for Christmas. I can’t wait to see everyone’s faces when they realize what it says!
Our current plan isnt to tell anyone until we find out the sex. Everyone in my family has opinions on whether or not we should add to our family and honestly, it really is non of thier business so to keep from hearing all of the negativity, we are waiting...for a while. This includes my parents and immediate family. I have told 2 friends, one who is actually due 2 weeks before I am. Other than that, we are keeping it to ourselves...not even sure when we will tell the other kiddos.
Married since 5/23/09
Stepdaughter-2/17/02
DS #1 born 1/25/10
DS #2 born 4/25/12 BFP 2/2016 M/C 3/2016 @ 5 weeks Trying for #4 since 11/2015
I have no idea how to handle this We are seeing my parents for Thanksgiving and I don't think I can hide it. It was weird not telling them when I saw them this past weekend. Plus they know what a wino I am, it's going to be obvious. I'm so not ready to tell them, and if something goes wrong my mom is going to be too emotional about it, the last thing I'd need. We told them after the 12 week ultrasound with DD and I felt much better about the timing then.
Tell them you’re on antibiotics and can’t drink if they ask lol
See, this is the downside of being too close to family and seeing them all the time, they know I'm not sick and that I haven't taken antibiotics in like over 5 years.
I ended up just telling them and emphasizing that it's suuuper early so unfortunately anything can still happen. I hope I don't regret it.
Our plan is not to tell anyone until Christmas, mostly for the cheese factor. We just got married in August so for Christmas we made our parents photobooks of the wedding pictures. On the last page we're going to add a note and/or ultrasound image. I would like to tell my parents before then, but we want to tell his parents in person (they're in Florida and we won't see them until December 27th). I don't think it's fair to tell my parents too much before them. I am feeling like I'll have to be a recluse until then! The holiday season is such a sketchy time for me to not be drinking..
We told my in-laws and my dad over the weekend. On Saturday I went bowling with the in-laws and my son dropped a bowling ball on my big toe My MIL had to drive me to urgent care, and DH and I were supposed to do dinner that evening to tell them together, so I waited until she was in the bathroom and told the nurse. They were amazing, and helped me as much as possible. The nurse taking care of me kept telling me I needed to come back the next day for a "follow up" when he really just wanted to find out how dinner went lol. We gave them a card and a pacifier with a note that said "please hold on to this when I come visit. Knowing mom, she'll probably forget these. See you in July!" For my dad, we wrapped up a onesie and wrote a similar note to him. I'm getting DS a big brother shirt so he can wear it to our family's Christmas parties.
Currently working on these! We are announcing this week to my close colleague/work BFF, my mom, my dad, DH’s mom, my brother & fiancé, DH’s sister & BIL, and DH’s brother. DH may also tell our neighbor/BFF if he wants.
Lab Mom (x2): Sept/Oct 2014 Married: August 2015 DS: Nov 2016 (36w) Baby H #2: July2018 (Team Pink!)
Telling some earlier than I thought. Someone let it slip in front of the babysitter yesterday, who's also our neighbor that we're spending Thanksgiving with. So I went and told her mom and family. I hadn't planned on it before 12 weeks, but oh well. Makes not drinking at Thanksgivibg easier, since they know I normally am one to throw down.
The first time with my son, we just made calls. This time around, I am seeing a lot of family and telling them individually. My husband found out while I made a call to the doctors office. He was all smiles! I told my most of the parents while taking their picture, “say Amanda’s pregnant.” i was able to tell some of my siblings casually in conversation today. We were talking about obgyns ( my niece is due in December) and I said, “I had Dr. Young Deliver my son, but Dr Hennessy will deliver my baby next.” they were all like “your pregnant?!?” it was great! i will tell my other siblings at thanksgiving!
@almeyer2013 I think I'm going to steal this idea!!!!!! I love it. Except I'll take a video instead of a still picture, pretending I'm taking a still picture. I think it'll be hilarious!
I told my in laws and two of my sisters already. I’m trying to decide if I should wait until Christmas or just tell immediate family at Thanksgiving. This is going to come as a huge surprise to everyone so I’m not sure how to do it. I also know my family and they will be hurt if I wait to tell them until after the 1st trimester. The rest of the word will find out later. I wish I had a great idea. We did the say Jaclyn’s pregnant during a family photo and videotaped it the first time and it captured some interesting reactions lol
Anyone planning to tell their family tomorrow and really conveniently getting major anxiety today about it being too early/all ending ? My google search history is all miscarriage statistics over here...
@ckmb_knottie We are telling tomorrow too! I've been anxious all week. We didn't want to wait until Christmas though and it works out that everyone will be together tomorrow. Even if something horrible did happen I would want them all to know anyways.
We are telling family tomorrow! It’d be way too obvious me not drinking and we’ve already had a tough time hiding it the last few weeks.
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
I'm a huge cheese ball so I've been planning the announcement in my head since I've seen my doctor. We would like to do Christmas cards but we are literally mailing our wedding thank you cards tomorrow
Uuuugh TB deleted pretty much my whole post! For parents, I'm making cards saying "the best moms/dads get promoted to grandmas/grandpa's". My best friends will get the same with bestie/auntie. For everyone else we don't see or talk to everyday we might announce on Facebook, DH works at a video game company so I found this picture and I plan on using a variation of it:
This is our 3rd child and I'm planning on using my 2 daughters in our announcement on Christmas Eve. Im going to have them shirts made saying they have a secret and frame a pic of them wearing the shirts then a pic of the ultrasound with the due date and give the frames to my mom, dad, and grandma. My inlaws already know bc mu husband has a big mouth! lol
We told our families and our kids yesterday. My 5 year old DS is so excited! Which I wasn’t expecting. Then we had him tell our parent and both are very excited so I’m glad it went well!
We were planning on telling our families yesterday, but we wanted to wait until after the first doctor's appointment which got bumped to December 11th! So maybe do something cute& give it as an early Christmas present to our parents(and probably siblings because my sister is my best friend and I can't wait to tell her)...& just let the rest of the family find out at Christmas celebrations!
@kissableviv I love it! I was planning something video game-ish as weel, because we've been calling this kiddo Ready Player Two. Was thinking of getting the Ready Player One book, crossing out One and putting Two, and having our daughter reading it, but was also thinking something like this in case it's too subtle.
We aren't making this pregnancy Public knowledge probably until I start to show, but we're slowly telling family. We'll be flying out to spend Christmas with my dad and two of my brothers, so come Christmas day I'm just going to throw on a "Due in July" tank under my cardigan and have fun guessing who will pick up on it first. Muahaha. I didn't even get to tell my mom since 5 minutes after I'd walked through the door at Thanksgiving she pulled me aside and asked if I'm pregnant. Lol. Oh mommy senses.
@christycalifornia great ideas! You can definitely get creative with the video game world:) @mrsj1215 my next appointment is also on the 11th, at 10weeks. I had my first at 6w2d and saw a heartbeat but I'll feel so much better starting to share after the next appointment.
@ajsanders-2, we did a Harry Potter announcement for DD! I crocheted a pair of gryffindor booties and took a picture of them with my books and a wand (borrowed) and sent it out with a “mischief managed” caption.
And the booties did not fit DDs huge gigantic feet when she was born!
I still have no idea how I want to tell family. Both myself and my cousin that I am close to are around the same age (36) and struggled with IF and losses. Both of us have done IVF, but this will be my second child, she just gave up last year with no success. I want to notify family before I start to show (even though I won't see any of them again until aftet the baby arrives), but I want to be on the downlow and keep it respectful because I know from experience that even though my cousin will be happy for us, it's going to kill her on the inside. We JUST spoke about IF earlier this year and I confided in her that I had two embryos left and if they fail, I am done. Well, the second to last one took.
I am thinking I will tell them at our Christmas get together when I am around 10 weeks, but text or call my cousin beforehand? I don't know what's best. Either way, a call or text from me out of the blue is kind of abnormal. I just don't want to make some big display and make her feel awful, I will probably just tell people face to face, one on one? The whole situation causes me so much anxiety
@Crystal321 you'r being really considerate. When I was experiencing UX Secondary IF my SIL was the only one who knew. She knew she was pregnant and announced AT MY HOUSE to us and her parents. It killed me, not bc I wasn't happy for her, but bc she knew my pain and didn't give it a thought to tell me beforehand (even though we were jut at dinner together the weekend before, and she was evidently ordering mocktails).
No matter what, I think telling her before she may find out elsewhere is the thing to do, esp bc you shared the unfortunate experience of having trouble TTC.
@kissableviv I'll be 9 weeks at my appointment on the 11th! We feel like after that will be good.. We discussed going ahead and telling our families at Thanksgiving, but just decided we felt more comfortable waiting until after that first appointment!
@mrsj1215 that's probably a good idea! I'm the most impatient person so waiting two weeks right now is torture but I need to trust my doctor who said "see you in a month" !
My husband, Dan, and I are telling our parents at Christmas. I bought these onesies and can’t wait to see their faces when they open them! They have been wanting grandchildren for some time so I know they are going to lose their minds with excitement!
Me: 33 DH: 31 Location: Castle Rock, CO DD: 10.13.18 baby #2 due: 7.14.20
My husband, Dan, and I are telling our parents at Christmas. I bought these onesies and can’t wait to see their faces when they open them! They have been wanting grandchildren for some time so I know they are going to lose their minds with excitement!
@mamazet I love it! I actually have the other option of that saved as a potential way to tell my parents. It says “this year your Christmas gift is on backorder” lol
I love Etsy so much! We got a onesie from there to announce to my in laws and an ornament with a snowman family with a baby in the moms belly. Now I’m on the hunt for wine bottle labels to announce to my friends!
@ashbub714, when you find those wine bottle labels please share!
My neighbors and I have a wine club (all the moms on my street just get together and drink on Friday evenings) and they would get a kick out of this. Luckily, we are on hiatus until after the holiday season because everyone is so busy so I don’t have to let the cork out of the bottle too soon!
@Crystal321 I’d text her that way she’s doesn’t have to respond to you right away. I think it’s hard sometimes if I’m not emotionally prepared for something to come up with an appropriate response on the fly.
Its nice of you to be extra considerate of her feelings! I’m sure she’ll appreciate that.
I think we are going to announce on Christmas morning. I’ll have my DS wear a shirt like the picture and see how long it takes people to notice. I’m a little hesitant because I’ll only be right around 8 weeks by then and would normally wait until after my first trimester is over but it’s already been tough with people questioning why I wasn’t drinking. Luckily (unluckily?) I was on an antibiotic over thanksgiving so I had that as an excuse but it won’t fly over Christmas. My mom already questioned me too but since I had just gotten the BFP a couple days before I just wasn’t ready to share.
Re: Spilling the beans...
I'll get outed at work to at least some of my charge nurses since I work in infectious diseases and won't be able to go in so,e patient rooms so my assignment/break partner will have to take that into account. I already had to tell one because we had a case of CMV, of course it was the day after I found out I was KU...nothing like starting early lol.
BFP 2/2016 M/C 3/2016 @ 5 weeks
Trying for #4 since 11/2015
I ended up just telling them and emphasizing that it's suuuper early so unfortunately anything can still happen. I hope I don't regret it.
Lab Mom (x2): Sept/Oct 2014
Married: August 2015
DS: Nov 2016 (36w)
Baby H #2: July2018 (Team Pink!)
I think I'm going to steal this idea!!!!!! I love it. Except I'll take a video instead of a still picture, pretending I'm taking a still picture. I think it'll be hilarious!
Married: 6/27/2008
DS: 3/14/2010 Planned, PG first try
M/C 6/2012
DD: 4/22/2013 Planned, UnDx Infertility, PG on our own
BFP: 10/28/2016 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE!
M/C 12/12/2016
BFP: 10/27/2017 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE
EDD: 7/2/2018
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
@mrsj1215 my next appointment is also on the 11th, at 10weeks. I had my first at 6w2d and saw a heartbeat but I'll feel so much better starting to share after the next appointment.
And the booties did not fit DDs huge gigantic feet when she was born!
We’ll fill in our grandparents, cousins, etc at Christmas, after an ultrasound and probably put something on Facebook once we know the sex.
I am thinking I will tell them at our Christmas get together when I am around 10 weeks, but text or call my cousin beforehand? I don't know what's best. Either way, a call or text from me out of the blue is kind of abnormal. I just don't want to make some big display and make her feel awful, I will probably just tell people face to face, one on one? The whole situation causes me so much anxiety
No matter what, I think telling her before she may find out elsewhere is the thing to do, esp bc you shared the unfortunate experience of having trouble TTC.
Married: 6/27/2008
DS: 3/14/2010 Planned, PG first try
M/C 6/2012
DD: 4/22/2013 Planned, UnDx Infertility, PG on our own
BFP: 10/28/2016 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE!
M/C 12/12/2016
BFP: 10/27/2017 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE
EDD: 7/2/2018
Me: 33 DH: 31
Location: Castle Rock, CO
DD: 10.13.18
baby #2 due: 7.14.20
I love Etsy so much! We got a onesie from there to announce to my in laws and an ornament with a snowman family with a baby in the moms belly. Now I’m on the hunt for wine bottle labels to announce to my friends!
My neighbors and I have a wine club (all the moms on my street just get together and drink on Friday evenings) and they would get a kick out of this. Luckily, we are on hiatus until after the holiday season because everyone is so busy so I don’t have to let the cork out of the bottle too soon!
Its nice of you to be extra considerate of her feelings! I’m sure she’ll appreciate that.