@theletlers your poor sister. They opted for delivery as well so they could meet their little girl. I am beyond grateful for the grace she showed me yesterday.
@JNCPro3130 I get asked that all the time. My standard response is "no, but we had a pretty good idea what would happen" None of our pregnancies have been unplanned.
sandbar517 thanks for thinking of me. Heart palpitations have gone away. I think it was anxiety about waiting for test results and a spike in blood sugar. Whenever I have weird body feelings I tend to overanalyze and "create" symptoms that weren't there before I started thinking about them. This is going to be a fun pregnancy for someone that is anxious about weird body feelings. I also read that minimalist thread...
@suchaglencoco Now I must lurk.....dammit, I was hoping to get something done tonight.
@JNCPro3130 I had people say "so are you happy you are pregnant?" like a beating around the bush way of asking if it was planned. We have been together 10 years, married for 5, owned our house for 5 years, stable job, etc. Even if we weren't emotionally and financial stable...it is NEVER ok to ask that.
@JNCPro3130 - not many people know but I have already gotten that question more than once. I'm guessing because this is my fourth?? But it still annoys me and I find it to be rude.
@JNCPro3130 my first pregnancy people didn't even ask. They straight up assumed I was young and dumb. I wasn't married but my fiancé and I were stable and made great money. If I had a dollar for every time someone said I could still go to college and get a husband...not even kidding.
@justsuzie A, HOOOORAY!!!! B, Being productive is overrated.
@JNCPro3130, we haven't been asked if it was planned, but we get asked if it was natural or ivf. Our twins were ivf and we are very open about it, so honestly it doesn't bother me at this point. I'm happy to educate people. I am sure we'll get asked if it was planned once more people know and we tell them it was natural. And I'm sure I'll give them a snarky response asking if they were planned.
I just spent over an hour shopping in different stores to find coordinating outfits for our family photo shoot this weekend. I am more exhausted by it than I care to admit. I also got super teary-eyed picking out these outfits for my almost two year olds. I think people at Kohl's thought I have lost my mind. And I had to spend more money on my outfit than I did for the other three combined. Why are women's clothes so expensive? The good news is the sweater I bought for myself is open so I should be able to wear it this winter with my belly.
My favorite "was it planned" question came when a friend from the bump and I first met IRL and got pedicures. Several people asked if we planned to get pregnant at the same time. "Nope, we just met on the internet, and this is our first time meeting".
@suchaglencoco@cups4 I'm pretty behind but I saw a page back you were talking about one of the people on June and their youtube. I found her and her husband and she has 1300 and he has 47 thousand so a fair amount but I would not say a youtube "star". It's just weird outdoors type videos of building and kayaking and stuff. But she's super out there and I found her Facebook which is definitely not private. Everything she has is linked to everything else. Stranger danger.
Good gracious! DS is so blessed to have grandparents that want to get him stuff and he has more toys than he could ever play with; however, there is no way I would ever tell anyone what they are ALLOWED to get him. How does that conversation even begin? What is wrong with people? Let's just tell people what they are allowed to spend their own money on. People are crazy.
Has anyone else had people ask if their pregnancy was planned? I told the ladies I work with and see on a daily basis that I'm pregnant (partially since I've been feeling badly). One lady came up to me today and said, "So this... you know... was it planned? Are you guys excited?" I've worked with this lady for several years now. I'm in a stable relationship, have a job (as does my husband), pay my bills, etc. I don't understand why someone would ask me that? That is NEVER a question I think to ask a pregnant woman. Is this weird to anyone else, or am I being hormonal?
I totally agree with @onesmallcoconut. This is super inappropriate and I'd be pissed too. It isn't anyone's business and I hate questions about are you trying? When are you trying? Why aren't you? Etc etc. Come on people! Intimacy is private, and so is baby talk!
So, not bashing anyone who is this way, because I wish I was one of you, but I'm baffled by the women who are running and having serious workouts. I can barely make it to 8:00 lately without falling asleep! And any strenuous movements I get RLP like no other, not to mention headaches and nausea!! Plus with an 18 month old, I can barely find time to shower, let alone get a babysitter and go to the gym. How are you still working out?!?! I feel like I'm not trying hard enough or something? Anyone else feel like this or am I just really bad at mommying?
So, not bashing anyone who is this way, because I wish I was one of you, but I'm baffled by the women who are running and having serious workouts. I can barely make it to 8:00 lately without falling asleep! And any strenuous movements I get RLP like no other, not to mention headaches and nausea!! Plus with an 18 month old, I can barely find time to shower, let alone get a babysitter and go to the gym. How are you still working out?!?! I feel like I'm not trying hard enough or something? Anyone else feel like this or am I just really bad at mommying?
Lol. I have these some questions. Like way to go ladies, but how are you doing it! (Also, you asking if you're a bad mom is for sure a no! Pregnancy is tiring.) I have zero children and I'm lazy all.the.time. When I think about working out or anything, I get more tired and just think....
@curleemama32 you are NOT bad at being a mom! Our pregnancies are all different and affect us each differently. I've been very very lucky with minimum symptoms. If I had nausea constantly or ms, I probably wouldn't be hitting the gym yet. We were just in the habit where DH came from work and I would go to the gym. I'm home all day with twin 22 month olds and love the scheduled breaks at night. It helped my mentality on bad days. And DH is very great with being supportive about me going to the gym. He pushed me out the door Saturday morning to go because he knows it's important to me. Last pregnancy I was not working out at all and spent half of the 35 weeks of my pregnancy on pelvic rest anyways. The end of pregnancy was rough and I had pre-e that came on so fast we immediately needed to deliver. So I'm trying to be healthier this pregnancy and part of that is continuing my workouts as long as I can.
Being a mom is hard. Being a mom while growing a child is extremely difficult! As long as you and your 18 month old are fed and healthy at bedtime, I call that a successful mom day! And fwiw, I just ate 4 cupcakes in under 20 minutes.
I went to the gym all the time in my second pregnancy because of gym childcare. This time not so much. I still have gym childcare but I'm exhausted and my second really doesn't do well with childcare plus he always always gets sick after we go, so... naw.
I've been trying for a while now to change my ticker from DD. It just will not let me. I'm rarely ever on my computer though, so I never see them. I can't even get past the "pick the background" page when trying to create a ticker. Any advice, or other sites on which I can create a ticker?
@justsuzie congrats! sooo happy to hear you're all cleared for abnormalities, not to dream of your little girl!
There are a ton of others to tag and reply to, but I'm probably going to be off most of the day (stupid work wanting me to work.....) but while we're all only semi-hormonally driven, can we just establish that calling out snark with another snarky comment will most likely result in someone else adding another snarky comment and so on and so forth and that is how we turn into June 18...
Don't get me wrong, I was active before the exodus, here and on the nest. I was actually on the Getting Pregnant board on the nest where all us pregnant ladies stayed active even with those who were still trying to get pregnant. I've seen snark, I've received it, I've given it. Frankly, I love it (especially to drive-bys) but y'all, it is waaaaay to early be starting the hoping between threads to comment on the snark from the other thread (with the exception of dirty deleters and admins closing when we aren't done lol)
Anyway, I'm sure I'm starting something and of course today's the day I probably wont be back on until after bedtime tonight... I'm really loving our board, I feel like we already have a great support system going, a decent number of regulars, we're getting organized (the fact that we could do that poll and have that discussion and no one flipped out about anything, we are clearly more mature that some of the other BMB's) and I know I'm probably stirring the pot on what would have died out anyway, but I just feel like someone needs to say it. So.... there it is, flame away if you feel the need. I've got a thick skin and I'm not going anywhere lol Have a good day ladies! I'll catch back up later!
Angel Babies 1&2 2/14/09 DS born 3/11 Angel Baby 3 6/28/11 9/5/17 BFP!! divorced October 2014 9/6/17 hCG 88 progesterone 9.1 (prometrium started) Married DH 10/15 DH's DS born 6/09 9/8/17 hCG 242!!! Not preventing since 11/15 EDD 5/8/18 Adjusted 5/15/18 TTC since 1/1/16 9/27/17 we have a heart beat!
@ceridwen77 I didn't see a request to remove. I saw a request to stop. I felt like I should say sorry because I didn't read the original rules thoroughly. Figured I'd be flamed for DD if I did so and chose my response accordingly. Would you like me to? I've never DD before so I'm not sure how but I can if it's that big of a deal.
ETA: learned I couldn't delete so I edited them. They read completely idiotic now but at least comply with rules. Hope that helps.
Yeah, lots to catch up on. I don't exercise. I pretty much stopped when the girls were born. So I give all the admiration in the world to people who can do it, because I'm with @suchaglencoco. If my kids are fed at the end of the day, I'm good. That's about all I can pull off right now. I have some guilt over it, but I tell myself resting and taking care of myself that way is just important to this baby as it is to feed and take care of my other babies. And I'm pretttttty sure they don't mind laying on the couch all night watching TV. I think once we know the sex (or have definite name choices for Team Green-ers) we should start a new name thread. The other one is long, and buried. @justsuzie I know I already said it on the other thread, but I'm so happy for you that things came back ok. I'm glad your symptoms are better. Too many other people to tag, but I can't believe some of the questions people think it's okay to ask. Regarding pregnancy, especially. It starts in like, middle school/junior high, and it never goes away. Are you going to college? What do you want to be when you grow up? When are you going to get a boyfriend/girlfriend? When are you two finally going to get married? When are you going to have kids? Ugh, people think it's being nice or showing interest in someone's life, but it's just nosy as shit and super annoying. I try to make a conscious effort to not ask people these questions, but if it's someone I'm close to and I genuinely do care about their life, I figure they'll either tell me without my asking, or I start with, "Do you mind if I ask if you want kids?" not "When are you two having kids?" As for you @bearwithme I can't believe people would ever say something like that, even though I know it happens. It makes me so angry for you. @suchaglencoco (two tags in one post!) I think the coordinating outfit pictures are SO adorable, and I've always wanted to do one, but I'm too intimidated by the thought of buying and planning outfits for all of us. Please post pictures when they're done if you're comfortable doing it! Last but not least, @ladystinson I don't know if you're referring to my rant on the daily check in thread yesterday about the rules of the board or not. But I totally agree with you, we are such a drama free board so far, and I would love to keep it that way. Snark has a time and place, and if you're an actual member here and get a little snark, it will end much better for everyone if you just brush it off and move on.
Me, 35 Hubs, 32 Married June 2012 BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013 BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014 BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
I also thought it was weird when people would ask if we were trying to have another baby. Like what do you want me to say "yeah we're having lots of sex and he's no longer pulling out"
I hate the "was it planned?" question! My grandma asked first thing and when I told her no she proceeded to ask me what we were doing about birth control. That's just too personal.
@sandbar517, picking put coordinating outfits was definitely not glamorous. I Googled "fall family coordinating color combinations" before I went out and worked with that. I am not good with things like this so it was a challenge. Luckily one of my good friends got invested and was texting back and forth with me to give help.
It was mostly me wandering around Kohls half out of it until I saw an outfit for DD that was a color I could work with. I figured I needed to start with the littles because they're always the hardest, especially with boys. Then I found a great match for DS and thought I really had some flow when I found one for DH. I was the hard one. But it all seems to have worked out.
I probably won't share the photos, just because I'm still pretty stranger danger, but I may show the outfits sometime later because this tomboy is proud of getting 4 outfits together with only 2 stores.
So, in a kind of unrelated topic- genetics/MFM called yesterday. The NIPT detected no increased risk for chromosomal abnormalities of the ones tested!!! I know tbis isn't 100% but it's a step closer to "all clear." They tested for the trisomies, a few x linked conditions, and microdeletions - including Angelman syndrome, which is what ds has. I cried so hard yesterday at the good news.
Now, the logical part of me says- but it's only a screen- false negatives happen, too! According to the GC, this test has a detection rate for 3-6mB deletion anywhere from 60-86%. Which isn't horrible, but certainly leaves room for error. Most AS deletions fall within that size range.
So, now we wait for results to determine if I carry a translocation that could be responsible for DS's condition. If I do, we will possibly go to amnio or CVS. If I don't, I think we will be good with testing until the anatomy scan.
Either way, thrilled to hear news of a healthy baby.
@ladystinson I agree....no drama needed. No bid deal to snark a little at the drive-bys but I love a civil board.We can save the drama for June where we can lurk eye roll.
Re: Randoms 10/16-10/22
I get asked that all the time. My standard response is "no, but we had a pretty good idea what would happen"
None of our pregnancies have been unplanned.
@suchaglencoco Now I must lurk.....dammit, I was hoping to get something done tonight.
A, HOOOORAY!!!!
B, Being productive is overrated.
@JNCPro3130, we haven't been asked if it was planned, but we get asked if it was natural or ivf. Our twins were ivf and we are very open about it, so honestly it doesn't bother me at this point. I'm happy to educate people.
I am sure we'll get asked if it was planned once more people know and we tell them it was natural. And I'm sure I'll give them a snarky response asking if they were planned.
I just spent over an hour shopping in different stores to find coordinating outfits for our family photo shoot this weekend. I am more exhausted by it than I care to admit. I also got super teary-eyed picking out these outfits for my almost two year olds. I think people at Kohl's thought I have lost my mind.
And I had to spend more money on my outfit than I did for the other three combined. Why are women's clothes so expensive? The good news is the sweater I bought for myself is open so I should be able to wear it this winter with my belly.
@mileswithmyles that really says a lot about the type of friend you've been to her, too.
Ugh to the "is it planned" question. We've actually had people ask what we will do if this one is, you know, disabled too.
what an incredibly insensitive question.
Married: 8/22/15
BFP #1: 8/22/17 | DS: 4/20/18
BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20
(Also, you asking if you're a bad mom is for sure a no! Pregnancy is tiring.)
I have zero children and I'm lazy all.the.time.
When I think about working out or anything, I get more tired and just think....
@curleemama32 you are NOT bad at being a mom! Our pregnancies are all different and affect us each differently. I've been very very lucky with minimum symptoms. If I had nausea constantly or ms, I probably wouldn't be hitting the gym yet.
We were just in the habit where DH came from work and I would go to the gym. I'm home all day with twin 22 month olds and love the scheduled breaks at night. It helped my mentality on bad days. And DH is very great with being supportive about me going to the gym. He pushed me out the door Saturday morning to go because he knows it's important to me.
Last pregnancy I was not working out at all and spent half of the 35 weeks of my pregnancy on pelvic rest anyways. The end of pregnancy was rough and I had pre-e that came on so fast we immediately needed to deliver. So I'm trying to be healthier this pregnancy and part of that is continuing my workouts as long as I can.
Being a mom is hard. Being a mom while growing a child is extremely difficult! As long as you and your 18 month old are fed and healthy at bedtime, I call that a successful mom day!
And fwiw, I just ate 4 cupcakes in under 20 minutes.
I can barely lift my butt off the couch. I can’t imagine exercising right now, but I’m super impressed with you ladies who do!
There are a ton of others to tag and reply to, but I'm probably going to be off most of the day (stupid work wanting me to work.....) but while we're all only semi-hormonally driven, can we just establish that calling out snark with another snarky comment will most likely result in someone else adding another snarky comment and so on and so forth and that is how we turn into June 18...
Don't get me wrong, I was active before the exodus, here and on the nest. I was actually on the Getting Pregnant board on the nest where all us pregnant ladies stayed active even with those who were still trying to get pregnant. I've seen snark, I've received it, I've given it. Frankly, I love it (especially to drive-bys) but y'all, it is waaaaay to early be starting the hoping between threads to comment on the snark from the other thread (with the exception of dirty deleters and admins closing when we aren't done lol)
Anyway, I'm sure I'm starting something and of course today's the day I probably wont be back on until after bedtime tonight... I'm really loving our board, I feel like we already have a great support system going, a decent number of regulars, we're getting organized (the fact that we could do that poll and have that discussion and no one flipped out about anything, we are clearly more mature that some of the other BMB's) and I know I'm probably stirring the pot on what would have died out anyway, but I just feel like someone needs to say it. So.... there it is, flame away if you feel the need. I've got a thick skin and I'm not going anywhere lol Have a good day ladies! I'll catch back up later!
DS born 3/11
Angel Baby 3 6/28/11 9/5/17 BFP!!
divorced October 2014 9/6/17 hCG 88 progesterone 9.1 (prometrium started)
Married DH 10/15 DH's DS born 6/09 9/8/17 hCG 242!!!
Not preventing since 11/15 EDD 5/8/18 Adjusted 5/15/18
TTC since 1/1/16 9/27/17 we have a heart beat!
@ceridwen77 I didn't see a request to remove. I saw a request to stop. I felt like I should say sorry because I didn't read the original rules thoroughly. Figured I'd be flamed for DD if I did so and chose my response accordingly. Would you like me to? I've never DD before so I'm not sure how but I can if it's that big of a deal.
ETA: learned I couldn't delete so I edited them. They read completely idiotic now but at least comply with rules. Hope that helps.
I think once we know the sex (or have definite name choices for Team Green-ers) we should start a new name thread. The other one is long, and buried.
@justsuzie I know I already said it on the other thread, but I'm so happy for you that things came back ok. I'm glad your symptoms are better.
Too many other people to tag, but I can't believe some of the questions people think it's okay to ask. Regarding pregnancy, especially. It starts in like, middle school/junior high, and it never goes away. Are you going to college? What do you want to be when you grow up? When are you going to get a boyfriend/girlfriend? When are you two finally going to get married? When are you going to have kids? Ugh, people think it's being nice or showing interest in someone's life, but it's just nosy as shit and super annoying. I try to make a conscious effort to not ask people these questions, but if it's someone I'm close to and I genuinely do care about their life, I figure they'll either tell me without my asking, or I start with, "Do you mind if I ask if you want kids?" not "When are you two having kids?"
As for you @bearwithme I can't believe people would ever say something like that, even though I know it happens. It makes me so angry for you.
@suchaglencoco (two tags in one post!) I think the coordinating outfit pictures are SO adorable, and I've always wanted to do one, but I'm too intimidated by the thought of buying and planning outfits for all of us. Please post pictures when they're done if you're comfortable doing it!
Last but not least, @ladystinson I don't know if you're referring to my rant on the daily check in thread yesterday about the rules of the board or not. But I totally agree with you, we are such a drama free board so far, and I would love to keep it that way. Snark has a time and place, and if you're an actual member here and get a little snark, it will end much better for everyone if you just brush it off and move on.
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
Now, the logical part of me says- but it's only a screen- false negatives happen, too! According to the GC, this test has a detection rate for 3-6mB deletion anywhere from 60-86%. Which isn't horrible, but certainly leaves room for error. Most AS deletions fall within that size range.
So, now we wait for results to determine if I carry a translocation that could be responsible for DS's condition. If I do, we will possibly go to amnio or CVS. If I don't, I think we will be good with testing until the anatomy scan.
Either way, thrilled to hear news of a healthy baby.