I have my 14 week appt in 2 weeks, then we will be making social media announcement and telling my work. I am soooo nervous to tell work. I have no reason to believe they will not be supportive but I just took a very large, new role (pretty much made just for me) in July, so it is still very new and I am praying they will not be put off by the fact that I will be taking 3 months off come March. We are taking our announcement pictures this weekend. I can't wait to share them with yall!
We are taking our announcement pictures this weekend after we find out the gender. I think we are going to have my daughter in her big sister shirt holding the ultrasound picture in one hand and either pink or blue booties in the other that or we are gonna have a sign that says the gender next to her. She's only 15 months and not great at following directions so it might be a challenge lol
@HappyMonkey817 ahhhh, LOVE it!! I taught for the past 7 years, and Pi Day was Pie Day at school, which gives me a great affinity for the day. (; Your DD looks adorable.
My best friend's daughter was born on Pi Day two years and her DH, when she was in labor, suggested she wait until 1:59 to deliver to get 3.14159. My friend did not appreciate (much less follow) the suggestion. But makes for a fun tale!
We announced once I was officially in the 2nd trimester. Made the sign and had a friend snap this picture on my phone which I used to edit the image. Turned out just as I was hoping it would.
@jerseygirl9090 That's so cute! You may want to edit your post though as your name is clearly visible and occasionally unsavory catfish-y folks lurk these sites
@npkat: I agree they are all amazing but the middle one is more unique, feels more personal, and you look stunning so that gets my vote. I LOVE all the fall tones.
@npkat I agree with the above- use them all! What great photos! I think some baby announcements (none on here) can be too coy or annoying; those are all beautiful and personal and sweet. (And hey, if you send out a holiday/Christmas card, you're covered again too with the extras (;)
Thank you @ashleyf911, @jeanbean15, @notthefather, @crossfitbabybump and @gh515 for your kind words and input! Ya'll are making me blush! I love them all too! As soon as I saw the middle one on the back of her camera, it was definitely my favorite. I think I will have to use 2-3 for sure though! I can't wait to finally tell our little secret next week.
so one of my closest friends does calligraphy and watercolor art and said she would paint me my announcement as photos aren't really my thing. It's been 3 wks since she offered and we really want to post it. I feel rude asking her to hurry up because she is busy planning her wedding which is in 2 months, and also has a 1yr old daughter.
Did she say about how long it would take? Could’ve she forgotten? I would think she would understand you probably don’t want to wait forever if you’re planning an announcement. I would gently say something. “I’m starting to get a little belly and people are side eyeing me, I should probably announce soon!” Or something. Even if that’s not exactly the case. Ha! @bb3vj3n
@chasingroygbiv she messaged me last Saturday to say sorry she hasn't gotten to it and she would have it finished ASAP....that was nearly a week ago now. She runs a business making these and they only take her an hour or two to complete. So its not a huge project or anything...
I said at the time that it was fine and that I lb knew she would get around to it when she had a free moment. I kind of regret saying that now..
@bb3vj3n Honestly I'd start looking at other ideas, she sounds busy and I wouldn't push something she offered to do for free.
The calendar with a date circled and a baby accessory world be pretty easy to do on your own. Or if you're good with Adobe Illustrator you could find a handwritten brush font and a watercolor image and make your own. (Every Tuesday has some nest tutorials.)
Me: 30 H: 30 Dx: PCOS Married: June 2013 TTC#1: January 2015 BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16 TTC#2: June 2017 BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
I've been struggling with whether or not I want to make an announcement on social media. My oldest sister had a really hard time getting pregnant with her son, and she can't have any more since having him, which was devastating to her. She has since come to terms with that and feels very fortunate she has him, but her experience opened my eyes to what a lot of people go through in order to try to have kids and the emotional toll that comes along with it.
My thing is I'm sure there are others I'm friends with who are going through similar things. I don't want to be insensitive to those who may be struggling and I definitely don't want it to feel like I'm rubbing salt in anyone's wounds. At the same, we are very excited and obviously people will found out eventually!
Any of you that struggled to conceive have any thoughts on this? Thanks!
@becausescience i thought of that too! it was what i was originally going to do before she offered.
I just don't want to offend by going ahead with and doing it on my own when I know it was something she wanted to do. Basically, i feel like it would be rude to proceed without her but I also don't want to pressure her into making it fit my timeline.
I think I may have just answered my own question... ill just have to talk to her. She lives on the opposite side of the country though and is out of town today thru Sunday for her bachlorette..... so I guess ill just have to wait until next week
@stlbuckeye132 I am sure your social media friends who are struggling with fertility will still feel joy and excitement for your wonderful news! I know exactly what you are saying- I felt awkward telling a dear friend who has been trying for 3+ years and two unsuccessful rounds of IVF that I was expecting after no difficulties- and I think it's normal for women to take that extra guilt and anxiety on themselves. The happiness of others should not diminish the well-being of any other adult... quite the opposite! Even a moment of passing jealousy would probably be superseded by excitement for someone else.
That said, I don't want to do an announcement on social media either. I don't like being the center of attention, and have way too many loose-connection-friends on Facebook (old classmates or former students I have not talked to in years), most of whom do not need to know the status of my uterus. (;
If you feel at all uncomfortable, maybe just send your announcement via email or post to the friends you want to see it?
I've been struggling with whether or not I want to make an announcement on social media. My oldest sister had a really hard time getting pregnant with her son, and she can't have any more since having him, which was devastating to her. She has since come to terms with that and feels very fortunate she has him, but her experience opened my eyes to what a lot of people go through in order to try to have kids and the emotional toll that comes along with it.
My thing is I'm sure there are others I'm friends with who are going through similar things. I don't want to be insensitive to those who may be struggling and I definitely don't want it to feel like I'm rubbing salt in anyone's wounds. At the same, we are very excited and obviously people will found out eventually!
Any of you that struggled to conceive have any thoughts on this? Thanks!
@stlbuckeye132 Not that I get to speak for all the IF ladies, but I thought I'd share my thoughts on this. Every woman gets to announce her pregnancy and be happy about it and share that happiness - no matter what her journey was. In the darkest depths of my IF journey I knew that to be true. That being said, yes if you have social media friends struggling it will be poking an open wound for them. Unless it was my very best friend in the whole world announcing I did not feel joy and happiness like @gh515 suggested - but that was my journey and no one could help that. I did unfollow people who I just couldn't bear to watch go through their pregnancies. It just hurt too much. But it was MY choice to unfollow to protect my heart - I didn't blame the pregnant person for posting stuff.
I can tell you that some announcements hurt more than others. So if you want to be sensitive here is my suggestion: If this baby was a surprise baby or you got pregnant really quickly do not mention that - it either comes across like complaining or bragging. It was so painful to see people go "Ooops! That was a surprise LOL" while I was stabbing myself with needles and getting negative tests. Also if people had a due date they thought wasn't ideal or found out they weren't having the sex of the baby they were hoping for it was really annoying to see them complaining. The other announcements that irritated me were the ones that faked a real struggle. If someone had been trying for less than a year but posted an announcement that alluded to struggling then it kind of infuriated me. I imagine it's like if someone had to have a suspicious mole removed and then acted ridiculous about it on FB and their friend who has cancer and is going through chemo saw it.
If you have a good friend who you know or suspect to be dealing with IF issues my best advice is to text them that you are pregnant before you post on FB. Don't call them or tell them in person. Texts are the best because it allows the person to cry or throw their phone or react however they need to without having to fake an emotion. They can also choose to unfollow you on FB if they don't want to see any pregnancy things before you even announce.
But yeah - if you want to announce do not hesitate to do so. IF ladies are hurting and struggling regardless.
While I haven't had the IF struggles discussed above, I did experience 2 back to back miscarriages. So I know all too well the feelings associated with seeing pregnancy announcements on social media.
My personal view is that every baby deserves to be celebrated. And my pain shouldn't take away from someone else's joy.
Can it be painful to see? Absolutely. Was I happy for those friends? Very much so.
If you know of someone specifically who you think would struggle with the announcement for one reason or another, I would encourage you to send them a private message telling them first. It gives them some time to digest this news and decide how they want to proceed. Please don't be hurt if someone unfollows you because of it. It has nothing to do with you. It's just how they need to cope.
@stlbuckeye132 Not that I get to speak for all the IF ladies, but I thought I'd share my thoughts on this. Every woman gets to announce her pregnancy and be happy about it and share that happiness - no matter what her journey was. In the darkest depths of my IF journey I knew that to be true. That being said, yes if you have social media friends struggling it will be poking an open wound for them. Unless it was my very best friend in the whole world announcing I did not feel joy and happiness like @gh515 suggested - but that was my journey and no one could help that. I did unfollow people who I just couldn't bear to watch go through their pregnancies. It just hurt too much. But it was MY choice to unfollow to protect my heart - I didn't blame the pregnant person for posting stuff.
I can tell you that some announcements hurt more than others. So if you want to be sensitive here is my suggestion: If this baby was a surprise baby or you got pregnant really quickly do not mention that - it either comes across like complaining or bragging. It was so painful to see people go "Ooops! That was a surprise LOL" while I was stabbing myself with needles and getting negative tests. Also if people had a due date they thought wasn't ideal or found out they weren't having the sex of the baby they were hoping for it was really annoying to see them complaining. The other announcements that irritated me were the ones that faked a real struggle. If someone had been trying for less than a year but posted an announcement that alluded to struggling then it kind of infuriated me. I imagine it's like if someone had to have a suspicious mole removed and then acted ridiculous about it on FB and their friend who has cancer and is going through chemo saw it.
If you have a good friend who you know or suspect to be dealing with IF issues my best advice is to text them that you are pregnant before you post on FB. Don't call them or tell them in person. Texts are the best because it allows the person to cry or throw their phone or react however they need to without having to fake an emotion. They can also choose to unfollow you on FB if they don't want to see any pregnancy things before you even announce.
But yeah - if you want to announce do not hesitate to do so. IF ladies are hurting and struggling regardless.
Coming from both*TW* two losses and IF, honestly, there came a point that I felt like Facebook was trolling me. I can't tell you how many announcements for people I don't even freaking know showed up in my feed just because someone I do know liked them. No, I didn't feel joy for those strangers. Especially ones where there was whining about the surprise or the sex or the due date. And hallelujah to the part about people acting like they really struggled because it took them more than one cycle. Or ones that throw in smugness about #blessed and God. That kind of spits in the faces of people who are deserving of blessings and have also been praying.
The wife of one person I actually do know from high school had some rambling post about how she's not going to let the fact that other people have IF make her feel bad about announcing their fifth child. It was terrible.
Was I delighted for my friends, though? Yes. Even if I cried when I initially heard the news.
But again, other people's struggles don't mean you can't celebrate and be happy. It just means that we can all take the extra time to craft an announcement that will be gentle with others and skipping on jokes that might be hurtful. @stlbuckeye132 you're already showing that you're aware and want to be gentle. Announce when you're ready.
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
@gh515@antoto@justkeeptrying@kiki75 thanks for all of your thoughts--I appreciate you opening up about what posts hurt more than others, and I had no plans to do any of what you mentioned! I don't personally know of anyone struggling with TTC right now, but I'm sure there are some friends that I'm not aware of their struggles. I'll probably end up posting something in a few weeks, and I 100% will not be offended if anyone unfollows me (not like I would even know). I think that feature is great! I may or may not have unfollowed my FIL... thanks again for your input!
I took these pics today with a lot of help from a friend and many outtakes. Thinking I will wait until next week to post on social media (for no rational reason at all - I had inteded on posting this weekend after my good checkup on Friday. Now I'm nervous for some reason). Maybe a week from now I'll have a caption in mind!
Me: 30 DH: 31 Married: May 2008 DD Born: March 2018 DS Born: April 2019 Due with #3 December 2020!
@stlbuckeye132 thank you!! I had in mind what I wanted and of course my pup wasn't cooperating lol. He's still a puppy and a bad listener. It turned out well for how frustrating it was!
Me: 30 DH: 31 Married: May 2008 DD Born: March 2018 DS Born: April 2019 Due with #3 December 2020!
I love all of these! The announcements including fur babies melt my heart! I'm not really that creative and I told myself I wouldn't do an ultrasound announcement this time but didn't really have time or a better idea. Still wanted to share the good news though. So I posted this a week ago. Simple and didn't even have to spend half an hour getting my 2 year old too look at the camera!
That said, I don't want to do an announcement on social media either. I don't like being the center of attention, and have way too many loose-connection-friends on Facebook (old classmates or former students I have not talked to in years), most of whom do not need to know the status of my uterus. (;
[messed up box!] This is more my reasoning. I feel like everyone who is closer and more important in my life I've either told in person or texted personally about it so they already know. And I told them pretty much right away. Everyone else is jsut "filler" and I don't feel like my pregnancy is really something they need to know about.
Re: Making the announcement!
We are taking our announcement pictures this weekend. I can't wait to share them with yall!
My best friend's daughter was born on Pi Day two years and her DH, when she was in labor, suggested she wait until 1:59 to deliver to get 3.14159. My friend did not appreciate (much less follow) the suggestion. But makes for a fun tale!
@HappyMonkey817 your LO is absolutely adorable!
EDD March 12, 2018
Married: 5.27.16
Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
is it wrong of me to say something at this point?
I said at the time that it was fine and that I lb knew she would get around to it when she had a free moment. I kind of regret saying that now..
The calendar with a date circled and a baby accessory world be pretty easy to do on your own. Or if you're good with Adobe Illustrator you could find a handwritten brush font and a watercolor image and make your own. (Every Tuesday has some nest tutorials.)
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
My thing is I'm sure there are others I'm friends with who are going through similar things. I don't want to be insensitive to those who may be struggling and I definitely don't want it to feel like I'm rubbing salt in anyone's wounds. At the same, we are very excited and obviously people will found out eventually!
Any of you that struggled to conceive have any thoughts on this? Thanks!
I just don't want to offend by going ahead with and doing it on my own when I know it was something she wanted to do. Basically, i feel like it would be rude to proceed without her but I also don't want to pressure her into making it fit my timeline.
I think I may have just answered my own question... ill just have to talk to her. She lives on the opposite side of the country though and is out of town today thru Sunday for her bachlorette..... so I guess ill just have to wait until next week
That said, I don't want to do an announcement on social media either. I don't like being the center of attention, and have way too many loose-connection-friends on Facebook (old classmates or former students I have not talked to in years), most of whom do not need to know the status of my uterus. (;
If you feel at all uncomfortable, maybe just send your announcement via email or post to the friends you want to see it?
I can tell you that some announcements hurt more than others. So if you want to be sensitive here is my suggestion: If this baby was a surprise baby or you got pregnant really quickly do not mention that - it either comes across like complaining or bragging. It was so painful to see people go "Ooops! That was a surprise LOL" while I was stabbing myself with needles and getting negative tests. Also if people had a due date they thought wasn't ideal or found out they weren't having the sex of the baby they were hoping for it was really annoying to see them complaining. The other announcements that irritated me were the ones that faked a real struggle. If someone had been trying for less than a year but posted an announcement that alluded to struggling then it kind of infuriated me. I imagine it's like if someone had to have a suspicious mole removed and then acted ridiculous about it on FB and their friend who has cancer and is going through chemo saw it.
If you have a good friend who you know or suspect to be dealing with IF issues my best advice is to text them that you are pregnant before you post on FB. Don't call them or tell them in person. Texts are the best because it allows the person to cry or throw their phone or react however they need to without having to fake an emotion. They can also choose to unfollow you on FB if they don't want to see any pregnancy things before you even announce.
But yeah - if you want to announce do not hesitate to do so. IF ladies are hurting and struggling regardless.
While I haven't had the IF struggles discussed above, I did experience 2 back to back miscarriages. So I know all too well the feelings associated with seeing pregnancy announcements on social media.
My personal view is that every baby deserves to be celebrated. And my pain shouldn't take away from someone else's joy.
Can it be painful to see? Absolutely. Was I happy for those friends? Very much so.
If you know of someone specifically who you think would struggle with the announcement for one reason or another, I would encourage you to send them a private message telling them first. It gives them some time to digest this news and decide how they want to proceed. Please don't be hurt if someone unfollows you because of it. It has nothing to do with you. It's just how they need to cope.
Coming from both*TW* two losses and IF, honestly, there came a point that I felt like Facebook was trolling me. I can't tell you how many announcements for people I don't even freaking know showed up in my feed just because someone I do know liked them. No, I didn't feel joy for those strangers. Especially ones where there was whining about the surprise or the sex or the due date. And hallelujah to the part about people acting like they really struggled because it took them more than one cycle. Or ones that throw in smugness about #blessed and God. That kind of spits in the faces of people who are deserving of blessings and have also been praying.
The wife of one person I actually do know from high school had some rambling post about how she's not going to let the fact that other people have IF make her feel bad about announcing their fifth child. It was terrible.
Was I delighted for my friends, though? Yes. Even if I cried when I initially heard the news.
But again, other people's struggles don't mean you can't celebrate and be happy. It just means that we can all take the extra time to craft an announcement that will be gentle with others and skipping on jokes that might be hurtful. @stlbuckeye132 you're already showing that you're aware and want to be gentle. Announce when you're ready.
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
Married: May 2008
DD Born: March 2018
DS Born: April 2019
Due with #3 December 2020!
Married: May 2008
DD Born: March 2018
DS Born: April 2019
Due with #3 December 2020!