I have been so anxious to announce this pregnancy to my family, but want to do it in a fun way. Thought about getting a shirt that says sister on it for DD to wear and just have her wear it next time we are with family without saying anything to anyone and seeing how long it takes for someone to notice. Has anyone else announced yet? Or have any fun ways to go about it? I'd love to hear ideas! I can't decide if I should wait till the end of this trimester.. but it's so hard keeping it from my mom! Especially since I'm so bloated I feel like I look 16weeks!
Maybe just tell your family first and friends and everyone else after the first trimester? Check out Pinterest, they have TONS of cute ideas for spilling the beans! I couldn't contain myself, so my parents knew something was up, lol. But make it something personable that maybe has to do with something your mom likes? Maybe if she likes wine, give her a bottle of wine with a note saying something like, "drink a glass for me, I can't until March 2018." Or I saw this one with a cute baby onsie that says, "Shall I call you Nana or Grandma? You better decide before March 2018!"
Yea.. I was expecting another ectopic so I made a very matter of fact announcement to family and friends to standby. We've never really been into the whole secret keeping aspect.. I announced with both girls around 10wks and by then most everyone knew already. I am a big advocate of eliminating the taboo on early pregnancy loss as well. It happens, pretty commonly. Women should be allowed to talk about their experience without being judged for sharing too soon .
Spontaneous pregnancy #1 DD1 July 31, 2011
Trying for #2 since Oct 11
732973 Clomid Cycles
2 IUIs
3 Fresh IVFs= 1 Ectopic treated with MTX Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016 Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3 Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
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January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt
#1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17 December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC) Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA) FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018 May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus" FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019 Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two! Lost Baby A 02 July 2018 Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018 Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
Next Up:
TTC Naturally, possibly IUIs for remainder of 2018. ER#2 ~Jan 2019
We have already told our family and close friends (I'm with you @potatocastillo about taking away the secrecy and stigma of early pregnancy losses.). We will probably not put anything on social media, but rather let people find out as they find out, and then anyone who doesn't know yet will find out on our Christmas cards! Trying to think of some fun way to do our Christmas card now...it's kind of not that far away!
I was thinking something like this, but with just the onesie without embryo pic and ultrasound. I have a onesie that says "finally" with a heart underneath that I think I'll use.
I have no idea how we will announce this time. *TW* We've had 2 back to back miscarriages which I sadly feel has taken the "fun" out of announcing. I still want to announce. But it's more of a "please pray for us" *End TW*
We had the grandparents read DS a "I am a big brother" book. Took them a while to get it. I also gave onesies saying "I love my grandparents" when we were pregnant with DS. For my grandma we put a bun in the oven and made her look for her birthday present in the kitchen. I had tied blue and pink ribbon around it. She loved it.
For DH, I made the attached: (name blocked out for stranger danger purposes)
Last time we told my family early - like 5w3d - because it was Christmas. I wrapped a test with a note about my parents being grandparents and Baby [last name] arriving August 2016 and had them open it last. It was really special, but I was nervous to tell so early. We didn't tell DH's family until after the NT scan because my FIL is a huge gossip. Then we told family and friends after both immediate families knew. We did a social media announcement after the anatomy scan with our dog.
This time around I'm thinking we'll do something during DD's first birthday pictures. Just not sure what yet.
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Me: 30 H: 30 Dx: PCOS Married: June 2013 TTC#1: January 2015 BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16 TTC#2: June 2017 BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
I hadn't even thought about holiday cards! Kind of excited to stalk Pinterest for that now. I'm a little over 5 weeks and we aren't planning to tell for awhile just because DS's first birthday is this week and his party is next weekend, and I want this time to be all about him. Plus I'm not ready to deal with all the family hype yet of me being pregnant again and wanting to talk about it 24/7. I kind of like having a secret with DH
@potatocastillo I really like the whole breaking the taboo thing. I decided to tell close friends and family in a very matter of fact way too. I've never had a loss but I figure anyone who I told about IF treatments and anyone I would want support from during a loss I can tell now. No special announcements and no fanfare.
Neither of us are on social media so none of that here. The only thing we are thinking of doing something cute for is my MIL. But probably nothing super creative-- maybe just a grandma mug with a u/s pic inside. This will be her first grandkid so that alone will probably make her flip out.
We have told our family with a picture from DSs one year photo shoot... we got the photographer to take one with him wearing a big brother shirt. His birthday party is this weekend and we are thinking about sharing with the rest of our extended family and close friends at the party... probably with the same shirt! We did a cute facebook announcement last time and will probably think of something again but maybe not for a couple months (16-20 weeks). I feel like keeping it a secret longer this time (for now...)
All of my family and one of my closest friends already know. Initial my doctor believed the HCG present in my blood was a sign of Timor, cancer or serious thyroid issue as neither of us believed that I could be pregnant.
I chose to to stay positive and sent this announcement to our family as soon as we knew I was actually pregnant. They support both DH and I in the 24 hour waiting period between results to confirm what was going on.
Eyes blocked out for stranger danger
[color=purple]Married July 2014[/color] [color=pink]First Monkey July 2015[/color] [color=green]Baby No2 March 2018 ~Team Green~[/color]
We plan on spilling at DS1's 6th birthday in August. DS3 will wear a shirt that says "New Big Brother" on the back: the same shirt DS1 wore at his first birthday when we announced we were expecting DS2
We already have 3 boys. Since we're not telling until after first tri, I'm going to get a swimsuit for whatever sex the new baby is, go down to the beach and hang it on a make shift clothes line with my older boys trunks. I think it will be really cute
I told my family and a few friends already - my family I always tell immediately and I also know now how much i need them for a loss.
I want to tell my kids in a cute way oldest is 6) but I don't know how... not till we we are safer. We should know the sex by then too. And I haven't yet decided how to announce to the world
we also need to tell ils sometime, uhhh. They will be fake nice about it at best
I'll probably do a "big brother" shirt for my son and take a cute picture. We got a library book called "There's Going to be a Baby" so maybe we'll incorporate him holding the book into the picture too. We plan to announce to more of our extended friend group and family today after our second ultrasound.
@runnergirl2015 another 3 boy mama!! IM surprised by how many of us there are here! How old are yours? Mine are 6, 4.5, 2. @EricaD777 (I hope that's the right Erica d) does too, and I think there's were a couple others I saw. I don't feel like it's that common to have a bunch of us!
I am thinking something along the lines of my husband and my son holding a sign that says 2 and my daughter and I holding a sign with a 2 and a caption underneath that says tiebreaker coming march 2018.
Pretty sure I finalized my choice on how we will announce last night. We are going to wait until Labor Day (should be right at the end of first tri/beg of second tri) and will send out messages about everyone enjoying their Labor Day, but we are postponing ours and celebrating in March 2018
@runnergirl2015 another 3 boy mama!! IM surprised by how many of us there are here! How old are yours? Mine are 6, 4.5, 2. @EricaD777 (I hope that's the right Erica d) does too, and I think there's were a couple others I saw. I don't feel like it's that common to have a bunch of us!
We Facetimed with my parents last night and said DD wanted to show them her new shirt, which said "Big Sister" - it took a minute for them to get it DH is more of the social media person, so he'll probably announce later, definitely after first ultrasound, maybe later.
We bought DD a shirt from target that says "I'm the new big sister" and we FaceTime all of our family. It took a long time for most of them to notice, and some we even had to point it out. I'm gonna compile all the videos into one, and post that, the ultrasound, and our family photos where DD will be wearing a nicer big sister shirt for FB. Photos are on the 2nd, and ultrasound is next week so anytime after that, we are good to announce.
We will probably tell parents after the 6 week scan, and other family around 12 weeks, sending out the picture of the 12 week ultrasound. For friends/the public, last time we announced after we found out the sex, so I think we'll do that again this time. I'd like to do it around Halloween, with a picture of DS dressed up in a costume and me next to him with my bump "dressed up" in a corresponding "costume," like Batman & Robin (or Batman & Batgirl, depending on sex), or pilot & copilot, and think of a clever caption like "sidekick arriving march 2018." I'm not sure of the details yet since it'll depend on what we decide for DS's costume, but if it looks weird with the bump dressed up and then I'll just do a plain black tee.
My friend, who is really good at photography, is coming to DD's first birthday party next month. I've already asked her to take some family photos. We plan to put DD in a shirt I bought a couple weeks ago that says "only child status expiring soon." We'll take a family photo of her in that shirt and announce on FB that she has a secret she'd like to share along with the pic. I haven't decided if we'll announce around 14 weeks or wait until viability like we did last time.
For our parents we just put DD in the shirt and no one ever got it until we pointed it out. We'll probably tell extended family either at DD's party or a few weeks later.
We've already told our family with a shirt that says "promoted to big brother". We had to point the shirt out to everyone. We've told our closest friends. Last time, we waited until 18 weeks to announce on social media (we actually announced on March 9 last year, which is when I think my due date may be, so pretty cool) with DS and we'll probably do something similar this time. We'll probably start to slowly tell friends as we see them around the beginning of the 2nd trimester.
@runnergirl2015 another 3 boy mama!! IM surprised by how many of us there are here! How old are yours? Mine are 6, 4.5, 2. @EricaD777 (I hope that's the right Erica d) does too, and I think there's were a couple others I saw. I don't feel like it's that common to have a bunch of us!
8, 5, and 2; so really close to yours!
@pghctwife yep! That's me. My boys are 6, 4, and 2. Little balls of energy (that I don't have lol)
With DS 1, we just posted an ultrasound. With DS 2, we had DS1 hold a picture that said "Only Child Club expiring March 2013." With DS 3, my boys wore Thing 1 and Thing 2 shirts while I had Thing 3 on mine. I came up with some cutesy Dr. Seuss -like poem.
With this one, I was thinking something along the lines of the Connect 4 game...3 blues in a row, will this be a connect 4? or a ninja turtles themed something or other.
Im excited to think of something fun. For DS, I handmade some cute cards and gifts that I mailed because my family is all over and they opened them while face timing. And on social media we did a Cubs theme with a baby jersey with our last name and balls that had the due date inside a glove. I am so excited to do something cute with DS! When I told DH, I got a "Big Bro" shirt for DS and when DH got home from work, DS walked over to him, wearing the shirt and shaking a ziploc bag with the two tests! LOL! It was super cute!!
We told our parents and grandparents over Skype, and I called my best friend before I even told my DH. Surprised DH with Starbucks at work and just told him.
We're going to announce tomorrow on FB after my 6 week check up. The kitchen is my DD's favorite toy right now, and our last name is food related, so I thought I'd just go with it. I only wish the front of her shirt was visible, alas toddlers don't cooperate. It says: #Epic #Cool #Sister
Re: Making the announcement!
Spontaneous pregnancy #1
DD1 July 31, 2011
Trying for #2 since Oct 11
Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016
Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
Is there a reason the shoes are all "on the wrong feet" like that, is there a story? Just curious.
Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
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BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
Met with OBGYN in January 2016
Me: all clear, H: OAT
November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo.
BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two!
Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
ER#2 ~Jan 2019
For the public, probably something along the lines of this:
We just tell family. No big deal.
EDD March 12, 2018
We had the grandparents read DS a "I am a big brother" book. Took them a while to get it. I also gave onesies saying "I love my grandparents" when we were pregnant with DS. For my grandma we put a bun in the oven and made her look for her birthday present in the kitchen. I had tied blue and pink ribbon around it. She loved it.
For DH, I made the attached: (name blocked out for stranger danger purposes)
Last time we told my family early - like 5w3d - because it was Christmas. I wrapped a test with a note about my parents being grandparents and Baby [last name] arriving August 2016 and had them open it last. It was really special, but I was nervous to tell so early. We didn't tell DH's family until after the NT scan because my FIL is a huge gossip. Then we told family and friends after both immediate families knew. We did a social media announcement after the anatomy scan with our dog.
This time around I'm thinking we'll do something during DD's first birthday pictures. Just not sure what yet.
*edited to remove picture*
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
@justkeeptrying You're ticket idea is super cute
@potatocastillo I really like the whole breaking the taboo thing. I decided to tell close friends and family in a very matter of fact way too. I've never had a loss but I figure anyone who I told about IF treatments and anyone I would want support from during a loss I can tell now. No special announcements and no fanfare.
Neither of us are on social media so none of that here. The only thing we are thinking of doing something cute for is my MIL. But probably nothing super creative-- maybe just a grandma mug with a u/s pic inside. This will be her first grandkid so that alone will probably make her flip out.
We did a cute facebook announcement last time and will probably think of something again but maybe not for a couple months (16-20 weeks). I feel like keeping it a secret longer this time (for now...)
I chose to to stay positive and sent this announcement to our family as soon as we knew I was actually pregnant. They support both DH and I in the 24 hour waiting period between results to confirm what was going on.
Eyes blocked out for stranger danger
[color=pink]First Monkey July 2015[/color]
[color=green]Baby No2 March 2018
~Team Green~[/color]
I want to tell my kids in a cute way oldest is 6) but I don't know how... not till we we are safer. We should know the sex by then too. And I haven't yet decided how to announce to the world
we also need to tell ils sometime, uhhh. They will be fake nice about it at best
11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
08/03/17 no hb 8w
11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
08/03/17 no hb 8w
EDD March 12, 2018
For our parents we just put DD in the shirt and no one ever got it until we pointed it out. We'll probably tell extended family either at DD's party or a few weeks later.
BFP #1: 10/15/10- DS born 6/29/11
BFP #2: 6/26/2012- DS born 3/11/13
BFP #3: 2/26/14- MMC and D&C 4/11/14
BFP#4: 9/1/14- MC 9/6/14
BFP#5: 10/3/14- Due Date 6/15/15
With this one, I was thinking something along the lines of the Connect 4 game...3 blues in a row, will this be a connect 4? or a ninja turtles themed something or other.
BFP #1: 10/15/10- DS born 6/29/11
BFP #2: 6/26/2012- DS born 3/11/13
BFP #3: 2/26/14- MMC and D&C 4/11/14
BFP#4: 9/1/14- MC 9/6/14
BFP#5: 10/3/14- Due Date 6/15/15
DD's shirt says "I'm the big sister" but you can't tell in the pic.
H sent this to his fam on FB today so I guess we are "announced"
Spontaneous pregnancy #1
DD1 July 31, 2011
Trying for #2 since Oct 11
Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016
Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
Im excited to think of something fun. For DS, I handmade some cute cards and gifts that I mailed because my family is all over and they opened them while face timing. And on social media we did a Cubs theme with a baby jersey with our last name and balls that had the due date inside a glove. I am so excited to do something cute with DS! When I told DH, I got a "Big Bro" shirt for DS and when DH got home from work, DS walked over to him, wearing the shirt and shaking a ziploc bag with the two tests! LOL! It was super cute!!
We're going to announce tomorrow on FB after my 6 week check up. The kitchen is my DD's favorite toy right now, and our last name is food related, so I thought I'd just go with it. I only wish the front of her shirt was visible, alas toddlers don't cooperate. It says: #Epic #Cool #Sister