@vlagrl29 Yes. I hate digital OPKs so I only use the test strips. The test line has to be as dark as or darker than the control line to be positive.
@fishee333 For most men without any sperm issues, BDing ED is fine, but some doctors suggest EOD to let the stock replenish. But every man is different - we've discovered through our IUI journey that DH actually has better numbers on the second day of IUI (we do inseminations two days in a row instead of just once) rather than on the first day where he has been told to abstain for 2 days prior. The RE said some men have better samples after abstaining for a couple of days and some men have better numbers if they ejaculate daily.
Oct 16: Spontaneous BFP | m/c @ 9w1d (massive SCH) | D&C Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN May 17: IUI #2 = BFN Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies) Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = cancelled due to missed ovulation
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = BFP! Beta 1: 201 Beta 2: 585 Beta 3: 3254 Beta 4: 9715
U/S 19May - one bean measuring on track with a HB of 125! EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
Hello everyone-- new here to the bump-- joined when I first found out I was pregnant in July, but miscarried shortly after at 5 weeks. CD14 right now, and we are TTC this cycle-- just feeling really nervous about it-- it took 3 months of TTC the last time and I was excited to try when we first started, but now I'm so afraid it could happen again, almost scared to TTC.
I just found out two days ago my best friend and her husband just started TTC and got pregnant on their first try-- she knows everything that has happened and I feel she was almost apologetic to me when she broke the news, which made me feel bad-- I want her to not feel she has to hide her happiness from me just because we're having difficulties. I told her I was so excited for them but it did have an awkward feel to the conversation. I honestly am happy for her-- the only thing I could say though is that it makes me worry even more something is wrong with me.
Anyone else ever dealt with these fears/ how do you deal with worry but also be a joyful support to your friends that are pregnant?
@OakandMaple12 so sorry for your loss. I think everyone is diff on how they handle friend pregnancy announcements. I haven't had any close friends who have been pregnant since my loss. I do feel like I tend to separate myself from situations that may upset me. I think you handled it fine. Nobody understands how upsetting a loss is unless they have experienced one. Also, unfortunately miscarriages are common but plenty of women go on to have healthy pregnancies. I have to keep telling myself that. I know it's hard waiting for that rainbow baby tho!
OakandMaple12 As someone who's been around for a while... 2 years... let me offer you some insight. The BEST advice I can offer from something I'd read on here several months after I joined, is that you can't focus on the negative. You have to look positively towards the future, that you WILL be PG again and that it will work out. And when you see those lines again, remember, that you are pregnant NOW. Ignoring the baby and pretending nothing is happening is not going to change anything if you end up with another MC, besides making you feel worse that you didn't love that baby while you had the chance. Additionally, I have seen so many faces come and go over the past 2 years, that I can't even remember screen names of people who haven't been around for at least 4 or so cycles and actively participating. The point is, that although I'm still stuck here 2 years later in this shitty situation that abysmally sucks... I am not the norm. The majority of people come to this board after their first MC, (maybe end up with a CP, but usually not) they're here for 2-8 cycles, they get their BFP, and then they are gone. Forever. And end up with their take-home baby. The statistics are on your side. Don't fret over things that you can't control. There is a huge likelihood that things will be peachy keen for you. However, if they're not... this group is here, there are a few long timers here, and we will get you through it...
MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks) MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks) MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP) RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017 MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP) RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017 MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)
RE #3: More testing 2023. Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing. Surgery for endometriosis January 2024 Lupron Depo March 2024. Benched 3 months.
FET #1: June 3, 2024 (failed)
Lupron Depo June 2024. Benched 3 months again before next FET.
OakandMaple12 Everyone has different triggers and reminders that make them react differently to their own loss. My loss was also in July and I would never have expected to have the roller coaster of emotions that I've had. I thought I'd bounce back relatively quickly mentally and physically. I had no clue. I suppose it makes me a bit of a creeper, but I have found that seeing the TWW *TW* announcements has actually helped me feel more positive about my own situation. I look forward to seeing the other women in here that had a loss, have had their own struggle, and now get to announce they're moving to the PGAL board. It may, or may not happen for me, but in that moment I can feel excited for another deserving woman who in some cases, beat the odds. I hope that your stay here is short and you're one of the lucky ones to leave here with that double pink line.
Mack2342 EVERYTHING Everything? Or just Everything I said above?
MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks) MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks) MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP) RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017 MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP) RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017 MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)
RE #3: More testing 2023. Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing. Surgery for endometriosis January 2024 Lupron Depo March 2024. Benched 3 months.
FET #1: June 3, 2024 (failed)
Lupron Depo June 2024. Benched 3 months again before next FET.
MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks) MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks) MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP) RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017 MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP) RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017 MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)
RE #3: More testing 2023. Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing. Surgery for endometriosis January 2024 Lupron Depo March 2024. Benched 3 months.
FET #1: June 3, 2024 (failed)
Lupron Depo June 2024. Benched 3 months again before next FET.
CD2 so jumping on this board. My cycles are all messed up since my 2 mc's. Normally 29 ish days but somehow this cycle I'm at 25 which kind of took me by surprise but really nothing surprises me anymore on this roller coaster of a ride.
@OakandMaple12 - One of my closest friends has just started TTC and last week we all went for sushi and I noticed she was the only one without a drink and she was only eating veggie sushi (nothing raw). I went home and cried myself to sleep that night and I have no idea if she's actually pg or not. I wasn't upset with her, just sad that it wasn't me. And then of course the thought crossed my mind - if she is, she's still so early, anything can happen.. and I hope to god nothing happens, but of course that thought crossed my mind. But as I was crying myself to sleep I realized I had to focus not on the 'why not me' but on 'it can happen to me too'. You are not alone in dealing with these feelings and fears. @dpjennifer Great words of advice, thank you.
On mobile so having a hard time following along and responding to others, so sorry!
@OakandMaple12 welcome to the board but sorry you're here. I know what you're feeling like, because I'm also scared TTC again. I know statistically speaking, there's a good chance we'll go on to have healthy pregnancies, but my mc will always be in the back of my mind now, and I know I'll be a nervous wreck if I do get pg again.
AFM, I'm on CD 7 and I'm just having a rough day. I'm happy to be in my first cycle again, but I'm just feeling so angry and upset lately and I can't shake it. I thought I was doing so well lately, but the last couple of days I've just been feeling so down. I'm just so sick of seeing reminders everywhere about my loss. I just want to get past this and get back to feeling good again.
@amberruka I love the golden girls that was one of my favorites too but I love em all. I hate that we are all still here but hopefully it not for much longer
so i'm in doubt the OPKs I got are working. I think I'll go back to the digital next cycle. We are HIO EOD so I'm not too concerned about missing anything. CD 15 today. I'll probably hang in WTO thru the weekend anyways.
@MooFish2364 My sister told me a couple days ago that she is knocked up and that was pretty much my EXACT feeling! I'm doing better with it now, but the first 24 hours after finding out were rough and I am not proud of the feelings I had.
Question for you you ladies who temp. I think today is O day. Waiting to confirm with 3 days of temps. Do any of you stop temping after ovulation is confirmed? Or do you temp your entire cycle? I'm wondering if putting down the thermometer during TWW will make me calmer or crazier...
since I'm benched, I've been a VERY lazy temper! I don't temp during the week AF starts, I haven't been temping as much after O is confirmed, etc. However, when I'm actually trying I try to temp EVERY day (even if I take the temperature later), since I have wonky cycles, and RPL hasn't helped that at all.
MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks) MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks) MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP) RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017 MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP) RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017 MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)
RE #3: More testing 2023. Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing. Surgery for endometriosis January 2024 Lupron Depo March 2024. Benched 3 months.
FET #1: June 3, 2024 (failed)
Lupron Depo June 2024. Benched 3 months again before next FET.
@leahcimmichael I completely understand. I used to temp my whole cycle because they say if you have 18 (I believe) days of temps above coverline in your luteal phase that you are for sure KU. But I began to find that it was such a depressing way to start my day when I would have a temp drop, that I stopped. Because I have temped for so long and I know my bodies normal temps in the follicular and luteal phases that I only temp from like CD 13-16 just to confirm O.
I wish I could gif cause I would have a good one. TW child mention - DD is in first grade so I've basically gotten my life back during the day which is awesome cause I can do more than I've been able to do in 5 years. Last year I was feeling desperate to have another baby and would see the neighbors that had multiple kids wondering if that would ever be us. This year as I drop off DD at the bus stop and come back to the house and see those neighbors with their younger kids to take care of the rest of day I think to myself "ha I can do what I want and you guys are still stuck with your kids all day" lol - I love it!
MooFish2364 is right about the 18 days. With my first PG, it was the first time I'd ever temped and I waited that 18 days of raised temperatures before I took the test! And it definitely can be depressing to see the temperatures drop; however, I'm with Mack2342 on the temping. It can be sad to see the temperatures drop, but not as sad as being SO hopeful and taking that test to see it be stark white with a BFN. Also, I'm cheap so I don't want to pay to pee on more things than I need to.
MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks) MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks) MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP) RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017 MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP) RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017 MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)
RE #3: More testing 2023. Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing. Surgery for endometriosis January 2024 Lupron Depo March 2024. Benched 3 months.
FET #1: June 3, 2024 (failed)
Lupron Depo June 2024. Benched 3 months again before next FET.
@dpjennifer that right there is perfectly said. I don't temp but that is how I would feel about the temp drop but it also is great not to waste money on tests if unnecessary.
Blinking smile for me this morning. Hopefully it'll be solid before long, my anxious nerves are shot already and I haven't even entered the TWW yet. I'm irrationally hopefully and well aware I'm setting myself up for a huge disappointment at the end, but still can't seem to rein in the excitement. *rolls eyes at myself*
@ELeighMay Every. Single. Month. Hope is a double-edged sword!
Sounds like some mixed results as to whether to keep temping. I don't know that I have the self-control to not POAS starting at 10 dpo (it's those dang Wondfos! They're soooo cheap!) so the temp drop doesn't really help in that respect. Maybe I'll try not temping after O is confirmed this month and rate how BSC I am because of it instead... "today my BSC is 98.6, yesterday it was 97.8"
Went for monitoring on CD 8 yesterday. I have a 1.5, two 1.2, and three 1.1 cm follicles on my left ovary, and nothing significant on my right. Typical - my left usually does all the heavy lifting. I took the last dose of femara and they increased my Gonal F to 125 IU each night. I start Orgalutran tonight to suppress ovulation and give time for a few extra follicles to catch up to the 1.5 (hopefully). I'm annoyed that my body seemed to respond really well the first 2 cycles and has been crappy ever since even with all these increased meds. And I also feel like complete sh*t on the meds so I hope we're looking at a mid-week IUI. Next monitoring appointment is Monday. FX for 3-4 good follies.
I temped for about 18 months when TTC about 7 years ago, and I found I was just as BSC if I temped or didn't temp and typically peed on all the sticks anyway....
Oct 16: Spontaneous BFP | m/c @ 9w1d (massive SCH) | D&C Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN May 17: IUI #2 = BFN Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies) Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = cancelled due to missed ovulation
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = BFP! Beta 1: 201 Beta 2: 585 Beta 3: 3254 Beta 4: 9715
U/S 19May - one bean measuring on track with a HB of 125! EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
Omg still a silly blinking smiley!!! I test twice a day. Anyone test like 12 hours apart? (I'm just wondering if my surge is short and I missed it.) I always do morning and early afternoon since you can't pee and/or drink too much!
Re: September WTO
@fishee333 For most men without any sperm issues, BDing ED is fine, but some doctors suggest EOD to let the stock replenish. But every man is different - we've discovered through our IUI journey that DH actually has better numbers on the second day of IUI (we do inseminations two days in a row instead of just once) rather than on the first day where he has been told to abstain for 2 days prior. The RE said some men have better samples after abstaining for a couple of days and some men have better numbers if they ejaculate daily.
*TW loss and children mentioned*
Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN
May 17: IUI #2 = BFN
Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w
Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN
Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies)
Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN
Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen
Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN
Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green
My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
I just found out two days ago my best friend and her husband just started TTC and got pregnant on their first try-- she knows everything that has happened and I feel she was almost apologetic to me when she broke the news, which made me feel bad-- I want her to not feel she has to hide her happiness from me just because we're having difficulties. I told her I was so excited for them but it did have an awkward feel to the conversation. I honestly am happy for her-- the only thing I could say though is that it makes me worry even more something is wrong with me.
Anyone else ever dealt with these fears/ how do you deal with worry but also be a joyful support to your friends that are pregnant?
well guess I'll buy some more opks - didn't realize I should test twice a day.
Additionally, I have seen so many faces come and go over the past 2 years, that I can't even remember screen names of people who haven't been around for at least 4 or so cycles and actively participating. The point is, that although I'm still stuck here 2 years later in this shitty situation that abysmally sucks... I am not the norm. The majority of people come to this board after their first MC, (maybe end up with a CP, but usually not) they're here for 2-8 cycles, they get their BFP, and then they are gone. Forever. And end up with their take-home baby. The statistics are on your side. Don't fret over things that you can't control. There is a huge likelihood that things will be peachy keen for you. However, if they're not... this group is here, there are a few long timers here, and we will get you through it...
MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks)
MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks)
MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP)
RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017
MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP)
RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017
MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)
RE #3: More testing 2023.
Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing.
Surgery for endometriosis January 2024
Lupron Depo March 2024. Benched 3 months.
FET #1: June 3, 2024 (failed)
Lupron Depo June 2024. Benched 3 months again before next FET.
FET #2: September 2024 (failed)
FET #3: December 2024 (failed)
#BitterHagPartyOf1
I suppose it makes me a bit of a creeper, but I have found that seeing the TWW *TW* announcements has actually helped me feel more positive about my own situation. I look forward to seeing the other women in here that had a loss, have had their own struggle, and now get to announce they're moving to the PGAL board. It may, or may not happen for me, but in that moment I can feel excited for another deserving woman who in some cases, beat the odds. I hope that your stay here is short and you're one of the lucky ones to leave here with that double pink line.
MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks)
MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks)
MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP)
RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017
MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP)
RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017
MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)
RE #3: More testing 2023.
Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing.
Surgery for endometriosis January 2024
Lupron Depo March 2024. Benched 3 months.
FET #1: June 3, 2024 (failed)
Lupron Depo June 2024. Benched 3 months again before next FET.
FET #2: September 2024 (failed)
FET #3: December 2024 (failed)
#BitterHagPartyOf1
MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks)
MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks)
MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP)
RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017
MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP)
RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017
MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)
RE #3: More testing 2023.
Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing.
Surgery for endometriosis January 2024
Lupron Depo March 2024. Benched 3 months.
FET #1: June 3, 2024 (failed)
Lupron Depo June 2024. Benched 3 months again before next FET.
FET #2: September 2024 (failed)
FET #3: December 2024 (failed)
#BitterHagPartyOf1
@OakandMaple12 - One of my closest friends has just started TTC and last week we all went for sushi and I noticed she was the only one without a drink and she was only eating veggie sushi (nothing raw). I went home and cried myself to sleep that night and I have no idea if she's actually pg or not. I wasn't upset with her, just sad that it wasn't me. And then of course the thought crossed my mind - if she is, she's still so early, anything can happen.. and I hope to god nothing happens, but of course that thought crossed my mind. But as I was crying myself to sleep I realized I had to focus not on the 'why not me' but on 'it can happen to me too'. You are not alone in dealing with these feelings and fears.
@dpjennifer Great words of advice, thank you.
@OakandMaple12 welcome to the board but sorry you're here. I know what you're feeling like, because I'm also scared TTC again. I know statistically speaking, there's a good chance we'll go on to have healthy pregnancies, but my mc will always be in the back of my mind now, and I know I'll be a nervous wreck if I do get pg again.
AFM, I'm on CD 7 and I'm just having a rough day. I'm happy to be in my first cycle again, but I'm just feeling so angry and upset lately and I can't shake it. I thought I was doing so well lately, but the last couple of days I've just been feeling so down. I'm just so sick of seeing reminders everywhere about my loss. I just want to get past this and get back to feeling good again.
Some of us have longer stays-and may I just say to my girls @dpjennifer @Mack2342 @MooFish2364 @vlagrl29
CP 1/25/16 4.5 weeks, developed Graves' disease
CP 1/25/16 4.5 weeks, developed Graves' disease
Question for you you ladies who temp. I think today is O day. Waiting to confirm with 3 days of temps. Do any of you stop temping after ovulation is confirmed? Or do you temp your entire cycle? I'm wondering if putting down the thermometer during TWW will make me calmer or crazier...
MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks)
MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks)
MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP)
RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017
MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP)
RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017
MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)
RE #3: More testing 2023.
Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing.
Surgery for endometriosis January 2024
Lupron Depo March 2024. Benched 3 months.
FET #1: June 3, 2024 (failed)
Lupron Depo June 2024. Benched 3 months again before next FET.
FET #2: September 2024 (failed)
FET #3: December 2024 (failed)
#BitterHagPartyOf1
MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks)
MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks)
MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP)
RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017
MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP)
RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017
MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)
RE #3: More testing 2023.
Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing.
Surgery for endometriosis January 2024
Lupron Depo March 2024. Benched 3 months.
FET #1: June 3, 2024 (failed)
Lupron Depo June 2024. Benched 3 months again before next FET.
FET #2: September 2024 (failed)
FET #3: December 2024 (failed)
#BitterHagPartyOf1
*rolls eyes at myself*
Sounds like some mixed results as to whether to keep temping. I don't know that I have the self-control to not POAS starting at 10 dpo (it's those dang Wondfos! They're soooo cheap!) so the temp drop doesn't really help in that respect.
Maybe I'll try not temping after O is confirmed this month and rate how BSC I am because of it instead... "today my BSC is 98.6, yesterday it was 97.8"
I temped for about 18 months when TTC about 7 years ago, and I found I was just as BSC if I temped or didn't temp and typically peed on all the sticks anyway....
*TW loss and children mentioned*
Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN
May 17: IUI #2 = BFN
Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w
Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN
Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies)
Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN
Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen
Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN
Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green
My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019