Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: *Introductions!*
Me (33). DH (37). DD (2.2012). MCs x4. After 4 years & 7 months, due 4.2018!
Another FTM in Boston. EDD is 4/1 according to O date (TCOYF/BBT charter). I have long, crazy irregular cycles and we thought TTC would take forever but we got lucky on our 2nd try so this is still a huge shock (fx). Found out 7/20 at 10DPO so I'm 5w4d.
Currently trying to quell my nausea and keep myself from peeing on sticks (why). Dog-mom to a 5yo Frenchie, fan of all the tacos and margs (RIP), wannabe world traveler with DH. Excited to be here and go through all this craziness with everyone!
Married: 10/3/15
TTC: May 2017
BFP: 7/20/17
EDD: 3/29/18
I really can't believe I'm pregnant again, but I'm going along with it and pretending it's actually happening...
I'm a STM due 4/7/18. Got my BFP on Sunday, 7/30 (totally forgot my period was due 7/29!), and I carry my pee stick everywhere for when I need a reality check!!! I have a sweet rainbow baby boy who will be 1 on August 15th. That's right! I'll have 2 under 2! It took 3 years of battling male factor infertility to conceive my son. My very first pregnancy didn't come until 2.5 years of TTC and ended at 7 weeks, but my pregnancy with my son was perfect. In fact, he was 8 days overdue! We are still proudly and happily breastfeeding, which makes it extra shocking that I conceived only 11 months postpartum, on only my 2nd regular cycle! Sooo, I'll have been continuously pregnant and/or breastfeeding since November 2015, and well into 2019 I'm sure! I just can't wrap my head around it.
Hubby and I have been married for 6 years this October. I'm 26 years old and work as an x-ray tech (meaning I have to declare my pregnancy at early at work for safety) but trying to be a WAHM after waiting so long for my babies. We have a dog and 2 cats and are moving the crew from SoCal to Upstate NY by October--even more of an undertaking now with Baby 2 on the way!
Welcome EDD buddy! I can't believe you're planning on moving! That sounds like a lot!
@kmalls
I'm an esthetician from Albuquerque, NM. I got my BFP last week and my DH and I could not be more excited! My EDD is April 4th. I am a FTM!!
I'm a STM with a son, a husband, and 2 dogs. I live in NC. I was apart of the May 16 board so SHOUT OUT to any May 16 ladies on this BMB!
TW...I had a MC in June so now I'm back again on TB and hopefully stick around. Fingers crossed...End TW.
Excited to get to know everyone, I love my May 16 BMB so I hope this one will be just as amazing!
My BFP was a few days ago and my EDD is April 10. We had been TTC for a little while so we are thrilled. My first appointment isn't until Aug 29 which feels so far away!!
I am a first grade teacher in WA.