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FFFC 6/23/17

NYTino24NYTino24 member
edited June 2017 in November 2017 Moms
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It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*

Me: 36 DH 35 
TTC  9/2016     BFP 12/9/16    EDD 8/21/17    NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC  2/2017  BFP 3/6/17   EDD 11/17/17   DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018   BFP 6/2/19   EDD 2/12/20  NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019   BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19    IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone  BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20

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  • DuchessOfCambridgeDuchessOfCambridge member
    I don't like when parents send me or post pictures of their kids butt naked. It seems like it kind of violates the child to me. I got a video from my friend of her 2 mo old and 20 mo old naked on the ground, and the 20 mo old spread her legs wide open and her parents cracked up in the background. I know I tend to be conservative but that was a bit much for me.

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  • kwaldykwaldy member
    @DuchessOfCambridge totally agree! I don't even like letting my daughter hang out in just a diaper for too long (exceptions made for when she's sick and we're trying to control a fever, obviously.) I know a girl whose daughter is ALWAYS shirtless on Snapchat, and is frequently only in underwear. She's four, and it really disturbs me.

    I will return when I think of my confession of the day lol. 
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  • car1acar1a member
    DuchessOfCambridge said:
    I feel weird about going home this weekend and being noticeably pregnant in front of my parents. My high school bff talked me through my feelings and we concluded that it's because I grew up in such a conservative household that it's just uncomfortable and kind of embarrassing to admit I did what needs to be done to have a baby.
    It's funny you say this because when we told my parents I honestly thought my dad would be SO happy for us but he had very little reaction all weekend (though he's since asked a bit more how it's going). I think I was talking to my mom who said two insightful things: 1. This is the first time you're truly admitting that you guys indeed have sex and 2. The Last thing a father ever wants is for his daughter to be in pain or potential danger, which we now are/could be. The last part makes me sad but the first makes me giggle (c'mon we've been together 14 years, but even so my dad loves my DH but does have a minor guard up)
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  • zigzag8412zigzag8412 member
    mariposa_767s Can I ask the name/accent?

    @DuchessOfCambridge Oh my goodness yes!  I *do* think there's something classy about well done newborn pictures that are naked baby but don't show anything (thinking of the face down curled/tucked sleeping position from a side shot like these) but our neighbors let their 5 and 3 year old girls run around the front yard stark naked or just in panties if they want.  It's a struggle not only because 1. I'm just not comfortable with it because of the pervs in the world but 2. DD is a foster child and these kids are her age so she wants to do it too and I have to try to explain to her why she isn't allowed in front of a parent who's letting their same-aged kids do it....
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    June 2016- 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 12), thin (2.45) lining | BFN
    July 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 10), thin (~4) lining | BFN
    August 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | BFN | Referred to specialist, visited once, was told we have less than a 3% chance even on medication, recommended to IUI for up to a 50% chance, decided not to pursue at this time | Stopped "trying"
    October 2016- We became licensed foster parents
    November 9, 2016- Arrival of DD#1, 4yo
    March 1, 2017- 1 day late, feel like crap (low fever & exhausted) | Mom suggested test before taking meds, I laughed but did it anyway | BFP! *shock*

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  • cottingham3cottingham3 member
    My FFFC is that after the whole, Chipotle/Moe's/Mexican discussion yesterday....I had queso and chips for supper last night! I ate the entire small order myself!

    Diddo to on the naked baby pics. I have posted pics of my "little" kids in the tub with funny bubble beards or the like. I know it may be a "double standard" but I would have never posted or allowed by DD to be topless after a very young age but my boys are shirtless a lot... But, I believe there is a difference in being at home and having picture posted on a public forum.

    I get what Duchess and other are saying about the awkwardness. I do not have that now, but hey, this is our fourth so I guess people know we pretty much have sex figured out! lol But, I was brought up very conservatively   and still live that way. DH and I dated for 5 years without sex and being married certainly made us feel different in front of our parents and family for a bit! I can remember his grandmother whispering about my first pregnancy but she was from an era when you did not even say that word...you said phrases like "she is in a family way!" We still joke about that.
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  • DuchessOfCambridgeDuchessOfCambridge member
    @cottingham3 yes exactly. It's just weird. We didn't live together or do anything until we got married and now it's like EVERYONE KNOWS. I can't get it out of my head haha which is dumb because I'm an adult and really whenever someone else is pregnant, I just think about the baby, not how it got there.

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  • ineedsixeggsineedsixeggs member
    edited June 2017
    I remember being around 6 and thinking it was so unfair when my same age boy cousin was allowed to run around the yard shirtless but I couldn't. 

    My daughter doesn't always wear clothes when we're home (indoors). But I am very wary of hiding that fact in pictures. Even as a newborn. 

    **TW**

    I read an article shortly after she was born where the blogger had a shared a picture of his newborn daughter and found out later that it had gotten circulated on a child porn site. :'(:'(:'(  I can't even with the perversity in this world. 

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  • KLink15KLink15 member
    edited June 2017
    A.) I take naked belly pics for myself so I can see the changes better but won't really share those with others (other than one time) 
    B.) I am not bothered by naked kid/ baby pics of my nieces/ nephews mainly because I have changed their diapers so whatever but other people's kids or stuff on FB wigs me out
    C.) I am usually not super shy about sex/sexuality it is kind of weird that pregnancy more or less blatantly states it! Lol like I almost feel embarrassed about it with like DH's Grandma and conservative aunt and such lol.
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  • mariposa_767smariposa_767s member
    @zigzag8412 Her name will be Eliana and SO's family is from Puerto Rico.  His parents and that generation of the family still have thick accents.  They pronounce it Iliana.  SO pronounces it the same way most of the time.

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  • ineedsixeggsineedsixeggs member
    @RiverSong15 Agreed about sexuality projecting. And I don't think it's crazy to keep your child's image off the internet because I can totally understand that. Even though it's not something I chose for myself. Though I did up all my privacy settings and purge my friends list.
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  • DuchessOfCambridgeDuchessOfCambridge member
    @RiverSong15 I'd let my daughter run around for a while without a shirt on at home/in a private setting. I don't think there's anything wrong with that, or anything wrong with my friends being ok having their daughters bum naked at home. It's the pictures on social media and other people seeing my kid who could be psychos that makes me nervous.

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  • RiverSong15RiverSong15 member
    edited June 2017
    @DuchessofCambridge Agreed! No naked kiddos on the internet! And in a public space (not in my house/yard), I'd make my kids wear a shirt whether they were boys or girls. Shirts in public are common decency for me. :)

    ETA: pregnancy brain is affecting my grammar.... I forgot which spelling of "whether" was correct. Ooooof.  :D
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  • ArtificialRedArtificialRed member
    I try to be very conscience of the Internet legacy I create for DS. It sticks around forever. I will be that obnoxious parent that doesn't sign the photo permission at school. My child does not get to be free advertising for your school/news/club/store or whatever until he's old enough to understand that these things last forever now. Something someone decides is meme worthy can go viral and seriously damage a child's mental health or legacy. Even though I care so much about this with my own child, I'm sure I've shared gifs or memes with children before, and honestly I should try harder because that's also someone else's child and someone's image forever.

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  • KLink15KLink15 member
    DH is totally having sympathy symptoms, and part of me is irritated because sorry this is my time and my issues stop being a moody butt who is complaining about not feeling good... I know he has a physical job and works hard outside all day but dang it I get so frustrated when he is whining like he is going through more than me.... 
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  • RiverSong15RiverSong15 member
    @KLink15 That's definitely annoying! My DH is doing the same thing. My back hurts? His too. I gained weight? Him too. I'm exhausted? Him too. Lol. It's to the point now that when he chimes in with a "me too", I just give him a dirty look and we laugh about it. Pretty sure I'm the one that's pregnant here dude! Lol.
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  • MississippiCatfishMississippiCatfish member
    @ooodalollly  As least I keep it to myself, right??
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  • ineedsixeggsineedsixeggs member
    @MississippiCatfish I'm just kidding. :D I am totally an animal person, but I also respect when other people are not and will never force my pet on anyone. 
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  • MississippiCatfishMississippiCatfish member
    edited June 2017
    @ooodalollly Most people don't.  And when people do at work, I just chalk it up to the fact that they're in a stressful situation and not thinking very clearly about it.  Hopefully they wouldn't do that at the park or something.
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  • KLink15KLink15 member
    Lol it's ok @MississippiCatfish I am an obsessed animal person but I get they aren't for everyone. I have an issue with pet owners who are like that too, don't put the person or your pet in a position where it makes anyone uneasy. 
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  • NYTino24NYTino24 member
    @MississippiCatfish I'm not really a pet person either. We grew up with a zoo (4 cats, two dogs, 2 guinea pigs, a rabbit, gerbils, fish - many of those at the same time) and I just don't like dealing with their poop, pee, and sometimes licking. I don't care when it's a kid I can take with me, but someone needs to take care of the pets when you go away and the hair drives me nuts. DH is allergic to pet hair and therefore we won't have pets. However, we do dogsit his parents' hypoallergenic Maltese, who is actually on his way here for two weeks. 
    It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*

    Me: 36 DH 35 
    TTC  9/2016     BFP 12/9/16    EDD 8/21/17    NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
    TTC  2/2017  BFP 3/6/17   EDD 11/17/17   DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
    TTC 12/2018   BFP 6/2/19   EDD 2/12/20  NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
    TTC 7/2019   BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
    TTC 8/19    IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone  BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
    IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20

    AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
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  • DuchessOfCambridgeDuchessOfCambridge member
    @MississippiCatfish I love MY animal but I don't necessarily love everyone else's...if that makes sense. Some of my friends have super fluffy cats that always have dirt and stuff stuck in their fur, and DH's cousin's cat just smells bad because she's too fat to clean herself effectively. I do not want to touch those animals. Also, in terms of dogs, I like to look at dogs and I appreciate them, but I do not want to pet most dogs.

    I'm kind of a hypocrite though I think, because when people don't want to pet my cat in my head I'm just like HOW COULD YOU NOT WANT TO?! :lol:

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  • am+mommyam+mommy member
    @DuchessOfCambridge I'm not conservative at all but I still feel uncomfortable with naked kids. I don't really take photos of my kids naked. If I do it's usually to send DH or our parents only. For example DD2 has been walking around pulling down her diaper and pants down slightly with her little butt hanging out and it's so funny. Or bath pictures with toys covering genitals. Either way I wouldn't EVER post those or share them with anyone who isn't a parent or grandparent. You never know who could get ahold of them. 
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  • kissthesky32kissthesky32 member
    bcashaw said:
    There's nothing wrong with kids being naked. But there's a time and place for everything and the Internet isn't it 
    This is how I feel. My kids would be totally naked all the time - we  compromise with underwear/diaper. But, I would never post a picture online of my naked kids. 
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  • kissthesky32kissthesky32 member
    +1 to @DuchessOfCambridge. I love MY animal. DNW to interact with other people's pets. Unless I initiate because they are super cute or something. 
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