@feeislove I just got a $40 bassinet from babies r us. It was on wheels so I can easily move it out of the way. Nothing fancy but for our needs it suited us fine.
@feeislove do you have room for a pack and play? You could get one with the bassinet insert and it is something we still use with DS today when we travel.
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once you start to feel movement how often do you feel it (in the beginning)? i felt it this morning fo sho. and i swear i just did again. i thought it was more sporadic in the beginning. especially 14 weeks beginning.
I second this! I'm so glad I made them and plan to stock my freezer with even more this time. I had 3rd degree tears and between this and the pain meds, I really didn't have any problems with it.
once you start to feel movement how often do you feel it (in the beginning)? i felt it this morning fo sho. and i swear i just did again. i thought it was more sporadic in the beginning. especially 14 weeks beginning.
I would say that early it's super super sporadic. Like maybe every few days. This is my second pregnancy and at 18 weeks I'm just now feeling movement/kicks on a pattern daily.
I hope this isn't already in the thread, because I don't have the patience to look through mobile. what do you guys do to get baby warm at night? Basically DH is wondering because he loves the house to be ice cold and gets all nasty sweaty at night if it isn't. I can't imagine the temp we are comfortable with being comfortable for a newborn. It's also so humid where we live, so we have it cold to help dehumidify the house as well. I read about personal room heaters but they said they aren't safe unattended.
Me: 31 DH:35 TTC #1: March 2011 Fur-children: 3 dogs + 2 cats (all rescued) dx: Endometriosis and Fibroids 2 Laps and 1 Abdominal Myomectomy 6 rounds of clomid 5 rounds of iui IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide ER 12/1/2016:Retrieved 22 eggs 12 fertilized, developed moderate OHSS 4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls FET 1/10/2017 Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017 FET 2/2 BFP 2/7/17 Beta#1: 594!!! Beta#2 1630!!! Having a girl! EDD 10/21/17
I hope this isn't already in the thread, because I don't have the patience to look through mobile. what do you guys do to get baby warm at night? Basically DH is wondering because he loves the house to be ice cold and gets all nasty sweaty at night if it isn't. I can't imagine the temp we are comfortable with being comfortable for a newborn. It's also so humid where we live, so we have it cold to help dehumidify the house as well. I read about personal room heaters but they said they aren't safe unattended.
Layers. A onesie under footy jammies. It's hot here in the summer but we put DD in zipper footy sleepers because of the AC running.
@ChocolateIsLife we use a sleep sack in winter months. There is an unexplainable draft in the nursery so for DD2 we got a kids heater that doesn't get too hot and shuts off if it is knocked over. Prob not the safest but I live on the edge remember.
@ChocolateIsLife Footy pajamas and a sleep sack. I'm usually warm as well so we slightly closed the vents in DD's room since hers gets chilly faster. We keep the temp at 75, but I turn on the fan in our room to keep it cooler!
Adding wnen DD was in our room I just dealt with it because I didn't want DD getting sick, and didn't feel comfortable piling on a bunch of layers on a tiny baby.
Thank you ladies for the wonderful tips, as always! Yeah I think 75 will be doable. Maybe we can get one of those personal ac units for DH side of the bed. **Ok after doing a simple google search, they suggest between 65-72 for newborns. That is so doable and we won't need to change anything around 70-72. I appreciate you guys answering my question and the input! It's Monday.
Me: 31 DH:35 TTC #1: March 2011 Fur-children: 3 dogs + 2 cats (all rescued) dx: Endometriosis and Fibroids 2 Laps and 1 Abdominal Myomectomy 6 rounds of clomid 5 rounds of iui IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide ER 12/1/2016:Retrieved 22 eggs 12 fertilized, developed moderate OHSS 4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls FET 1/10/2017 Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017 FET 2/2 BFP 2/7/17 Beta#1: 594!!! Beta#2 1630!!! Having a girl! EDD 10/21/17
@chocolateislife I just wanted to add that when my January baby was born, we bumped our heat up and used a space heater in the bedroom at night. I ended up co-sleeping without a top on every night because it was so much easier bfing/dreamfeeding once she got older (DH worked away so most nights it was just me and DD) So lack of covers and clothing, I stayed cold.
@ChocolateIsLife, my rule of thumb for dressing newborns is add one layer from what you're currently wearing. Especially those first few months when they can't regulate their body temp. I love to sleep in an ice cold room (DH calls me a penguin) so baby will sleep with a footed PJ, and two layers of swaddling (first layer is a flannel blanket, second is a muslin blanket, and a beanie) Once baby is rolling and moving more I ditch the beanie and the swaddle, and graduate to a double layer sleep sack (the one I use is jersey on the inside, and fleece on the outside)
This question is not too silly but it is for STM's and anyone who may know anyone else.
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Ok, I talked to my mom yesterday. As some of you may know or recall, she and I were on shaky terms. We're better now so this has opened the door to talking about pregnancy. Well, I came to find out a few scary tidbits. My mom apparently lost a baby at 8 months, I don't know the back story but I know that it did not survive. Because of her fear, she induced me (so I dont know if I would have been term) she said my middle brother came out timely, but my youngest brother also was born 1 month early.
My question is Have you heard of early birth/miscarriage being hereditary?
I've googled and answers so far seem inconclusive. Some people say it is, some say it isn't.
@VLillyV oh, I'm sorry for the added stress you must be feeling thinking about that. I don't really have an answer for you but I imagine several things go into consideration. What was the reasoning? Medicine has also advanced in the past 20+ years so our parents faced a lot that doctors now know to catch. Try not to think about it to much, just keep it in the back of your mind to mention if you notice anything off.
@mrs_fogue thanks, you're right. I am being paranoid. I think that's about as solid any advice anyone can get. I'll keep it in my pocket and mention it to my OB just in case she notices anything in the future
@VLillyV I don't *think* it is. I only say that because I had a lot of concerns because my mom had so many issues. Multiple miscarriages, she and my brother almost died in childbirth and then there's me, the little miracle baby who shouldn't even be here right now.
So those were some big questions I had when we first started TTC, especially after I had a miscarriage. But every doctor told me that every person is different and most of the time it has nothing to do with genetics.
BFP#1: 12/3/13 EDD 8/15/13. Heartbeat found on 12/26/13, HB gone on 1/4/13. D&C 1/7/13
BFP#2: 4/19/13 EDD 12/28/13. Team Green for pregnancy and Baby Girl arrived 12/21/13. BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
@VLillyV I really don't think there's anything to worry about, medicine has come a lonnnnnng way. Also, my mom was told that there was no way that she would ever have kids. She had all kinds of issues with cyst in her ovaries and what not. Well low and behold, I'm 21 and my brother is 17. I've also had similar cyst issues and my doctor is aware of them but she's not concerned in the slightest. I would definitely let your doctor know because if anything they can have you come in for sonograms and checks more often the further you get along to try to prevent that happening. But until then, try not to stress too much about it!
@VLillyV I'm so sorry you have that worry . Unless you have had some diagnosis of inheriting some kind of disorder/disease from your mother, I really wouldn't worry and your chances of a miscarriage at this stage is low and is the same as any other healthy woman.
@VLillyV: a late loss is always tough but things have changed and medicine has come a long way. Without knowing why it happened to your mother it would be impossible to predict if it would happen again a generation later.
There are no guarantees in life so I will wish for you a healthy pregnancy and a squishy baby to hold 6 months from now. Focus on what you can control, take care of yourself.
I can't remember from my first...when should we stop laying on our belly and back for long periods of time? Just when our belly starts getting in the way? I'm a belly sleeper so DREADING having to give it up!
@baker1jm2 I've started sleeping on my side. If I sleep on my back plus the fullness of my bladder by the morning is causing some cramping. But I don't know what the standard dates are.
@baker1jm2 I read around 16 weeks but it started getting uncomfortable for me a few weeks ago. You can tell when it's time - you're out of breath just laying there. I love sleeping on my back normally but for pregnancy, I am much happier curled up with a buttload of pillows.
BFP#1: 12/3/13 EDD 8/15/13. Heartbeat found on 12/26/13, HB gone on 1/4/13. D&C 1/7/13
BFP#2: 4/19/13 EDD 12/28/13. Team Green for pregnancy and Baby Girl arrived 12/21/13. BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
@baker1jm2 i am still on my belly. my stomach feels sore in the morning i try to lay on my side but i keep waking up on my belly. i think belly isnt that big of a deal bc i remember doing it with the other 2 too. its just there comes a point where you physically can't. i try to angle a bit so i am kinda on my side on my stomach if that makes sense?
I can't remember from my first...when should we stop laying on our belly and back for long periods of time? Just when our belly starts getting in the way? I'm a belly sleeper so DREADING having to give it up!
My OB said whenever it becomes uncomfortable. It was true the first time around. By 20 weeks I couldn't stay on my back unless I was propped up.
I can't remember from my first...when should we stop laying on our belly and back for long periods of time? Just when our belly starts getting in the way? I'm a belly sleeper so DREADING having to give it up!
I think this is one of the "listen to your body" things.
Not real sure where exactly to post this.... Has anyone or does anyone use the Owlet monitor? Would like to know if it is worth the $250ish. I know there is an Anglecare product similar. What are your thoughts and advice?
Not real sure where exactly to post this.... Has anyone or does anyone use the Owlet monitor? Would like to know if it is worth the $250ish. I know there is an Anglecare product similar. What are your thoughts and advice?
We used the Snooza with DD and it was fantastic. There were a few false alarms over the 12 months that we used it but I think it actually saved us one time.
@nhoover88 we have the Angelcare monitor (video, sound, and motion) We liked it and still use it with our toddler just without the motion sensor. A couple false alarms but you can adjust the sensitivity if that happens alot. Once the baby could move it's way around in the crib sometimes it would trigger if he was too far from the sensor pad (like in the corner of crib).
TTC x 1.5 years.
Acupuncture, Femera x3 cyles, and HSG. BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015. TTC x2 months. BFP January 2017.
I don't have experience with an Owlet, but there's a fb post going around of a local couple who use it and it saved their baby's life. *TW* their daughter was a preemie and the wife bought it, husband thought it was a waste of money. Well one night it went off and baby was slightly blue, so they rushed her to the hospital. She was so low on oxygen that if it hadn't alerted them and woken them up, she would have died overnight. Crazy. It's definitely on my list. That extra peace of mind to me is absolutely worth it
This question is for fellow STM/TTM+ ( @KSweet ) ...
If you have no family in the area and they don't plan to be there for the unpredictability of birth, who will watch your child/ren?
When DD2 was born, but we had a friend who lived nearby who had a DD same age as DD1. They were little bff's. She was a SAHM and offered no matter what time day etc, to call her and she'd come get DD1 when it was go time. Now that friend has since moved far away and we have lost touch. I have a couple of friends who I know would love to take the kids off our hands so they get first dibs at new baby snuggles when they bring kids back to visit. But out of the ones we trust, one is a working mom with two teenagers and she lives a good 40 min or so from us ( but maybe only 15 from the hospital) , another mom is a SAHM during the day and works in the ER at the hospital I will deliver at over nights but she has two kids, 3 and 8, herself. She did offer though. Then we have my other friend who I'm super close with who is typically a SAHM when she wants to be because they own a few restaurants and her husband can take her load when she needs or wants to do something, but she has 3 kids , 4, 8, and 12. She offered as well no just feel bad pawning my kids off. I know pretty much how much time I will have approximately to get someone to the hospital to grab them for us. Both girls were delivered within 6 hours of hospital arrival time. I know they don't want children there for IVs and epidurals etc ( they even made my husband turn around!) I guess this is more of a "what's your plan?" post to help me with my decision.
@canonmom413 I don't have any advice, but my OB actually allows STMs to schedule an induction after 39 weeks for this purpose- to allow grandparents to come into town, etc. Idk if that would be something I would do, as I'd prefer to not be induced unless necessary, but it's an interesting option.
eta we have family in town, so this isn't something we're considering.
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I would like to not be induced this time around. ( was medically necessary to be induced with DD2 but it was an "emergency" induction. They sent me to hospital after my 38 week appt due to growth scan from that morning. )
This is my last baby. Id like to go into labor naturally ( then ask for my Epi hahaha). I guess I just need to get over feeling bad if people offer.
@canonmom413 I think if I were in your situation I might ask different friends to be available on different days/times. I think it would be hard to ask one person/family to be available 24/7 for several days so in your case, I'd probably take inventory of the friends that I have who would be willing to help and split a schedule that way they can make sure their calendars are clear for certain days/times.
This time my parents live 15 minutes away but depending on what happens, we will probably get our next door neighbor to come over until my parents can get there. His parents are supposed to move down in October so I'm not using them as a valid option.
BFP#1: 12/3/13 EDD 8/15/13. Heartbeat found on 12/26/13, HB gone on 1/4/13. D&C 1/7/13
BFP#2: 4/19/13 EDD 12/28/13. Team Green for pregnancy and Baby Girl arrived 12/21/13. BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
@canonmom413 I am going to have multiple plans, but my family is only an hour and a half away. If it happens unexpectedly in the night, we are going to use one of our neighbors. I have a "preferred" neighbor because I know that, even though she has 5 young kids, she can handle it; I have 2 more who would happily help and my kids would be safe. While I hate "imposing" on any of them, in that kind of unpredictable moment, I need my kids to be safe and my mind to be on delivering the baby safely.
If it happens during a school and work day, we are going to keep them in their after-school program and daycare until we can get someone in town to pick them up. We will have until 6pm to get them picked up. DH and I commute in opposite directions (at least an hour apart on most days), with the hospital in the middle, so I may need a co-worker to drive me to the hospital.
Worst case scenario? We take the kids to the hospital with us and I go it alone while DH waits in the lobby until we can get someone to come and sit with the kids or pick them up. If it gets to that point, we will reach out to just about anyone - neighbor, friend, family, someone from church, a former babysitter or nanny, literally anyone that we can trust. If it is just someone to sit with the kids in the lobby, then we will have a family member rush into town so that hopefully that situation lasts no more than 2-3 hours.
If I make it to a scheduled c-section (doubtful), we will have a family member at our house ready to go.
*Siggy warning - loss mentioned* Preemie ID DDs; then DS; then natural M/C; now due 10/17 High risk for pre-term: weekly Makena injections
@canonmom413 Because my labors are so short and because I live an hour from the hospital and don't want a second car birth :O my OB has offered to induce at 39 weeks with my last three kids. So I make plans with friends. Last time, one friend stayed overnight until my dad could drive down and two other friends took a couple kids each (I had six kids to farm out last time). My husband drives back and forth between the hospital and home as well. My oldest two are really competent kids (14 and 11) and are able to . And I try to get out of the hospital as soon as they let me. I wouldn't mind spending an extra night but it's just easier for all of us to get home and settled in.
If I were in your situation, I would make plans with all three of them; let them sort of be back-ups to each other. That way, if one can only watch for a "shift", someone else can relieve them (eg my one friend stayed the night and then I made arrangements for my other friend to take over for her so she didn't have to stay for the day as well). Or, you may want to send DD1 with one person and DD2 with another. Or, is it possible to send your daughters to family for the week surrounding your due date (have you delivered around the same time with each)?
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I second this! I'm so glad I made them and plan to stock my freezer with even more this time. I had 3rd degree tears and between this and the pain meds, I really didn't have any problems with it.
Baby Boy due October 2017
TTC #1: March 2011
Fur-children: 3 dogs + 2 cats (all rescued)
dx: Endometriosis and Fibroids
2 Laps and 1 Abdominal Myomectomy
6 rounds of clomid
5 rounds of iui
IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide
ER 12/1/2016:Retrieved 22 eggs 12 fertilized, developed moderate OHSS
4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls
FET 1/10/2017
Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017
FET 2/2
BFP 2/7/17
Having a girl! EDD 10/21/17
Baby Boy due October 2017
May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
@ChocolateisLife, I coslept so never worried about warmth but some tips I remember:
- warm up the bassinet with a heat pack or water bottle so it's cosy when you put bubs down
- Quality merino wraps and blankets are great for cooler weather. Layers: Singlet, onesie, socks, pants, woolen cardigan.
I personally would put baby before hubby. He can deal with sweats haha.
**June Siggy Challenge: You Had ONE Job!**
LO#2 EDD October 18th
Adding wnen DD was in our room I just dealt with it because I didn't want DD getting sick, and didn't feel comfortable piling on a bunch of layers on a tiny baby.
TTC #1: March 2011
Fur-children: 3 dogs + 2 cats (all rescued)
dx: Endometriosis and Fibroids
2 Laps and 1 Abdominal Myomectomy
6 rounds of clomid
5 rounds of iui
IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide
ER 12/1/2016:Retrieved 22 eggs 12 fertilized, developed moderate OHSS
4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls
FET 1/10/2017
Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017
FET 2/2
BFP 2/7/17
Having a girl! EDD 10/21/17
May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
@chocolateislife I just wanted to add that when my January baby was born, we bumped our heat up and used a space heater in the bedroom at night. I ended up co-sleeping without a top on every night because it was so much easier bfing/dreamfeeding once she got older (DH worked away so most nights it was just me and DD) So lack of covers and clothing, I stayed cold.
TW**** LOSS MENTIONED ****TW
My question is Have you heard of early birth/miscarriage being hereditary?
I've googled and answers so far seem inconclusive. Some people say it is, some say it isn't.
So those were some big questions I had when we first started TTC, especially after I had a miscarriage. But every doctor told me that every person is different and most of the time it has nothing to do with genetics.
BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
**June Siggy Challenge: You Had ONE Job!**
LO#2 EDD October 18th
There are no guarantees in life so I will wish for you a healthy pregnancy and a squishy baby to hold 6 months from now. Focus on what you can control, take care of yourself.
BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
**June Siggy Challenge: You Had ONE Job!**
LO#2 EDD October 18th
Baby Boy due October 2017
BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.
If you have no family in the area and they don't plan to be there for the unpredictability of birth, who will watch your child/ren?
When DD2 was born, but we had a friend who lived nearby who had a DD same age as DD1. They were little bff's. She was a SAHM and offered no matter what time day etc, to call her and she'd come get DD1 when it was go time. Now that friend has since moved far away and we have lost touch. I have a couple of friends who I know would love to take the kids off our hands so they get first dibs at new baby snuggles when they bring kids back to visit. But out of the ones we trust, one is a working mom with two teenagers and she lives a good 40 min or so from us ( but maybe only 15 from the hospital) , another mom is a SAHM during the day and works in the ER at the hospital I will deliver at over nights but she has two kids, 3 and 8, herself. She did offer though. Then we have my other friend who I'm super close with who is typically a SAHM when she wants to be because they own a few restaurants and her husband can take her load when she needs or wants to do something, but she has 3 kids , 4, 8, and 12. She offered as well no just feel bad pawning my kids off. I know pretty much how much time I will have approximately to get someone to the hospital to grab them for us. Both girls were delivered within 6 hours of hospital arrival time. I know they don't want children there for IVs and epidurals etc ( they even made my husband turn around!) I guess this is more of a "what's your plan?" post to help me with my decision.
Oct. '17 June S.C. "You Had 1 Job"
eta we have family in town, so this isn't something we're considering.
This is my last baby. Id like to go into labor naturally ( then ask for my Epi hahaha). I guess I just need to get over feeling bad if people offer.
Oct. '17 June S.C. "You Had 1 Job"
This time my parents live 15 minutes away but depending on what happens, we will probably get our next door neighbor to come over until my parents can get there. His parents are supposed to move down in October so I'm not using them as a valid option.
BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
If it happens during a school and work day, we are going to keep them in their after-school program and daycare until we can get someone in town to pick them up. We will have until 6pm to get them picked up. DH and I commute in opposite directions (at least an hour apart on most days), with the hospital in the middle, so I may need a co-worker to drive me to the hospital.
Worst case scenario? We take the kids to the hospital with us and I go it alone while DH waits in the lobby until we can get someone to come and sit with the kids or pick them up. If it gets to that point, we will reach out to just about anyone - neighbor, friend, family, someone from church, a former babysitter or nanny, literally anyone that we can trust. If it is just someone to sit with the kids in the lobby, then we will have a family member rush into town so that hopefully that situation lasts no more than 2-3 hours.
If I make it to a scheduled c-section (doubtful), we will have a family member at our house ready to go.
Preemie ID DDs; then DS; then natural M/C; now due 10/17
High risk for pre-term: weekly Makena injections
If I were in your situation, I would make plans with all three of them; let them sort of be back-ups to each other. That way, if one can only watch for a "shift", someone else can relieve them (eg my one friend stayed the night and then I made arrangements for my other friend to take over for her so she didn't have to stay for the day as well). Or, you may want to send DD1 with one person and DD2 with another. Or, is it possible to send your daughters to family for the week surrounding your due date (have you delivered around the same time with each)?
I have a question, I hope it wasn't discussed already.. as a FTM when do I start looking for a pediatrician?