This is just me, but I actually got blocked up worse being in the hospital because I didnt want to poop with people around...and I had way too many visitors. So if that's a difficulty you have, try to limit visitors. With my second, I came home sooner and drank prune juice and took stool softeners and also, soaked my bottom in a sitz bath which I think the warm water helped things relax and afterwards...TMI the poop basically fell out.
I'm a back sleeper and I read somewhere to stop around 16 weeks. I'm noticing even now that I get out of breath, which makes me sad.
I didn't even know I pooped during delivery until I asked DH years later and he admitted it. But he still loves me and enjoys doing the deed, so clearly it wasn't too traumatizing.
The first poop after delivery is scary, I feel like I had to mentally prepare more for that than I did actual labor and delivery. Like everyone else has said, take all the stool softeners allowable, drink tons of water and when you go to attempt it, make sure you have your phone and tell everyone to just leave you alone for awhile. It's not something you want to have people knocking on the door asking you questions during.
And then it's over!
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@bluejeanbabi05 it is not always middle. I found out at my NT scan I have a slightly tilted uterus. This was caused from childbirth #2. I never had it with either kids. But it's not tilted enough to make anything different. LO is off to my left as well.
@ForwardnBackward I start out on my sides but find myself waking up on my back sometimes. I also am a weird side sleeper. My top leg has to be swung over and towards my chest. Half fetal position lol. I've been trying to avoid that because I feel like I'm squishing baby, but it's so damn comfy. Putting a pillow in between my legs helps me stop that. But I think as long as you move positions in your sleep and not on your back all night it's all good.
@canonmom413. I actually sometimes sleep with my Left leg out straight and my right leg bent over the pillow and that is super comfy. The spinning babies website calls it "left lean over" and is supposed to be a "cozy variation" on the pillow between the legs.
Also on pooping during labor, I did not have a vaginal birth but I did have to poop while in labor and I was having horrible contractions so DH had to go with me because I couldn't do it on my own. It was only horrible because I was in so much pain, I was not even worried about the fact that I was pooping while also holding onto DH because I thought I was going to die from the pain of contractions.
ETA: To answer another question. I have no idea if my uterus was directly below my belly button but eventually DS settled into the left side of my belly and would not move. The left side of my stomach has more stretch marks and everything.
Silly question because I can't remember myself. There comes a time when sleeping flat on your back isn't recommended because the baby and uterus can rest of the big blood vessels (lower aorta maybe?) And compromise blood flow or something I can't remember exactly. I think it was only when we really start to bump... maybe after 20ish weeks? Anyone recall?
@ForwardnBackward@shan24 my book just informed me this week to not lie flat on my back anymore and I'm at week 16
@bluejeanbabi05 I think it's central but probably can shift based on your other organs. Where you find babe's HB probably depends on where the placenta attached too. I usually find babe on the left side more than the right but occasionally in the middle too.
@ForwardnBackward it's technically the whole time because your uterus is heavier BUT I've always been told not to stress too much. Try to sleep on your left side but don't panic if you wake up on your back.
@acnd08 Mine is definitely floppier but SO doesn't complain. It looks and feels terrifying right after babe comes out because you're so swollen but it repairs fairly quickly.
@JessDG I always used regular stuff @dumbledoredies it's because of the swelling and discomfort down there, and the hemmies. Using the squirt bottle and take the stool softeners are a MUST.
Pooping during labour happens to almost everyone haha! The only one I felt and remember was my only epidural labour (DS) which is funny because the nurse didn't believe me (I shouldn't have felt it according to her). My body was pushing and it pushed out, she cleaned it up, no biggie. With my girls I have no idea because I didn't feel it and no one told me either way.
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Is it normal for one foot/ leg to get more swollen than the other? I finally popped yesterday and it's like the swelling came with the baby bump. My left foot looks like I sprained my ankle it's so swollen
@PizzaMonster3 It goes higher than your belly button. It hits the belly button around 20-22 weeks. I would attach a visual, but stupid mobile. You can google it.
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@PizzaMonster3 I think the swelling more on one side has to do with the baby obstructing circulation more on that side, but if one side gets ridiculously swollen, get that checked in case it's a blood clot or other big circulation related issue
I had that happen with one leg swelling more and my OB recommended to prop it up under pillows when I was sitting on the couch, and I think to sleep with a pillow under my leg to help keep some of the pressure off. I always sleep on my left side and tend to sit/lean toward the left so in my case I think it was me cutting off circulation by putting too much weight to one side all the time.
Is it normal for one foot/ leg to get more swollen than the other? I finally popped yesterday and it's like the swelling came with the baby bump. My left foot looks like I sprained my ankle it's so swollen
It went away overnight - we have an adjustable bed so my feet were raised. And it may have been super swollen because I had just driven for 4hrs straight. I have noticed that it's starting to swell a little this afternoon tho - might be baby's position or how I put more weight to one side. I'll give my dr a call if it gets crazy. Thanks for the heads up ladies
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It went away overnight - we have an adjustable bed so my feet were raised. And it may have been super swollen because I had just driven for 4hrs straight. I have noticed that it's starting to swell a little this afternoon tho - might be baby's position or how I put more weight to one side. I'll give my dr a call if it gets crazy. Thanks for the heads up ladies
Not to freak you out but driving 4 hours also can put you at risk for blood clots.
TTC x 1.5 years.
Acupuncture, Femera x3 cyles, and HSG. BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015. TTC x2 months. BFP January 2017.
Has anyone had trouble keeping their prenatal vitamins down? I took them successfully for the first few months (and while TTC) but lately I vomit every time. It doesn't matter if I take them with a meal, or right before bed. It'll wake me up in the night needing to puke. Any suggestions?
I always have trouble taking prenatals. My OB gives me a prescription for a tiny prenatal and it's cheaper with my copay than OTC. Never hurts to ask your OB about it!
Can only speak to post csection poop. Whilst you are not raw. You feel like with every SLIGHT push your stitches are going to pop and your guts will spill out.
I was glued shut and that was 100% how I felt. I was so afraid I'd bust myself open. Colace and lots of water is your best friend!
Has anyone had their MIL, aka Grandma watch their baby for them after maternity leave? Or, does anyone know of someone who did? Could you share your experience, suggestions, etc.? Starting to back pedal on my original idea of MIL watching my child.
Has anyone had their MIL, aka Grandma watch their baby for them after maternity leave? Or, does anyone know of someone who did? Could you share your experience, suggestions, etc.? Starting to back pedal on my original idea of MIL watching my child.
My MIL, mom, and sister have all watched DD on days that we don't have daycare for her. I'm a nurse and my schedule is not consistent so we usually need family to watch her 1 day a week, sometimes 2. It was hardest for me to have MIL watch her, just because she isn't MY mom. I felt like my mom would take care of DD like how I would and MIL wouldn't do stuff the same. We had a few issues in the beginning but they've been worked out. I had to write a detailed schedule of how her day typically goes when she was little (mostly nap times were the issue). DD is 18 months old now, we just drop her off and leave them to do their thing. Your MIL will probably figure out LOs cues and schedule after a bit and they'll get into their own routine. I had jealousy issues too, just because she would give pieces of 'advice' that made me feel like I was doing stuff wrong (without meaning to hurt my feelings though!) So I kind of felt like she would do a better job at taking care of her than I do. Now I can speak up if I don't want ILs doing something with/to DD (like yelling at DD because she screams. It's a phase people). It's good for LOs to have a good relationship with the grandparents. I bet your situation will be OK too.
@ForwardnBackward my DH and I are driving down south for vacation in May and it's a 12 hour drive. Is that not recommended? I don't want blood clots.
@VLillyV Also curious about this. My mom already plans on watching our baby one day a week once I go back to work. My mom's BF who is like a second mom to me might watch the baby one other day and then we were going to ask my IL's to watch the baby one day. I trust my mom and her BF completely because I think they would raise a.child like I would. I just don't really trust that my IL's would raise a kid the same way I would and it will cause issues. I don't like how they raised DH (in some ways yes, but in other ways no and I just got lucky that he turned out nothing like his parents). I'm also concerned because his dad works random days and I told DH I would want a set schedule because I'm not running around trying to find a replacement. We haven't even asked them yet so they might say no lol.
I'm sure this has been discussed before but I don't feel like trying to read a bunch of threads to find it. Stretch marks- what kind of lotion/oil do you recommend? I want to get some because my belly is starting to grow. Don't want to break the bank.
@dumbledoredies I've read that if we take long drives or flights, make sure to take a break every hour or so to stretch your legs and walk around. 12 hours is long- I would ask your OB.
@dumbledoredies i would just make sure you stop atleast every 3 hours to get up and walk around and stay well hydrated. You'll probably start having to ore frequently anyways so the stopping may not be a big deal.
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Acupuncture, Femera x3 cyles, and HSG. BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015. TTC x2 months. BFP January 2017.
As for MILs. Trust. I was there. I didn't want her to bc she wasn't my mom. It was MY kid! I am here to tell the tale of: Take. All. The. Help. You. Can. Get. The "novelty" of a new grandchild wears off. You get tired. You have to work. You want a date night. You just want a moment to not mom or adult. And it quickly becomes oh shiz can I really ask so and so again? There are 7 days a week I get starting out small with a day or two but if MIL is willing. TAKE IT! I wish my MIL would help out.
@VLillyV: my MIL watches DD and it is wonderful! It is so helpful because she is flexible with our schedule and you cannot beat knowing that your child will be loved and taken care of while you are away.
Do do we agree on everything? Of course not, but we can talk and discuss things and she is respectful of us and our child. We do give her money but it is much less than what we would pay for day care. And recently she has asked to keep her Friday nights! So easy date night for me and hubby and of course DD loves spending time with her nana.
If you can reach a reasonable compromise with MIL take all the free or low cost, quality help you can get!
@VLillyV While I do not have anyone watch my son because I live nowhere near any family, my BIL & SIL use my MIL to watch their daughter and son. It has caused a lot of problems, but really only because they are super inconsiderate and expect way too much from her. For instance if she wants to take a vacation they basically have to approve it and throw a huge fit. When she told them she would be coming here for a little bit to stay with DS while I am in the hospital they acted like it was a huge inconvenience. She also drives an hour every day to watch their kids and they don't help her with gas or pay her at all, she lives off of social security so she definitely doesn't have a lot of money. I of course get calls from her all the time because she has her feelings hurt and feels like they are taking advantage of her. Super fun!
But honestly I think it can work out great if you are considerate of the person who is helping out. If I lived closer to my parents I would absolutely have them watch DS!
hey @bri5555 you can use the "quote" feature to respond to a specific post, or tag @ the person you're responding to. Not sure what your question is, sorry!
And @VLillyV I also have some MIL anxiety because her (grand)parenting is much different from my family. They use a lot of cussing - in a loving way? - and she is for feeding solids very early if the baby is finishing bottles. These are things I'm uncomfortable with, but haven't been in a place to comment on. My parents still work so she would be the most available, but she is about to be an empty nester come fall and I don't want to burden her when she wants to go out of town. SIL and her have had some rough patches because she was exclusively watching nephew but would want to go across the state at the drop of a hat.
In the end I think I'll want all the help I can get - but I'll try to find ways to balance with my family, too.
@PizzaMonster3 eeep. See MIL here has different ideas on giving baby water but i plan on BF'ing and water isn't recommended unless you formula feed in summer. So food concerns are a bit big.
i ultimately hooe it just works out. So many unknowns!
I have a question. How many baby clothes and what sizes do I need to start off? I have friends that had such big babies, that they hardly used 0-3 month clothes. We had a great consignment sale a few weeks ago that i was not able to attend, and MIL and DH bought a ton of 0-3 month clothes. I'm just really not sure what to have on hand. SIL tells me that people who get gifts for you like to buy clothes so to not get too many in advance.
I have a question. How many baby clothes and what sizes do I need to start off? I have friends that had such big babies, that they hardly used 0-3 month clothes. We had a great consignment sale a few weeks ago that i was not able to attend, and MIL and DH bought a ton of 0-3 month clothes. I'm just really not sure what to have on hand. SIL tells me that people who get gifts for you like to buy clothes so to not get too many in advance.
Any STM+ have any advice on this?
eta: Grammar is not my jam.
From my experience, i got alot of small clothes from the baby showers so if i were you i would get clothes for when they babies are bigger like 12m+
@JessDG To give you an idea, we used Newborn sized clothing for about 2-3 weeks. Then 0-3 month clothes for a couple months. You'll want lots of onesies, jammies and one-piece outfits for months 1-2 or 3 mostly. This was basically DD's wardrobe every day for ease of changing, unless we were going outside the house or something. (I remember one day I changed 7 onesies in 2 hours!!) We loved SwaddleMe's for bedtime and naps, goes on over the clothes/jammies - easier than doing an actual swaddle, in my opinion.
You're right, people are obsessed with giving baby clothes! I got a ton of hand-me-downs up to size 18 months before all my showers. On my shower invites, I had the person throwing it include my registry info along with a note that said something about if you're going to gift clothes, please purchase size 18 months and up. Most paid attention to this, some didn't, but all thought this was helpful guidance and didn't mind. (I've had multiple friends do the same so it's pretty normal) It was amazing having a stash of clothes up to 2T in her closet! I barely did any clothes shopping for the first 2 years of her life!
@JessDG I wouldn't buy many clothes in advance except for a few cute things you see here and there if you really want to get them. Most likely people will gift you a bunch of clothes, and it's also hard to know how big your baby will be and how fast they will grow!
I have soooo many clothes that my girls either never wore or only wore a few times because they blew through certain sizes so fast!
Thanks ladies! My MIL keeps pressuring us to buy more and more clothes and often shows up at our house with several things every time she comes over (many of them boy clothes before we even found out it was a boy). I have bought one piece of clothes for my child. I don't want to find myself with dozens of onesies that my kid will never wear!
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I didn't even know I pooped during delivery until I asked DH years later and he admitted it. But he still loves me and enjoys doing the deed, so clearly it wasn't too traumatizing.
The first poop after delivery is scary, I feel like I had to mentally prepare more for that than I did actual labor and delivery. Like everyone else has said, take all the stool softeners allowable, drink tons of water and when you go to attempt it, make sure you have your phone and tell everyone to just leave you alone for awhile. It's not something you want to have people knocking on the door asking you questions during.
And then it's over!
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Oct. '17 June S.C. "You Had 1 Job"
Edit ughhh typos
Oct. '17 June S.C. "You Had 1 Job"
ETA: To answer another question. I have no idea if my uterus was directly below my belly button but eventually DS settled into the left side of my belly and would not move. The left side of my stomach has more stretch marks and everything.
@ForwardnBackward it's technically the whole time because your uterus is heavier BUT I've always been told not to stress too much. Try to sleep on your left side but don't panic if you wake up on your back.
@acnd08 Mine is definitely floppier but SO doesn't complain. It looks and feels terrifying right after babe comes out because you're so swollen but it repairs fairly quickly.
@JessDG I always used regular stuff
@dumbledoredies it's because of the swelling and discomfort down there, and the hemmies. Using the squirt bottle and take the stool softeners are a MUST.
Pooping during labour happens to almost everyone haha! The only one I felt and remember was my only epidural labour (DS) which is funny because the nurse didn't believe me (I shouldn't have felt it according to her). My body was pushing and it pushed out, she cleaned it up, no biggie. With my girls I have no idea because I didn't feel it and no one told me either way.
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"Squishy" 2007
"Lyric" EDD Nov/4/11 - c/p Feb/11
"Fishy" 2012
"Bean" 2014
"Lux" EDD Apr/21/17 - c/p Aug/16
"Kokonah" EDD May/24/17 - m/c Oct/16
1 surprise - 1 Noonie - 1 preemie - 3 gone but not forgotten - One more on the way!!
Grab bag of mental health disorders
Pancolitis
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May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
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BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.
I have noticed that it's starting to swell a little this afternoon tho - might be baby's position or how I put more weight to one side. I'll give my dr a call if it gets crazy. Thanks for the heads up ladies
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@VLillyV Also curious about this. My mom already plans on watching our baby one day a week once I go back to work. My mom's BF who is like a second mom to me might watch the baby one other day and then we were going to ask my IL's to watch the baby one day. I trust my mom and her BF completely because I think they would raise a.child like I would. I just don't really trust that my IL's would raise a kid the same way I would and it will cause issues. I don't like how they raised DH (in some ways yes, but in other ways no and I just got lucky that he turned out nothing like his parents). I'm also concerned because his dad works random days and I told DH I would want a set schedule because I'm not running around trying to find a replacement. We haven't even asked them yet so they might say no lol.
I'm sure this has been discussed before but I don't feel like trying to read a bunch of threads to find it. Stretch marks- what kind of lotion/oil do you recommend? I want to get some because my belly is starting to grow. Don't want to break the bank.
BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.
Everyone else: It's a clot.
May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
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Do do we agree on everything? Of course not, but we can talk and discuss things and she is respectful of us and our child. We do give her money but it is much less than what we would pay for day care. And recently she has asked to keep her Friday nights! So easy date night for me and hubby and of course DD loves spending time with her nana.
If you can reach a reasonable compromise with MIL take all the free or low cost, quality help you can get!
But honestly I think it can work out great if you are considerate of the person who is helping out. If I lived closer to my parents I would absolutely have them watch DS!
And @VLillyV I also have some MIL anxiety because her (grand)parenting is much different from my family. They use a lot of cussing - in a loving way? - and she is for feeding solids very early if the baby is finishing bottles. These are things I'm uncomfortable with, but haven't been in a place to comment on. My parents still work so she would be the most available, but she is about to be an empty nester come fall and I don't want to burden her when she wants to go out of town. SIL and her have had some rough patches because she was exclusively watching nephew but would want to go across the state at the drop of a hat.
In the end I think I'll want all the help I can get - but I'll try to find ways to balance with my family, too.
i ultimately hooe it just works out. So many unknowns!
Any STM+ have any advice on this?
eta: Grammar is not my jam.
You're right, people are obsessed with giving baby clothes! I got a ton of hand-me-downs up to size 18 months before all my showers. On my shower invites, I had the person throwing it include my registry info along with a note that said something about if you're going to gift clothes, please purchase size 18 months and
up. Most paid attention to this, some didn't, but all thought this was helpful guidance and didn't mind. (I've had multiple friends do the same so it's pretty normal) It was amazing having a stash of clothes up to 2T in her closet! I barely did any clothes shopping for the first 2 years of her life!
I hope this helps a little!
I have soooo many clothes that my girls either never wore or only wore a few times because they blew through certain sizes so fast!
Thanks ladies! My MIL keeps pressuring us to buy more and more clothes and often shows up at our house with several things every time she comes over (many of them boy clothes before we even found out it was a boy). I have bought one piece of clothes for my child. I don't want to find myself with dozens of onesies that my kid will never wear!