IF/Weekly Check In 5/8

TravelingCouple · May 2017

This is a place for those of us who have already started TTC, but have started infertility testing and/or treatments. You can express your thoughts, feelings, and frustrations on infertility. TTC can be a long journey naturally, then add in the difficulties associated with infertility and it becomes a whole new ball game. The road to infertility can be lonely, frustrating, and complicated, so let's make this a place where we can vent, ask questions, and support one another. Feel free to resurrect this thread at any point in the week if you have something to say, and treat this like an ongoing conversation.

Diagnosis (If you've been):

Cycle/CD:

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA):

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?)

How are things going?

Any questions?

GTKY: Any recent embarrassing moments to share? I love a good embarrassing story

heatherdubrow · May 2017

Diagnosis (If you've been): NIR PCOS

Cycle/CD: 1 (AL), 18 total?

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): Prepping for FET

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?)

FET

How are things going?

Doing ok so far. Haven't started the injections yet so for now things are good.

Any questions?

GTKY: Any recent embarrassing moments to share? I love a good embarrassing story
I'll have to think on that

TravelingCouple · May 2017

So I started this for selfish reasons because I need advice. And I miss you ladies, even though this break has been heaven for my mental health. I stalk you all like crazy.

So we leave for Hawaii in 1 week from today (!!) and AF should come sometime this week. Since I'm not charting, I don't know when I've Od exactly of course, but the signs I know of my body give me a pretty good guess. I've been just fine living in oblivious bliss, but the other day I realized that I may be in Hawaii not knowing whether or not I'm pregnant if my period hasn't shown up by then. I want to be able to run wild without worrying so I asked DH if he thinks I should test sometime this week before we leave. He said we should just keep going as planned and not do anything as far as testing until we get back from Hawaii. If I do test before I leave and it's magically positive, there's probably no time to do a beta draw across several days so then I'm thinking I would just worry the whole week.

And thus I've proven that even on a break, the mind never stops wondering.

What would you ladies do?

Oh and, my embarrassing story: I ate at a new restaurant yesterday and my stomach is very sensitive to new foods that I'm not used to eating. I had a party later that night for my home business and there were nine ladies there. I was in the middle of giving my presentation and felt some serious rumbles in my stomach. I knew there was no way I could use my hostesses bathroom without being super obvious so I tried to let a quiet one slip while I was still talking. It smelled so bad and luckily there was a cat behind me so I turned around and looked at the cat, gave a funny face and kept talking, hoping that if anyone smelled it they would think it was the cat. Luckily I made it through the night and home before needing the bathroom. So embarrassing.

ETA typo

saralee797-2 · May 2017

Diagnosis (If you've been): unexp

Cycle/CD: 15 months I lost track of the rest.

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): IVF cycle

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) Day 4 of stims. I went for bloodwork this morning and I am waiting for the call to tell me what's next as far as drugs. I have two more tentative appts scheduled this week for ultrasounds and bloodwork but that could change at any time. Just trying to stay relaxed and flexible.

How are things going? Not too bad. I am just taking Follistim right now and the needles aren't bad. I am definitely more emotional than usual but otherwise I feel good! I am going to spend some time this week cooking and freezing meals so we have them for the week of my egg retrieval.

Any questions? None that I can think of right now.

GTKY: Any recent embarrassing moments to share? I love a good embarrassing story. I have a really high embarrassment threshold and don't take myself too seriously. I will have to think about this one.

@heatherdubrow wait wait wait wait... hope it goes by fast!
@TravelingCouple If you think you won't be able to distract yourself, I would just bring a wondfo with me. Also, so jealous of your trip! I have never been but I am sure you are going to have a wonderful time.

shortstack930 · May 2017

Diagnosis (If you've been): unexplained secondary IF

Cycle/CD: 17/ don't know

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): I think I'm in TWW at this point

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) RE in one week!!!

How are things going? Great! The financial counselor called from the RE last week to let me know my insurance covers all testing and treatment related to IF! I just have to hit my deductible (which I'm $300 away from) and after that I should only pay 20% of everything. Not bad at all!! They gave me a price list for an IUI cycle and it should be under $200 before meds. I'm thinking they're leaning toward IUI because I suspect our issue may be MFI but we'll see what they say next week.

Any questions? Nope

GTKY: Any recent embarrassing moments to share? I love a good embarrassing story
I'll have to think on this!

@TravelingCouple I would probably test before I went because I would be distracted in Hawaii not knowing! Good to see you posting!!

heatherdubrow · May 2017

@TravelingCouple If it were me, I would definitely test. I wouldn't be able to turn my brain off from that. I hope you have a great time in Hawaii!! We're going in a few weeks!

@saralee797-2 seriously, FETs feel like nothing but waiting!

@shortstack930 thats great news that your IF is covered!! Such a relief!

laurad75 · May 2017

Diagnosis (If you've been): DOR

Cycle/CD: I think technically this is cycle 13/ CD 3

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): Day 2 of stims!

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) I'm on a new stims protocol this cycle so hopefully they will be successful and I will have ER (#3) in a couple of weeks.

How are things going? So far fine. I'm hopeful for this cycle.

Any questions?

GTKY: Any recent embarrassing moments to share? I love a good embarrassing story. I'm always doing something stupid to embarrass myself. My most embarrassing moment was the morning after H and my first sleepover. He suggested we start the day in the hot tub and while I don't really care for hot tubs I liked him and figured why not. Well, the temperature of the water messed with my blood flow so after we got out I fainted in his hallway. Legit face planted in the middle of the house and gave myself a black eye. I. wanted. to. die.

@TravelingCouple Bring some wondfos with you to test and you can do the beta when you get back. It's going to be a great trip!!!

leekat14 · May 2017

Diagnosis (If you've been): endometriosis

Cycle/CD: 17 for a couple more days...CD 31

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): tww

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) Clomid + trigger.... waiting for AF so I can't start IVF

How are things going? Well my IVF meds came this weekend and it was terribly overwhelming. I'm waiting on Af but she's going to take her time I'm sure...still BFN so I feel good about taking the risk and ordering meds anyway.

Any questions? Probably later in the week. So busy but I'll be back tonight

GTKY: Any recent embarrassing moments to share? I love a good embarrassing story

I've been soooogassy lately. Walking in the woods with DH and I couldn't take a step without a release. I couldn't have covered it up if I tried since it's so peaceful in the woods!

[Deleted User] · May 2017

@heatherdubrow Hope your upcoming appointments go well!
@TravelingCouple If it were me I just wouldn't test, but if you think you wont enjoy vacation then go for it.
@saralee797-2 Stim time!! I'll be crossing my fingers for you for good results at your upcoming appointments!
@shortstack930 Oh snap, that's great that your insurance is paying for all that! It will definitely help take the edge off the shittiness.

Diagnosis (If you've been): NIR PCOS

Cycle/CD: 15 I think... no idea what CD.

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): BCP

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) Still on BCP for a bit longer. My first legit IVF appointment is this Friday - that's when I do bloodwork, SHG, consent forms, and they show me how to stab my butt.

How are things going? Just continuing to hate the side effects of BCP. But not much longer to go.

Any questions?

GTKY: Any recent embarrassing moments to share? Hmmmm not really. I also have a really high embarrassment threshold.

magnolia131 · May 2017

Diagnosis (If you've been): PCOS, MFI (low morph, mildly low count)

Cycle/CD: 18/2

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): WTO

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) Femara, trigger, TI.

How are things going? Last week was difficult. I didn't have high hopes of being a SS, but AF was delayed and it did get my hopes somewhat up at a point. I was super bummed on Friday because my RE's office closed at 4 but no one had called me back at that time with my beta results. My RE ended up calling me personally around 6 that night to tell me that the cycle was not successful and to go over it in detail and discuss next steps. So that was a relief/pleasant turn of events at least...I never had that kind of attention or bedside manner from my old doctors. She did say my lining was a little on the thin side so that was worrisome to me but idk what can be done for that or if I should expect it to improve or get worse with the medicated cycles. Anyways, CD 3 monitoring tomorrow so I guess we will go from there.

Any questions?

GTKY: Any recent embarrassing moments to share? I love a good embarrassing story. I'm blanking which is too bad because this is a great GTKY. I promise to come back and shamelessly share the minute I think of something. I'm clumsy/a walking disaster so I don't doubt that something will occur to me!

@TravelingCouple That is a tough call. If it were me, personally, I'd probably test before leaving only because my brain works better if I am armed with more information and have covered every possible base. But it sounds like that might come with it's own set of mind games for you. I think packing a single test to bring with you and using it only if you're late might be a compromise. That way if you do get the undeniable urge to test, you won't find yourself looking for a drugstore in Hawaii. Also, have so much fun! I hope you can push this TTC stuff out of your head and just enjoy.

@heatherdubrow and @saralee797-2 I hope the waiting goes by quickly for you two. I'm rooting hard for you both.

@shortstack930 That's amazing news about your insurance! That's definitely reason alone to celebrate.

@laurad75 I hope the new stims protocol does the trick and makes this ER a success.

@leekat14 I'm sorry about the BFNs and AF on the way. I hope you're able to navigate these next steps with minimal stress.

ramzlau · May 2017

Diagnosis (If you've been): chronic endometritis

Cycle/CD: 19/22

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): TWW

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) just got our dx, waiting out TWW to start antibiotics and move on to IUI

How are things going? Good, just worries about timing of antibiotics and IUI

Any questions? Nope

GTKY: Any recent embarrassing moments to share?

hm can't think of a recent one except being so gassy from all this new meds and vitamins, constant trying to find something to cover the sound

@TravelingCouple I would test the day before the trip so I could drink and enjoy without a nagging in my mind if it was a bfn and if it goes the other way, then I would try to relax and enjoy the vacation, not much you can do at that point except wait it out. MH would be in the same camp as yours though and doesn't understand why I feel the need to test instead of just waiting out life and enjoying it until something different happens. Have an amazing vacation!

MrsJ2410 · May 2017

@TravelingCouple that’s such a tough one, I feel like I always struggled with wanting to know, but not wanting to bum myself out before something if it was a BFN. Agree with @saralee797-2 to bring Wondfos just in case. And that trip sounds amazing! Also re: your embarrassing story, that was brilliant quick thinking!

@saralee797-2 We are cycle twins, glad you aren’t feeling too many symptoms from the stims. Def hear you on the heightened emotions, and super smart for thinking ahead with your meal planning, I wish I could be better about that.

@shortstack930 that is such amazing news re: insurance, I am sure that is a huge weight off your shoulders.

@laurad75 FX for new protocol!

Diagnosis (If you've been): DOR

Cycle/CD: CD 8

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): Day 4 of stims

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) IVF #1

How are things going? OK, I felt kind of terrible this weekend but I have evened out today. Going to the doctor in an hour to check on progress. I have avoided buying anything baby or pregnancy related this whole time TTC, but this weekend there was a HUGE rummage sale at the elementary school in my neighborhood (where the parents skew towards the wealthier side) and I bought an armload of maternity jeans for a dollar each. ::shrug:: at this point I think I am beyond superstition and they were a very good deal, but it was weird and sad to try them all on.

Any questions?

GTKY: Any recent embarrassing moments to share? I love a good embarrassing story: Nothing super crazy, but the other day I was able to figure out how to do something in Excel for one of my attorney’s and was super proud of myself so I walked over to her office and did a victory dance through the doorway…and she wasn’t there. And then someone behind me said “I just saw her a minute ago down that way” so he totally saw my weird dance for no one.

vtgirl899 · May 2017

Diagnosis (If you've been): not yet

Cycle/CD: cycle day 98

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): WTO / waiting for breakthrough bleeding

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) First round of testing

How are things going? Things are mixed I joined the Bump community last week and am loving the support and encouragement people give each other! I am on CD 98 of an AO cycle and was feeling pretty alone. I have struggled with highly irregular / AO cycles for years, but honestly, hadn't paid too much attention to it until we started TTC in February. I have an appointment scheduled May 25th with my doc for our first round of testing. Fingers crossed that the testing will point in the right direction for next steps / help us create an action plan. This cycle I have been experience patchy occurrences of EWCM, but no temp spike (my BBT chart looks like a f-ing EKG) along with persistent, dull pain in my right-side (could be ovary or sciatica, IDK)

Any questions? : What do others wish they had known before they went in for there first round of testing? I would like to go into the appointment armed with an arsenal of questions so I get as much relevant information as possible.

GTKY: Any recent embarrassing moments to share? I love a good embarrassing story: I have a yoga-ball chair at work, and several weeks ago, I wasn't paying attention, and literally tumbled out of it and landed on the ground, scraping my elbow and cracking up myself and everyone around me.

@heatherdubrow good luck with FET!!!

@TravelingCouple I hope you have an amazing time in Hawaii- all the best to you in your decision deciding whether or not to test before you leave

@saralee797-2 good luck with IVF this cycle!

saralee797-2 · May 2017

@shortstack930 Yayy for IF coverage! That is great news.
@laurad75 I have my hopes up that this new protocol gives you great results!
@antoto thank you! I found that appointment to be very reassuring actually and I hope you do too. However, its a good thing there are videos out there because I forgot most of the details on how to administer the meds haha.
@magnolia131 Glad to hear that your RE is giving you the care and attention that you need even if it wasn't the best news. Wishing you the best of luck this cycle.
@MrsJ2410 Yayy cycle buddy! Sorry if I missed it but are you planning a fresh or frozen transfer? Hope your appointment today goes well. The only thing I bought was a onsie to announce to my H which just feels silly now. I am a little jealous of your maternity jeans. I am lining up dresses to wear in the next two weeks.
@vtgirl899 I think most of the important questions come after the testing when the issue is identified. I would come prepared with as much information as you have on your cycles, your timing, how long you have been actively trying or not trying/not preventing etc. Some docs are interested in your charts, others (mine included) are not. I would also check your insurance to see whether the testing portion is covered. Good luck!

blackrose-9 · May 2017

Diagnosis (If you've been): PCOS

Cycle/CD: Day 24

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): TWW

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) 100mg clomid, trigger, Beta on the 11th.

How are things going? Not so good.. I go back on Thursday for my beta. I gave in and bought a couple of tests. BFN this morning. I'm hoping its too early, but it caused me to lose some hope. After that *TW* I found out that one of my cousins is in labor and her little girl will be here by lunch. So that just upset me even more

*End TW*

Any questions? Nope.

GTKY: Any recent embarrassing moments to share? I love a good embarrassing story So I'm in the National Guard and had my fitness test on Saturday. This whole week I have felt bloated and gassy ( seems to be a common theme here haha). Well we all line up in front of graders and I saw that my NCO was my grader and I thought oh no... and I tried to move but they wouldn't let me. So when it came to situps you can imagine what happened. I go up and the farts come out. I felt so bad for the guy holding my feet!! And even then I still felt it while running and I swear for the first quarter mile I was letting it out with each step! But I had to spend the entire weekend with my NCO and I just felt like I couldn't even look at him.

vtgirl899 · May 2017

@shortstack930 great news about your insurance coverage!

@laurad75 I hope the new stims protocol is successful for you!

@leekat14 I'm sorry, that sounds rough hugs.

@antoto good luck with your appointment on Friday!!!

@magnolia131 I'm glad your RE is so caring! I wish more docs were like that!

@ramzlau good luck with everything!

@MrsJ2410 I'm sorry you had a rough week, that sounds really hard

MrsJ2410 · May 2017

@saralee797-2 a fresh transfer as of right now.

saralee797-2 · May 2017

@mrsj2410 me too hopefully! It will depend on whether I get OHSS.

beachbunnyxo123 · May 2017

@TravelingCouple were you planning on drinking while on vacation? I can see how the stress could impact if you do test but if you were KU then that would be important to know for vacay activities. I would probably test if it were me so you could fully enjoy the vacation if AF doesn't show.

@heatherdubrow when do you start your injections? Are you still on bcp?

@saralee797-2 glad that for the most part you are feeling good with the follistim!!

@shortstack930 wow that's amazing about your insurance! Good luck with the rest of planning!

@laurad75 so glad that you are moving forward and starting stims!!!

@leekat14 I can only imagine the emotions that came up receiving your meds and how real it must've felt in that moment. I'm glad you feel good about taking the risk anyway!

@antoto good luck on Friday!!! Let us know how it goes!!!

@magnolia131 wow that sounds great that your doctor called and had that type of conversation with you!! Sounds very personalized! I feel like one of many where I'm at and don't like the feel of it sometimes even though I like my doc and the practice

@ramzlau how long will your be taking antibiotics for? Did your doc have concerns about overlap with the antibiotics? Also did he prescribe a fertility friendly one?

Diagnosis (If you've been): unexp

Cycle/CD: 17/2

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): WTO

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?)
letrozole, ovidrel, IUI

How are things going?
things are going good I like my doctors office but I feel like they get annoyed with me cause I always have so many questions (I don't care I'm asking anyway but I know the nurses probably pull straws over who has to call me back). We converted to an IUI this cycle and I'm a little nervous about it especially since it might have to be on a Saturday (cd 12 US is on a Thursday, last time I had two follicles at 17 and 18 that day) and my docs office is closed on Sunday's, but they said they would make it work. I asked about their procedure with the sperm sample and they said they stagger IUI appointments since they can only work on one specimen at a time and that they ask for photo ID for everything and the doc will read off all DHs info and mine before procedure so I felt a little better after that.

Any questions?
Anyone have asthma and take ovidrel? When I was looking for pricing something came up about asthma I asked the nurse today she said she'd call me back if there were a concern even though I thought it was unlikely.

GTKY: Any recent embarrassing moments to share? I love a good embarrassing story
I had to make a phone call to a clients parole officer the other day and he answered the phone so firmly with just his name and I thought it was a voicemail so I didn't answer I was waiting for the beep then he said it again like a solid 30 seconds later and I got all nervous and made an awkward comment that didn't even make sense I meant to say must be your line of work that made him sound so serious but I said line of duty instead. He blurted out laughing at my nonsensible comment which made it hard for me to have a professional conversation afterwards so I rushed through it as quickly as I could

safire3 · May 2017

Diagnosis (If you've been): severeMFI, low AMH

Cycle/CD: maybe 15/16, not sure

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): tww

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) DH is on clomid and supplements. Still has at least another month before we repeat SA

How are things going?Ok. Not much going on, mostly just waiting. Of course I'm hopeful that something will happen just with the clomid although it takes a good 3 months to see a change and even then it is highly unlikely we will get KU with just that.

Any questions? Nope

GTKY: Any recent embarrassing moments to share?
Not recent but when I was in college I went to visit my bf at the time on campus. He had a private room but he was going to let a friend stay with him overnight and had blankets laid out on the floor. Well things got heated so he kicked his friend out to go stay with another friend since I ended up staying the nigh. The next morning when I woke up I couldn't find my belt, underwear or bra anywhere and ended up going home without it. Well turns out my bf gave it to his friend by accident wrapped up in the blankets. What's worse is apparently when his friend went to lay out the blankets in another room there were a bunch of guys hanging out there and they were all ogling my underwear and laughing.

@TravelingCouple if i were in your place I would not be able to wait to test. I would rather know if I am not KU so I can fully enjoy myself instead of constantly wondering on my trip if I should drink etc

@saralee797-2 I hope everything goes well with you testing and appointments this week. FX for you

@shortstack930 that is awesome! Coverage for infertility seems rare so that is great. Good luck with the RE appt

@laurad75 FX for you! Hoping this protocol works well for you.

@leekat14 sorry for the bfn but yay to starting IVF. Don't worry, you got this!

@magnolia131 sorry for the let down last week. I hate when my body plays those games. Is that the plan for this new cycle?

Ugh tried to post on a Monday for once but of course work beckons. Will be back later!

ETA my embarrassing story.

JuneRoseRuby · May 2017

Hey ladies, just popping in to let you all know I was out all last week and might be pretty absent for a while. My dad died on 4/29 and I am just an emotional mess. It's making me question if I even want to pursue IVF this summer if I will never get to see my dad hold my baby. It's too heartbreaking to even think of.

Wishing you all the best especially the FET IVF girls this month!

saralee797-2 · May 2017

@JuneRoseRuby I am so sorry to hear about your dad. I am heartbroken for you. Sending all my thoughts and prayers your way

adirat · May 2017

Hi again. I've been skulking around here anyway so I figured I better post so the new people on this thread don't think I'm (as much of) a weirdo.

Big huge trigger warning for this whole post.

Diagnosis (If you've been): POI and LPD associated with genetic mutation

Cycle/CD: benched for this cycle; next cycle will be cycle 1 ttcal / cycle 11 total

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): benched after loss at 13 weeks

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?)
We're still contemplating what to do once we're off the bench. We had been seeing an RE when I got pregnant but neither of us feels ready to dive back into that yet, so we may try to ttc without intervention (just crinone) for 2-3 cycles to get back into the swing of things. I've also read, and was told by two nurses I saw during my procedure, that there's an increase in chances of pregnancy for 2-3 cycles after loss so maybe we can capitalize on that. Meanwhile we are also considering whether we should be doing IVF+PGD though that would be really far off. So I don't know and I'm really, really hoping that our next few weeks on the bench will give us some clarity.

How are things going?
Honestly? Horrible. This is the worst thing that has ever happened to me and I just don't know how to get it together and move forward. I'm really grateful to all of you wonderful ladies who reached out to me in the last few days

It's been a dark time but knowing I have your support and learning from the strength of will you all have to move forward -- it's really inspiring and I'm so grateful for all of you.

Also, by the time we're off the bench, it'll be a year since we started ttc, and thinking about being a full year in with nothing to show for it except that we're both super depressed now over losing our baby is just the worst. THE WORST.

Any questions?
I have a question for those of you who had a loss or were benched for other reasons but it's kind of TMI so feel free to ignore if you don't want to answer. I had borderline hyperemesis gravidarum during my pregnancy then I've been benched from sex after the procedure, so DH and I haven't had sex in...two months? Two and a half? We're benched this cycle from ttc anyway (even once I am cleared to have sex again) so I'm thinking of sort of taking it slow to get back into things, but I'm really nervous I'm going to be really emotional (or he will), or it's just going to be awkward or depressing. Any tips?

GTKY: My brother came to visit this weekend to cheer me up and when I got a fitted sheet from the closet to give to him for the air mattress, I unrolled it to find two pairs of my underwear inside. The underwear flopped right out onto his air mattress. Awkward.

@Travelingcouple I agree with the PPs, but also wanted to say I hope you have a wonderful, relaxing vacation and get your mind off this even a little bit!

@magnolia131 Did she say anything about how to resolve the lining issue? I know clomid can thin lining so some doctors recommend extra meds to counteract it. You could also consider some of the things like pomegranate juice which I doubt have been proven but probably couldn't hurt? (I see women doing this on the IF board quite a bit)

Big hugs for all you ladies doing IVF!

[Deleted User] · May 2017

@JuneRoseRuby Oh I am so, so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my thoughts. If you ever need any sort of support in any way you know you can come right back over here, even if you aren't TTC.

adirat · May 2017

@juneroseruby I'm so sorry. Big hugs friend. Like @antoto said please feel welcome here (or in PM) if you want to talk or need support. We

you.

TravelingCouple · May 2017

@heatherdubrow I'm so excited for you on your FET! Big time prayers that this is it for you
@shortstack930 That's AMAZING for your insurance coverage!!
@laurad75 Oh man..your GTKY! Clearly your DH didn't think it was too bad since he's still around

@JuneRoseRuby I'm so so sorry about your Dad. How terrible. I totally understand your need to step back and will be thinking and praying for you.

Oh my God @adirat I am absolutely horrified that you're back here. I am so utterly and completely sorry for your loss. I'm also sorry that I had no idea what was going on with you. Sending you so much love. *TW* I had a loss at 6.5 weeks and also had the worry about having sex afterward. We just kind of 'took the plunge' so to speak (but we did wait a while...longer than they even recommended. That was just how we felt though) and it was definitely awkward and sad for us for a while. Over time it did get better. Let yourself (and your DH) feel however you need to and be angry at whoever and whatever you need to be. I'm so so sorry friend.

Thank you ladies for all of your input and advice. I'm going to bring a wondfo with me. It may not even be a question in a few days though as I'm feeling some cramps and pre-AF kinds of things going on. That usually happens around the same time I start questioning if I should test. Either way I plan to enjoy the HELL out of Hawaii and I'm so excited!

heatherdubrow · May 2017

@JuneRoseRuby I'm so sorry for the loss of your dad. So many hugs coming your way.

@adirat Just

magnolia131 · May 2017

@blackrose-3 I'm sorry for the rough news and the BFN. I'll have my FX for your beta.

@beachbunnyxo123 I feel like "that patient" a lot of the time too when it comes to this stuff. Which is so the opposite of me in any other real life scenario. At the end of the day if you don't speak up, it's easy for your concerns to get lost in the shuffle. GL this cycle...I hope the timing works out well for your IUI.

@safire3 I'm sorry for all of the waiting. Yes, we are going with the same protocol this cycle as last. We have the option to add IUI whenever we want but our RE has told us the increased odds for us with it are statistically minimal and for whatever reason, their clinic is pretty pricey when it comes to those things (but low priced for IVF compared to other clinics here- go figure). So we are just continuing with Femara+TI for now while we save up for IVF because a small chance is better than none. I hope your workday gets less hectic!

@JuneRoseRuby I'm so sorry for your loss. Truly. To lose a parent has to be devastating. If you need anything, please do not hesitate to reach out. Take all of the time you need for yourself.

@adirat Hugs again for everything. I wish I had an answer for your question but just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you often. I hope the next few weeks bring you some clarity- I'm here if you need to talk it out and want someone to listen. As for the lining, she didn't mention anything. Their clinic likes to see lining between 7-12mm and mine measured at 7.25, so because it's still in their threshold for normal I guess it didn't come up during the phone call. I honestly am the worst about asking questions in the moment. I've read that other clinics consider anything less than 8mm to be thin, and obviously with more Femara in my future I'm just concerned of it thinning more. I'm going to mention it though at my scan tomorrow for peace of mind. Also, thanks for the tip on the pom juice. I'm going to read up on it. Worst case it helps to feel like I have some options to be proactive on my own.

adirat · May 2017

@magnolia131 So I am definitely not an expert, but I recall reading that if you experience thinner lining from meds, it doesn't stack (in other words it doesn't get worse each consecutive month, it just stays on the lower side). My RE also likes to see 8mm+ but I have seen women get bfps with 7s on the IF board. The pomegranate juice is the big thing I've seen people doing to help thicken lining. I have also seen women do mild exercise (walking/cycling) during FW to get blood flow going. The acupuncturist I was seeing during ttc recommended eating iron-rich foods during WTO to build lining, too. I have no idea if any of these things have a measurable impact but they're easy to do and low-risk.

And, thanks. If we think more seriously about IVF I'm sure I'll have a lot of questions for you wonderful ladies.

BertieMeetsGertie · May 2017

*lurking*

@JuneRoseRuby oh my goodness. I'm so sorry to hear that you lost your dad. Take care, friend.

@adirat I don't know what to say aside from how terribly sorry I am. You've always been a "leader" here (at least to me) so I have a tendency to look to you for answers. I wish I had more advice for you, but please know I'm thinking about you as you attempt to move forward and keep your sweet baby in your heart. Huge hugs my friend.

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@adirat You've been on my mind. There's no part of me that is happy to see you post here, but know that I am here for you in any way you need me to be.

safire3 · May 2017

@adirat so sorry to see you here. So sorry for your loss. Hugs to you and know we are here for you.

@JuneRoseRuby I did notice you didn't post last week. I am really sorry to hear about your dad. Take all the time you need and we are here to help in any way we can. Hugs to you.

LadyMillil · May 2017

Unexplained bleeding, lower AMH, MFI low count and morph

Cycle 31

CD1

IVF+ICSI

We have to pay for IVF+ICSI+embryo storage+meds all upfront on Wednesday so that sucks. I'm really hoping everything goes through fine. We have the money ready it's just a matter of if our banks will block the charges from going through since that much spending all at once is unusual for us.

leekat14 · May 2017

@LadyMillil Ugh...I feel your pain. Out of pocket sucks. Can you call the bank to give them a heads up?

@adirat My heart hurts for you. I'm sorry you are here but please reach out if you need anything. You've always been such a strong force here and we are here for you!

JuneRoseRuby · May 2017

Thanks for the love girls. We need some good vibes on this board this week!

ramzlau · May 2017

@JuneRoseRuby my heart goes out to you, the process of grieving is hard. I lost my dad and grandfather in January and like most grief it comes and goes in waves, and sometimes feels more evident in those special moments . Take the time you need to feel all the feelings and to get the comfort you need from your friends and family.

*tw @adirat so incredibly sorry to hear of your loss. It took us awhile to work through the grief after our loss before we decided to start trying again. I think for the first time back in the saddle it is important to have open communication so it can be whatever you need it to be, whether it is with laughter or with tears or to celebrate a special occasion. Just try to lean into each other for support instead of letting it create a point of friction. tw*

@beachbunnyxo123 Sorry for your new cycle, but FX for your IUI this month! Happy to hear you asked about the chances of a sperm swap, that eases my mind as we head into IUI next cycle. The doctor is not prescribing a fertility friendly antibiotic, it is actually the opposite. It can cause a termination if pregnant or high risk for birth defects if you conceive while on it. So she did explicitly state no TTC while on it (or drinking or dairy or sun exposure), and she suggested that we try to back it into this cycle if I want, after getting a BFN. It is 14 days of antibiotics and I have been ovulating on day 13. I just feel it is cutting it close with an IUI, and I worry how long it takes to get out of your system. Regarding your question with asthma and ovidrel. I have allergy/exercised induced asthma (rarely use an inhaler), and did not have any reaction to ovidrel when I took it.

@LadyMillil ouch! Paying so much even sounds painful. Hope your bank is understanding of it!

saralee797-2 · May 2017

@adirat you know you always have friends here. I am sure things will become clear with time. Thinking of you

AFM halp! I had my first thigh injection tonight and it really hurts. Wondering if I did something wrong. Tips please?!

eggplantface · May 2017

Diagnosis (If you've been): MFI, AMA

Cycle/CD: Can't remember but it's been 2 years.

Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): BCP currently, starting meds for FET prep on Wednesday

What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) FET!

How are things going? I had a polypectomy today! Contrary to popular belief, they CAN do it without sedation or anesthesia. All I had was 800mg of ibuprofen an hour before my appointment time. I had cramps for about 30 seconds when he inserted the scope, but then it stopped and I mainly just felt discomfort. I'm a special case, though, because I had zero pain with the HSGs and saline sonos so I must just tolerate things in my uterus very well. There's a dirty joke in there somewhere.

The doc removed something that was protruding into the cavity, but he didn't know if it was a polyp or a tiny fibroid. I didn't feel any pain as he removed it. So assuming all is well at my monitoring appointment on Wednesday morning I'll start estrogen injections Wednesday night!

Any questions?

GTKY: Any recent embarrassing moments to share? I love a good embarrassing story
A couple of years ago I was walking to a neighbor's house to have some beers and watch football and I had on a dress with a pair of stretchy shorts on underneath (chub rub prevention). I got to my neighbors house and the neighbor goes "Your ass is showing." I thought he was just kidding with me because he does that, then he goes "No, your dress is tucked into your shorts. Your ass is hanging out." I had walked two blocks with my ass hanging out!! And we live in a high density area!

leekat14 · May 2017

@heatherdubrow When do you have to start injections?

@TravelingCouple I would totally take some tests with me. I feel like I just need to know! I'm super jealous of your trip....that's going to be awesome!

@saralee797-2 Four days in? Yay!!! I'm still waiting on AF. So annoying!

@shortstack930 Yay for having coverage! That is a huge relief!

@laurad75 omg passing out is super embarrassing...I can totally relate, I'm constantly passing out in front of people.

@antoto Friday will be here before you know it! Super exciting to start this process!

@magnolia131 Hugs to you

@vtgirl899 Welcome! I'm sorry you're having such a long cycle. Good luck with the wait until you get to the Dr.

@blackrose-3 Sorry for the BFN

@beachbunnyxo123 I knew it was risky to order before getting AF, but all those stark white tests pushed me over the edge! It's okay to have questions, this whole journey is overwhelming and they should be here to help!

@safire3 Thanks for the encouragement. I'm still not exactly sure how I'll do these shots, but I guess when there is no other choice!

@JuneRoseRuby I'm so sorry for your loss. Remember to take care of yourself and let us know if there's anything we can do.

adirat · May 2017

@eggplantface I'm glad it was painless! Yay for fet time finally coming!

@saralee797 Thanks friend

I've seen ideas about warming or icing the area before or after the injections -- I hope you find something that helps!

vflux33 · May 2017

Wow, the amount of you ladies gearing up for IVF right now... Really hoping for all you guys that your TTC journey ends in rainbows and sparkles soon.

@JuneRoseRuby I am so, so sorry. I hope to see you back when you're ready, but not a moment sooner. Feel free to come and vent whenever the urge arises.

@TravelingCouple Good to see you drop in! I was going to say I wouldn't test before HI but saw you've made a decision. I can see why you'd want to but if it's positive OR negative either way it will harm your ability to really get into the break IMO. Having some drinks probably wouldn't matter that early anyway, just so long as don't give yourself alcohol poisoning. That said, I second the idea of bringing just 1 or 2 tests with you if you're actually late and think as PPs said that's a good compromise.
@saralee797-2 Way to think ahead with the meal planning!
@shortstack930 That is amazing news about your insurance!
@laurad75 So nice to hear you're feeling hopeful. I faint from extreme temperature changes too. I found out it was because of vasovagal syncope. Do you have that too? (If you haven't heard of it don't freak out--it's not serious) It feels so weirdly victorian, and yes, embarrassing.
@leekat14 Love your new profile pic.
@magnolia131 Sorry about AF.

I like that you're getting solid attention from your RE.
@ramzlau That definitely sucks, but it is good that you have a solid answer. I hope your benched period goes smoothly and that you can get back into TTC soon.
@blackrose-3 Sorry about the BFN

@beachbunnyxo123 That's cool your RE is open on weekends. I actually chose my RE in part for that same reason. Glad they gave you a solid answer about the sperm thing to make you feel better too.
@safire3 Oh man that is so embarrassing! At least it makes for a good story later on.

@adirat You posting here is such a small act, and yet, it shows how strong of a person you are that you're even dipping a toe back into this world right now. Still around if you ever need an extra ear and rooting for you super hard, both in life generally as well as when you're ready to go forward with TTC again.

Also I have also heard how it can sometimes be easier to get KU right after. My sister got KU with her son right after a CP (I know, different situation, but still).

I'll come back for my post later as time is not my friend today

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