@kns1988 I wouldn't go because I would be too damn tired to function in public at only two weeks. Stay home, fancy yourself up with clean yoga pants if you must, and nap!... If you're really worried about touching throw a muslin swaddle over the carseat and rock some bitch face or you can wear him.
@WombThereItIs, you should have your own advice column. I seriously love your no nonsense responses.
@L1C4gal, that's adorable. I love when toddlers repeat things back like that.
I think we'll make a game time decision about going to the recital on that day. If we go, I'll be taking the advice to keep him covered and sit near the back.
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
@sweaterboots did we really? I was probably trying to turn over in bed and assumed it was me. DH hasn't felt one yet. He'll be bummed he didn't feel it either.
@rebecca517-2 a small 3.0 based in Santa Monica, just before 10:30pm. We felt it a little in NoHo. I was like oh hell naw, after all this work on the nursery! lol
Regarding taking baby out...I think I'm good with going out in public and telling people not to touch because would you want me to randomly come up to you and start touching you? But I have a work conference the week I come back from maternity leave. My boss told me to see if my mom would go with us so he can go. She's worried about him being in a hotel at 6 weeks (I informed her that if he does come on his due date that he'd be more like 9 weeks going on 10). That changed her thoughts a little bit but just curious what you all think. It's not like she has to stay in there the whole time or anything. We would need to figure out where he's sleep though, we don't have a pack n play, at least not at the moment.
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
This is a PSA: do NOT go to Costco the week you are due. You will buy more things than you possibly need, more food than you can possibly eat, and more wine that you can possibly drink (immediately after giving birth, that is. Let's not get crazy).
@sweaterboots seriously! I would have felt the same way. Or if something fell on my car seat and I had to buy a new one? No freaking way. Haha I'm in Burbank, I should have felt it.
Regarding taking baby out...I think I'm good with going out in public and telling people not to touch because would you want me to randomly come up to you and start touching you? But I have a work conference the week I come back from maternity leave. My boss told me to see if my mom would go with us so he can go. She's worried about him being in a hotel at 6 weeks (I informed her that if he does come on his due date that he'd be more like 9 weeks going on 10). That changed her thoughts a little bit but just curious what you all think. It's not like she has to stay in there the whole time or anything. We would need to figure out where he's sleep though, we don't have a pack n play, at least not at the moment.
I wouldn't have a problem doing this, but I would buy a pack and play or some sort of portable bassinet baby could be in. I just bought the Chicco LullaGo and I really like it!
This is a PSA: do NOT go to Costco the week you are due. You will buy more things than you possibly need, more food than you can possibly eat, and more wine that you can possibly drink (immediately after giving birth, that is. Let's not get crazy).
@bacorrea thanks! We definitely need a pack n play regardless so that if my mom watches him at her place then she has somewhere for him to sleep. We just didn't get one for our shower and haven't had the extra money at the moment to get one. We'll definitely need to by mid July at the latest! We have a bassinet that has been passed down in my family, not very portable haha
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
Question: When do you feel comfortable taking a newborn around a lot of people? I might be being a bit of a germophobe. My SIL has a music recital at a church on Sunday and I'd feel terrible if we didn't go, but Jay will only be 2 weeks old. He's easy to travel with so far because he's much more sleepy than fussy. Would you go and just not let people hold him or would you skip it?
Honestly I felt the same after I had DS I didn't even go into the living rm so MIL could hold him, I was cautious/suspicious of EVERYTHING BUT if this recital is really something that means a lot I say you baby wear! A close enough one that people won't need to touch the baby the baby would be right against your chest(this is my solution if I ever need to go out anywhere when DD is born
@ChristinaWild i stocked up on my favorite beer selection yesterday (for the record those are Men's Room Original Red and Pyramid Apricot Ale) and now it's sitting in the fridge, chillin. Didn't find the syrah i wanted though.
@RainyDays86 that's a gorgeous laundry room! Makes me think of lavender blooms in a rustic looking vase and such.
In other news: my ob did a membrane sweep last morning. If i thought i was losing bits and pieces of my mucous plug before - HOLY COW, it totally came out last night. Let me tell you ladies, it was not pretty (probably also because i'm 5 cm dilated as it is). And it might yet regenerate so i know it means nothing. Had some random pains i didn't have before but no contractions. We'll see how it goes today.
@RainyDays86 That is the most beautiful laundry room! I'm sure the rest of your house is equally amazing. (A little jealous, I keep looking at those pictures of your laundry room.)
@chocolatelemons I know lots of people have weighed in, but I'm just hear to second (or twelfth) the sentiment that your priority is your baby, not your MIL's feelings, and that giving her the option makes her decision. I think babies get dtap at 2 months? But like someone else mentioned, this might be concerning for all the other vaccines. What about flu season? And I think it's different than @WombThereItIs situation where her mom can't get the vaccine, and your MIL is around children.
@kns1988 I would go if I felt up to it physically. I have no issue taking the baby out in public early, and plan on getting back to "normal" as quickly as possible.
@BabyMC517 we are traveling international for an month when LO is 7 weeks old. We plan on getting 2 month vaccines a tiny bit early and we are bringing a dock-a-tot as our sleep surface. I looked into lots of different small travel bassinets and there are lots of good ones out there. If we were staying domestic we would bring our pnp.
@RainyDays86 if I had a. Laundry room like that, I'd be tempted to wash and fold clothes more often.
I can't remember if we discussed the "prankster" dad and stepmom on YouTube that verbally abused their kids. Well I just read that the kids were removed from the home and are with their mom.
@ChristinaWild I went to Costco last night and I probably looked like quite the site with 9 margarita bottles, 2 cases of Pacifico, 3 bottles of wine, and a tower fan in my cart! (My shower is this weekend, so we were stocking up.)
After reading through others' sentiments, I'm definitely feeling like the right decision for me is to avoid visits until my son is vaccinated unless MIL changes her mind. It's unfortunate and may create tension, but my baby's health is my priority.
@MrsFreeman2010 I'll look into those as well. I figured since we'll need a pop at some point that it might be better in the long run, and get more use (?).
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
@chocolatelemons That is a tough situation. I'm in a similar one, but my SIL hasn't gotten hers out of laziness (and she's gotten her birth control shot at least twice since we told her she needed to update). H and I sat down and talked about it and tried to figure out a point where we would just have to give up. We determined that since it's the final month, when she wants to come see baby in the hospital we'll ask if she's been vaccinated. If no, then sorry, no visit. Unfortunately, she is our daycare and H and I can't agree on that one. I'm all about finding new daycare if she continues to be lazy, but H is more nervous going that route. It is definitely a hard decision, but I figure if I can hold strong for at least a week after baby comes, maybe my point will be made.
@rosemarylaff Yup, I saw us at the top and may have freaked out a little bit!
Honestly, in your situation, I would find a new childcare option if she won't get the TDAP. If she isn't respecting your views on something that is this important to your child's health, what other parenting decisions of yours is she going to disrespect or ignore?
For all those with family members complaining about getting the tdap and not having time, ask them how often they visit Target or the grocery store because they can get it at the pharmacies they have there! It's not like they even have to make an appointment with their doctor!
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
Speaking of people who are missing... anyone heard from @MrsFox2008 ? It occurred to me we had no Tuesday Ticker this week, and she is our kickstarter! It looks like she was 39 weeks last Tuesday, so maybe we have a new addition???
I hope we hear from all of our absentee mamas soon!
Honestly, in your situation, I would find a new childcare option if she won't get the TDAP. If she isn't respecting your views on something that is this important to your child's health, what other parenting decisions of yours is she going to disrespect or ignore?
Oh that has been thoroughly discussed because I've seen it happen. Not huge things, very minor things, but still. One of those things where your parents know you'd say no but they do it anyways. Meh, still not a good example... We have zero intention of taking ourselves off the wait lists we've been put on and have an exit age where we go to a center for "preschool". Unfortunately, infant daycare is dang near impossible to find here right now.
@hp_momma I wish I could use that as an excuse, but in ND they can't have pharmacies in places like that. You have to actively go to a independent pharamist or the doctor.
H and I just watched Happiest Baby on the Block. I definitely feel more prepared with soothing techniques now! Also, tried to swaddle the cat...he was not cooperative.
@mcvgal Saw that. Was very relieved that at least two of the kids were removed. Especially the younger boy. Looks like he's been getting the brunt of the abuse. The whole thing just makes me sick.
Taking baby out: this is my third, so I will need to take the baby out to keep my sanity. My oldest (4) has tee ball and both boys are in preschool, so I will at least be doing that.
I'm trying to figure out how to handle the beach/my parents pool. My boys live for the beach, as in we went almost daily last summer. They're already asking when we can go and I'm so sad that I will be limited to taking them on the weekends when DH is home.
@starphish18 Silly question, but how did you watch it? I have the DVD, but in this modern world I have no way of watching it! I am hoping there's a streaming version?
@starphish18 lol your cat swaddle comment made me remember earlier this am I was getting the infant car seat set up after cleaning it and asked DD to bring me one of her dolls so I could try to get the straps adjusted to the right spots... could be slightly different than an actual baby. So I can imagine your cat practice wasn't very fruitful lol.
@starphish18 - I was aware of swaddling before DS was born (is there anyone who doesn't register for Aden an Anais???) but had no actual knowledge of it. Even after watching the nurses several times in the hospital I was clueless. I finally had to ask one to undo him and SLOWLY show me how. There is no shame in the new mama game - everyone starts at square 1!
@starphish18 - I was aware of swaddling before DS was born (is there anyone who doesn't register for Aden an Anais???) but had no actual knowledge of it. Even after watching the nurses several times in the hospital I was clueless. I finally had to ask one to undo him and SLOWLY show me how. There is no shame in the new mama game - everyone starts at square 1!
Even after watching the nurses and having them show us, DH and I never could get a tight enough swaddle! Those nurses are magicians!
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
Re: Weekly Randoms 5/1-5/5
@RainyDays86, that's one gorgeous laundry room!
@L1C4gal, that's adorable. I love when toddlers repeat things back like that.
I think we'll make a game time decision about going to the recital on that day. If we go, I'll be taking the advice to keep him covered and sit near the back.
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
@RainyDays86 that's a gorgeous laundry room! Makes me think of lavender blooms in a rustic looking vase and such.
In other news: my ob did a membrane sweep last morning. If i thought i was losing bits and pieces of my mucous plug before - HOLY COW, it totally came out last night. Let me tell you ladies, it was not pretty (probably also because i'm 5 cm dilated as it is). And it might yet regenerate so i know it means nothing. Had some random pains i didn't have before but no contractions. We'll see how it goes today.
@chocolatelemons I know lots of people have weighed in, but I'm just hear to second (or twelfth) the sentiment that your priority is your baby, not your MIL's feelings, and that giving her the option makes her decision. I think babies get dtap at 2 months? But like someone else mentioned, this might be concerning for all the other vaccines. What about flu season? And I think it's different than @WombThereItIs situation where her mom can't get the vaccine, and your MIL is around children.
@BabyMC517 we are traveling international for an month when LO is 7 weeks old. We plan on getting 2 month vaccines a tiny bit early and we are bringing a dock-a-tot as our sleep surface. I looked into lots of different small travel bassinets and there are lots of good ones out there. If we were staying domestic we would bring our pnp.
Link to a standard vaccination schedule that most pediatricians seem to follow:
https://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/schedules/hcp/imz/child-adolescent.html
I can't remember if we discussed the "prankster" dad and stepmom on YouTube that verbally abused their kids. Well I just read that the kids were removed from the home and are with their mom.
11.2011 - DS1
02.2013 - loss at 6 wks
06.2014 - DS2
10.2015 - loss at 12 wks
03.2017 - DD
Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
I hope we hear from all of our absentee mamas soon!
@hp_momma I wish I could use that as an excuse, but in ND they can't have pharmacies in places like that. You have to actively go to a independent pharamist or the doctor.
need to take the baby out to keep my sanity. My oldest (4) has tee ball and both boys are in preschool, so I will at least be doing that.
I'm trying to figure out how to handle the beach/my parents pool. My boys live for the beach, as in we went almost daily last summer. They're already asking when we can go and I'm so sad that I will be limited to taking them on the weekends when DH is home.
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
@erinh2005 Haha, we resorted to using a doll to practice swaddling, too.
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17