@RedInLove your DD is adorable! I love how kids pick up and imitate - usually. My 4yr old is now complaining she can't do something because she's pregnant
Just getting caught up. Excited for this month if babies!!!
@mcvgal sorry you're already having to prepare to go back to work!
@nda_roxybabe yay for cramping! Keep working uterus!!
I was also thinking of @mamatowildones earlier. I think her doc was considering an induction soon, like maybe the end of last week? I don't remember though
Question: When do you feel comfortable taking a newborn around a lot of people? I might be being a bit of a germophobe. My SIL has a music recital at a church on Sunday and I'd feel terrible if we didn't go, but Jay will only be 2 weeks old. He's easy to travel with so far because he's much more sleepy than fussy. Would you go and just not let people hold him or would you skip it?
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
@kns1988 I'd ask your pediatrician, but if it was me I wouldn't take him yet. It's one thing in an open park, another in an enclosed space with lots if people. If you do go, sit in the very back so everyone and their germs/breathing are in front of you.
@kns1988 I wouldn't go because I would be too damn tired to function in public at only two weeks. Stay home, fancy yourself up with clean yoga pants if you must, and nap!
Tiredness was my main deciding factor in what I wanted to go do when kid 1 was a new little larva. If we went out he stayed in his seat (or a carrier) and nobody touched him so it wasn't a big deal to me. I was actually encouraged to take some trips out when he was really tiny to make sure I could get him to his 2 week dr. appointment and whatnot on my own since my husband was back at work. If you're really worried about touching throw a muslin swaddle over the carseat and rock some bitch face or you can wear him.
@nda_roxybabe According to my mother (was a midwives apprentice for a while and mother of 2) the menstrual-like cramps are a sign of dilation. Hoping it's the real thing!
I hope that's true! I've been having a lot of menstrual-like cramping. Sometimes it's during a BH, but other times I feel no contraction, just the cramps.
@nda_roxybabe Keeping my fingers crossed for you! I'm so excited for you team green mamas to find out what you're having, too!
Question: When do you feel comfortable taking a newborn around a lot of people? I might be being a bit of a germophobe. My SIL has a music recital at a church on Sunday and I'd feel terrible if we didn't go, but Jay will only be 2 weeks old. He's easy to travel with so far because he's much more sleepy than fussy. Would you go and just not let people hold him or would you skip it?
If I was up for going I would go but wear him. Nobody touches him. I had to take DD to target when she was just a couple days old. You do what ya gotta do. Just lots of baby wearing or car seat with a blanket like @WombThereItIs said.
@Kateriee - well that's just spectacular. Sit on down, little lady. You're strong enough to give birth to a child, but you can't screw something in with your delicate little lady hands.
@nda_roxybabe - sorry things fizzled out. I hate when that happens!! It's like a giant tease.
@kns1988 - I kind of agree with others - if you're feeling up to, go for it! I would definitely discourage people from touching him. As long as you don't have some gross person coughing on him, he'll probably be fine. We took DS to his cousin's birthday party (not a kid-infested one, it was family only) when he was about 3 weeks old.
@nda_roxybabe sorry things stopped for you! How frustrating! Hopefully the pain meant your body was doing something even if it wasn't Go time yet.
@kns1988 I was all about getting out of the house really early on for my own sanity, but I agree with PPs it really depends on how you feel. You have a perfect excuse not to go, but if you want to I would just wear him and stay near the back so you can leave and walk around if need be. Also make sure no one touches him (wearing or keeping him in his car seat covered will help with that).
I posted about this in FB but I have to AW my laundry room one more time. They finished painting and sealing the wood and I decorated and got everything organized yesterday and I am in love! The room is right off the kitchen so we look at it every day and I have been going crazy having a construction zone in the middle of our house. But now it's done and I get to feel like I live in Pinterest while doing the mountains and mountains of newborn laundry that are to come!
@RedInLove your DD is adorable! I love how kids pick up and imitate - usually. My 4yr old is now complaining she can't do something because she's pregnant
@llenadevida900 Haha! I was watching a friend's 2.5 yo and when I asked him to build me something with his blocks, he said "I can't--my back hurts because there's a baby in my belly." I used that excuse with him just once...they listen more than we think!
@RedInLove your DD is adorable! I love how kids pick up and imitate - usually. My 4yr old is now complaining she can't do something because she's pregnant
@llenadevida900 Haha! I was watching a friend's 2.5 yo and when I asked him to build me something with his blocks, he said "I can't--my back hurts because there's a baby in my belly." I used that excuse with him just once...they listen more than we think!
On a related topic, my MIL won't get the tdap because she is anti vaccines which I'm not even going to comment too much on because I completely disagree with this on so many levels. That said, she also works with children on a daily basis, hasnt been to a doctor in 15 years, and is sick with a cough/cold like symptoms pretty often. Im leaning toward not allowing her to visit until the baby has been vaccinated but I feel awful. What would you do?
@RainyDays86 you know that kind of jealously where you see something and you love it so much there's a little pang of sadness in your heart? Yeah that just happened with your laundry room. My God it's immaculate. Amazing work and great taste!!!
@chocolatelemons, it may be harsh, but I absolutely wouldn't let MIL near baby unless she's willing to get vaccinated or baby is. It's not worth the risk to me. If she can't respect your decision to only have baby around vaccinated people, then she simply can't see the baby until he/she is vaccinated. I made my ILs and parents get them with DD, so they're covered this time too. If they weren't, I would have required it again to see this baby.
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@nda_roxybabe bummer! I'm sorry things have fizzled out.
@RainyDays86 your laundry room makes me so happy! Those countertops are amazing.
@chocolatelemons I would tell her you aren't comfortable letting her around the baby until he's vaccinated if she chooses not to get immunized. If she decides not to get the shot there isn't anything for you to feel bad about - you gave her a choice and she has to deal with the consequences of her decision.
@chocolatelemons - I'm with @KMD1106. While it sucks to deny family members, it definitely would not be worth it to me. Her decisions are what would prevent her from seeing the new baby, not you. Your job as a mom is to protect your little one from any foreseeable pain or illness, so this would just be you doing your job. If she can't respect that, that's on her.
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
On a related topic, my MIL won't get the tdap because she is anti vaccines which I'm not even going to comment too much on because I completely disagree with this on so many levels. That said, she also works with children on a daily basis, hasnt been to a doctor in 15 years, and is sick with a cough/cold like symptoms pretty often. Im leaning toward not allowing her to visit until the baby has been vaccinated but I feel awful. What would you do?
This is a hard situation that I think only you and your husband can make. Does she live near you or would she have to fly out? It's a long time before babies are fully vaccinated. What does your husband think?
@chocolatelemons I'm with @KMD1106 I wouldn't let my IL near my baby is she wasn't vaccinated. She needs to respect your decision. @RainyDays86 I am so jealous (in the best way) over that Laundry room.
Am I the only one that is a little freaked out that our board is the top one on the list? I never thought that day would come!
@chocolatelemons I think you and your husband have to together decide if this is the hill to die on. My mom can't get the TDAP for medical reasons and for both this pregnancy and last she was our primary help in the first few weeks. The risks really are minimal and I would carefully weigh them against the costs of blowing things up with his family.
Thanks guys, I'm really happy with how it turned out! Although I definitely didn't want you sad @sweaterboots!
@chocolatelemons I wouldn't allow her to be around the baby until the baby is vaccinated. But I'm also a b and seriously judge anti-vaxxers so a lot of that would be me making a point. If it were a situation like @WombThereItIs where a family member couldn't get the vaccine. I wouldn't make a big deal out of it.
@RedInLove your DD is adorable! I love how kids pick up and imitate - usually. My 4yr old is now complaining she can't do something because she's pregnant
@chocolatelemons I wouldn't allow her to be around the baby until she is vaccinated. I assume she doesn't vaccinate for other things as well? For me, that might further limit her visits during flu season, etc. I think her situation is completely different from one that @WombThereItIs is facing because your mom works regularly with little germ factories.
@RainyDays86 - Your laundry room looks great! I'm so jealous of the counter where you can fold clothes. I drag mine upstairs in a basket meaning to fold them right away ... and then I don't.
@chocolatelemons Ahh, that's really rough! I would say she doesn't get to be around baby until baby has received vaccines. That's SO easier said than done and if I were in your shoes, I really don't know. In a FB group I'm in a Mom just posted that her little baby caught measles! He's too young to have gotten the vaccine and now he has measles. This makes me so sad/ angry!
@chocolatelemons - I wouldn't even feel bad for denying her access to your tiny baby. 1) As a mom your priority is the safety of your child, not her feelings. And 2) if you let her know now that she won't be able to visit until one of them is vaccinated, then it's putting the ball in HER court. It's her choice to suck it up and get the shot or wait to meet her grandbaby.
On the subject of taking newborns out... I have no issue with it. I plan on taking this baby out and about, just in their stroller with a cover or on me. I made plans for Mother's Day brunch even though baby may only be a couple days old. As long as strangers aren't touching them or it's not a place like urgent care I think it'll be fine. I'm SO not a germiphobe though.
@chocolatelemons That is a tough situation. I'm in a similar one, but my SIL hasn't gotten hers out of laziness (and she's gotten her birth control shot at least twice since we told her she needed to update). H and I sat down and talked about it and tried to figure out a point where we would just have to give up. We determined that since it's the final month, when she wants to come see baby in the hospital we'll ask if she's been vaccinated. If no, then sorry, no visit. Unfortunately, she is our daycare and H and I can't agree on that one. I'm all about finding new daycare if she continues to be lazy, but H is more nervous going that route. It is definitely a hard decision, but I figure if I can hold strong for at least a week after baby comes, maybe my point will be made.
@rosemarylaff Yup, I saw us at the top and may have freaked out a little bit!
I will also be taking my baby out in public shortly after birth. I will, however, perfect my RBF to avoid anyone coming in to contact with my kid. Influenza is still making its rounds down here and I will stab a B who might infect my offspring.
Holy dream room @RainyDays86!!! That is beautiful!
Regarding when to go out with baby, I am not a germiphobe, so as long as I am feeling up to it I will be leaving the house frequently. We had a large family party 5 days after DS was born and I was thrilled with getting to practice my "out and about" skills and just jumping in so soon after. Also newborns are a perfect excuse to leave early if you end up not feeling it.
@kns1988, I say only go if you feel up for it. I'm not a germaphobe, but we've been out almost every day since coming home with the newbie. If I wasn't feeling well, I would totally use her as an excuse to dodge things.
@erinh2005 I watched the video this morning and proceeded to cry my makeup off. There is also just something about a dad getting emotional about their kids that makes my ovaries explode.
@rosemarylaff I've been watching May 2017 march closer and closer to the top this whole time too!! I can't believe it's there. Queens of the castle!
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1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
Our cat is my pregnancy spirit animal. This pic is from a few weeks ago but it's how I feel right now.
@nda_roxybabe I hope it's go time!
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
@mcvgal sorry you're already having to prepare to go back to work!
@nda_roxybabe yay for cramping! Keep working uterus!!
I was also thinking of @mamatowildones earlier. I think her doc was considering an induction soon, like maybe the end of last week? I don't remember though
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
Tiredness was my main deciding factor in what I wanted to go do when kid 1 was a new little larva. If we went out he stayed in his seat (or a carrier) and nobody touched him so it wasn't a big deal to me. I was actually encouraged to take some trips out when he was really tiny to make sure I could get him to his 2 week dr. appointment and whatnot on my own since my husband was back at work. If you're really worried about touching throw a muslin swaddle over the carseat and rock some bitch face or you can wear him.
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@nda_roxybabe Keeping my fingers crossed for you! I'm so excited for you team green mamas to find out what you're having, too!
@nda_roxybabe - sorry things fizzled out. I hate when that happens!! It's like a giant tease.
@kns1988 - I kind of agree with others - if you're feeling up to, go for it! I would definitely discourage people from touching him. As long as you don't have some gross person coughing on him, he'll probably be fine. We took DS to his cousin's birthday party (not a kid-infested one, it was family only) when he was about 3 weeks old.
Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17
@kns1988 I was all about getting out of the house really early on for my own sanity, but I agree with PPs it really depends on how you feel. You have a perfect excuse not to go, but if you want to I would just wear him and stay near the back so you can leave and walk around if need be. Also make sure no one touches him (wearing or keeping him in his car seat covered will help with that).
I posted about this in FB but I have to AW my laundry room one more time. They finished painting and sealing the wood and I decorated and got everything organized yesterday and I am in love! The room is right off the kitchen so we look at it every day and I have been going crazy having a construction zone in the middle of our house. But now it's done and I get to feel like I live in Pinterest while doing the mountains and mountains of newborn laundry that are to come!
On a related topic, my MIL won't get the tdap because she is anti vaccines which I'm not even going to comment too much on because I completely disagree with this on so many levels. That said, she also works with children on a daily basis, hasnt been to a doctor in 15 years, and is sick with a cough/cold like symptoms pretty often. Im leaning toward not allowing her to visit until the baby has been vaccinated but I feel awful. What would you do?
Me:31 DH:32 Married 11/06/10
DD: Born 8/23/13 (clomid+ovidrel+IUI)
BFP 9/9/16 EDD 5/19/17
@RainyDays86 your laundry room makes me so happy! Those countertops are amazing.
@chocolatelemons I would tell her you aren't comfortable letting her around the baby until he's vaccinated if she chooses not to get immunized. If she decides not to get the shot there isn't anything for you to feel bad about - you gave her a choice and she has to deal with the consequences of her decision.
ETA: fixed confusing run-on sentence.
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
@RainyDays86 I am so jealous (in the best way) over that Laundry room.
Am I the only one that is a little freaked out that our board is the top one on the list? I never thought that day would come!
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@chocolatelemons I wouldn't allow her to be around the baby until the baby is vaccinated. But I'm also a b and seriously judge anti-vaxxers so a lot of that would be me making a point. If it were a situation like @WombThereItIs where a family member couldn't get the vaccine. I wouldn't make a big deal out of it.
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I wouldn't allow her to be around the baby until she is vaccinated. I assume she doesn't vaccinate for other things as well? For me, that might further limit her visits during flu season, etc. I think her situation is completely different from one that @WombThereItIs is facing because your mom works regularly with little germ factories.
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1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
@rosemarylaff Yup, I saw us at the top and may have freaked out a little bit!
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Regarding when to go out with baby, I am not a germiphobe, so as long as I am feeling up to it I will be leaving the house frequently. We had a large family party 5 days after DS was born and I was thrilled with getting to practice my "out and about" skills and just jumping in so soon after. Also newborns are a perfect excuse to leave early if you end up not feeling it.
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@rosemarylaff I've been watching May 2017 march closer and closer to the top this whole time too!! I can't believe it's there. Queens of the castle!