@bluejeanbabi05 that was me who alternated the lotions truth be told, the only reason I did is I'm not a huge fan of the scent of palmers (it reminds me of "chocolate scented" scratch and sniff stickers...random, I know), but where I was buying it it was cheaper than burts. I like burts 100 times more, and so far this pregnancy it's all I've used. If I get stretch marks this time we will know it's because I didn't use palmers (at least in the beginning).
@natleilynn it's taken me a looooong time to come around to having guns in the house. I'm not a huge fan. DH and I had several strongly heated discussions before I gave in and "allowed" him to have one. It's locked up and on a high shelf in our closet thankfully so I pretty much just don't think about it on the daily. I like that it's so hard to get to, but at the same time I'm like "what's the point?" Because if someone is trying to murder me I probably won't have time to get to it lol
My FFFC: I bought DD a new shampoo this week. It smelled ok in the bottle, but as soon as I put it on her head it smells like grandma used too much floral perfume. I don't know if it's pregnancy hormones or if the smell is just awful. Anyway, I'm too cheap to toss it out so I'm pretty much just going to hate being around my kid's head for the next month or two.
When I give DS a bath I almost never wash his hair. DH usually does bathtime and will wash it and I don't think his hair needs washed every day.
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i dont have any problems with people who own guns. personally not for me. but you do you, i trust you are responsible with kids in the house. however, dont go voting against gun control...no one wants your guns
Ok here it goes: DH doesn't have a FB but sometimes uses mine to talk to family. There are zero trust issues, but it sucks that people probably think that. He doesn't use any social media and I wish he did so that I could tag things to him sometimes. Also the biggest reason I want him to get one is because the few times that he posts something, it is flooded with typos, and I don't want to be associated with that. FLAME AWAY
But is your fb called "ChocolateandMrChocolateLife"? Because that's when I side eye. Not when the other person just uses it from time to time.
eta: I see @carries2018 already said the same thing
haha @dajocl I'm glad you still love me. I've lost friends over this subject, but DH and I both feel strongly about it, so it is what it is.
We've since moved to an area where it's a lot more acceptable. I don't have any problem with parents asking the questions - heck, we'll be asking those kinds of questions when DD goes on playdates. I want to make sure the parents are responsible gun owners and I would fully expect someone to ask us those questions before they send their kids to our house. But it's our lifestyle, take it or leave it.
I appreciate that you're open and don't have problems with other parents asking questions. I live in a liberal area where gun ownership isn't common so I (maybe naively?) just assume most households don't have them, but it is something I would want to know about if my son were going to spend time at a house that owns guns.
@bluejeanbabi05 definitely not, its only ChocolateisLife . I think I just misunderstood everyone on this board, because I've been thinking I was in the category of shared accounts whenever I see someone post it as a FFFC.
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I bought an 18 pack of Kraft mac and cheese from costco the other day (boxes, not cups) and that's what I'm having for lunch right now. Also, I blame it on the baby when I eat something unhealthy. It's all Elena's fault, dammit. I can't be held responsible.
I think I'm going to buy some Kraft Mac & Cheese and hotdogs to have for dinner. Mmmmm.
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OH! i think it is weird to not share a bank account with H. i mean i get the reasons/arguments behind it and H and i make the same so that is probably why i dont really care about spending. but it is just so much easier to share. and any big financial decision we make together (cough cough...i twist his arm) so i dunno whats mine is his, whats his is mine.
@carries2018 my DH buys some stupid sh*t. Well, I think it's stupid. Also, I have control issues. It's best for our marriage that we separate our spending money, lol. We just share our savings account.
i dont have any problems with people who own guns. personally not for me. but you do you, i trust you are responsible with kids in the house. however, dont go voting against gun control...no one wants your guns
I totally support gun control. Like I said, my state required a TON of paperwork, training, testing, etc...and I am completely on board with that. The only problem is, people with bad intentions are going to find a way to get it either way. So it's not a great solution, but I honestly don't know what the solution is.
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OH! i think it is weird to not share a bank account with H. i mean i get the reasons/arguments behind it and H and i make the same so that is probably why i dont really care about spending. but it is just so much easier to share. and any big financial decision we make together (cough cough...i twist his arm) so i dunno whats mine is his, whats his is mine.
This is how I feel too. DH actually resisted combining accounts at first (only because his d-bag brother told him not to because of how his ex-wife screwed him ) but I really can't imagine how much more complicated paying bills and things would be if they were separate.
To each their own but I definitely don't get it.
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haha @dajocl I'm glad you still love me. I've lost friends over this subject, but DH and I both feel strongly about it, so it is what it is.
We've since moved to an area where it's a lot more acceptable. I don't have any problem with parents asking the questions - heck, we'll be asking those kinds of questions when DD goes on playdates. I want to make sure the parents are responsible gun owners and I would fully expect someone to ask us those questions before they send their kids to our house. But it's our lifestyle, take it or leave it.
I appreciate that you're open and don't have problems with other parents asking questions. I live in a liberal area where gun ownership isn't common so I (maybe naively?) just assume most households don't have them, but it is something I would want to know about if my son were going to spend time at a house that owns guns.
I live in a conservative area, so I expect that the question will come up but also expect that the majority of people will probably also have them as well. We used to live in a liberal area, though, so I can see both sides. Politically speaking, I'm independent so I have a good mix of both views in me.
I think it's being a responsible parent to make sure that you know what dangers may be at a friend's house. You hear so many accidents happen when one friend wants to show another friend. I wouldn't let my kids play at someone's house who don't keep their guns locked up, especially while there's another child in the home.
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@bluejeanbabi05 i do too, that is why we have pay the bills parties. although they are more fun when i am hammered and it isn't so bad watching money fly out of our bank account.
oh also, we write checks and balance our handwritten checkbook. we are basically 92.
@bluejeanbabi05 i do too, that is why we have pay the bills parties. although they are more fun when i am hammered and it isn't so bad watching money fly out of our bank account.
oh also, we write checks and balance our handwritten checkbook. we are basically 92.
I always did this religiously before marriage. I always knew exactly how much money I had. Then until we started using our budgeting system a year ago we just kind of flew by the seat of our pants with the bills DH knew we still owed.
It's much better now. I handle the budget and we fight so much less.
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OH! i think it is weird to not share a bank account with H. i mean i get the reasons/arguments behind it and H and i make the same so that is probably why i dont really care about spending. but it is just so much easier to share. and any big financial decision we make together (cough cough...i twist his arm) so i dunno whats mine is his, whats his is mine.
We have separate bank accounts and it is crucial to our marriage tbh. Both of our accounts have both of our names on them, but we don't mess with each other's money. The only time I do anything with his is when I make the car payment because the loan is on his account. I used to think it was weird too, but it just ended up this way when I started my business and had my business account. It all just sort of fell into separate money and splitting bills and as a result, our marriage was so much better and we fought a lot less.
i dont have any problems with people who own guns. personally not for me. but you do you, i trust you are responsible with kids in the house. however, dont go voting against gun control...no one wants your guns
I totally support gun control. Like I said, my state required a TON of paperwork, training, testing, etc...and I am completely on board with that. The only problem is, people with bad intentions are going to find a way to get it either way. So it's not a great solution, but I honestly don't know what the solution is.
This exactly. Are we BFFs now?
I think it's fantastic that there are strict requirements to get a CC license and stuff. I also fully realize that once someone has a gun they can unfortunately sell it pretty easily.
We have both separate and joint, so all bills and shared expenses come out of our joint and there's no haggling over paying bills and splitting restaurant checks and stuff like that. But I can't really imagine not having separate accounts for our own spending money.
FFFC: When my grandmother died I received a small inheritance and accidentally put our joint account number for the wire transfer when I meant to put my own. So then I felt like a total asshole for moving the money over to my own account after it hit our joint But I didn't feel THAT bad because every dollar went to my savings that's going to cover my unpaid maternity leave so it benefits our family in the long run.
I'm totally on board with gun ownership. Was big in our family growing up. Also with common sense gun control laws. I do not understand the opposition to freaking background checks.
@natleilynn I completely agree about being pre-cautious in other homes. We live in a conservative area and are generally comfortable but very safety-oriented around guns, but you should never assume others hold the same amount of caution as you. My FIL has BBQ cook offs every year (they are really fun). He is chief firefighter and he and several other firefighters and police officers camp in a trailer for a few days while competing (DH stays too to help). A few years ago my SIL brought her son and they told us we could cool off inside the camper, and the son immediately went onto the bed, and grabbed a gun which was under the pillow. She grabbed it immediately and spoke with everyone about it, but I think she just assumed that they would have it put up because they are trained in gun safety, and she didn't think to ask. The thought about what could have happened gives me chills still to this day. Complacency is what causes the most damage.
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I grew up with guns in the house and shooting BB guns pretty early. I've always had a very healthy respect for firearms. One of the first times I took DH to my parents house I realized just how many guns were laying around my their house and how many were loaded for "home defense." It was really shocking to me and I had a real convo with DH on how I wanted the guns in our house stored. He was skeptical at first but since finding out I was PG he's really taken it to heart.
Next mountain is talking to my dad about it. It never phased me when we had kids around the house because I guess I didn't realize how many he had. He will probably fight tooth and nail about unloading and locking his guns and I'm not looking forward to it.
oh! i do judge people who are wandering around packing heat in public situations "for protection"...uhh cops are barely qualified to make that call anymore when it is appropriate to use a firearm...and what are you protecting yourself from? terrorists? the odds are slim. and if you were in that situation, you can safely pick out the target and shoot them in mass hysteria? and live with the consequences from whatever happens from there?
OH! i think it is weird to not share a bank account with H. i mean i get the reasons/arguments behind it and H and i make the same so that is probably why i dont really care about spending. but it is just so much easier to share. and any big financial decision we make together (cough cough...i twist his arm) so i dunno whats mine is his, whats his is mine.
I agree! I feel like it's a trust thing, I've had people tell me that if anything ever goes wrong in my marriage I'm going to be mad I don't have my money separate. For one, I have no money really, I'm a SAHM. For 2 DH is completely open about everything if I care to look, my name is on everything, I have passwords, I really just don't enjoy keeping track of that stuff. But when people have said things to me about it I always feel like I couldn't be in a marriage where I felt like I always had to be on alert for my spouse screwing me over. Maybe that's naive, I know horrible things happen but DH has always been transparent with everything, I trust him with our money
OH! i think it is weird to not share a bank account with H. i mean i get the reasons/arguments behind it and H and i make the same so that is probably why i dont really care about spending. but it is just so much easier to share. and any big financial decision we make together (cough cough...i twist his arm) so i dunno whats mine is his, whats his is mine.
I agree! I feel like it's a trust thing, I've had people tell me that if anything ever goes wrong in my marriage I'm going to be mad I don't have my money separate. For one, I have no money really, I'm a SAHM. For 2 DH is completely open about everything if I care to look, my name is on everything, I have passwords, I really just don't enjoy keeping track of that stuff. But when people have said things to me about it I always feel like I couldn't be in a marriage where I felt like I always had to be on alert for my spouse screwing me over. Maybe that's naive, I know horrible things happen but DH has always been transparent with everything, I trust him with our money
i mean if you need to be worrying about those things i think you have a bigger issue than a bank account. maybe i am naive too, but i trust H...you could say it was a reason i married him. not saying if you dont share an account trust is lacking. but that is a weird thing to judge you over. i trust H won't cheat on me, could he? i am sure he could. but it isnt something i worry about bc i trust him.
@natleilynn Responsible ownership is such a huge part of it all. We have many guns in our home and DS doesn't know where they are, and they are up and locked and ammo is locked away from where the guns are. I agree that gun control is a great thing, like background checks and such but I also think it can be taken too far.
@carries2018 I do think that cops are qualified to make that call, but I think the general public has a misunderstanding of what is appropriate and what isn't. I understand there are officers out there that make the wrong call, but as a whole, they are trained well to deal with these situations. I'm sorry, this is a soapbox for me. Carrying a gun in public to me isn't so much about a terrorist or a super heated situation, but what if there is an armed robbery in the fast food restaurant I am in? I want to know that I can do something to protect myself and my child.
oh! i do judge people who are wandering around packing heat in public situations "for protection"...uhh cops are barely qualified to make that call anymore when it is appropriate to use a firearm...and what are you protecting yourself from? terrorists? the odds are slim. and if you were in that situation, you can safely pick out the target and shoot them in mass hysteria? and live with the consequences from whatever happens from there?
This is a really uninformed thing to say. Cops are most definitely qualified to decide when it's necessary to use lethal force. Different agencies have different training periods, but they're all trained on self protection and protection of the community. I don't think any cop WANTS to shoot someone. It's really easy for the public to say "why didn't they use the taser? Why didn't they shoot him in the foot?" Etc. But they are trained to use their guns to kill, not injure, and traders don't always work.
Are there cops that have made poor decisions? Of course, it happens in any profession. And unfortunately their stories are the ones you hear about most often on the news.
natleilynn I myself am not really a "gun person" but I live in an area where if you don't have one there's something wrong with you. My opinion on it is if you're going to have guns in your house to definitely teach children gun safety and how to use them when they can understand. Sounds like you got this down pat so no flaming from me
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oh! i do judge people who are wandering around packing heat in public situations "for protection"...uhh cops are barely qualified to make that call anymore when it is appropriate to use a firearm...and what are you protecting yourself from? terrorists? the odds are slim. and if you were in that situation, you can safely pick out the target and shoot them in mass hysteria? and live with the consequences from whatever happens from there?
I carry not because I'm a wannabe cop or anything, but because I don't want to be in a situation where I'm the victim and can't protect myself (or my children). I don't ever, ever want to use it. I've never even put my hand on it while in public. But we live in a crazy world right now and you can't always count on cops to be around quickly if a situation escalates. If you carry properly, nobody around you even knows you have it. In the classes they encourage you to continue training, make range time a priority and know your rights vs. crossing the line. DH and I took separate classes (mine was specifically for women) and I felt confident that the people in both classes were not out to take down the next person who looked at them wrong - but to protect themselves and their families if they were ever put in a bad situation. No normal person ever wants to have to use their firearm to protect themselves. But I want that as an option if I need it.
A relative recently went through a major city's police academy so I've learned a lot about that process. Bottom line is, as an officer, you have to make split second decisions in order to save your life sometimes. The bad situations get far more media coverage than the times they diffuse the situations. I think it's hard for any of us to distinguish what qualifies as an "appropriate" time to use a firearm until you're actually in the situation.
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I was waiting for someone to jump on the cop thing, i almost put a disclaimer in but i wanted to get the wheels turning on it. i certainly do not think all cops are unable to make that judgement, even the most trained ones...i am sure it is really difficult to make that decision in a split second. and my point was, even they get it wrong sometimes (i like to believe on accident but over the years my faith in that has diminished...still doesnt mean i think all cops are bad...i understand the bad ones are few and far between). but cops still have some protection over those choices, where you probably don't. so not only do you have to live with the actual outcome of those choices, but whatever legal battles fall down on you as well. maybe you save the day and are a hero...but maybe you get it all wrong. you have a second to decide.
My family and SOs family are completely gun friendly families. I grew up with guns as well as him. I shot my first gun when I was five and my middle school actually had a gun/hunter safety course that everyone was required to take. We learned at a young age how to properly handle (with parental supervision). Guns were never left out in the open. I grew up in a super safe neighborhood where we didn't lock our doors and you put your car keys under the seat so if someone needed to borrow the car they could ha. Both our families always have a gun on them for protection and are well versed in the laws for the state they are in. My dad travels a lot for work and sorry if you don't agree but always had a concealed weapon on him. When you're at a truck stop in the middle of no where and someone draws a gun on you (which happened to my dad, he's not even a trucker) then no cop with a gun is going to get there in time to protect you and your family. He knows when he can and can not shoot and when he has to declare a weapon. Sorry for the rant. Just a passionate issue in both our families.
ETA Gun laws. At first I did not get my concealed permit because in the state of NC you must shoot to kill if it is in self defense. You can't shoot to maim. Then as a young woman in a big city that was harassed on the daily and followed and whistled at I realized that it'd be insane not to get a form of self defense.
This is an interesting debate. I fall somewhere in the middle. I truly don't see why a regular person walking around the grocery store feels the need to carry a gun, but to each their own.
I feel strongly that guns don't belong in bars or in any situation where alcohol is involved. I think that should be illegal, tbh.
I do see the logic in certain professions carrying (truck drivers make sense to me) or people who might find themselves in dangerous circumstances.
The shoot to kill/shoot to maim argument, when it gets applied to "why did this cop take this action" is something I feel strongly about. Cops are taught to aim for center mass; it's the easiest target. Also, you might only get once chance to shoot, and shooting to maim may result in you dying. Lots of people can push through a lot of pain/terrible injuries when adrenaline is flowing.
also it is your right to carry around a gun, although it might sound like it...i am not really arguing that. but people act/come across all I WILL DEFEND MYSELF AND MY CHILD! yea i will too. but being in the situation is a lot different. pulling out a gun might make you the target instead of a "nobody laying on the ground" it is bigger than "protecting" yourself. people often sound to me all willy nilly ill toss a gun in my diaper bag just in case.
I just worry that people arming themselves in public puts the general public more at risk. I personally feel less safe knowing that people at a store or restaurant are carrying guns. What's to stop a situation from escalating when someone believes they need to fire a shot and then more people start pulling out their guns?
Lol @carries2018 wipes, a couple toys, a bottle and a gun, nbd.
Also, you have a good point there. If there's a weapon present in a situation, it's more likely that said weapon will be used. Common sense but something to keep in mind.
I don't think there's anything wrong with carrying things like guns, mace, knives, etc, but it is SO important to TRAIN with them. And not just how to use them, but how you *would* use them in hypothetical situations. I especially bring up the mace because *TW* I work with (eta: on a volunteer basis not my job) sexual assault survivors, and it's just a cold hard fact that if someone carries those things and get assaulted, it is much more likely that the assault will be violent as a result of the attacker taking the item and using it against them *TW*
eta: and by no means is that the survivors fault if they are used. It just is what it is.
I just worry that people arming themselves in public puts the general public more at risk. I personally feel less safe knowing that people at a store or restaurant are carrying guns. What's to stop a situation from escalating when someone believes they need to fire a shot and then more people start pulling out their guns?
In most states, you aren't protected (legally) for pulling out a gun unless you or your immediate family's lives are at risk.
Example - I'm in a restaurant and someone on the other end of the restaurant points a gun at someone they're eating with. I would have no right, legally, to pull a gun and attempt to intervene. In that case, I would be arrested. If said person pointed the gun at me or my family, then I would legally be able to intervene.
You would be surprised how well educated most people who carry are in the law. No one wants to get into a situation where they could end up in prison for the rest of their lives so they take extra precautions to understand what is within legal rights.
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@natleilynn it's taken me a looooong time to come around to having guns in the house. I'm not a huge fan. DH and I had several strongly heated discussions before I gave in and "allowed" him to have one. It's locked up and on a high shelf in our closet thankfully so I pretty much just don't think about it on the daily. I like that it's so hard to get to, but at the same time I'm like "what's the point?" Because if someone is trying to murder me I probably won't have time to get to it lol
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To each their own but I definitely don't get it.
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I think it's being a responsible parent to make sure that you know what dangers may be at a friend's house. You hear so many accidents happen when one friend wants to show another friend. I wouldn't let my kids play at someone's house who don't keep their guns locked up, especially while there's another child in the home.
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I think it's fantastic that there are strict requirements to get a CC license and stuff. I also fully realize that once someone has a gun they can unfortunately sell it pretty easily.
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Next mountain is talking to my dad about it. It never phased me when we had kids around the house because I guess I didn't realize how many he had. He will probably fight tooth and nail about unloading and locking his guns and I'm not looking forward to it.
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@natleilynn Responsible ownership is such a huge part of it all. We have many guns in our home and DS doesn't know where they are, and they are up and locked and ammo is locked away from where the guns are. I agree that gun control is a great thing, like background checks and such but I also think it can be taken too far.
@carries2018 I do think that cops are qualified to make that call, but I think the general public has a misunderstanding of what is appropriate and what isn't. I understand there are officers out there that make the wrong call, but as a whole, they are trained well to deal with these situations. I'm sorry, this is a soapbox for me. Carrying a gun in public to me isn't so much about a terrorist or a super heated situation, but what if there is an armed robbery in the fast food restaurant I am in? I want to know that I can do something to protect myself and my child.
Are there cops that have made poor decisions? Of course, it happens in any profession. And unfortunately their stories are the ones you hear about most often on the news.
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A relative recently went through a major city's police academy so I've learned a lot about that process. Bottom line is, as an officer, you have to make split second decisions in order to save your life sometimes. The bad situations get far more media coverage than the times they diffuse the situations. I think it's hard for any of us to distinguish what qualifies as an "appropriate" time to use a firearm until you're actually in the situation.
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May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
We learned at a young age how to properly handle (with parental supervision). Guns were never left out in the open. I grew up in a super safe neighborhood where we didn't lock our doors and you put your car keys under the seat so if someone needed to borrow the car they could ha.
Both our families always have a gun on them for protection and are well versed in the laws for the state they are in. My dad travels a lot for work and sorry if you don't agree but always had a concealed weapon on him. When you're at a truck stop in the middle of no where and someone draws a gun on you (which happened to my dad, he's not even a trucker) then no cop with a gun is going to get there in time to protect you and your family. He knows when he can and can not shoot and when he has to declare a weapon. Sorry for the rant. Just a passionate issue in both our families.
ETA Gun laws. At first I did not get my concealed permit because in the state of NC you must shoot to kill if it is in self defense. You can't shoot to maim. Then as a young woman in a big city that was harassed on the daily and followed and whistled at I realized that it'd be insane not to get a form of self defense.
I feel strongly that guns don't belong in bars or in any situation where alcohol is involved. I think that should be illegal, tbh.
I do see the logic in certain professions carrying (truck drivers make sense to me) or people who might find themselves in dangerous circumstances.
This is what debates should be about - mutual respect, discussion, addressing points of view.
Well done, ladies. The world could learn a lot from us.
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May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
Also, you have a good point there. If there's a weapon present in a situation, it's more likely that said weapon will be used. Common sense but something to keep in mind.
I don't think there's anything wrong with carrying things like guns, mace, knives, etc, but it is SO important to TRAIN with them. And not just how to use them, but how you *would* use them in hypothetical situations. I especially bring up the mace because *TW* I work with (eta: on a volunteer basis not my job) sexual assault survivors, and it's just a cold hard fact that if someone carries those things and get assaulted, it is much more likely that the assault will be violent as a result of the attacker taking the item and using it against them *TW*
eta: and by no means is that the survivors fault if they are used. It just is what it is.
Example - I'm in a restaurant and someone on the other end of the restaurant points a gun at someone they're eating with. I would have no right, legally, to pull a gun and attempt to intervene. In that case, I would be arrested. If said person pointed the gun at me or my family, then I would legally be able to intervene.
You would be surprised how well educated most people who carry are in the law. No one wants to get into a situation where they could end up in prison for the rest of their lives so they take extra precautions to understand what is within legal rights.
BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!