I signed up for a volunteer event that requires jeans and it never crossed my mind that I can't fit into any of my jeans - even unzipped. Whoops I may or may not have spent half the day trying to find something to wear to this build.
Its now lunchtime and at this point I don't even want to go anymore
I signed up for a volunteer event that requires jeans and it never crossed my mind that I can't fit into any of my jeans - even unzipped. Whoops I may or may not have spent half the day trying to find something to wear to this build.
Its now lunchtime and at this point I don't even want to go anymore
I can still wear my jeans with the elastic hack... But only because i love my shirts/tops to be long enough to come down to my thighs/covers half of my butt. So if you have long shirts you can use that hack, and nobody will tell that ur jeans are unzipped
I signed up for a volunteer event that requires jeans and it never crossed my mind that I can't fit into any of my jeans - even unzipped. Whoops I may or may not have spent half the day trying to find something to wear to this build.
Do you have a BeBand? I got one from Target and have been using it most days, including when I wear jeans. Then your pants can be completely unzipped and unbuttoned, but the band keeps it up. I got mine from Target.
I'm honestly not very educated in gun laws and just guns in general/carrying them. We never had them growing up and still don't. My husband would love a gun and I have no problem if he ever did get one, as long as our kids couldn't get it and he was responsible about it. I just don't have enough knowledge to really participate in this convo.
We do have the same bank account. For us it works. I feel like we've had this discussion before?
Like @purplestarz I don't explain why I edit a post. It's also because I type so fast and don't pay attention to my spelling or grammer until I've posted it.
My old annoying co-worker, you know the white guy that expects all the women to do all the work for him because, you know, we are all secretaries...well he is retiring today!!! I went up only for the cake and shimmed back to my office with a large piece and to bump for 5 minutes.
On the topic of guns, we are both cc permit holders and take all the precautions. I'm 100% behind you @natleilynn. We like to go out to the range and shoot for sport. But you all are going to love our Gender Reveal party plan. It was all DH's idea, I didn't even want one, but I let him run with it because it's cute when guys get super excited about baby stuff. He bought tannerite (sp?) and plans to shoot it with his AR and it will blow up pink or blue...I'm now crawling back to my hole as I'm sure that will get flamed on multiple accounts. FWIW, I think that gun is stupid to own, I think we are probably on some government watch list for owning it. This will be the one and only useful thing for it.
@mrs_fogue So jealous that you are losing your resident sexist old white dude. Mine was being his sexist old white dude self again today and will be here again on Monady.
*Siggy warning - loss mentioned* Preemie ID DDs; then DS; then natural M/C; now due 10/17 High risk for pre-term: weekly Makena injections
Tried posting another FFFC and it keeps cutting off the second half...
I think, not sure, when u put an emoji in the middle of your post and not at the end. I stopped doing that and it stopped eating away half of my posts.
Today has been stressful. I feel redundant at work, and I have too many balls up in the air. So, I'm going to go eat some tortilla chips and 7 layer dip while taking a bath.
Only have a second to comment since I'm on a weekend getaway with hubs so I'll be back to read any comments this may spur:
My question for those gun owners and gun supporters: What precautions are you taking from a mental health standpoint? What if you start to get depressed (PPD)? Highly anxious? Other mental health issues? Or those that might have access to the firearms start to show signs of any of these things or questionable behaviors? Are you removing access or doing anything to safeguard you, them, your loved ones, the general public? Do you have a plan for this?
Aside from @carries2018 comment about mental health checks, I'm surprised this hasnt been more a part of the discussion.
TTC x 1.5 years.
Acupuncture, Femera x3 cyles, and HSG. BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015. TTC x2 months. BFP January 2017.
the girls have been obsessed with the trolls soundtrack and that JT song sunshine in my pocket or whatever has a lyric "i got this feelin inside my bones" and DD1 keeps singing "i got this feeling inside my balls" it makes me laugh too hard to correct her.
I decided not to go the volunteer thing because I finally got caught up on TB and didn't want to leave. Finally a day to myself lol im flaming myself because it was a really cool volunteer event
also. I voted for myself on the siggy challenge. No shame.
@carries2018 OMG... I had to stop myself from snort laughing at "feeling inside my balls".
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FFFC: my Christmas tree is cut up and still on the side of our house. DH keeps forgetting to put it in with the rest of the yard waste for trash pick up day.
You guys!!! After puking twice last week I was starting to think I would feel crummy this whole pregnancy, but yesterday and today I'm feeling "normal"! TMI; we finally had sex yesterday morning (first time since conceiving this kid) and it must have been like a reset for me. FFFC: Of course there's no way I'm telling Dan that. He would think his penis has magical healing powers.
Only have a second to comment since I'm on a weekend getaway with hubs so I'll be back to read any comments this may spur:
My question for those gun owners and gun supporters: What precautions are you taking from a mental health standpoint? What if you start to get depressed (PPD)? Highly anxious? Other mental health issues? Or those that might have access to the firearms start to show signs of any of these things or questionable behaviors? Are you removing access or doing anything to safeguard you, them, your loved ones, the general public? Do you have a plan for this?
Aside from @carries2018 comment about mental health checks, I'm surprised this hasnt been more a part of the discussion.
If I saw any of my family (or even friends) who I felt were not in a place, mentally, to own a gun, I would raise some red flags with whoever I thought I could. The problem is, it's not so easy to go to the authorities and say, "hey, my brother in law has a gun and I don't think he should, he's been drinking a lot lately after he lost his job." The police/courts can't do anything about that.
Here's the thing. I don't have all the answers. As I said earlier - I totally support gun control laws, but even that is not going to keep guns out of the hands of people who are intending to do wrong. Gun free zones make me nervous because let's be honest - someone who wants to cause harm is going to seek those types of places out because they know they will face no resistance. I don't know what the solution is, but I think keeping guns out of law abiding, responsible citizens is not going to cut down the number of gun incidents.
I know to some I seem paranoid and crazy. And I swear I'm not - politically I run very center of the road and I've done a lot of research on both sides of this debate. This is where I happened to fall on this subject.
BFP#1: 12/3/13 EDD 8/15/13. Heartbeat found on 12/26/13, HB gone on 1/4/13. D&C 1/7/13
BFP#2: 4/19/13 EDD 12/28/13. Team Green for pregnancy and Baby Girl arrived 12/21/13. BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
I think we need to shift the focus away from "don't let THOSE PEOPLE have guns" and put that energy toward making treating mental health easier and less stigmatized. There are a shocking lack of resources available for people struggling with mental illness. If I have the flu and stay home from work, that's acceptable, but if I have a bad day with my anxiety and need to go home that's generally frowned upon in most places of work.
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On the gun thing- I'm not a gun person. I will never own a gun, live in a fairly safe area and I probably naively think that most people around me don't own them. I do not feel more safe if you own a gun, I'm 100% a believer in the fact that if you have one you're more likely to use it or get shot. A teenage boy was killed a few streets over with a shotgun in a friend's basement because teenage boys were being idiots and playing with a shotgun. If you're going to have one absolutely do it safely, like how you said you manage your gun @natleilynn and definitely make your kids aware of it's danger but it's definitely a sore area for me. I was in a pediatric unit when a 2 year old was brought in who had shot himself in the head and situations like that terrify me. While kids can absolutely learn respect and it's definitely better to teach them a healthy respect for a weapon, I don't want one in my house and I'd be hesitant to leave my children in a house where I know one is present.
the girls have been obsessed with the trolls soundtrack and that JT song sunshine in my pocket or whatever has a lyric "i got this feelin inside my bones" and DD1 keeps singing "i got this feeling inside my balls" it makes me laugh too hard to correct her.
My DD2 is like 2 months younger than your DD1 and she sings it the same way...cracks me up every time
also with mental health/guns...too many people suffer from mental health issues to put a stamp on your forehead as "one of THOSE" can't have a gun. i would hate for a farmer to not be able to have a gun bc he suffers from anxiety, or have to be forced to "hide" the illness and not get help. but i think it can be done in a way that depending on what your illness is there can be some type of check point, like yearly doc visits. if you are clearly unstable and looking to harm yourself or others...that is when the "do not pass go" gets applied.
i understand that opens everything up to gray area, and my ideas are a little unrealistic. but i'm not a law maker. i am sure there is some common ground...but at this point any change is for the better. guns are going to fall into the wrong hands no matter what is done. but i truly believe some of these things you hear on the news...especially when it is kids. it wouldnt have happened if it wasn't available to them.
^i dont mean if a kid finds a gun in your home. bc like i said i am sure you are all responsible. i am more so talking about guns falling into hands of kids who then use them purposely. and by kids i mean teenagers/young adults.
As someone who works in the mental health field, I need to echo what @carries2018 said about too many people experiencing mental illness to be able to say anyone with mental health problems should not be allowed to own a gun.
Mental illness (as a whole) has not been shown in the research to increase the risk for dangerousness. There are particular symptoms (e.g., paranoid delusions, delusions that others are controlling your body or your thoughts, etc.) that increase risk of dangerousness, but otherwise, it is really based on individual factors. The factors that have been shown to have a much higher relation to increased risk for violence are impulsivity, substance abuse, and a history of prior violent acts.
For this reason, I think it is important not to stop someone from owning a gun just because they have a mental illness or take a psychotropic medication. I certainly don't want someone to avoid mental health treatment just so that their right to a firearm is taken away. However, if someone has a demonstrated history of violent acts, or if they are in an acute period of increased dangerousness, I think it is reasonable to limit their access to weapons.
To go off of what @jessirh said and huge *TW* here. My own father suffered major mental health issues and was a gun owner. Yet when he took his own life, he did it without the use of a gun or weapon. I'm not saying it happens for everyone that way but just because you have the mental issues and the guns doesn't mean they go hand in hand.
We do not own any guns but we do have what we call a "tree of death" outside (a kind of palm tree with ridiculously sharp and painful palms), so my plan is to lure intruders to the backyard and then shove them into the tree. I'm pretty sure that's all I need for self defense, and that it would make a great lifetime movie.
@beautyundefined I'm in that boat as well and I don't feel bad about it either ... going on 3 months of not being able to tolerate the way my kitchen smells!
Re: FFFC (4/28)
background checks
training and a test in gun laws
training on how to use and a test
no automatic weapons for civilians
give me all those things and you can pack heat wherever you want...but you will still get a side eye from me.
May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
BFP#1: 9/9/2014 DS born 4/7/15
BFP#2: 6/16/2016 MC/D&C: 7/29/2016
BFP#3: 10/14/2016 (fingers crossed for a sticky bean)
Its now lunchtime and at this point I don't even want to go anymore
We do have the same bank account. For us it works. I feel like we've had this discussion before?
Like @purplestarz I don't explain why I edit a post. It's also because I type so fast and don't pay attention to my spelling or grammer until I've posted it.
Baby Boy due October 2017
Baby Boy due October 2017
My old annoying co-worker, you know the white guy that expects all the women to do all the work for him because, you know, we are all secretaries...well he is retiring today!!! I went up only for the cake and shimmed back to my office with a large piece and to bump for 5 minutes.
On the topic of guns, we are both cc permit holders and take all the precautions. I'm 100% behind you @natleilynn. We like to go out to the range and shoot for sport. But you all are going to love our Gender Reveal party plan. It was all DH's idea, I didn't even want one, but I let him run with it because it's cute when guys get super excited about baby stuff. He bought tannerite (sp?) and plans to shoot it with his AR and it will blow up pink or blue...I'm now crawling back to my hole as I'm sure that will get flamed on multiple accounts. FWIW, I think that gun is stupid to own, I think we are probably on some government watch list for owning it. This will be the one and only useful thing for it.
Preemie ID DDs; then DS; then natural M/C; now due 10/17
High risk for pre-term: weekly Makena injections
My question for those gun owners and gun supporters: What precautions are you taking from a mental health standpoint? What if you start to get depressed (PPD)? Highly anxious? Other mental health issues? Or those that might have access to the firearms start to show signs of any of these things or questionable behaviors? Are you removing access or doing anything to safeguard you, them, your loved ones, the general public? Do you have a plan for this?
Aside from @carries2018 comment about mental health checks, I'm surprised this hasnt been more a part of the discussion.
BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.
*insert appropriate gif @natleilynn*
May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
im flaming myself because it was a really cool volunteer event
also. I voted for myself on the siggy challenge. No shame.
I heart YNAB
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“Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times,
if one only remembers to turn on the light."
- Albus Dumbledore
Oct. '17 June S.C. "You Had 1 Job"
Baby Boy due October 2017
Here's the thing. I don't have all the answers. As I said earlier - I totally support gun control laws, but even that is not going to keep guns out of the hands of people who are intending to do wrong. Gun free zones make me nervous because let's be honest - someone who wants to cause harm is going to seek those types of places out because they know they will face no resistance. I don't know what the solution is, but I think keeping guns out of law abiding, responsible citizens is not going to cut down the number of gun incidents.
I know to some I seem paranoid and crazy. And I swear I'm not - politically I run very center of the road and I've done a lot of research on both sides of this debate. This is where I happened to fall on this subject.
BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
I think we need to shift the focus away from "don't let THOSE PEOPLE have guns" and put that energy toward making treating mental health easier and less stigmatized. There are a shocking lack of resources available for people struggling with mental illness. If I have the flu and stay home from work, that's acceptable, but if I have a bad day with my anxiety and need to go home that's generally frowned upon in most places of work.
I heart YNAB
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“Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times,
if one only remembers to turn on the light."
- Albus Dumbledore
i understand that opens everything up to gray area, and my ideas are a little unrealistic. but i'm not a law maker. i am sure there is some common ground...but at this point any change is for the better. guns are going to fall into the wrong hands no matter what is done. but i truly believe some of these things you hear on the news...especially when it is kids. it wouldnt have happened if it wasn't available to them.
May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
Mental illness (as a whole) has not been shown in the research to increase the risk for dangerousness. There are particular symptoms (e.g., paranoid delusions, delusions that others are controlling your body or your thoughts, etc.) that increase risk of dangerousness, but otherwise, it is really based on individual factors. The factors that have been shown to have a much higher relation to increased risk for violence are impulsivity, substance abuse, and a history of prior violent acts.
For this reason, I think it is important not to stop someone from owning a gun just because they have a mental illness or take a psychotropic medication. I certainly don't want someone to avoid mental health treatment just so that their right to a firearm is taken away. However, if someone has a demonstrated history of violent acts, or if they are in an acute period of increased dangerousness, I think it is reasonable to limit their access to weapons.
Married 9/27/2014
TTC Since 1/1/2017
BFP: 2/6/2017
Due Date: 10/13/17