FFFC (4/28)

TallMomma29

While we're talking about guns, fffc: I have an unreasonable fear of getting snipered.   Like whenever I am in a wide open area with lots of buildings around the thought crosses my mind that someone could sniper me, and then I wonder if they missed what I would do and then visually plan out an escape plan.  

I'm not crazy like this with anything else though.  Like I'm never worried that someone will try to kidnap me or otherwise harm me because it would be way too hard to get rid of my giant body.  It's basic science.  

yasandson

@TallMomma29 you got me ROTFL

cooaladolly

Totally just made plans for a sushi date with girlfriends. Sorry, not sorry. No regrets.

ForwardnBackward

So I didn't mean to insinuate (if anyone took it that way) that presence of mental illness = should not own a gun, I'm sorry if those thought that was the intent of my bringing mental health into the discussion.  

I do think responsible gun owners should actively think about how mental illnesses or the potental for mental illness in those that have access to your guns impact their ability to be safe with their firearms, for the safety of themselves or others.  Maybe that plan is to limit their access, maybe that plan is to actively seek mental health support, maybe that plan is to check in with your partner more often.  I don't know the right plan.  But i think discussing it up front, probably before it's ever an issue, lends itself to better mental health care as well as safer gun ownership.

carries2018

I got home like half hour before H. We are going out to dinner. I didn't feel like taking the kids out and chasing them around the house. Just to put them back in the car. So I put a movie on in the car and I'm playing bumpbook. 

dogperson11

TallMomma29 said:

We do not own any guns but we do have what we call a "tree of death" outside (a kind of palm tree with ridiculously sharp and painful palms), so my plan is to lure intruders to the backyard and then shove them into the tree.  I'm pretty sure that's all I need for self defense, and that it would make a great lifetime movie.  

Genius. You're totally covered!

cooaladolly

bluejeanbabi05 said:

I'm full of confessions today. 

I bought an 18 pack of Kraft mac and cheese from costco the other day (boxes, not cups) and that's what I'm having for lunch right now. Also, I blame it on the baby when I eat something unhealthy. It's all Elena's fault, dammit. I can't be held responsible.

eta for grammar 

THIS!  I've been doing this ever since I brought my mom the first ultrasound picture at 8 weeks. She put it on the fridge with a note attached for my younger brother saying "8 your ice cream" since that's exactly what LO did that day. 

PizzaMonster3

@TallMomma29 isn't it funny the things we fixate on? When I'm in the open water it's not the sharks or jellys I'm afraid of - it's that Amazonian parasite that goes into your urethra or ear or something. 

Probably not gonna happen in Texas - but still crosses my mind every time

jaxx723

That's genius!

melarowan

@dogperson11 I know what you mean and my SO is certain his penis has magical healing powers. 

jessafishy

@ForwardnBackward I didn't think anyone here was insinuating that! But it is a stance I've heard others take so I wanted to bring it up.

ForwardnBackward

jessafishy said:

@ForwardnBackward I didn't think anyone here was insinuating that! But it is a stance I've heard others take so I wanted to bring it up.

I didn't REALLY think so, but wanted to clarify anyways. I'm not always the best with words.

ChocolateIsLife

@forwardnBackward I didn't think you insinuated that either. I really enjoy how our board can have truly constructive conversations about topics like this. 

monstera13

@ForwardnBackward I agree, no worries. I think everyone was expressing their thought about on the topic in a respectful way 

Brambles23

FFFC:  Totally irrational fear, but I get ridiculously anxious when I'm driving by wind farms-the ones with the huge fans.  I imagine one of those suckers flying off while driving by and slicing the car in half. 

sjohns908

Last week I asked my mom to keep the kids overnight tonight because dh and I were going to have a garage sale tomorrow. Well, it's been raining and will rain all day tomorrow, so no sale. But I still sent the kids to my parents, told my mom we were going to still go through the kids toys and stuff tonight for when we actually do have the sale. Total lie. Dh and I went to dinner (where we actually ran into the ILs and they paid for our dinner, score) and now we're settling in to watch a movie, maybe two. And I'm so looking forward to not sharing my bed with the 3 yo tonight too.

carries2018

Tonight at dinner I was whining about the kids keep ending up in our bed. He told me "we really should enjoy it while it lasts, they won't want to sleep with us forever" 

::blink blink:: I am sure it is so enjoyable for you to have your entire side of a king size bed to yourself whilst I have 3" of the bed bc a 2yo is pressed up against me pushing me further off the bed with every breath. 

Fffc - I'm plotting H's demise. 

wittyacronym

I too have really enjoyed this discussion. I grew up around guns in an area where everyone had a gun. But I was not super happy DH bought a gun after DD was born. We discussed how to keep her safe but the one thing we have not agreed on is when to introduce her to the gun. She is two so I think now would be a good time but hubby wants to wait until she is older. 

We have tabled the issue for now. I would appreciate some feedback about when is a good time to intro gun safety with a child? 

TallMomma29

@Brambles23 omg I'm totally going to think of that when I drive by wind farms now!  

sqfibemom

Ok...whew...as a SN mom I am so fucking sick of hearing about people only being concerned with DS. There are thousands of syndromes and conditions. Many others that are SWAN. If you are going to do all the genetic testing and fancy stuff because you either want to abort or be prepared then please at least educate yourselves. My DS had more testing done than I can name, all of it came back negative (in utero and after birth). Eventually the doctors found the right syndrome and we got a confirmed dx but it took until he was 10 months old.

I try really hard not to judge, I have been in a position where late term abortion was offered and I know how scary the unknown can feel. I would do nothing but pray for any mother that had to make that decision and pray I never have to again (we chose not to abort) but if you're the type to abort no matter the medical issue, no matter how minor in the grand scheme of things, then don't have kids. Your perfectly healthy child could end up with epilepsy or autism or could have an accident and be paralyzed or have brain damage. There are no guarantees in life. Stop acting like DS is the only/worst thing that can happen.

bluejeanbabi05

@sqfibemom this is a very fresh subject for me right now so I'm probably a little sensitive to words, but this "if you're the type to abort...then don't have kids" kind of got to me. I have a friend who just yesterday got a devastating (but non-fatal) diagnosis and is choosing to abort. It's not DS, it's far far far more severe. This baby was incredibly wanted and she tried so long for it. She's a mess right now, but this is the best decision for her family. I don't think it's fair to say to her, well just don't have kids, then. 

I'm sure you meant that more for less severe conditions like DS, I just felt the need to say something. People make decisions and it's not easy. We shouldn't be sitting here behind our keyboards piling on even more guilt.

wittyacronym

I'm with @bluejeanbabi05 on this one. The reason for the anatomy scan is not for a big sex reveal but to find problems/concerns with the anatomy. Some parents are able to say 'come what may I'm going to have this child' and some would prefer to say goodbye early in order to prevent suffering. 

It it is not any easy decision to make and frankly not an easy procedure to find - depending on your location. 

@sqfibemom: what is SWAN? Also kinda confusion when you use to the same acronym to refer to 2 different things. Dear son, Down syndrome. I had to read twice to understand. 

carries2018

I grew up most of my life being pro life. Once I had kids I switched to pro choice. There are some dx I know we could manage. There are some I truly don't know. But I cannot imagine being faced with that decision. My heart breaks for parents that have to make it. It goes deeper than "what you can handle" it's what can you put a child through. So much suffering. Pro life or pro choice I don't think anyone is "pro abortion" but sometimes it needs to be done. And that isn't for us to judge. 

sqfibemom

@wittyacronym Sorry I was ranty and didn't realize I put it for both son and down syndrome, SWAN is syndrome without a name

@bluejeanbabi05 I put "no matter how minor" for that reason. We discussed termination before we got our amnio results, I don't know what we would have done if they came back with fatal diagnosis, but the fact we were offered a trip to get a late term abortion (I was 30w) simply because my son had a heart condition made me ill. We didn't know about his syndrome and we were still offered termination. Also, because there are so many conditions that aren't tested for until after birth I worry for those who would terminate for any "imperfection"

bluejeanbabi05

This one is coming in a little late, but I'm really feeling it right now:

I don't care what concerts you've been to. I don't want to guess which one you haven't been to. Please stop flooding my fb with stupid sh*t. That goes for chain letters and anything that starts with, "only my real friends will read this..." Whoops, guess I'm not a real friend, because 1) I don't read it and 2) I immediately unfollow you.

eta: if anyone here loves to share fb chain letters, no offense meant, I still love you- I just don't want to be fb friends with you  

carries2018

^i meant to say that one yesterday. +1 on not caring. 

TallMomma29

Yesss stop with the concert business!  So annoying. 

JessDG

I don't think I've even been to 10 concerts...

natleilynn

The radio show I was listening to this morning was saying that doing those concert lists on FB are actually a privacy issue because a lot of websites have "what was your first concert" as one of their security questions...so if someone is trying to hack you, you pretty much handed them one of your security answers.