We've already had many discussions about the ridiculous and rude things people say to pregnant women, and I thought it might be time for a dedicated thread. So go ahead, post all the out of line nonsense people say to you here. We promise to be outraged on your behalf.
Re: Sh!t people Say to Pregnant Ladies
From a fellow mom to be as we were talking about laundry changes when the first comes along: my baby won't be that messy (as in blow outs and spit up) because my mom says I didn't do those things. Yeah. Ok.
It's really the phrasing that got me on that one lol.
Also, my neighbor told me today to stop waisting my money on maternity clothes, and just buy regular clothes a size bigger. When I told her that was uncomfortable and then the clothes just drowned me, she said, "Honey, you're pregnant, ain't nobody lookin' at your body "like that" anymore anyways." (Quotations around like that represent her air quotes.) She a little crazy anyway, so I take everything she says with many grains of salt, but this one particularly made me roll my eyes. As if men sexualizing me were the only reason I'd ever want well fitted clothed.
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comments! I shared earlier this week that I'd gotten one from a stranger who was shocked that I was due all the way in September. But as HDBD teaches us, bumps come in a wide variety of shapes and sizes and all of them are beautiful, no matter what some old biddy might think!
Mind boggling. My mom knows there's only 1 in there. And I have no idea why she would think it's ok to say to her pregnant daughter that her friend thinks I'm having twins... *sidenote* mother texted me earlier this week asking for peace and wanting a positive discourse (who uses that terminology?), and this is her way of being nice? i don't get it.
-Wow have much weight have you gained? (I've only gained 4 pounds in 20 weeks!)
-why are you so big already?(once again I'm not that big)
-can I have your old clothes, I mean they won't fit again. (Some of them still fit now, do they wanna rip them off me?)
-so after baby is here like are you going to still party with us?
-etc.
@jillibean0871 I'm sorry I feel like it's even rougher coming from family.
@Becky012016 haha whoever said their baby won't be messy is going to be scared just from the birth process itself.
Sister: Yeah I know. You look more pregnant than her.
There is really no need to say things like this, whether it's meant to be negative or not. A pregnant woman's brain is always going to twist this into negative even if it wasn't meant to be! My sister should know - she's been pregnant before! Also, Serena Williams and I have completely different body types (I am 5'2" with a short torso) and I'm not especially big for 20 (now 21) weeks - I've only gained 5 lbs!
The only thing I have ever heard from someone that I was like I'm not sure how to take this was a guy I work with told me I look more pregnant every time he sees me.
ETA: Except, of course, for my MIL saying "Well, that's okay... we'll love it anyway." When told her new grand baby is a girl. But, alas... almost everything she says to me is rude, odd, or unnecessary. It's not pregnancy specific.
At this point I'm happy to be the most pregnant in the summer...ask me again in August and maybe I'll change my mind, but there's no need for expensive maternity clothes like coats, boots because of swollen feet, heavy sweaters and pants, just a few sundresses and I'm good to go! Plus, by the time I'm working OFF the baby weight I can hide behind those big fluffy sweaters and coats for a while as I cuddle my baby
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"Oh! Look at you!!! You are really getting a belly!!!!"
Then at the doctor's office I dread the scale. I've already gained 12 lbs so far and I'm only at 21 weeks and I'm concerned that I'm gaining too much for so early. All the girls at the obgyn just coo at me and tell me how tiny I am or that it's "all belly" and I'll go right back to normal after pregnancy.
I just wish the comments would stop altogether ether because none of them help me feel better about myself. SO has been so kind to me and just tells me I look beautiful and makes no comments about my body. (Unless they're good ones.)
Or she'll bring me a piece of candy and tell me that it's for her little brother.