The only way I can sort of see that strange logic making any sense is that your kids eventually start to grow up and are able to care for themselves whereas you have to take care of a dog for its whole life?
I mean, FTM here and I do have a dog and in no way, shape, or form can I imagine my dog being more difficult than bringing home a newborn.
Me & DH: 31 | Married: 5.4.13 | TTC: April 2016 | BFP: 1.8.17 | EDD: 9.13.17
@MyNamesTaken my dog doesn't talk back. He lays and sits down when I tell him to. He stays when I say stay. Has never chewed on or destroyed my stuff. Took like 2wks to potty train. I really don't get why people try to compare training pets to raising children. I mean they help in learning responsibility for another living being...but that's about it.
Wait. You mean i can't use the shock collar to train my kid like some people do when training their pets? What about leashes? Kids are totes the same as dogs.
@MyNamesTaken my dog doesn't talk back. He lays and sits down when I tell him to. He stays when I say stay. Has never chewed on or destroyed my stuff. Took like 2wks to potty train. I really don't get why people try to compare training pets to raising children. I mean they help in learning responsibility for another living being...but that's about it.
Wait. You mean i can't use the shock collar to train my kid like some people do when training their pets? What about leashes? Kids are totes the same as dogs.
But...but my small baby cage is supposed to come in next week! I was promised it would be fit baby comfortably up to 25 pounds!
In all seriousness, though, we have the most chill, low-key dog I've ever met. Even if we have the most laid-back baby in the history of babies, he will be more demanding that our dog. It's hard to compare beings of different species anyway- it's apples and oranges really.
Um. I can leave my dog home for an 8 hour work day with or without a doggy door... CPS would have my children removed faster then I can blink if I tried that.
Is this real life? Seriously.
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Maybe there was confusion since you can put toddlers on leashes.
Hahahaha!
Man, I wish I could GIF.
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Maybe there was confusion since you can put toddlers on leashes.
My mom used to get side-eyed so hard for having kids on those old harness leashes. Now they have the cute backpacks and I think it's become a little more accepted.
Maybe there was confusion since you can put toddlers on leashes.
My mom used to get side-eyed so hard for having kids on those old harness leashes. Now they have the cute backpacks and I think it's become a little more accepted.
On a serious note, I do get the reasoning behind some parents using the kid harness. It's not for us, but I won't side eye a parent at the zoo with one, either.
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My mom has picked many fights with me because I was upset when she was showing off pictures of me on a leash as a toddler. She doesn't seem to understand that I'm mostly upset that she wanted to show people the pictures, not that she used a leash so she wouldn't lose me.
Also, I have 5 dogs. I have occasionally joked that 5 dogs are bound to be as hard as one kid, but I'm pretty sure that's not remotely true. I can leave them at home when I go to work or even out of town. I just have someone come by a few times a day to let them out/feed them/refill water. I can't do that with a kid. Also, if the dogs are annoying me, I can put them outside. A kid, you have to watch pretty much all the time.
Maybe there was confusion since you can put toddlers on leashes.
My mom used to get side-eyed so hard for having kids on those old harness leashes. Now they have the cute backpacks and I think it's become a little more accepted.
On a serious note, I do get the reasoning behind some parents using the kid harness. It's not for us, but I won't side eye a parent at the zoo with one, either.
This exactly. I don't use one, but I totally get the need for one and don't side eye any mom/dad that uses it.
Maybe there was confusion since you can put toddlers on leashes.
My mom used to get side-eyed so hard for having kids on those old harness leashes. Now they have the cute backpacks and I think it's become a little more accepted.
On a serious note, I do get the reasoning behind some parents using the kid harness. It's not for us, but I won't side eye a parent at the zoo with one, either.
Harambe would still be alive if that kid was on a leash.
In all seriousness though, some kids are just simply more impulsive than others and if a parent needs a backpack harness to keep them safe, go for it.
@kgemkid My dogs are not normal, one is a jerk, and the other is so attached she death moans when I get home or when DH gets near me. Even with them being difficult to deal with, my answer will be dogs are way easier! I have step-kids, that is challenging in an of itself, but oh so rewarding. I can only imagine how difficult and rewarding raising one of your own is.
And I am not going to lie I hope I do I better job at raising my child than I did my dogs.
ETA: Posted too soon and answered the question backwards.
Maybe there was confusion since you can put toddlers on leashes.
My mom used to get side-eyed so hard for having kids on those old harness leashes. Now they have the cute backpacks and I think it's become a little more accepted.
On a serious note, I do get the reasoning behind some parents using the kid harness. It's not for us, but I won't side eye a parent at the zoo with one, either.
Harambe would still be alive if that kid was on a leash.
In all seriousness though, some kids are just simply more impulsive than others and if a parent needs a backpack harness to keep them safe, go for it.
I have one of those kids. A runner. So laid back as a baby. But nope, not anymore. We haven't used a leash but we have talked about it and joked about it. I always LOL when I think about this: what if I just ran everywhere I went? Need to go the bedroom? Just run. Bathroom? Sprint. Ready to cook dinner? Run to get everything. Going to get the mail? I'll just run across the street.
I was very close to buying a baby leash for my daughter. She is a wonderful kid but she was a nightmare as a toddler. As soon as she could walk she made sure to always run straight for whatever the most dangerous situation was possible and she also refused to ever sit in a stroller.
I was very close to buying a baby leash for my daughter. She is a wonderful kid but she was a nightmare as a toddler. As soon as she could walk she made sure to always run straight for whatever the most dangerous situation was possible and she also refused to ever sit in a stroller.
This game up in conversation with a friend yesterday so I thought I'd share it.
Right around DS's due date, I started having contractions late at night. DH and I were timing them and getting all excited for go time. I was exhausted and they weren't getting closer together so we figured we would try to get some sleep. By the time I woke up they had stopped.
BIL texted DH to ask how things were going and DH said we thought things were starting but they stopped so no news. BIL gives a long explanation of Braxton Hicks and that lots of women get them. Um...thanks? These were not BH and felt the exact same as when my actual labour started. I was so mad
Get ready for lots of "helpful" info in the third tri
@MyNamesTaken I hate advice that I don't ask for. I have been warned it comes in tidal waves with both pregnancy and child rearing...I don't look forward to this.
was at the airfield today to watch the thunderbirds do a demo for the blue angels. at the end when the engines were still on but more high pitched screechy baby kicked the sh** out of me, and kept moving around. I told DH "we gotta go inside your child prefers F18s not F16s." and a friend goes "oh, you can feel your baby now? butterfly flutters." (matter of factly telling me what my child's kick felt like)
i wanted to reply with "NO B**** I JUST GOT SUCKER KICKED, DO NOT TELL ME WHAT I AM FEELING" instead i just politely replied "A bit more than that. I just got kicked."
@labby18 Ugh, I hate when people tell me what symptoms I am/am not supposed to be having. My sister bugged me constantly from about 12 weeks about whether or not I'd felt the baby. Once when I was about 15 weeks, she said, "Are you sure you haven't felt the baby and just thought it was gas?" Umm...no, pretty sure I've felt gas though and pretended it was baby.
We found out our baby has a rare kidney/bladder birth defect at my A/S. My pregnancy is now considered high risk. We were talking with DH's family about it over Easter. When my DH's grandma left to head home, she hugged me and said, "Don't worry, honey, pregnancy is easy". WTF? I still can't figure out what she meant by that.
@labby18Ugh, I hate when people tell me what symptoms I am/am not supposed to be having. My sister bugged me constantly from about 12 weeks about whether or not I'd felt the baby. Once when I was about 15 weeks, she said, "Are you sure you haven't felt the baby and just thought it was gas?" Umm...no, pretty sure I've felt gas though and pretended it was baby.
Yep, my boss (a woman) told me, "well I've known lots of pregnant women and none of them had morning sickness that started around lunch time."
We found out our baby has a rare kidney/bladder birth defect at my A/S. My pregnancy is now considered high risk. We were talking with DH's family about it over Easter. When my DH's grandma left to head home, she hugged me and said, "Don't worry, honey, pregnancy is easy". WTF? I still can't figure out what she meant by that.
Wow. Way to be supportive. It's definitely not easy at all especially when you get news like that
the one thing that made me blow up is: "better get used to it!"
conversations usually go: them: "wow you look tired" (totally another thing i hate hearing) me: "yeah i haven't been sleeping well." them: "WELL YOU BETTER GET USED TO IT!"
***DUHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH...when baby comes, i'm full-fucking-aware that i will get like NO sleep. but just b/c i need to "get used to it" doesn't mean i dont deserve rest NOW while i'm making a tiny human.***
some other things that make me raise a brow followed by my snarky sarcastic slightly bitchy replies: "really? you're having a girl?!?" - no. we're having a kitten. "are you excited?" - OMG SO EXCITED! (in an overly excited almost screaming voice) "have you quit your job yet?" - yeah...and we're homeless now, but at least i'm not working! "why are you still dancing?" (i'm a tahitian dancer) - b/c i'm not a lazy person. "have you gotten stretch marks yet?" - yet????? "how much weight have you gained?" - how much HAVE YOU gained??????
seriously...2nd trimester came with some major balls. i never ever get this sarcastic or mean. my fuse is very short now.
"OMG! Are you drinking a soda? Do you know there is caffiene in there? That's horrible for you."
Gee thanks for the thought. However my low blood pressure needs a boost when I feel like I'm going to pass out. Was told this was better than hitting the ground. But I seriously take your concern to heart... especially when you told me at least six times that you would have NEVER DREAMED of putting your baby at risk with a soda while pregnant.
I didnt know drinking a soda would put so many people (I barely know btw) into a full fledged tizzy! Time to start telling people "I drink it because none-ya!"
I had a nurse tell me today that I was way to tiny to be 20 weeks and that based on my bump size I should only be maybe 12-14 weeks.
My coworkers also like to tell me constantly "Baby needs XYZ junk food." No thanks. Baby doesn't need a terrible for you moon pie or sugar free wafer. Those nasty things will make me barf.
I had a nurse tell me today that I was way to tiny to be 20 weeks and that based on my bump size I should only be maybe 12-14 weeks.
My coworkers also like to tell me constantly "Baby needs XYZ junk food." No thanks. Baby doesn't need a terrible for you moon pie or sugar free wafer. Those nasty things will make me barf.
An acquaintance messaged me on Facebook to tell me "baby wants you to buy some cookie dough!" with an attachment about her daughter's fund raiser.
My response? "She seems to hate sugar... sweets make me nauseated. Thanks anyway!"
I had a nurse tell me today that I was way to tiny to be 20 weeks and that based on my bump size I should only be maybe 12-14 weeks.
My coworkers also like to tell me constantly "Baby needs XYZ junk food." No thanks. Baby doesn't need a terrible for you moon pie or sugar free wafer. Those nasty things will make me barf.
An acquaintance messaged me on Facebook to tell me "baby wants you to buy some cookie dough!" with an attachment about her daughter's fund raiser.
My response? "She seems to hate sugar... sweets make me nauseated. Thanks anyway!"
People are annoying.
Uh no my child actually just rang me on the ute phone, what she really wants is for you to shut up.
"OMG! Are you drinking a soda? Do you know there is caffiene in there? That's horrible for you."
Gee thanks for the thought. However my low blood pressure needs a boost when I feel like I'm going to pass out. Was told this was better than hitting the ground. But I seriously take your concern to heart... especially when you told me at least six times that you would have NEVER DREAMED of putting your baby at risk with a soda while pregnant.
I didnt know drinking a soda would put so many people (I barely know btw) into a full fledged tizzy! Time to start telling people "I drink it because none-ya!"
Ugh. I like to remind these people that it's not 1975 anymore. Science and research is an amazing thing!
"Oh, sorry for eating in front of you, but you can't have this anyways because there are seeds in it" (two female coworker's who have children...) I gave them a "WTH?!" face but didn't correct them because I didn't want their seedy granola bars anyways lol
TTGP history (*TW*):
Started TTC Oct 2015 BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016 Re-started TTC Aug 2016 Started IF testing Nov 2016 Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017 BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
My mother told me to stop after my first son because it's going to be hard enough finding someone else (when my husband and I split) having 1 kid but anymore would just make it impossible.
My mother told me to stop after my first son because it's going to be hard enough finding someone else (when my husband and I split) having 1 kid but anymore would just make it impossible.
What?! Is she just wishing for your marriage to fail? Not cool mom. Not cool at all. One thing I love about my parents is they take the viewpoint of loving the ones we love regardless of their feelings about them...if more people did this, the world would simply be a better place.
My mother told me to stop after my first son because it's going to be hard enough finding someone else (when my husband and I split) having 1 kid but anymore would just make it impossible.
My mom did something similar to me a year or so after I was married. Basically pointing out all of DH's flaws and telling me why he wasn't the right one for me (through a text). I was dumbfounded and upset. If she felt this way, it possibly should have happened before I got married. Also, she was basing all this on a few times a year she actually sees and is around DH for a decent amount of time. Thankfully, she hasn't said anything since but it's still there in my head...
Try your best to ignore and more on. People suck sometimes, even moms.
"Oh, sorry for eating in front of you, but you can't have this anyways because there are seeds in it" (two female coworker's who have children...) I gave them a "WTH?!" face but didn't correct them because I didn't want their seedy granola bars anyways lol
@lizlann havent heard anything about seeds. But literally anything my ku coworker and I do or ingest they're like, "oh, can you eat/do that?" Yes, yes I can lol
TTGP history (*TW*):
Started TTC Oct 2015 BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016 Re-started TTC Aug 2016 Started IF testing Nov 2016 Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017 BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
Re: Sh!t people Say to Pregnant Ladies
I mean, FTM here and I do have a dog and in no way, shape, or form can I imagine my dog being more difficult than bringing home a newborn.
Me & DH: 31 | Married: 5.4.13 | TTC: April 2016 | BFP: 1.8.17 | EDD: 9.13.17
In all seriousness, though, we have the most chill, low-key dog I've ever met. Even if we have the most laid-back baby in the history of babies, he will be more demanding that our dog. It's hard to compare beings of different species anyway- it's apples and oranges really.
Is this real life? Seriously.
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Man, I wish I could GIF.
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Also, I have 5 dogs. I have occasionally joked that 5 dogs are bound to be as hard as one kid, but I'm pretty sure that's not remotely true. I can leave them at home when I go to work or even out of town. I just have someone come by a few times a day to let them out/feed them/refill water. I can't do that with a kid. Also, if the dogs are annoying me, I can put them outside. A kid, you have to watch pretty much all the time.
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In all seriousness though, some kids are just simply more impulsive than others and if a parent needs a backpack harness to keep them safe, go for it.
And I am not going to lie I hope I do I better job at raising my child than I did my dogs.
ETA: Posted too soon and answered the question backwards.
Right around DS's due date, I started having contractions late at night. DH and I were timing them and getting all excited for go time. I was exhausted and they weren't getting closer together so we figured we would try to get some sleep. By the time I woke up they had stopped.
BIL texted DH to ask how things were going and DH said we thought things were starting but they stopped so no news. BIL gives a long explanation of Braxton Hicks and that lots of women get them. Um...thanks? These were not BH and felt the exact same as when my actual labour started. I was so mad
Get ready for lots of "helpful" info in the third tri
I hate advice that I don't ask for. I have been warned it comes in tidal waves with both pregnancy and child rearing...I don't look forward to this.
I too was a perfect parent before my little a-hole came along to prove me wrong!
i wanted to reply with "NO B**** I JUST GOT SUCKER KICKED, DO NOT TELL ME WHAT I AM FEELING" instead i just politely replied "A bit more than that. I just got kicked."
Me: 34 | DH: 31
Married: Nov. 7, 2015
TTC Since: February, 2016
BFP: December 20, 2016
"better get used to it!"
conversations usually go:
them: "wow you look tired" (totally another thing i hate hearing)
me: "yeah i haven't been sleeping well."
them: "WELL YOU BETTER GET USED TO IT!"
***DUHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH...when baby comes, i'm full-fucking-aware that i will get like NO sleep. but just b/c i need to "get used to it" doesn't mean i dont deserve rest NOW while i'm making a tiny human.***
some other things that make me raise a brow followed by my snarky sarcastic slightly bitchy replies:
"really? you're having a girl?!?" - no. we're having a kitten.
"are you excited?" - OMG SO EXCITED! (in an overly excited almost screaming voice)
"have you quit your job yet?" - yeah...and we're homeless now, but at least i'm not working!
"why are you still dancing?" (i'm a tahitian dancer) - b/c i'm not a lazy person.
"have you gotten stretch marks yet?" - yet?????
"how much weight have you gained?" - how much HAVE YOU gained??????
seriously...2nd trimester came with some major balls. i never ever get this sarcastic or mean. my fuse is very short now.
Gee thanks for the thought. However my low blood pressure needs a boost when I feel like I'm going to pass out. Was told this was better than hitting the ground. But I seriously take your concern to heart... especially when you told me at least six times that you would have NEVER DREAMED of putting your baby at risk with a soda while pregnant.
I didnt know drinking a soda would put so many people (I barely know btw) into a full fledged tizzy! Time to start telling people "I drink it because none-ya!"
My coworkers also like to tell me constantly "Baby needs XYZ junk food." No thanks. Baby doesn't need a terrible for you moon pie or sugar free wafer. Those nasty things will make me barf.
My response? "She seems to hate sugar... sweets make me nauseated. Thanks anyway!"
People are annoying.
BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016
Re-started TTC Aug 2016
Started IF testing Nov 2016
Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017
BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
simply be a better place.
Try your best to ignore and more on. People suck sometimes, even moms.
@mrsguzman1002 Just wow.
Married 2013
Kiddo #1: Sept 2015
BFP: 1/19, EDD: 9/30
"I'm having fruit salad for dinner. Well, it's mostly just grapes, actually. Ok all grapes. Fermented grapes. Fine, I'm having wine for dinner."
BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016
Re-started TTC Aug 2016
Started IF testing Nov 2016
Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017
BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019