Just tell me what emotion gif you need to convey your point and I'll be on it for everyone today.
This is going to be the slowest day ever at work, I need something to pass the time. Already did a photo book for a relative who bribed me with food. 'Cause they knows me.
BFP#1: 12/3/13 EDD 8/15/13. Heartbeat found on 12/26/13, HB gone on 1/4/13. D&C 1/7/13
BFP#2: 4/19/13 EDD 12/28/13. Team Green for pregnancy and Baby Girl arrived 12/21/13. BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
Fffc : for the past week everytime H has been working id cross the street to the grocery store buy Mrs Vickies kettle chips (they were 2 for 6.50 this week lol). Id make sure they were eaten completely, and that the bags were hidden at the bottom of our trash can so he cant find out, before he comes back from work.
I had a breast reduction a year and a half ago. I've heard that roughly 2/3 of women can still go on to BF. When I had it done, we had no intentions of having another baby, so I didn't worry about it and told my Dr that as well.
FFFC: there is a small part of me that is kind of, slightly hoping I can't BF so then that pressure is just automatically off of me. I will, in all honesty, be upset, if not devastated since I loved not having to worry about formula at all with dd2 (she's the only one of my 3 kids I lasted more than 6 weeks BFing). But I remember quiting BFing with my first two and being so mad at myself for it. It's not that I physically couldnt, it's that I just mentally couldn't. So if I physically can't do it, it would almost be this relief of having a "valid" reason in my mind. (I'm not saying anyone who decides not to or quits doesn't have a valid reason, I mean simply for myself in my mind)
Fffc2 : i forgot to tell H to take out the trash. And i cant stand the view of 3 huge black bags on our balcony when we re sitting in the living room. So, i know we re not supposed to lift heavy stuff, but i just took em downstairs myself (3stories). I am definitely hidding that from him 2. (my version of that story is they miraculously disappeared if he asks....pretty sure he wont even notice lol).
@migdala I get feeling disrespected- I felt that way a lot, too. Once, I was feeling disrespected by a BFs insta preferences. We were both trying to get back into shape but I felt he was following quite a few more fit women's accounts than was necessary. When I told him about it, he instead started keeping things from me in attempts to spare my feelings and he wouldn't browse instagram in front of me. This led to a bigger fight.
With DH I've tried to be open about my insecurities and let him know how his actions make me feel, but he's also never given me any reason not to feel loved and wanted. We tend to "check out" other people together in jest, but I think he knows where to draw the line.
I think its wonderful that you and your DH know what works for y'all and that he respects your feelings in a way that you need. I wouldn't feel embarrassed for feeling disrespected, or embarrassed for feeling comfortable with it!
i hate talking about vaginal births. i have a lot of insecurities about having csections. i feel like when the topic comes up people look at me like "ohhhh well you had a csection..." and i feel like i am put on the defense. at the end of the day i KNOW it doesnt matter how they got here, they are here. and it has zero affect on who they are, or who i am as a mother. but i still feel incredibly awkward when the topic comes up. and i am just all...
i hate talking about vaginal births. i have a lot of insecurities about having csections. i feel like when the topic comes up people look at me like "ohhhh well you had a csection..." and i feel like i am put on the defense. at the end of the day i KNOW it doesnt matter how they got here, they are here. and it has zero affect on who they are, or who i am as a mother. but i still feel incredibly awkward when the topic comes up. and i am just all...
I mean, I don't enjoy just walking up to random people talking about vaginal births...
My mom and my brother almost died during childbirth with him - a csection saved both of their lives. I was a miracle baby and I was a csection. We were both strictly formula fed. We both have gone on to lead healthy, successful, happy lives. So that's basically what I tell anyone who wants to debate anything. I had DD vaginally, but was fully prepared to do a csection if needed (and same with this one). The point of a successful childbirth is for the mom and baby to get here as safely as possible, however that may be.
BFP#1: 12/3/13 EDD 8/15/13. Heartbeat found on 12/26/13, HB gone on 1/4/13. D&C 1/7/13
BFP#2: 4/19/13 EDD 12/28/13. Team Green for pregnancy and Baby Girl arrived 12/21/13. BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
i get annoyed when pregnant women all the sudden become incapable of the most mundane day to day tasks bc they are pregnant. like taking out the trash lololzzzz @yasandson (jk you took it out so i am not annoyed, but it triggered this FFFC). you won't break in half.
LOLL @carries2018 i do it, like i normally would (im 5'10 and 84 kgs im pretty sure i wont break in half lolll) and i pisses me off that H thinks im all of a sudden handicapped. I mean... Im the arms around here (i do it all since he works so much)... Why u trynna steal my spot H?
LOLL @carries2018 i do it, like i normally would (im 5'10 and 84 kgs im pretty sure i wont break in half lolll) and i pisses me off that H thinks im all of a sudden handicapped. I mean... Im the arms around here (i do it all since he works so much)... Why u trynna steal my spot H?
@carries2018 I see myself not being able to take out the trash later in my pregnancy. My driveway is really steep and I'm afraid to walk down it when I'm too far along lest I lose my balance
Me: 29 DH: 32 Married 9/27/2014 TTC Since 1/1/2017 BFP: 2/6/2017 Due Date: 10/13/17
@carries2018 I completely agree with you. I got put on bedrest for a week or so and am not allowed to do stuff like that and I'm going CRAZY over here. I can't imagine people voluntarily putting those restrictions on themselves...
The other day I was switching laundry from the washer to the dryer and it occurred to me that eventually I won't be able to reach down into the washer. It doesn't help that I'm already short, but with a bump in the way, forget it.
FFFC I have mixed feelings about my sister, who has suffered several losses, throwing a baby shower for me. We are not very close and I know it has been difficult for her so far with me, but she insisted she would throw it for me. I think she feels obligated because she took it so hard when I told her privately - she committed to it the day after I told her.
Im conflicted because I want her to feel included but I don't want her to be in an uncomfortable situation, either. I don't think very many people know about her TTC journey in our family and none of my friends do so I worry about some of the comments she might receive.
@carries2018 My MIL had two C-sections but is obsessed with vaginal birth and it's SO uncomfortable. When we were at their place last weekend she cornered me to tell me that I should get perineum massages before the birth so I don't need an episiotomy. She even demonstrated on the counter how the massages would be done, using her thumbs. So bizarre and uncalled for.
@PizzaMonster3 are u close enough to have that chat with her. Like be honest about your mixed feelings and encourage her to be honest about the reasons she wants to throw it for you?
@pizzamonster3 I wouldn't say anything to her, I would trust that she knows best for herself. She will tell you if she can't handle it. Otherwise, it's like you're questioning her motives and her ability to make decisions, you know?
Eta: and maybe this is her way of trying to build a closer relationship with you I threw a friend's baby shower when I was deep in my IF struggles and I enjoyed it. I would have been upset if she had insinuated I couldn't handle it.
@PizzaMonster3 I kind of agree with @bluejeanbabi05. She made the decision to do this and she's a grown up. It may make her feel better to be helping out with something. I think it would be great if you made sure to tell her throughout the process how much you appreciate her throwing a shower for you. Who knows, it may bring you closer together.
Maybe @bluejeanbabi05 s right. I wouldnt want her to think that your questioning her ability to make decisions. Forget about my previous comment. Edited spelling( i feel i have to add this at the end of every post lol)
@pizzamonster3 I wouldn't say anything to her, I would trust that she knows best for herself. She will tell you if she can't handle it. Otherwise, it's like you're questioning her motives and her ability to make decisions, you know?
Eta: and maybe this is her way of trying to build a closer relationship with you I threw a friend's baby shower when I was deep in my IF struggles and I enjoyed it. I would have been upset if she had insinuated I couldn't handle it.
this is the approach i took with my sister, by the point of my shower her adoption went through so she had that. but i know it was hard for her still bc she didnt have a shower (her choice, she didnt want to jinx anything) and i know it was hard on her. but i think a bigger part of her wanted to be involved. and planning it made her feel a little like it was her own.
i think i want to go by kgs instead of lbs. i sound so much smaller! it appears the rest of the world is onto something.
Hahahahahahaha i just died. Why do u think i converted my height so that ud understand it but left out the weight part (although i know what the equation to convert is). I have no shame.
I'm trying to think of a non-food FFFC because at this point eating a frozen Trader Joe's appetizer by myself at 10:30 am isn't even a confession, it's just the norm.
We finally got to our destination. I've been reading and love titting!
ETA: But I'll probably be fairly quiet until Monday.
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I just growled and shielded my belly from annoying MIL who keeps touching me and saying the baby is hers.
im inches from cutting someone.
loving this thread today though! and I'm deep cleaning our apartment today because it's disgusting, so eff the pregnant handicap! I'm cleaning and dumping trash!
Re: FFFC (4/14)
BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
This is going to be the slowest day ever at work, I need something to pass the time. Already did a photo book for a relative who bribed me with food. 'Cause they knows me.
BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
Edited cause english grammar
BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
FFFC: there is a small part of me that is kind of, slightly hoping I can't BF so then that pressure is just automatically off of me. I will, in all honesty, be upset, if not devastated since I loved not having to worry about formula at all with dd2 (she's the only one of my 3 kids I lasted more than 6 weeks BFing). But I remember quiting BFing with my first two and being so mad at myself for it. It's not that I physically couldnt, it's that I just mentally couldn't. So if I physically can't do it, it would almost be this relief of having a "valid" reason in my mind. (I'm not saying anyone who decides not to or quits doesn't have a valid reason, I mean simply for myself in my mind)
BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
With DH I've tried to be open about my insecurities and let him know how his actions make me feel, but he's also never given me any reason not to feel loved and wanted. We tend to "check out" other people together in jest, but I think he knows where to draw the line.
I think its wonderful that you and your DH know what works for y'all and that he respects your feelings in a way that you need. I wouldn't feel embarrassed for feeling disrespected, or embarrassed for feeling comfortable with it!
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My mom and my brother almost died during childbirth with him - a csection saved both of their lives. I was a miracle baby and I was a csection. We were both strictly formula fed. We both have gone on to lead healthy, successful, happy lives. So that's basically what I tell anyone who wants to debate anything. I had DD vaginally, but was fully prepared to do a csection if needed (and same with this one). The point of a successful childbirth is for the mom and baby to get here as safely as possible, however that may be.
BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
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Married 9/27/2014
TTC Since 1/1/2017
BFP: 2/6/2017
Due Date: 10/13/17
Im conflicted because I want her to feel included but I don't want her to be in an uncomfortable situation, either. I don't think very many people know about her TTC journey in our family and none of my friends do so I worry about some of the comments she might receive.
Eta: and maybe this is her way of trying to build a closer relationship with you
Edited spelling( i feel i have to add this at the end of every post lol)
May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
May Siggy Challenge: Parenting Fails
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Edited cause 78 not 73
@carries2018 nm I'm wrong I think ignore me. Eta again: oo I was right. Damn I'm good.
#sorrynotsorry
now you're stuck with me again because it's working
Eta dont mean to leave out anyone, just wrote down the first 2 that popped in my head)
BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
ETA: But I'll probably be fairly quiet until Monday.
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“Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times,
if one only remembers to turn on the light."
- Albus Dumbledore
BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
im inches from cutting someone.
loving this thread today though!
and I'm deep cleaning our apartment today because it's disgusting, so eff the pregnant handicap! I'm cleaning and dumping trash!