@MrsJessS Sounds like you did the right thing. Best of luck with a new situation.
I mentioned to DH yesterday that if Frederick has red hair (we have relatives with red hair on both sides, so it's possible), I might occasionally call him Weasley. Now he wants to name a second son George. I think Fred and George is a bit much, but he was really into the idea.
@MrsJessS Sounds like you did the right thing. Best of luck with a new situation.
I mentioned to DH yesterday that if Frederick has red hair (we have relatives with red hair on both sides, so it's possible), I might occasionally call him Weasley. Now he wants to name a second son George. I think Fred and George is a bit much, but he was really into the idea.
Hahaha, that's hilarious. DH and I are at odds over wanting/not wanting our children to get my red hair.
So I have officially had a falling out with my parents. I told my mom that in an effort to be fair to BOTH sets of grandparents, DH and I have decided that we will not be taking any visitors until 2wks postpartum. All she heard was "you aren't allowed to meet your grandchild" and called me a bitch and hung up on me in tears.
Mind you my parents have 5 grandkids already, 2 of them live 15 min away) in Virginia the other 3 are 8hrs away in Pennsylvania. I live 14hrs away in FL. My inlaws have no grandkids and live in California. And I do not want all of them at my house at once as my in laws will not be able to afford to stay at a hotel, and I don't need to deal with "if they are at your house why cant we?" fight.
So I get a text from my mom, and she included DH (who has no idea about this fight bc he's in Tampa!) That said....*drum roll*....
"When you're ready for us to meet our grandchild, you know where we live."
WTAF!? are we 12???
I try to talk to my dad who is usually the rational one. Welp, he did not let me get past no visitors until 2 weeks, and he called me a selfish brat and that when I start thinking rationally to call and until then "ta-ta"...
Soo there's that. I had a nice conversation with my big brother, he was mind blown but we talked through a lot. But i am really crushed right now.
Oh no @labby18 I'm so sorry. That sucks so much. I don't have any real advice. I know sometimes when we have family fights (3 daughters) the husbands can help smooth things over. Maybe when your DH gets home he can help. Creepy internet hugs. If it's any consolation I get where you're coming from and your decision seems logical to me.
@labby18 I'm so sorry!! I do not think you're being irrational in any way, and I hope they realize that the more they think about it. Having all that family in at that time of your life would be so overwhelming. Hugs to you! i didn't want anybody to touch DS after he was born. Ha!
We're going to our home team's baseball opening day today, and we're going to us a picture of me- and my belly, of course- in front of the field to finally announce on Facebook! It's not a secret in our day to day lives, but it will nice for it not to be a secret anywhere at all. (Although I still think it would be kind of fun to say nothing at all, and then post pictures of our baby in September, like, "BTW, we made this."
I did that with DD. There was something oddly very satisfying about it. We will do the same for this one.
@labby18 I'm so sorry your parents are acting like jerks. That's rough. Maybe when things settle down and they start thinking things through, they will be more understanding. (((hugs)))
@labby18 I'm so sorry your mom behaved that way, and your dad too! I had a falling out with my mom right before our gender reveal a few weeks ago.. I think I mentioned a little of it.. full on yelling screaming match in my kitchen at 11 pm, tears flowing. Why she decided to argue with a pregnant woman AND call her names and put blame is beyond me. Things are still awkward... I still don't talk to her willingly.
Hugs.
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@labby18 wow. Families are messy....it can be hard for people who are excited to step outside themselves and consider things from another's perspective...hopefully with time they will do this. If not, well then, that's their loss. I think your viewpoint is a mature one and I'm glad you have your brother to comisserate with...siblings know how parents can be....
Sorry @labby18 Youe request is totally reasonable. They're only thinking of themselves right now and hopefully with time they'll come around and realize what's best for you doesn't impact them as much as they thought.
@labby18 I'm so sorry! That is so extremely sad that they would treat you that way. I honestly feel similarly about not wanting visitors for awhile after the baby comes.
You are completely justified in your thoughts and feelings and I feel like your mom has taken it to such a petty level.
@labby18 that's really horrible. I'm sorry. I am also glad you have a supportive sibling to turn to. It's great that they care about their grand child, but boundaries are a good thing, so definitely don't back down or they'll do this shit again. I really am so sorry.
So here's my weekly random....I'm pretty sure I broke part of my foot while we were mountain biking this morning. I was going up a hill & lost my balance, falling off and landing with all my weight on my mangled left foot. Poor DS2 was riding on the back of my bike (with a helmet on) and was so scared. He's fine, but I can't put weight on my foot without searing pain going up my foot and have lots of point tenderness in the area....DH got mad at me for falling (of course I really wanted to fall...) and now I'm debating whether or not to go to urgent care. Ugh...I so don't have time for this crap
@jutondreau you're the medical professional here but seriously, point tenderness definitely warrants an urgent care trip to see if it is fractured. I'm glad you weren't hurt (too) bad and sorry your DS got scared!
@Becky012016 hahahaha yes, but don't you know we're the WORST patients?!? Waiting till DH and DS1 get back from running some errands and then I guess I'll hobble my butt there.
@labby18 I'm so sorry both of your parents spoke to you that way. I would be so hurt. You have to do what's right for your family and all you can do is hope they understand.
Me & DH: 31 | Married: 5.4.13 | TTC: April 2016 | BFP: 1.8.17 | EDD: 9.13.17
Thank you ladies!! Y'all are awesome! I'm going to give them space and when I am ready, I will speak to them again. I'm just still in a lot of shock by their behavior. Thankfully, I have an amazing big brother who totally gets it. I have no idea how DH survived childhood without any siblings! - he's an only child.
@jutondreau go to urgent care. Even if it isnt fractured you may have bruised your metatarsals and that can sometimes be more painful than a fracture and you'll still need a splint - I'm sure you know this. But I hope it's nothing!!
@labby18 I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. I can say anything more than what everyone else has said. Fortunately you aren't having the baby next week, so hopefully your parents will come around and understand where you're coming from.
@labby18 I'm sorry they reacted so awful to your request. It certainly isn't unreasonable!
@jutondreau Definitely get that checked out. I thought I broke my thumb in the fall and ended up wth partially torn ligaments instead. I think a broken bone would have been a smoother/faster recovery... Definitely want to splint or whatever is needed ASAP so it doesn't get damaged more.
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@wyomama0427 people out living lives and doing stuff. i miss when we were all sick in the 1st trimester and chatted all the time even the weekends lol...
i'm guilty of being out living life when DH is home and being MIA here, so I have no room to talk...but
So I just quit my job. Like walked out in the middle of the day quit. Boss was yelling at me in the hallway accusing me of not liking him because I "hate men" and went on to accuse me of "controlling your husband like a robot." I worked there less than three months and this man has met my husband once. He was hurling insult and as I packed up my bag and then had the audacity to tell me I had to help his wife with mailing things to the thousand plus person list I have spent all week trying to make coherent. So. That's my week.
But DH and I got a great deal on a BOB stroller at a JBF event last night!
Good for you for standing up for yourself! I left a job after one week a couple years ago when my boss was trying to take advantage of me professionally...changing benefits, lunch, patient load. The kicker was when he said he didn't have to pay me if he didn't want to. I waited until the end of the day, packed up all my crap and mailed in my key. Luckily I didn't sign a contract so I was out of there. My DH (fiancé at the time) had been laid off recently but I refused to work for someone who had so little respect for me. We made it work and I got the job I had always wanted a couple months later! Good luck with your job search.
@labby18 I think waiting and then talking to your family later is a great plan. It still sucks that your parents acted that way. I think 2 weeks is perfectly reasonable, and actually fairly normal. ((Big hug)) Stick to your guns on this one, mama. Their response was totally unreasonable.
@jutondreau That sucks! I hope your foot heals quickly! Let us know what they say at the urgent care.
My parents just bought a new house (they live about 2 hours from us) so DH and I drove down this morning to help them unload and unpack. I was on "organizing-the-kitchen-duty" since I'm obviously an invalid that can't do anything else lol. But most of my family was there and everyone just kept saying how great I look and I REALLY needed that today! It was really perfect timing because I've been struggling to feel comfortable in this ever-changing body this week.
Me & DH: 31 | Married: 5.4.13 | TTC: April 2016 | BFP: 1.8.17 | EDD: 9.13.17
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awh. thank you lady! anyway I can help!!
I mentioned to DH yesterday that if Frederick has red hair (we have relatives with red hair on both sides, so it's possible), I might occasionally call him Weasley. Now he wants to name a second son George. I think Fred and George is a bit much, but he was really into the idea.
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Me 34 DH 34
PCOS
Baby number 2 due 4/11/20
Mind you my parents have 5 grandkids already, 2 of them live 15 min away) in Virginia the other 3 are 8hrs away in Pennsylvania. I live 14hrs away in FL. My inlaws have no grandkids and live in California. And I do not want all of them at my house at once as my in laws will not be able to afford to stay at a hotel, and I don't need to deal with "if they are at your house why cant we?" fight.
So I get a text from my mom, and she included DH (who has no idea about this fight bc he's in Tampa!) That said....*drum roll*....
"When you're ready for us to meet our grandchild, you know where we live."
WTAF!? are we 12???
I try to talk to my dad who is usually the rational one. Welp, he did not let me get past no visitors until 2 weeks, and he called me a selfish brat and that when I start thinking rationally to call and until then "ta-ta"...
Soo there's that. I had a nice conversation with my big brother, he was mind blown but we talked through a lot. But i am really crushed right now.
Sorry this is so long.
Hugs.
Type 1 Diabetes since 2001, MTHFR hetero A1298T
Dogs: Raider 4 yrs, Dex 4 yrs
BFP #2 7/6/16 SCH, D&C 8/4/16
BFP #3 12/26/16 EDD: 9/6/17
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My Type 1/TTC/Pregnancy Podcast:
Juicebox Podcast Episode 118
A1Cs:
1/12/16 6.7%
5/25/16 6.0%
11/2/16 6.1%
3/22/16 5.8%
4/27/17 5.4%
6/13/17 5.3%
"Sugar Fancy Tutu"
Youe request is totally reasonable. They're only thinking of themselves right now and hopefully with time they'll come around and realize what's best for you doesn't impact them as much as they thought.
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DS BD: 8.20.17
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You are completely justified in your thoughts and feelings and I feel like your mom has taken it to such a petty level.
Me & DH: 31 | Married: 5.4.13 | TTC: April 2016 | BFP: 1.8.17 | EDD: 9.13.17
@jutondreau go to urgent care. Even if it isnt fractured you may have bruised your metatarsals and that can sometimes be more painful than a fracture and you'll still need a splint - I'm sure you know this. But I hope it's nothing!!
Families are hard.
@jutondreau Definitely get that checked out. I thought I broke my thumb in the fall and ended up wth partially torn ligaments instead. I think a broken bone would have been a smoother/faster recovery...
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@jutondreau Hope your foot is okay. You definitely want to have it checked out.
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Me 34 DH 34
PCOS
Baby number 2 due 4/11/20
i'm guilty of being out living life when DH is home and being MIA here, so I have no room to talk...but
@jutondreau FX your foot heals up quickly.
@jutondreau That sucks! I hope your foot heals quickly! Let us know what they say at the urgent care.
Me & DH: 31 | Married: 5.4.13 | TTC: April 2016 | BFP: 1.8.17 | EDD: 9.13.17