I'm gearing up for a weekend at my in-laws this weekend and even though we don't even know the sex yet, this topic is 100% going to come up. DH and I are on the fence. My in-laws are very Jewish so they're sticklers for the tradition, but I don't want our decision to be based on just that. We don't need to make a decision for awhile (and maybe it will be a girl!) but I would love to have some ammo for what is sure to be a heated discussion!!!
Poll - Circumcising or no? 147 votes
Yes, we will be circumcising
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It was a hard decision for me to make last time around, though.
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All of this boiled down to infant circumcision seemed, in comparison, to be less traumatizing to us. That is why we decided to have it done. I did my research and there are still VERY mixed feelings about this in the medical community. It's not like vaccines where some people are just all "BIG PHARMA CONSPIRACY".
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Eta: I think comparing the two is one more way to trivialize the horrific existence of FGM.
But back on circumcision, you should be able
to respect another persons decision. I respect yours to NOT do it.
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Gag.
Second one I was on the fence but was assured it was better to have it done. I reluctantly agreed. Took home the baby and waited for him to pee in the diaper. I waited and waited. I finally went to check on things to see if maybe I just missed the pee. As I peered down at the swollen, black and red, penis I had a heart attack! We took him back to the clinic and they said he started bleeding during the procedure so they applied silver nitrate to stop the bleeding and apparently spilled some over the tip of his penis. We were instructed to apply an ice pack to his diaper area for the next couple days and if he did not urinate in the next 2 hours to take him to emergency room. He ended up peeing at 1.5 hours afterwards but keeping an ice pack on a newborn was the worst and I felt like the worlds worst mom.
So if this is another boy, I'm leaving it alone! I can't go through another traumatic experience like that again! I've since known many boys who are intact and do not have issues with remaining that way as long as caregivers know to never retract the forskin.
This is such a personal decision on so many levels, and it's important to keep in mind that this board is made up of women from different religions, cultures, and backgrounds. We need to be respectful of everyone's decisions.
Also, I think I need to break out the post its.
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And @airamH please research FGM and really understand the background, suffering, and very real devastation of it before comparing it to a medical procedure like circumcision.
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*Obviously, when I'm talking about most parents, I'm talking about the ones I come in contact with. Not a huge sample size, but still.
**Also, we're talking non-medically necessary circumcision. If it's needed for a medical reason, it's covered and docs will perform it, just like any other medical procedure.
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I'm team leaving this up to DH. If he wants to circumcise, I'm 100% ok with that.
Who decided to open the sanctimommy can of worms here? Lol
I'm not stupid or uninformed if you had bothered to read my previous posts. It was a difficult decision for me to make and I did a lot of research on it before we made a decision. My take away from the FACTS is that the risks did not outweigh the benefits and the CDC agrees with me. The medical community is pretty split on the procedure.
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As for your son, we of course don't know how he will turn out, however, as people often carry the religion of their parents he may wonder at some point why he want circumcised when he technically should've been. He may even choose to get it done as an adult if he ends up choosing to follow the religion, in which case he'd remember it happening.
This isn't an issue of what society thinks. It's simply a decision you two have to make based on what you believe. If you think that the laws written in the Torah must be followed, even if you don't have the strength of knowledge to follow them all right now, then do the circumcision to avoid regret. If you don't think that way about the book, then I'm sure you'll be capable of weighing the benefits of doing so or not doing so, vs the possible harms of doing so or not doing so.
Why not say "I am not circumcising. We/ I find that it is a cruel and would not like to have that decision made on my behalf" or "I don't feel comfortable circumcising my child because "insert whatever here".
Anyway, enough with the logic or rational thinking. You are entitled to your opinion and I'm glad you feel so inexplicably passionate about it
Youre gonna go far here! *grabs post its*
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