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Aaaarrrghhh i miss the action. Ill skip the part where i go on about rude comment lacking facts... Or not lol. Being a muslim i am definitely having our baby boy circumcised. I just wanted to add thid : concerning horror stories previously mentionned. This should never be done on kids or men. Even medically, it should be done on babies under 2. (and to satisfy curiosity, our religion advises the same thing lol). Parents who do this to their kids are monsters and men who decide on doing it later in life (as well as the Drs who do it to them) are monsters/crazy!!!!
I wish there was more medical info on the dos and dont as most articles ive read were either lacking evidence or biased lol
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@yasandson Usually when it is performed on older kids/men it is medically necessary due to infection or other complications.
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I forgot to mention why i said that. I had a friend whose parents just decidex they should ve done it.... And so they made him do it when he was 8. They should be in jail i say!
I forgot to mention why i said that. I had a friend whose parents just decidex they should ve done it.... And so they made him do it when he was 8. They should be in jail i say!
Yeah, that is not okay.
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Never in a million years would I have DS circumsised. I totally respect others though and the decision to do it. I'm such a chicken and am so afraid of some dr screwing up the procedure. We're catholic so it's not part of our religious or cultural practices. I know there are hygienic reasons why some decide to have it done but for us it's out of the question. We wash our son and DH will team him all about that stuff when DS is old enough!
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@AiramH - im totally offended by your comment comparing fgm and circumcision. I know someone who was fgm and i found out a fee years ago that i was close to having it done to me to too. It's not the same thing at all! And it really offends me when you compare the 2.
I am on the fence about this one tho. Dh is not circumcisied and when i asked him about it, he was on the fence too. I have no idea what we will do if its a boy!
Never in a million years would I have DS circumsised. I totally respect others though and the decision to do it. I'm such a chicken and am so afraid of some dr screwing up the procedure. We're catholic so it's not part of our religious or cultural practices. I know there are hygienic reasons why some decide to have it done but for us it's out of the question. We wash our son and DH will team him all about that stuff when DS is old enough!
Valid choice! I respect your decision and applaud you for sharing. Thank you! It encourages others who are on the fence or opposed to it to feel more comfortable in this discussion. My family is catholic and I know they do not practice circumcision. They grew up just fine and i'm sure my father taught them all they needed to know.
I am very on the fence about this! Dh is, and I think he will want our son to be (if we have a boy) but we haven't fully discussed pros and cons yet. Probably won't until we find out the gender. I enjoy reading everybody's (respectful ) comments on this, it helps!
It really is a tough decision and many couples disagree on this. My Indian husband has a tradition that kids get their head shaved at some point when they're still little. I'm sooo against it because I'm afraid of DS getting cut during the shave which uses a razor blade. but we disagree on this because DH says it's part of his culture and tradition. How can i argue that!
My my point is talk about it and decide the pros and cons. Check out medical research and ultimately decide. Even your OB might sway your choice based on their own opinions.
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This topic just came up in my May 2015 group too haha
DS is not circumcised. If LO is a boy, he will not be either. DH is not circumcised and he was very adamant that our baby not be. I don't have a penis so I didn't feel I had much weight in this argument. Lol. Plus I didn't have a strong opinion to begin with so I felt confident letting DH make the decision on our behalf.
I chose no because we're having a girl (sorry for messing up your numbers). If we end up having a boy in the future, then we would have a mohel do it. I've read they have less bad outcomes than doctors and the 8 days after birth really is the least painful time to do it.
I think if it comes up at dinner I would say something like "We're not talking about our kid's, or anyone else's genitalia at the dinner table. Can you pass the butter?" and leave it at that.
I think when people shrug off the improved genital hygiene capability when circ'ed, they don't always realize that improved hygiene isn't just to prevent infection and so not to have an unhygenic peen but it also prevents penile cancer. Granted the incidence of penile cancer is so low in the US you'd have to circ 900 infants to prevent 1 case of penile cancer... But still....
Oh wow. Busy day...just catching up. I honestly can say this has not even crossed my mind yet. I enjoyed reading the (rational) arguments for and against and will obviously be doing some research. I will probably let DH take the lead o. This one though.
I know one or two people said...but did you have it done in the hospital before coming home? Do you need to decide before the baby is born?
I would probably violate TOU if I posted a picture of what FGM looks like in comparison to a circumsized penis hey? I feel like someone here needs some education.
We chose not to with our son. It was a topic we talked a lot about, read about, and discussed with the doctor about. I would have done it bc "it's what you do when you have a son", but my husband brought up that if it didn't need to be done, then why do it? So we talked a lot about it and weighed our pros and cons. In the end, we decided it's not medically necessary, so we chose not to have it done. If we have another boy we will choose the same.
I'm open to discussing this topic with fellow mom's to raise awareness on both sides, but I would never judge a parent based on what they chose to do. If it was truly traumatizing for someone to have this done, then it wouldn't be so common. Everyone has personal or religious reasons why they chose to do a lot of things with their bodies, and even if we don't agree with it, we should still respect other people.
Aaaaaand....I messed up the poll. I accidentally clicked yes instead of no. Go me.
I did all of the research and discussed the issue with the pediatrician before having DS and as others have written wasn't convinced either way. I left the decision up to my husband who is European and not circumcised so we decided to not do it with DS. So far its been easy breezy and my husband has never had a problem either. If we have another boy this time we will do the same.
I chose no because we're having a girl (sorry for messing up your numbers). If we end up having a boy in the future, then we would have a mohel do it. I've read they have less bad outcomes than doctors and the 8 days after birth really is the least painful time to do it.
I think if it comes up at dinner I would say something like "We're not talking about our kid's, or anyone else's genitalia at the dinner table. Can you pass the butter?" and leave it at that. roo_baby said:
I chose no because we're having a girl (sorry for messing up your numbers). If we end up having a boy in the future, then we would have a mohel do it. I've read they have less bad outcomes than doctors and the 8 days after birth really is the least painful time to do it.
I think if it comes up at dinner I would say something like "We're not talking about our kid's, or anyone else's genitalia at the dinner table. Can you pass the butter?" and leave it at that.
Not only that, but before vitamin K injections were given to newborns, the 8th day is when natural vitamin K peaks in baby's blood stream so there is the least risk of bleeding. Which I find FASCINATING.
As for us, we are in the "no" camp as it is not medically necessary and because of having an out of hospital birth they can't do it there and our insurance is deciding to be weird about having it done separately.
That said, boys in my family seem to be prone to hypospadias (peehole in the wrong spot) and the corrective surgery for that typically makes use of the foreskin, so in that case, he likely would be.
Hi ladies. I don't go here, but I'm curious about a comment. @yasandson why is it ok to do to a child under 2, but evil to do to anyone older? Children under 2 feel pain as well. Care to elaborate?
After much thought, consideration and research we have decided not to circumcise if we have a boy. I believe that the fears of many of the "risks" associated with uncircumcised children can easily be avoided and put to rest by simply educating boys properly throughout their childhood and adolescence about genital hygiene, and body hygiene in general. Since my husband and I are agnostic, it was an easy choice for us.
Regarding your post @Knottie16288692 , I completely agree. Plus, the research that indicates circumcision has significant psychological impact on newborns due to pain disrupting normal sleep patterns, issues with breastfeeding and more crying than those who were not circumcised causing higher levels of distress.
For those who are still undecided, here are a couple of articles worth reading:
I did not circumcise my son because I wanted him to be like his father, but also because I knew 3 mom's who had the surgery to their sons a month or so before i had my son, and each one was done wrong - too much cut off, not enough cut, and one that was uneven to the point that surgery needed to happen again.
@MrsJager2014- if you're going to cite "research", choose unbiased research. I'm sorry nothing that came from "nocirc.org" is unbiased at all which leads me to believe it's not credible research. They give babies being circumcised oral glucose which has the same effect on the newborn brain as morphine in pain management, I highly doubt any "significant psychological impact" is occurring. Also, the significant psychological impact I'm betting way worse if they wind up with complications from not circumcising that lead to them needing the procedure at an older age (like my nephew...at 5).
Absolutely do what you want to do with your own kid, but don't fear monger others into not actually looking into credible research and coming to their own conclusions.
I left the decision up to my husband but none of our sons are circumcised and if this baby is a boy, we won't circumcise. When our pediatrician came to the hospital to ask if we wanted it done and we said no, he was relieved and said it was for the best. We're Catholic so we have no religious reason to do so. I was kind of surprised to see the poll leaning so heavily towards circumcision; I thought I had read that it's roughly half and half in America nowadays.
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Being a muslim i am definitely having our baby boy circumcised.
I just wanted to add thid : concerning horror stories previously mentionned. This should never be done on kids or men. Even medically, it should be done on babies under 2. (and to satisfy curiosity, our religion advises the same thing lol). Parents who do this to their kids are monsters and men who decide on doing it later in life (as well as the Drs who do it to them) are monsters/crazy!!!!
I wish there was more medical info on the dos and dont as most articles ive read were either lacking evidence or biased lol
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I am on the fence about this one tho. Dh is not circumcisied and when i asked him about it, he was on the fence too. I have no idea what we will do if its a boy!
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My my point is talk about it and decide the pros and cons. Check out medical research and ultimately decide. Even your OB might sway your choice based on their own opinions.
BFP#1: 9/9/2014 DS born 4/7/15
BFP#2: 6/16/2016 MC/D&C: 7/29/2016
BFP#3: 10/14/2016 (fingers crossed for a sticky bean)
DS is not circumcised. If LO is a boy, he will not be either. DH is not circumcised and he was very adamant that our baby not be. I don't have a penis so I didn't feel I had much weight in this argument. Lol. Plus I didn't have a strong opinion to begin with so I felt confident letting DH make the decision on our behalf.
I think if it comes up at dinner I would say something like "We're not talking about our kid's, or anyone else's genitalia at the dinner table. Can you pass the butter?" and leave it at that.
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I know one or two people said...but did you have it done in the hospital before coming home? Do you need to decide before the baby is born?
I would probably violate TOU if I posted a picture of what FGM looks like in comparison to a circumsized penis hey? I feel like someone here needs some education.
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I'm open to discussing this topic with fellow mom's to raise awareness on both sides, but I would never judge a parent based on what they chose to do. If it was truly traumatizing for someone to have this done, then it wouldn't be so common. Everyone has personal or religious reasons why they chose to do a lot of things with their bodies, and even if we don't agree with it, we should still respect other people.
Aaaaaand....I messed up the poll. I accidentally clicked yes instead of no. Go me.
After much thought, consideration and research we have decided not to circumcise if we have a boy. I believe that the fears of many of the "risks" associated with uncircumcised children can easily be avoided and put to rest by simply educating boys properly throughout their childhood and adolescence about genital hygiene, and body hygiene in general. Since my husband and I are agnostic, it was an easy choice for us.
Regarding your post @Knottie16288692 , I completely agree. Plus, the research that indicates circumcision has significant psychological impact on newborns due to pain disrupting normal sleep patterns, issues with breastfeeding and more crying than those who were not circumcised causing higher levels of distress.
For those who are still undecided, here are a couple of articles worth reading:
https://www.circumcision.org/response.htm
https://www.nocirc.org/publish/pamphlet3.html
Edit: Fixed links.
No thanks. It's strictly cosmetic.
Absolutely do what you want to do with your own kid, but don't fear monger others into not actually looking into credible research and coming to their own conclusions.