Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: INTRODUCTIONS/EDD
Together since 2006
Married 01.17.15
I'm 29 and MH is 33. We TTC'ed for a very long 16 months before getting our BFP in November. I am a FTM and our baby girl is expected to arrive on 7/22. I was active on TTGP from August 2015 to July 2016, so I do recognize a few names here. I work in higher ed. As for hobbies, I love cooking, baking as well as anything outdoorsy - hiking, camping. My guilty pleasure is bad reality tv.
Again, I am sorry for not participating as much as I should have, but I do hope you'll still have me.
Together since 2007 | Married June 2013
TTC #1: June 2015
TTC #2: December 2018
BFP: 2/26/19 | EDD: 11/7/19
TTC #3
Mirena out 1/23/24
I'm very happy to share that I'm having a little girl, or rather a big girl, Isabella June. Her official edd is July 5th, but due to family genetics, I'm thinking it will be more like the 15th. ☺
Almost forgot...we got our faint positive on Oct 20th at 10 dpo...had been having symptoms for a week prior to that...apparently I'm super sensitive to hcg!!
I have a somewhat wacky story - my last period was in September, after being 10 days late in October I went in for a blood test since HPTs were coming back negative. The blood test was negative too! I continued to test myself once a week and finally received a positive HPT in early November. Docs were stumped about how far along I was at first because of the weird situation of last period vs when I finally tested positive. After a few ultrasounds they landed on July 29th as my due date.
This will be me and hubby's first baby. It's a boy! I'm the youngest of four children and between those three older siblings I have 12 nieces and nephews already. So excited to be starting our own family finally! Can't wait to get to know all of you along the way!
I'm really late at joining. I am 31 and my husband is 32. We were married in April 2011. We have a daughter that is 4 and our son will be 3 at the end of May. This will be our third and finally baby. My EDD is 7/2/17 and we are team green this time!
I know I'm super late to introduce myself- life has been crazy (I just graduated last week with my masters degree) since the BFP but it's settled down now! Honestly I adore my O14 mama group from my son so I was a little apprehensive to join here too!
This is our second baby and she's a girl! She's due July 24! We haven't decided if this is our last baby yet or not so I'm trying my best to enjoy it now just in case!
I'm Alex, 25, married and already a mother of a 15 month old. I got my BFP October 31st and my EDD is July 17th. We are hoping for a natural VB but a CS is on the back burner if things change. I am very nervous about this pregnancy because our family has suffered two losses in the past. And our 15 month old is our rainbow baby. We were happy with just her but now we are holding in our joy until we have Pumpkin in our arms.
And congratulations to all of the moms on here.
Baby Pumpkin Due July 17, 2017
My next doc visit is 12/19, during which I'll be getting screened for any down syndrome. It's very nerve-wracking.