Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Name Follow Up
Harrison Vaughn
Are you still happy with the name you chose?
Very much so, DH and I had this name cemented down for a boy's name since we found out I was pregnant.
Have you gotten any weird or unexpected comments to the name?
*See chef'swife's quote XD (Although I will admit I shorten it to Harry every once in a while, DH won't though).
We also get a lot of people saying that his name sounds very regal, which I think is kind of interesting. I wouldn't have pegged it as such.
Do you think LO fits their name?
He looks like a Harrison to me. I'm honestly not sure what else could fit him better; I've never gotten the whole, "nope, he/she does NOT look like *insert name here*" I've always kind of found that to make more sense when the individual is older, not when he/she is a baby.
Am I still happy with the choice?
I was never fully convinced that Oscar was the perfect name. I had wanted a biblical name, but we couldn't agree on one. My husband loved Oscar all along, and it was one of the few choices on our mutual list of names we could both tolerate. But his name has grown on me and I like it now.
Any weird comments?
I have had a handful of people say, "Oh...is Oscar a family name?" I think they must think his name is old fashioned or something? Most people say they really like his name.
Does it fit him? Yes. It's hard to think of him being any of the other names we considered.
I still love his name. Of course he already has a few nicknames from his aunts and uncles (Em, Coop, bubba... I don't know where that one came from lol) I think it fits him, but I don't think it is my opinion that matters in the long run, it's his. Which sucks cause I won't know how he feels about it till he is much older.
Are you still happy with the name you chose? So happy with it. We do call her Asa as a nickname because her initials are ASA (pronounced (ay-suh)
Have you gotten any weird or unexpected comments to the name? Not really, but we get alot of "what an original or unique name" comments
Do you think LO fits their name? She sure does. She has a big happy personality and she is a little beauty. Her middle name Sharon is my grandmother's name and she brought the family together, and Athena def brings the family together and brings about love and happiness
Are you still happy with the name you chose?
Yes, we love it. I came across the name early in my pregnancy and loved it. I was nervous to tell DH because I loved it so much and I was worried he wouldn't. I told him shortly before we found out we were having a girl and he said "it's perfect, so if it's a girl we know what we're naming her." I couldn't believe we came up with a name so quick that we both loved, and we never changed our minds. We've been calling her Gemma since the anatomy scan and it's just perfect.
Have you gotten any weird or unexpected comments to the name?
One person said "Oh that's my dog's name!" Haha. Other than that everyone just says it's really pretty.
Do you think LO fits their name?
Definitely.
Anything else you want to share?