@kayemjay2 I feel like as long as you don't label it as a shower/sprinkle, and have no mention of registry or gifts or whatever, then I'd be cool with it. But that is just me.
@bacorrea. My 2.5 year old is an awful sleeper too. Parents of two tell me all that time that the hardest adjustment is going back to sleepless nights and I'm over here thinking that shouldn't be a problem bc I haven't slept an entire night in ages.
@kayemjay2 I feel like there is way more side eye on TB than in real life. You're going to have me to your house with a new baby and feed me? I can throw ya a onesie and be happy to do it!
@clebl24 yes! Did you see the whole pump system I got that was covered? I'm super impressed with Tricare lately. That's always my argument when DH talks about getting out/staying in, I am like DUDE THE INSURANCE ALONE!
Seriously we have a friend who was 100% getting out and then he found out he had testicular cancer and he was just so impressed by Tricare/military hospitals/how he was treated/etc. He totally changed and stayed in.
And on the sleeping...omg I know. I'm just hoping I can get them to sync some sleeping together. Or otherwise I am going to have to start doing drugs or something. JUST KIDDING I would never. But sometimes I cry thinking about it.
@kayemjay2 No side eye here. DH and I have been throwing around the idea of a sip and see to try to have as many people come at once and cut down on the 3 separate visitors a day for 4 weeks that we had with DS. I certainly wouldn't expect gifts, although I know that in our case all the great aunts and great grandmas would probably bring outfits.
Not to be *that* person who asks about baby shower/party etiquette...but does anyone see any potential issues/faux pas with DH and I hosting a combined house warming party/sip & see once baby is here and we're settled into our new house? It wouldn't be a formal thing by any means, and we'd likely just have a Facebook invite or something. We're just thinking it would be a fun way to involve our friends and family in our big life changes and also to have food and booze. Would anyone side-eye this?
I mean this is totally against etiquette. However, I wouldn't bat an eye at this and would happily come. It's really what you and your husband are comfortable doing and you only know the kind of friends you have. I can name a handful of my friends that would be super judgey if I did this ya know?
@clebl24 yes! Did you see the whole pump system I got that was covered? I'm super impressed with Tricare lately. That's always my argument when DH talks about getting out/staying in, I am like DUDE THE INSURANCE ALONE!
This is a huge factor and in deciding to stay in! But if you ever decide to leave AD, we never had an issue with the Tricare Reserve Select program for Reserve/NG! It's essentially the same thing as Tricare Standard, you pay a monthly premium on top of it though but it's SO much less than any other insurance. Our stipulation if DH ever gets out is that he will do NG or reserves mainly for the insurance and retirement!
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
@kayemjay2 I think as long as you don't include registry information and make people feel obligated to bring a gift no one would side eye.
We have considered having a "Big Sister" party for our DD in place of a sip&see for friends and family to come meet the new baby. It's basically the same thing, but rather than focusing solely on the baby the focus stays more on our DD becoming a big sister and her wanting to show off her baby brother so she doesn't feel excluded
I learned something last week that I had forgotten to mention... apparently due to the change in health guidelines around circumcision, some insurance companies now circumcision as an optional procedure and therefore will not cover it. So if you are planning to circumcise, you might want to check with your insurance company to see if they will cover it. And if they don't but you still want it done, then you might need to check with the hospital to see if they will even do it during your stay or if it has to be done by the pediatrician after discharge.
Yes! One of my OBGYNs let me know. He said that they had to pay $300 OOP for their kid 3 years ago, so make sure you check! FYI - it is still covered by Tricare.
Just called my insurance company and ours is covered, caveat being that it is done during our hospital stay and not after being discharged.
Me: 38 DH: 36 Married 8/27/2011 BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012 BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014 BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017 BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
@kayemjay2 I think thats totally fine! I have no issue with Sip n See's being hosted by the parents and combining it with a housewarming makes it even more okay imo.
@kayemjay2 - I don't see any reason for a side eye! It's a couple of really good reasons to celebrate. I feel like if someone doesn't like it, they don't have to come!!!
@kayemjay2 I agree with the majority of posters that there's nothing wrong with it. I do think it depends on your friend group a bit, but most people probably wouldn't have an issue with it especially because you're combining it with a housewarming party.
@clebl24 yes! Did you see the whole pump system I got that was covered? I'm super impressed with Tricare lately. That's always my argument when DH talks about getting out/staying in, I am like DUDE THE INSURANCE ALONE!
This is a huge factor and in deciding to stay in! But if you ever decide to leave AD, we never had an issue with the Tricare Reserve Select program for Reserve/NG! It's essentially the same thing as Tricare Standard, you pay a monthly premium on top of it though but it's SO much less than any other insurance. Our stipulation if DH ever gets out is that he will do NG or reserves mainly for the insurance and retirement!
We are Tricare Reserve. DH is National Guard. The coverage is still great. I think $205 a month for entire family and his civilian job pays for it.
@kayemjay2 I would not side-eye a housewarming, sip and see party. Like others have said just do not include registry information. Or maybe just call it a housewarming party. I'm assuming people will know when you have the baby, so they will know that they get to see the baby when they come.
@clebl24 yes! Did you see the whole pump system I got that was covered? I'm super impressed with Tricare lately.
Absolutely, I took a screen shot so I wouldn't forget. I got my Rx last week. Who did you use again?
I'm debating between Medela PISA (again) since I have all the compatible parts or trying Spectra pump. A lot of ladies in my local breastfeeding FB group said they pumped larger quantities with the Spectra 2 pump.
Thanks for all of the responses! To clarify- there would absolutely be no registry and we actively do no want presents. We have a 15 month old and seriously too much stuff as it is...haha. We basically want to show our loved ones our new place, new tiny person, and have some booze/food. Also, I am excited to be able to partake in the "sip" part of the sip & see
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
@clebl24 I don't have any prior experience but did a bunch of research last night and am planning on getting the Spectra S2. From the reviews, videos and website research it always was the winner.
@Louise_Belcher originally DD told us she wanted a sister and told us if it was a brother we had to send him back! Shes' 3 BTW ... well low and behold baby #2 is a boy. So we were looking for ideas to get her more excited. Turns out that over time she's excited about a brother now anyways, but we want still love the theme
Super random: My Mom at 9 months pregnant with me. We are the same height, usually the same weight, and have the same build. No wonder I always though I'd have a tiny bump. Where did my HUGE belly come from?! I'm going to start telling people that my baby likes Penthouse living when they mention how pregnant I look.
Thanks for all of the responses! To clarify- there would absolutely be no registry and we actively do no want presents. We have a 15 month old and seriously too much stuff as it is...haha. We basically want to show our loved ones our new place, new tiny person, and have some booze/food. Also, I am excited to be able to partake in the "sip" part of the sip & see
@kayemjay2 This sounds like a great idea and I wouldn't side-eye it at all! (Though I don't really side-eye a lot.) And RE: the bold, so true. A big part of me just wants to have my shower after the baby is here so I can drink the punch...
@clebl24 I ordered the Spectra S2 this time and have a ton of medela parts from my last pump. I ordered an adapter from amazon so I can still use them all without crazy modifications to the pump.
Now that a few people brought up breast pumps again, I was wondering. Do we have a thread dedicated to pumps? I know we had one in regards to what insurance does/does not cover. But I couldn't remember if we have one specifically about pros/cons/opinions on pumps?
I am gambling and trying the Medela Sonata. I am not excited about new parts but I never heard of the Spectra last time so I am hesitant about the hype. I think it will be an easier transition from the Medela PISA.
@clebl24 yes! Did you see the whole pump system I got that was covered? I'm super impressed with Tricare lately. That's always my argument when DH talks about getting out/staying in, I am like DUDE THE INSURANCE ALONE!
This is a huge factor and in deciding to stay in! But if you ever decide to leave AD, we never had an issue with the Tricare Reserve Select program for Reserve/NG! It's essentially the same thing as Tricare Standard, you pay a monthly premium on top of it though but it's SO much less than any other insurance. Our stipulation if DH ever gets out is that he will do NG or reserves mainly for the insurance and retirement!
We are Tricare Reserve. DH is National Guard. The coverage is still great. I think $205 a month for entire family and his civilian job pays for it.
Yes that sounds about what we paid. DH was reserves for a couple years while going to school. I had DD2 with Tricare Reserve, I think my total hospital bill was $65. Definitely can not beat the coverage!
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
@clebl24 i went through Pumping essentials! I just to verify what I had to do and they were super helpful and it only took 1 week to get my pump! They had the spectra as an option, two other brands and the medela. I went with medela.
Is anyone else having crazy pregnancy dreams? I keep having strange dreams about my husband wanting to change the baby name...like, incredibly realistic dreams where I wake up and I'm pissed off at him and have to figure out why...and then I'm like, "ohhhh...right. REAL husband didn't tell me he's decided the baby should be named Harper...that was fake dream husband." If only he'd do something really nice in my dreams so I'd wake up in a good mood.
@nda_roxybabe I would LOVE to see a photo of my mom pregnant with me! She too was a skinny minnie. We are shaped nothing alike though. She was 5'9" and down to 108 lbs within weeks of having me. Neither of those numbers are my life. Did they not have snacks back then?!?
My Mom (and me) have always been thin. We shared clothes when I was in HS (00!). As an adult I've put on a bit more weight, but she's followed suit as she's aged as well. She'd always tell me how small she was in pregnancy and if she saw someone other than her regular Doctor they wouldn't believe how far along she was. I was SO sure I'd never have more than a minuscule bump. So weird how people truly do carry differently.
@nda_roxybabe , it is SO crazy how different people's bodies handle pregnancy. I was just talking to my sister in law about this because she was pregnancy shaming a friend of hers who only gained 5 pounds through her whole pregnancy, assuming that she was under-nourishing on purpose in an effort to not gain a ton of weight. But I told her that I have, inexplicably, only gained 4 pounds so far this pregnancy and with my DS I only gained a net 2 pounds by the time he was born at 37 weeks. The baby is right on track size-wise, I have done NOTHING to curb my eating habits, I don't ever diet, I don't own a scale, and normal me is always probably 15 pounds heavier than I should be. I was so annoyed with my SIL for jumping to the conclusion that someone would purposefully malnourish their unborn child...the mom shaming begins so early.
@mcvgal do you know what time your c/s is tomorrow? If you'd rather not share that's ok. But know we will be thinking of you and are excited to hear from you whenever you're ready to share.
My Mom (and me) have always been thin. We shared clothes when I was in HS (00!). As an adult I've put on a bit more weight, but she's followed suit as she's aged as well. She'd always tell me how small she was in pregnancy and if she saw someone other than her regular Doctor they wouldn't believe how far along she was. I was SO sure I'd never have more than a minuscule bump. So weird how people truly do carry differently.
It's so true! You could even carry way differently with your next child (if you want more children).
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Seriously we have a friend who was 100% getting out and then he found out he had testicular cancer and he was just so impressed by Tricare/military hospitals/how he was treated/etc. He totally changed and stayed in.
And on the sleeping...omg I know. I'm just hoping I can get them to sync some sleeping together. Or otherwise I am going to have to start doing drugs or something. JUST KIDDING I would never. But sometimes I cry thinking about it.
edit: because I cannot type
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
We have considered having a "Big Sister" party for our DD in place of a sip&see for friends and family to come meet the new baby. It's basically the same thing, but rather than focusing solely on the baby the focus stays more on our DD becoming a big sister and her wanting to show off her baby brother so she doesn't feel excluded
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17
@BeachMommy2B that's a great idea. A good way to make your DD feel special!
#1 DD Aug 2014 @39weeks via CS
#2 Due May 2,2017 hopeful VBAC
I'm debating between Medela PISA (again) since I have all the compatible parts or trying Spectra pump. A lot of ladies in my local breastfeeding FB group said they pumped larger quantities with the Spectra 2 pump.
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20
My Mom at 9 months pregnant with me. We are the same height, usually the same weight, and have the same build. No wonder I always though I'd have a tiny bump. Where did my HUGE belly come from?!
I'm going to start telling people that my baby likes Penthouse living when they mention how pregnant I look.
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
ETA: link
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B01DGEDVUM/ref=mp_s_a_1_9_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1488482375&sr=8-9&keywords=spectra+s2+accessories
1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks
May '17 labor memes
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17
Life is not fair hahaha
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
eta: clarity