@PerraSucia, I'm so sorry your little guy is sick and that people have done a shit job in helping to prevent that. I hope he's feeling better soon.
@fourPsinapod, it's so tough trying to get the older kid(s) adjusted to their new sibling. I'm glad she was happy to get back into her routine at daycare though, that's awesome.
@Partyof6? I hope your grandmother ends up just fine. I'm sure that's super stressful to have happen in the midst of everything especially since you're so close to her.
@kirstynikole, I'm so sorry you've had to experience so much anxiety through this pregnancy. Really does seem true when people say "when it rains, it pours." As far as the positive GBS, I just had antibiotics while in labor with my first and it didn't bother me or him at all. With my second, I don't remember getting tested for it, but with this one I tested negative like @kswiger06 and @partyof6? mentioned so you're not doomed to test positive for subsequent pregnancies. The fact that your mom, MIL and others are pressuring you for a 3rd just to try for a girl is so annoying especially considering you haven't had your second yet! People are insane when it comes to stuff like this, never ceases to amaze me.
@Partyof6? thinking about your family and your grandma!
@kirstynikole and my other fellow GBS worriers (I Googled it), I got some positive news at my appointment today. Apparently if your labor were to go so quickly that you didn't get your two doses in, your odds of actually passing on GBS would be very, very small since the baby would have had less of a chance to be exposed. This made me feel a lot better since the one I need to get, Clindomycin (sp?) requires doses 8 hours apart. I guess one of the other non-penicillin options actually requires doses 12 hours apart. She also told me I could still move around while hooked up to the IV, but that could vary by hospital.
I tested GBS+ and I'm allergic to penicillins. There are other antibiotics they can use, so hopefully I won't get something that makes me puke my guts up.
Also, I learned a hospital bag tip the hard way: Pack fresh undies even if you plan on using the mesh ones. I got admitted for two nights for monitoring even though they found I wasn't in labor...
I was lurking the January17 board and realized they had a couple new birth announcements. My first thought was "oh wowww, looks like SOME people are really late with their births " And then I realized that this is technically still their birth month and that we are all just early and I need to calm down my sass
So. Friggin. Itchy. As I'm frantically scratching my hands and feet, and all together annoyed I can't get comfortable, my H turns over in bed and says "do you have to do that?"...
@Partyof6? thinking about your family and your grandma!
@kirstynikole and my other fellow GBS worriers (I Googled it), I got some positive news at my appointment today. Apparently if your labor were to go so quickly that you didn't get your two doses in, your odds of actually passing on GBS would be very, very small since the baby would have had less of a chance to be exposed. This made me feel a lot better since the one I need to get, Clindomycin (sp?) requires doses 8 hours apart. I guess one of the other non-penicillin options actually requires doses 12 hours apart. She also told me I could still move around while hooked up to the IV, but that could vary by hospital.
I was GBS positive in my last pregnancy and I showed up at the hospital already 10 cm dilated (not on purpose!). They were able to hook me up to an IV and push in at least one dose of the antibiotics while I was actively pushing (which, honestly, at that point is it really even going to do anything?). Anyway, an hour after showing up at the hospital I had a perfectly healthy baby with zero negative effects from the GBS.
On Monday night I got 3 hours of sleep. Then yesterday morning I could tell something was coming on. My head felt funny and my nose started to get runny. By last night my nose was already sore and red from blowing it so much. So I bought some medicine and got ready for bed. As I was straightening up our bed blankets, I let out a huge and monstrous sneeze, and it happened. I said "Uh oh" and my husband said "oh, what's wrong?" and I was quite annoyed already from my last 24 hours so I shouted at him as I ran out of the room "I just pissed myself!!" OY!!! Not cool. Thank goodness I was wearing a pantyliner!! But, I do realize that having allergies/cold or whatever it is, pretty much stinks while pregnant, I also peed myself this morning.
Lol @gretchypoo I must have started typing before you posted... we can be pee sister's today haha
@kswiger06 don't feel too bad... I have pretty terrible allergies, and I have definitely peed a little when sneezing a number of times. Ah, the joys of pregnancy.
It turns out I'm getting sick too. Aaand my birthday is on Friday. This is the 3rd year in a row I've been sick on my birthday. However, I talked to my boss about taking leave two days early (we get 2w prior to due date, induction, or c-section and 8w with baby once they're born). She said that was fine and everything is in the works so today is my last day of work and I'm super excited. I'm going to celebrate by getting DD and have her watch TV until bedtime while I snooze.
BFP #1: DD born on 08.25.12
BFP #2: 09/08/15 miscarried at 6w
BFP #3: DD2 born on 02.07.17
+1 to peeing a little when sneezing or coughing. Also at night when I wake up to pee sometimes I pee a little when my feet hit the ground as I stand up from all the pressure being added to my bladder I'm guessing... It is a sad/embarrassing club to be in but at least we're not alone!
Also I suck at remembering to do kegels and I feel like when I do them I'm not doing them right...
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
I also get the post pee 2nd pee from additional pressure, so I always make sure to check before being "done".
So the last two weeks, we've been majorly organizing and bringing out baby items/ donating ones we know won't be used. My son has now decided he needs to inspect all of the baby items. He's been climbing into the bassinet saying "baby baby" and then making a fake baby cry... Sooooo I'm guessing he's either starting to understand, or he's going to be pretty pissed when his little bro arrives next week.
Are any of the other working ladies on here nervous about being on maternity leave? I'm wrapping things up at work and only have the rest of this week and next week before I'm off -- and as much as I'm ready to not have to get up and get dressed every morning, and am so tired, and I'm so ready to meet my baby, I'm feeling really anxious about not having an office to go to every day. Is that weird? I feel like I should be really excited to be off, but I'm just not.
@MissMerciBeaucoup I'm a little thrown by how long my 'normal' will be thrown off. I mean obviously, there's going to be a major shift that will last for decades, but 16 weeks in a row of no work anything seems very strange to me. Like... what project will I think about how to fix? Or, who am I practicing arguments against in the shower!? Lol.
I'm not nervous per se, but it's going to be very odd for me to not have projects I'm mulling over. I started leave a week early, and it hasn't bothered me at all yet, though. I'm still fiddling with last minute baby stuff. That said...Now that I think about it... I've also been brainstorming a black belt project possible to finish in June-Dec, thought about my interview pitch for a different position, and planned the first several months if I return to the project I just left. Maybe I can't shut it off, lol. I'm sure once he's here and I'm a sleep-deprived zombie I'll adjust
@MissMerciBeaucoup I was also nervous about being on maternity leave! Especially since my DD came early and unexpected! I still had open cases at work and was literally in the hospital on the phone talking to my coworker (before contractions started to really kick in) about my cases to get her caught up so she could take over. We have state-mandated timelines and can be fined by the state if we go over our timelines so I was very nervous! Luckily my coworker is amazing and everything worked out!
As as far as being home with DD, I am loving being with her and snuggling all day, but I am also looking forward to going back to work in a month. I tend to be more productive when I have a routine. Although we are starting to get a routine at home, I feel like I need more of a routine by getting up, getting us ready, and going to work/day care. It's definitely bittersweet.
I should also mention that I'm off during the summers since I work in public schools, so I'm used to being home - at least during the summer. However, it's been too cold here to really go anywhere so we can't go on walks and I try not to take her out to avoid her getting sick. So being pretty much always at home is definitely different, since I'm used to being out and about (going on walks, to the pool, etc.) during the summer.
ETA: I've already been to work twice since I've been on leave lol, but one visit was for my surprise baby shower and the other was to drop off thank-you notes. Both times my boss has said don't worry about work! But it's hard not to!
@MissMerciBeaucoup I started leave three weeks earlier than planned, and a week before my induction. I'm pretty busy this week, but I'm still having a hard time not being at work. I don't think the feeling will go away until little dude is here and I have him to think about. Right now, I feel like I should be doing my job! I feel super guilty about not being there, especially having left with no notice like I did.
@MissMerciBeaucoup today was my first day of maternity leave. Leading up to yesterday I was going overboard at work trying to get stuff sorted. I also have a lot of feelings about having someone at my desk for 8 months: will the judge my work, will they be better at my job than me? Today I felt so flat. I checked my work email a few times, but am trying to shut off. I imagine that once the baby makes his or her appearance, all thoughts of work will disappear. But I have two weeks to go before my due date, so... yeah... trying to distract myself will be my new work.
I'm excited for 12 weeks off, but worried about what I'll be coming back to. I'm nervous about whether relationships I've worked hard for with partners will be maintained, and also worried about what could change with our federal grants and agreements while I'm gone.
Thanks everyone! So much of what all of you said resonates with me, and I'm so glad I'm not the only one thinking these things! I love my job and it is such a part of my identity that I'm just a little thrown off by having months off and worrying that I'll still be as vital as I am now to my firm, that I'll be able to pick up where I left off, etc. Like @Lafreeman21 I do have a few projects in mind, and it'll be spring so I'll get my garden and some other house projects in full swing while I'm out. I think I just love planning and can't really shut off that part of my brain, and the unknown of maternity leave is somehow daunting to me.
@MissMerciBeaucoup i was the same leaving work to go on maternity leave, and its still weird not getting up and going to the office every day despite my days passing very quickly and being filled with baby related stuff. My husband is still off at the minute but returning to work next week & i think once its just me & Cora we can get into a better routine & once im allowed to drive again will make a massive difference too.
+1 to feeling weird about going on maternity leave. I'm in the middle of handover and have the same fears others have mentioned ("what if they're better at the job than me?" is a big one!) and I also have a little bit of possessiveness and FOMO with giving up my projects!
So if baby's hiccups are like an inch below my ribs, do you think she's breech? She is a maniac in there, 37w3 days and in the past week she moved from head down, to transverse for a few days, to head down last night and now hiccups are up high. My OB won't flip her because of my placenta position, so now I need to know if I should try other methods to get her to move on her own!
Also, I do realize she can still move a few more times. But wondering if I should try out some ball exercises if she flips again to try to get her to drop!
@leslie1331 I am obviously not a doctor, but my baby gets hiccups pretty often. I know he is head-down, but sometimes I feel them higher in my abdomen. I think what's happening is they are kind of jerking his whole torso and making his butt move, if that makes sense... Hard to say for sure, but feeling them up high doesn't necessarily mean breech.
When I feel the hiccups up high, usually if I place a hand on my lower abdomen and stay really still, I can feel them there too - but they are more noticeable higher up for some reason.
That's how I am! When she was down they were in my butt! I feel nothing down low at all and I can physically see them moving up high. And I just got a strong kick to the bladder. Ugh. Oh well!
Thanks ladies! I have a heartbeat monitor at home, so maybe I'll whip it out when I get back tonight and see if I can pinpoint her. I am am feeling strong kicks in my lower half and the little tiny movements by my ribs though, so I think she flipped again. Guess the good thing is she can flip back! I'll ask the OB if she has any ways to try and keep her down if she flips again!
My LO is head down but I feel her hiccups higher up. When they are really crazy I can feel them all over bc I think she jerks like PP said and for sure in my rear!
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@fourPsinapod, it's so tough trying to get the older kid(s) adjusted to their new sibling. I'm glad she was happy to get back into her routine at daycare though, that's awesome.
@Partyof6? I hope your grandmother ends up just fine. I'm sure that's super stressful to have happen in the midst of everything especially since you're so close to her.
@kirstynikole, I'm so sorry you've had to experience so much anxiety through this pregnancy. Really does seem true when people say "when it rains, it pours." As far as the positive GBS, I just had antibiotics while in labor with my first and it didn't bother me or him at all. With my second, I don't remember getting tested for it, but with this one I tested negative like @kswiger06 and @partyof6? mentioned so you're not doomed to test positive for subsequent pregnancies. The fact that your mom, MIL and others are pressuring you for a 3rd just to try for a girl is so annoying especially considering you haven't had your second yet! People are insane when it comes to stuff like this, never ceases to amaze me.
@kirstynikole and my other fellow GBS worriers (I Googled it), I got some positive news at my appointment today. Apparently if your labor were to go so quickly that you didn't get your two doses in, your odds of actually passing on GBS would be very, very small since the baby would have had less of a chance to be exposed. This made me feel a lot better since the one I need to get, Clindomycin (sp?) requires doses 8 hours apart. I guess one of the other non-penicillin options actually requires doses 12 hours apart. She also told me I could still move around while hooked up to the IV, but that could vary by hospital.
Also, I learned a hospital bag tip the hard way: Pack fresh undies even if you plan on using the mesh ones. I got admitted for two nights for monitoring even though they found I wasn't in labor...
As I'm frantically scratching my hands and feet, and all together annoyed I can't get comfortable, my H turns over in bed and says "do you have to do that?"...
Me:
I was GBS positive in my last pregnancy and I showed up at the hospital already 10 cm dilated (not on purpose!). They were able to hook me up to an IV and push in at least one dose of the antibiotics while I was actively pushing (which, honestly, at that point is it really even going to do anything?). Anyway, an hour after showing up at the hospital I had a perfectly healthy baby with zero negative effects from the GBS.
That is all.
Lol @gretchypoo I must have started typing before you posted... we can be pee sister's today haha
Also I suck at remembering to do kegels and I feel like when I do them I'm not doing them right...
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17
EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
So the last two weeks, we've been majorly organizing and bringing out baby items/ donating ones we know won't be used. My son has now decided he needs to inspect all of the baby items. He's been climbing into the bassinet saying "baby baby" and then making a fake baby cry... Sooooo I'm guessing he's either starting to understand, or he's going to be pretty pissed when his little bro arrives next week.
I'm not nervous per se, but it's going to be very odd for me to not have projects I'm mulling over. I started leave a week early, and it hasn't bothered me at all yet, though. I'm still fiddling with last minute baby stuff. That said...Now that I think about it... I've also been brainstorming a black belt project possible to finish in June-Dec, thought about my interview pitch for a different position, and planned the first several months if I return to the project I just left. Maybe I can't shut it off, lol. I'm sure once he's here and I'm a sleep-deprived zombie I'll adjust
Married: 10/10
EDD: 8/27/16 MMC 1/16
Rainbow Boy: 2/04/17
TTC: 4/18 BFP: 1/2/19
EDD: 9/6/19
As as far as being home with DD, I am loving being with her and snuggling all day, but I am also looking forward to going back to work in a month. I tend to be more productive when I have a routine. Although we are starting to get a routine at home, I feel like I need more of a routine by getting up, getting us ready, and going to work/day care. It's definitely bittersweet.
I should also mention that I'm off during the summers since I work in public schools, so I'm used to being home - at least during the summer. However, it's been too cold here to really go anywhere so we can't go on walks and I try not to take her out to avoid her getting sick. So being pretty much always at home is definitely different, since I'm used to being out and about (going on walks, to the pool, etc.) during the summer.
ETA: I've already been to work twice since I've been on leave lol, but one visit was for my surprise baby shower and the other was to drop off thank-you notes. Both times my boss has said don't worry about work! But it's hard not to!
Also, I do realize she can still move a few more times. But wondering if I should try out some ball exercises if she flips again to try to get her to drop!
When I feel the hiccups up high, usually if I place a hand on my lower abdomen and stay really still, I can feel them there too - but they are more noticeable higher up for some reason.