Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Monda B*fest, 1/29
Another thing we found out on Sunday is that we have pseudoscorpions in our apartment. Thaaat's right. No, they aren't real scorpions, and they're harmless, but it's grossing me out. I've only found two so far, but apparently it's a sign there are more. They are attracted to damper climates (did they sense the leak?) but I have no idea where they could have come from to get in here in the middle of winter in Maine...I am NOT a happy camper!!
Married: 10/10
EDD: 8/27/16 MMC 1/16
Rainbow Boy: 2/04/17
TTC: 4/18 BFP: 1/2/19
EDD: 9/6/19
That did get me thinking though, I wonder what my husband will need to do to have this little guy added. Hmmm
BF 1: My mom had started getting all panicked about having to miss the first hour or so of work next Tuesday when I go in for the csection because I asked her (over a month ago) if she could drive the kids into school since they both go to school about 5 to 10 minutes from where she works. It was getting to a point where H overheard the conversation and ended up saying he would just bring the kids to school like usual and if he had to miss being in the operating room with me for the C-section then so be it because we have kids now and there's nothing else we can do. I think my jaw must've hit the floor on that one LOL
BF 2: Well, we had quite the interesting morning. So we left to bring the kids to school, but once we got to the Callahan Tunnel the whole front end of the car gave out and we were stuck in the fast lane in rush-hour traffic in the tunnel right before the government center exit. It was awful and honestly we were lucky we weren't killed or seriously injured. The state cop and the tow truck driver from AAA both showed up within five minutes, if even, of it happening so at least that was good. The tow truck took H and I and the kids to the state police barracks and we had to wait there until a different tow truck driver came to drive H down to his mechanic. We got a driver from Lyft to take the kids and I to drop them at their schools.
& boo to both your mum & husband being crap & unsupportive! Seriously, you have enough going on at the minute without the thought of being alone drlivering your baby!
& you can always come here for support & let it all out, no judgement. You have been so amazinhly strong through such a testing time throughout this whole pregnancy & soon your little one will be here! Sending you all the creepy internet hugs! Xxx
Cora is absolutely adorable too. I meant to comment on the little picture you put up the other day of her and her little pink puff winter suit. I just wish I could squeeze her she's so cute… And it is making me excited for my own! How are you feeling these days? I hope you're doing okay.
Also, it was the O'Neill tunnel we got stuck in, just realized my error.
I have my own minor BF, and it's probably just an overreaction on my part. I'm 40+2 today and was mentioning to H that my energy levels are extremely low and it's really frustrating because I just want to clean and finish getting things ready but my body just wants to sleep--I was trying to gently ask him for help getting some stuff done. He said "welcome to my world." Uh, unless you're hiding multiple lbs of another person and all their metabolic requirements under that shirt, it is not the same. Please just shush and take the garbage outside. Grrrrr!
@MrsLittleMac them's fighting words. I'd have had his head on a platter for that.
Thinking of you @Jab3
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17
@MrsLittleMac He didn't know it, but he was an endangered species for a minute there. He needs to think a little harder before he speaks next time!
@homemake, thanks for asking. The toilet is finally "fixed." It was a half assed job you can tell, but I'm grateful just to have it at least be working right now. One of the staff/case managers we have to interact with here seems to be slightly easier to deal with lately, but the other is still horrible.
A new "roommate" and her baby moved in too and has been helping herself to our food, drinks, baby wipes, blankets, kids cups/other dishes, toilet paper, etc. she even used my razor that I stupidly left in the shower. Yuck. We were trying to just let it go until Monday when she yelled at my kids for being... kids. Yeah. They weren't being too loud either. Still, the kids tried to apologize later on and she pretended she couldn't hear them. Weird. So H put up a couple shelving units in the bedroom and that's basically where all our belongings are that would normally be in the bathroom, kitchen and living room. We just need to take stuff in and out as we need it.
@MrsLittleMac, sorry your H said that when he had no idea (not even close) to what it feels like to be pregnant. They just don't get it. I hope you were able to still get some rest.
@peachesnbean, hope everyone at your house becomes/stays free of germs soon!