The baby has gotten my toddlers fucking cold and I'm losing my mind. Like he's been out of the nicu for respiratory distress for a week. I'm pissed at my in laws for watching his sick cousin with him while we were in the hospital, I'm pissed at my husband for not helping me keep them more seperated. I'm freaking out he's not going to be able to breathe again so watching him like a hawk.
Tomorrow is my last day before mat leave. Counting down the hours.
I've got a crapload of adulting to do at home (mostly with taking out the recycling, packing my hospital bag, and unpacking DDs baby stuff) which I am not touching on Wednesday. Nope. Wednesday will be spent in bed, eating yummy things, watching trashy shows. Thursday will be all about making the apartment seem less like a hovel.
I am seriously worried about my toddler adjusting to the new baby. She was excited to have her home but has had a lot of ups and downs. We have been trying to involve her and make her a helper as much as possible and sometimes she's into it and sometimes not. We also have been trying to dedicate special alone time with just her with one of us at a time. She doesn't really want to be around LO - she doesn't want to hold her or help feed her or kiss her goodnight. She also has been throwing random tantrums about small things that blow crazy out of proportion. I'm really upset that things aren't going a little better than this. She goes back to daycare today so maybe some of her normal routine will be good for her
@fourPsinapod im sorry its been tough for you & your little ones. Its a massive adjustment & being a big sister will take a lot of getting used to after being the centre of everyones world for so long. I hope that things get better for you all! Xxx
Thanks everyone. I'm a crazy mom sleeping in aa chair wearing him to make sure he's breathing tonight.
@fourPsinapod I definitely think going back to our routine helped DS. He's the opposite where he won't leave the baby the eff alone but today is nine of us all being together and he's not just constantly hysterical anymore.
Im going to get my hair done today & i cannot wait! I was supposed to get it done 2 weeks ago but had to cancel when Cora decided shed come a bit earlier than scheduled. Getting those greys covered & going a little blonder at the ends & a few hours out on my own. Though i have to be left to the hairdressers and collected again as im not allowed to drive yet after having a section.
@fourPsinapod sorry you're having a hard time with toddler adjustment. That's my biggest concern for if I ever end up actually giving birth (maybe he's going to stay in here forever?)... but I already have noticed she's gotten really clingy in the past couple of weeks with all of the prep I've been doing for the new one. I think it's great you're giving her alone time and one on one and I'm sure it will get better as the days go on. I feel like their worlds are going to be so rocked by this even more so than us, especially when it's the first sibling. My daughter met our nephew and spent a bunch of time with him in his early days and was way more interested when we kind of just let her be and didn't talk about the baby to her too much. She'll come around to her little sibling , hang in there!!
@PerraSucia oh no! That sounds terrible for your little guys and your sanity as well. Sending good vibes because I know that's got to suck.. bad.
@fourPsinapod I worry my son will react the same way.. hopefully she's just out of her normal routine and going back to daycare will start to help!
On on another note my GBS test came back positive. Isn't that just wonderful? If I wasn't for sure before, I am now- this will be our last pregnancy. I know it normaly just means antibiotics during labor, but this entire pregnancy has been so stressful and has been causing major anxiety. From being told we lost the baby at 7 weeks, to there's an SCH, to damn cholestasis, and now GBS+.. I'm going to lose my damn mind from worry. Seriously TF, it's been one friggin thing after another. I was hoping this was one lab that would come back clear like it did with DS1. Someone please talk me off the edge, who else here tested positive? I feel like such a damn fear mongerer this pregnancy. Frig.
Eta: I know that two of our already delivered babies had mommas with strep b, but are doing well so that does ease my mind.
Accidentally made the spiciest chili I've ever made yesterday. And the plan was to eat it for lunch and dinner this week. Maybe it'll light a fire under this baby!
@PerraSucia I'm sorry your LO got sick already. FX he doesn't end up with a fever and he feels better soon!
@fourPsinapod I'm hoping her routine helps your DD1 feel back to normal. I'm worried about the same things with my DS adjusting to being a big brother. I'm sure there will be lots of challenges along the way but we'll get there!
@kirstynikole I'm so sorry for all the crap you keep getting thrown your way. Thankfully your baby is thriving at this point but I can't imagine the stress none the less. Your OB will make sure they take all the precautions necessary to ensure you and baby will be just fine by the end of all this. I'm absolutely positive all will be well in just a few short weeks! ❤
************* First BFP: 12/16/13 EDD: 08/23/14 Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
@kirstynikole I tested positive with my first and my new practice considers me a carrier this time so they don't even bother testing. You'll get antibiotics and you might have to stay 2 nights instead of 1. The biggest pain for me is the extra night in the hospital. Don't worry!
@kirstynikole we arent routinely tested here for gbs but cora had a little bit of a sticky eye after she was born & when the swab was tested it was positive for gbs. I should have been given antibiotics during labour but wasnt. I went through all of the emotions about it from anger at not being tested & not being given antibiotics to upset & blaming myself but ultimately it cleared up quickly with eyedrops & all of her bloods came back clear. The fact that its been diagnosed means that they will be able to be proactive about it with your treatment which can only be a good thing! Try not to worry too much about it (which i know is much easier said than done!) xxx
@fourPsinapod ugh! I hope returning to a more normal schedule helps! I've got this fear too. DS1 is so used to being the center of everything, and even just with all the baby prep he's been out of sorts (more prone to undesirable behavior when usually he's such a good boy).
@kirstynikole sorry about all the complications thrown your way! I was told it's very common to be gbs+ and finding out beforehand just helps your doctors be prepared to help baby stay healthy. Maybe all the stress will be just during pregnancy and your baby will be an easy super healthy kid?
@PerraSucia I'm sorry to hear your LO is sick already I would be the same way and watching LO like a hawk. It sucks when kids get sick when they're older, but when they're so little, it's a lot tougher. FX he gets better quickly and it doesn't take too long to get over it!
@fourPsinapod I'm sorry your older LO is having trouble adjusting. It IS a big adjustment for any kid. Hopefully going back to daycare will be enough to get them back in the routine of things and you guys will find your new normal
@kirstynikole I'm sorry you're feeling so stressed out by your diagnoses. At least knowing before, they can be proactive about it and just give you the antibiotics right away. It still sucks though and I don't blame you for being worried. I told DH I feel the same way about this being the last. The stress of constantly feeling like I'm going to lose this baby then the GD diagnoses, plus the NSTs just makes me feel so over it all. I told DH we'd wait before making any permanent decisions, but honestly, the thought of ever being pregnant again is enough to make me cry some seriously ugly tears. Hugs momma! Your LO will be here soon and I'm sure everything will work out
BFP #1: DD born on 08.25.12
BFP #2: 09/08/15 miscarried at 6w
BFP #3: DD2 born on 02.07.17
Thanks, all. DH dropped off DD at daycare this morning and said she did really well. She came in and gave me a kiss and LO a kiss goodbye this morning. That made me feel a little better! I hope it just goes up from here.
@PerraSucia Don't blame you at all for sleeping with him tonight! Poor little guy! All the prayers that it passes quickly, and all 4 of you are healthy again.
@kirstynikole Sorry things have been so stressful! The good thing about them catching it is that the treatment is pretty straightforward, and then it's done. Hugs!
In my random for the day, my manager talk this morning (So. Early.) Went really well, and I am starting maternity leave early, as of next Thursday! Everything is feeling surreal that we are this close.
@kirstynikole I'm GBS positive but was given the impression that it wasn't really a huge deal or much to worry about. I'm scared now that I might be missing something! My hospital stay is two nights anyway so that part wouldn't be a change for me. Honestly the part that scares me most, and I've mentioned this before, is that I'm pretty terrified of having a very quick labor even though I KNOW that is completely irrational for a FTM to worry about that and the odds are much greater that I'll be in labor for days. I guess we all have our little irrational fears, right?
@kirstynikole I'm GBS+ also. My doctor said it's really no biggie, just a bag or two of antibiotics while I'm in labor. I was initially pissed because I want to be very mobile and didn't want to be strapped to an IV. But she said they can cap off the IV between doses so it shouldn't be too intrusive, I hope.
@concreteangell @homemake@FreshBakedBrownies@WinchesterGirl thanks y'all! I know it's a precaution, and I'm much rather them be prepared and treat for it than not. Just the encouragement really does help!! I was a bit emotional because it was the first email I read this morning, and it just set the wrong tone for the day.
@Janefelicity ughhh that must have been such an emotional time, and you have every right to feel that way! I'm glad it ended up being only a mild eye infection and that it cleared up quickly with meds. I remember reading about it, but I didn't remember that it was from GBS. Seeing you and the other two GBS ladies with their healthy babies, makes me realize it'll be fine.
@Xstatic3333 pleaseeeee don't let my worrying freak you out, it is fairly routine to test for and treat it if positive. I know my doctor is being proactive and I'm sure if there was any huge risk, she would induce now rather than waiting for my 37 week induction. And yes we all have our irrational fears, but hey we're only human right? lol.
@aussie45 Ughh I so feel you. It's such an emotional rollercoaster of wondering if everything is going ok in there. The NSTs give me comfort, but then the days in between I'm left wondering if there's enough movement etc. My first pregnancy, I was so laid back and nowhere near as anxious. It wasn't until the 37 week Cholestasis diagnosis that I became a worrier, and that was very short lived due to a prompt induction. We've also said we'll see how we feel a few years from now, but we're both leaning towards done with two.
This ordeal also makes me side eye random people who ask me if I'm going to try for a third, you know, to try for a girl. No. I'm good with my two boys, and would rather not go into detail about this pregnancy's complications with a complete stranger. Someone asked me that this weekend and I was like no.... we're good with two. Kind of wanted to make them feel awkward and say, yea two because I don't want Cholestasis and the worry of possible fetal demise a third damn time.
@Xstatic3333 I also tested positive for GBS and my MW also made it sound like it was not a big deal at all - and that, in fact, even women who are not treated with antibiotics almost always have healthy babies, and complications are super rare. But then I Googled it. I will say: Do not Google it. Google is never your friend. I am just going to trust my MW's opinion that as long as I get antibiotics right away, everything will be 100% fine in terms of GBS.
LOL thanks @madamerwin. I do have some bad Googling habits so I'll just go ahead and not do that. I did Google "no time for GBS antibiotics" and apparently in that case they just give some right to the baby. I'm assuming that separates you, which would suck, but at least he'd be safe and that's more important.
@kirstynikole so sorry for all you've been through with your pregnancy and that people are already hounding you for a third. None of their damn beeswax. The end is in sight, and with you you being induced everything will be so well controlled that you'll definitely get your antibiotics and the GBS shouldn't be any risk to your baby.
Here's my thinking with GBS. I'm still in line to use my hospital's attached birthing center (basically it's just a fancy room with a non-hospital bed). It is VERY easy to "risk out" of the birth center. So easy, in fact, that it usually sits empty. GBS, however, does not risk you out and therefore it can't be that bad.
Yes definitely do NOT google. That's what freaked me out as I was laying in bed this morning. lol. I should've just called my doctor, but she said we'd discuss it at our appointment this week so I just googled for basics. Nope. No, just don't.
@Xstatic3333 thanks. Honestly though, I know others deal with so much more so I'll count myself lucky as far as my complications have gone. It's always humbling to remember someone else has been in your situation or worse, and just to remember you can get through it.
Mindset is everything, and I need to remember that when I feel out of control of a situation.
ETA: My mom and stepmom are the worst ones about hounding me for a third already. I get it, you'd love a girl, but tough luck.
I also tested GBS positive and I'm most worried about the antibiotics during labor. I've heard that the penicillin through the IV hurts/burns? I'm like, great the last thing I need during labor is even more pain.
I was GBS+ with my youngest daughter, and she is just fine. I was already needing the IV for other stuff during labor.
This time I actually tested negative. Not that it should influence anyone's plans for having another, but you might not be positive next time!
My family is a mess right now, my parents are taking my Grandma to the hospital where they will likely admit her, we are expecting a lot of snow tonight and the snow day predictor I use says 99% chance for tomorrow. My doctor thinks anytime now. If this baby wants to come at the absolute worst time, tonight or tomorrow might be it.
Married - 7/29/06 Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09 Mia - 6/16/11 Surprise! due 2/23/17
@PerraSucia I hope all the bugs clear up quickly and you are all back to healthy and well soon!!
@fourPsinapod I'm glad your tot went to daycare easily today. Hopefully getting back in routine will help.
@kirstynikole it definitely isn't fair that you've been hit with one thing after another. I just wanted to say that although I am not GBS+ this time, I was with our first. Honestly I never noticed a thing. Everything turned out fine and there were no complications or concern for our son. And @LC12261012 I'm not a fan of needles or IVs anyway, but when I got to the hospital I was already having very painful contractions and the IV and antibiotics were the last thing on my mind due to all the commotion in the room, so it might not burn too badly.
ETA like @partyof6? Said. I tested positive with our first and negative with number 2 and now number 3 so I think it's just a hit or miss.
I feel like I'm missed someone so I'll get back to you if I did.
@Partyof6? Sorry about your grandma, hopefully she's in and out!
And I have a work dinner and conference at the Rock N Roll HOF all day Wednesday. So, as your labor buddy, please hold off until Thursday when I am available. Since this is obviously all about me
I hope your grandma is ok @Partyof6? And it's nothing serious!!
Also I didnt know we had snow coming, I sure hope if it snows it's enough for a snow day. I want to sleeeeeep!! But my husband said the baby told him he's coming tomorrow so that could be problematic for people coming to visit... or maybe it could be a good thing for me HAHAHAHA!!!
@Partyof6? Yea I definitely feel better about it after I took a minute to breathe. It was just one of those "now this?" Moments, and the uncertainty if cholestasis would make complications more likely or not..? I hope your grandma is doing ok and it's nothing too serious. Also hoping baby decides to stay put until it's better timing. Or unless you like chaos, whenever baby would like! Haha
@kswiger06 thanks! I seriously feel much better after hearing how common it's been with others.
@kirstynikole I was GBS+ and was given one dose of antibiotics when I was first admitted in labor. It took about 30mins for the IV to empty into me, then they put a block in so I wasn't connected to the IV pole and I labored and delivered with zero issues. They talked about us staying 2 nights after instead of one, but ended up discharging us after 24 hours since DD showed zero signs of infection. We then had a follow up appointment with our pedi just to make sure everything was ok.
I'm so sorry you've been hit with one thing after another, you've been under so much stress from the get go and now as the finish line is in sight it probably feels like you haven't gotten a single break! I hope things can ease up for you (((hugs)))
Thanks for the good thoughts for my grandma. We are a small family, I am an only child and my parents are too. Gram is 97, and my only living grandparent. She is an incredibly strong and amazing woman, and I am worried about her. It does sound like she has a UTI, which could be a fairly simple answer to a lot of her symptoms.
So far today contractions seem to have died down, so fingers crossed we get a little more time.
Married - 7/29/06 Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09 Mia - 6/16/11 Surprise! due 2/23/17
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Fml.
I've got a crapload of adulting to do at home (mostly with taking out the recycling, packing my hospital bag, and unpacking DDs baby stuff) which I am not touching on Wednesday. Nope. Wednesday will be spent in bed, eating yummy things, watching trashy shows.
Thursday will be all about making the apartment seem less like a hovel.
Can it be Wednesday yet?
@fourPsinapod I definitely think going back to our routine helped DS. He's the opposite where he won't leave the baby the eff alone but today is nine of us all being together and he's not just constantly hysterical anymore.
@fourPsinapod I worry my son will react the same way.. hopefully she's just out of her normal routine and going back to daycare will start to help!
On on another note my GBS test came back positive. Isn't that just wonderful? If I wasn't for sure before, I am now- this will be our last pregnancy. I know it normaly just means antibiotics during labor, but this entire pregnancy has been so stressful and has been causing major anxiety. From being told we lost the baby at 7 weeks, to there's an SCH, to damn cholestasis, and now GBS+.. I'm going to lose my damn mind from worry. Seriously TF, it's been one friggin thing after another. I was hoping this was one lab that would come back clear like it did with DS1. Someone please talk me off the edge, who else here tested positive? I feel like such a damn fear mongerer this pregnancy. Frig.
Eta: I know that two of our already delivered babies had mommas with strep b, but are doing well so that does ease my mind.
@fourPsinapod I'm hoping her routine helps your DD1 feel back to normal. I'm worried about the same things with my DS adjusting to being a big brother. I'm sure there will be lots of challenges along the way but we'll get there!
@kirstynikole I'm so sorry for all the crap you keep getting thrown your way. Thankfully your baby is thriving at this point but I can't imagine the stress none the less. Your OB will make sure they take all the precautions necessary to ensure you and baby will be just fine by the end of all this. I'm absolutely positive all will be well in just a few short weeks! ❤
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
@kirstynikole sorry about all the complications thrown your way! I was told it's very common to be gbs+ and finding out beforehand just helps your doctors be prepared to help baby stay healthy. Maybe all the stress will be just during pregnancy and your baby will be an easy super healthy kid?
@fourPsinapod I'm sorry your older LO is having trouble adjusting. It IS a big adjustment for any kid. Hopefully going back to daycare will be enough to get them back in the routine of things and you guys will find your new normal
@kirstynikole I'm sorry you're feeling so stressed out by your diagnoses. At least knowing before, they can be proactive about it and just give you the antibiotics right away. It still sucks though and I don't blame you for being worried. I told DH I feel the same way about this being the last. The stress of constantly feeling like I'm going to lose this baby then the GD diagnoses, plus the NSTs just makes me feel so over it all. I told DH we'd wait before making any permanent decisions, but honestly, the thought of ever being pregnant again is enough to make me cry some seriously ugly tears. Hugs momma! Your LO will be here soon and I'm sure everything will work out
@kirstynikole Sorry things have been so stressful! The good thing about them catching it is that the treatment is pretty straightforward, and then it's done. Hugs!
In my random for the day, my manager talk this morning (So. Early.) Went really well, and I am starting maternity leave early, as of next Thursday! Everything is feeling surreal that we are this close.
@Janefelicity ughhh that must have been such an emotional time, and you have every right to feel that way! I'm glad it ended up being only a mild eye infection and that it cleared up quickly with meds. I remember reading about it, but I didn't remember that it was from GBS. Seeing you and the other two GBS ladies with their healthy babies, makes me realize it'll be fine.
@Xstatic3333 pleaseeeee don't let my worrying freak you out, it is fairly routine to test for and treat it if positive. I know my doctor is being proactive and I'm sure if there was any huge risk, she would induce now rather than waiting for my 37 week induction. And yes we all have our irrational fears, but hey we're only human right? lol.
@aussie45 Ughh I so feel you. It's such an emotional rollercoaster of wondering if everything is going ok in there. The NSTs give me comfort, but then the days in between I'm left wondering if there's enough movement etc. My first pregnancy, I was so laid back and nowhere near as anxious. It wasn't until the 37 week Cholestasis diagnosis that I became a worrier, and that was very short lived due to a prompt induction. We've also said we'll see how we feel a few years from now, but we're both leaning towards done with two.
This ordeal also makes me side eye random people who ask me if I'm going to try for a third, you know, to try for a girl. No. I'm good with my two boys, and would rather not go into detail about this pregnancy's complications with a complete stranger. Someone asked me that this weekend and I was like no.... we're good with two. Kind of wanted to make them feel awkward and say, yea two because I don't want Cholestasis and the worry of possible fetal demise a third damn time.
@kirstynikole so sorry for all you've been through with your pregnancy and that people are already hounding you for a third. None of their damn beeswax. The end is in sight, and with you you being induced everything will be so well controlled that you'll definitely get your antibiotics and the GBS shouldn't be any risk to your baby.
Here's my thinking with GBS. I'm still in line to use my hospital's attached birthing center (basically it's just a fancy room with a non-hospital bed). It is VERY easy to "risk out" of the birth center. So easy, in fact, that it usually sits empty. GBS, however, does not risk you out and therefore it can't be that bad.
@Xstatic3333 thanks. Honestly though, I know others deal with so much more so I'll count myself lucky as far as my complications have gone. It's always humbling to remember someone else has been in your situation or worse, and just to remember you can get through it.
Mindset is everything, and I need to remember that when I feel out of control of a situation.
ETA: My mom and stepmom are the worst ones about hounding me for a third already. I get it, you'd love a girl, but tough luck.
This time I actually tested negative. Not that it should influence anyone's plans for having another, but you might not be positive next time!
My family is a mess right now, my parents are taking my Grandma to the hospital where they will likely admit her, we are expecting a lot of snow tonight and the snow day predictor I use says 99% chance for tomorrow. My doctor thinks anytime now. If this baby wants to come at the absolute worst time, tonight or tomorrow might be it.
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17
@fourPsinapod I'm glad your tot went to daycare easily today. Hopefully getting back in routine will help.
@kirstynikole it definitely isn't fair that you've been hit with one thing after another. I just wanted to say that although I am not GBS+ this time, I was with our first. Honestly I never noticed a thing. Everything turned out fine and there were no complications or concern for our son. And @LC12261012 I'm not a fan of needles or IVs anyway, but when I got to the hospital I was already having very painful contractions and the IV and antibiotics were the last thing on my mind due to all the commotion in the room, so it might not burn too badly.
ETA like @partyof6? Said. I tested positive with our first and negative with number 2 and now number 3 so I think it's just a hit or miss.
I feel like I'm missed someone so I'll get back to you if I did.
And I have a work dinner and conference at the Rock N Roll HOF all day Wednesday. So, as your labor buddy, please hold off until Thursday when I am available. Since this is obviously all about me
Also I didnt know we had snow coming, I sure hope if it snows it's enough for a snow day. I want to sleeeeeep!! But my husband said the baby told him he's coming tomorrow so that could be problematic for people coming to visit... or maybe it could be a good thing for me HAHAHAHA!!!
@kswiger06 thanks! I seriously feel much better after hearing how common it's been with others.
I'm so sorry you've been hit with one thing after another, you've been under so much stress from the get go and now as the finish line is in sight it probably feels like you haven't gotten a single break! I hope things can ease up for you (((hugs)))
I'm stupid excited about that.
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
So far today contractions seem to have died down, so fingers crossed we get a little more time.
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17